Disappearing/Reappearing Men

This shit is all over DXP. I know, ive written a few threads myself.

After reading the virgo push/pull thread, i really dont know what to make of men sometimes. I feel like my Father is the only man i can trust.

Anyways, I found this article:

http://www.aphroditeastrology.com/2012/06/disappearing-reappearing-man-what-to-do.html<BR>
What do you guys make of this? Especially the Rubber Band Theory...

Posted by DMV
This shit is all over DXP. I know, ive written a few threads myself.

After reading the virgo push/pull thread, i really dont know what to make of men sometimes. I feel like my Father is the only man i can trust.

Anyways, I found this article:

http://www.aphroditeastrology.com/2012/06/disappearing-reappearing-man-what-to-do.html<BR>
What do you guys make of this? Especially the Rubber Band Theory...

Your dad has been push/pull before,trust me..😉

Posted by AVG

Posted by DMV
This shit is all over DXP. I know, ive written a few threads myself.

After reading the virgo push/pull thread, i really dont know what to make of men sometimes. I feel like my Father is the only man i can trust.

Anyways, I found this article:

http://www.aphroditeastrology.com/2012/06/disappearing-reappearing-man-what-to-do.html<BR>
What do you guys make of this? Especially the Rubber Band Theory...

Your dad has been push/pull before,trust me..😉

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But im not dating him 🙂

Posted by DMV

Posted by AVG

Posted by DMV
This shit is all over DXP. I know, ive written a few threads myself.

After reading the virgo push/pull thread, i really dont know what to make of men sometimes. I feel like my Father is the only man i can trust.

Anyways, I found this article:

http://www.aphroditeastrology.com/2012/06/disappearing-reappearing-man-what-to-do.html<BR>
What do you guys make of this? Especially the Rubber Band Theory...

Your dad has been push/pull before,trust me..😉

But im not dating him 🙂

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I was just messing with cha.... Don't get all wet.. 🙂

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Posted by DMV

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Posted by DMV
This shit is all over DXP. I know, ive written a few threads myself.

After reading the virgo push/pull thread, i really dont know what to make of men sometimes. I feel like my Father is the only man i can trust.

Anyways, I found this article:

http://www.aphroditeastrology.com/2012/06/disappearing-reappearing-man-what-to-do.html<BR>
What do you guys make of this? Especially the Rubber Band Theory...

Your dad has been push/pull before,trust me..😉

But im not dating him 🙂

I was just messing with cha.... Don't get all wet.. 🙂

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im dry 🙂

Haha@ I'm dry 🙂

Posted by tiziani
I like what you said about men show their intentions in action. But I feel this is true for everyone, not just men.

yeah, that part made sense to me. Women are much more verbal communicators and passive. We never shut up. Men get their point across differently. Talking about feeling can be a bit too long winded.

I started to observe this male communication and its true. these guys dont do long drawn out sentences. one liners, who scored what, curse, laugh.

I feel like everyone shows how they feel by where they spend their time and what they do. That much is always loud and clear

if this aint the truth. I agree in any situation you come across. people make time for what they deem important.

Posted by DarkFire
For me personally I tend to dissappear when I feel my freedom being taken away, or when my couscous tells me the person I picked is going to be trouble/ not worth effort in the long run. Usually I'm right, and the person in fact was trouble. I tend to come back months after my guard is down and I'm feeling lack of attention or lonely. That is until about a week when my couscous kicks back in and reminds me why I ran in the first place. The problem is this cycle is a never ending one, and revolves around the same 3 people. It's like my senses tell me to run, but then my need for attention drags me right back to where I was. Don't confuse me for the majority of men. My chart is mostly feminine so I'm a bad omen for women.

the article did address that men pull back when they feel like their freedom is in jeopardy. The rest of that run back when you need attention, good golly miss molly.

I used to go back to a "harem" when i was bored but i got bored with being bored with the same boring people.

It seems like some men do the pull when they aren't getting attention as well, or their egos being fed. (Perhaps the more immature ones.)

Thoughts?

Yes I would agree becasue men dont seem to use words. They like to play instead. Seem so much easier to just ask for what you want.

But what about the ones who are getting the attention they want? Are they just commitment phobic? Why the push n pull when your getting what you want?

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Posted by tiziani
I like what you said about men show their intentions in action. But I feel this is true for everyone, not just men.

yeah, that part made sense to me. Women are much more verbal communicators and passive. We never shut up. Men get their point across differently. Talking about feeling can be a bit too long winded.

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Lol. Let's not over generalize now. You couldn't pay me to talk about my feelings in most cases and in all of my relationship the guy did most of the talking. I'm talking 70:30.

The other day I had a conversation about my "unwillingness" to apologize. I don't really (with the people I really care about). The person was all upset because feelings gets shared and expressed about something I did to hurt or upset them and my response will either be "understood", "okay" or silence.

My response in these situations does not mean "I don't care" about this persons feelings, don't have remorse or I think I am above offering an apology. Often, I don't say the words because I think they are meaningless without action. In these cases I am taking in what you're saying and making a choice to make sure I never f*ck up in that way again. My actions will demonstrate that.

I'm learning that some people need to hear the words "I'm sorry", so I am making the effort. I'm not sure that will change what I do in any major way, but I'll make the effort for someone that needs that verbal confirmation.

I know its a general statement, im just tired of always having to add disclaimers.. "some" "not all" "not the majority"

you guys know what im mean 🙂

Posted by DMV
I know its a general statement, im just tired of always having to add disclaimers.. "some" "not all" "not the majority"

you guys know what im mean 🙂

😛 Yeah, I know.

I still have to give my thoughts on the article. I will soon enough.

Posted by PhoenixRising
I still have to give my thoughts on the article. I will soon enough.

Hmph. I don't think I will.

#KeepingThingsPositive

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Posted by tiziani
I like what you said about men show their intentions in action. But I feel this is true for everyone, not just men.

yeah, that part made sense to me. Women are much more verbal communicators and passive. We never shut up. Men get their point across differently. Talking about feeling can be a bit too long winded.

Lol. Let's not over generalize now. You couldn't pay me to talk about my feelings in most cases and in all of my relationship the guy did most of the talking. I'm talking 70:30.

The other day I had a conversation about my "unwillingness" to apologize. I don't really (with the people I really care about). The person was all upset because feelings gets shared and expressed about something I did to hurt or upset them and my response will either be "understood", "okay" or silence.

My response in these situations does not mean "I don't care" about this persons feelings, don't have remorse or I think I am above offering an apology. Often, I don't say the words because I think they are meaningless without action. In these cases I am taking in what you're saying and making a choice to make sure I never f*ck up in that way again. My actions will demonstrate that.

I'm learning that some people need to hear the words "I'm sorry", so I am making the effort. I'm not sure that will change what I do in any major way, but I'll make the effort for someone that needs that verbal confirmation.

That's THREE times now.

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#ColourMeConfused

*test test....* 😕

None of my responses are visible to me......😕 *listen closely to determine if that is the Twilight Zone theme song playing in the background...*

F*ck you Wizard and your games.

Posted by tiziani

Posted by PhoenixRising

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Posted by tiziani
I like what you said about men show their intentions in action. But I feel this is true for everyone, not just men.

yeah, that part made sense to me. Women are much more verbal communicators and passive. We never shut up. Men get their point across differently. Talking about feeling can be a bit too long winded.

Lol. Let's not over generalize now. You couldn't pay me to talk about my feelings in most cases and in all of my relationship the guy did most of the talking. I'm talking 70:30.

The other day I had a conversation about my "unwillingness" to apologize. I don't really (with the people I really care about). The person was all upset because feelings gets shared and expressed about something I did to hurt or upset them and my response will either be "understood", "okay" or silence.

My response in these situations does not mean "I don't care" about this persons feelings, don't have remorse or I think I am above offering an apology. Often, I don't say the words because I think they are meaningless without action. In these cases I am taking in what you're saying and making a choice to make sure I never f*ck up in that way again. My actions will demonstrate that.

I'm learning that some people need to hear the words "I'm sorry", so I am making the effort. I'm not sure that will change what I do in any major way, but I'll make the effort for someone that needs that verbal confirmation.

That's THREE times now.

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😈 Shall we go for four?

This post is as confusing to me as the fact that I can't see any of my post. Lol.

Explain pls.

Posted by tiziani
LOL did you block yourself?

No. I believe the Wizard was f*ckin' with me because I could see my posts everywhere else.

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Three times you've said something I haven't seen anyone else except me on here say.

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Ahhhh, got it.

I can also see my posts just fine now on this thread too. Go figure.

Posted by PVandJellay
Oh mah gawd. This article is golden. Haha.

For me this is what stands out the most:

Action Steps: Never talk about the future in the early days of dating. Never jump through hoops and never let him see you're giddy about what's taking place. Play it cool, just like men do. Hang back, be fun, be spontaneous and be open. But do this on your time and as you see fit. Most likely, he'll poke around with leading statements so he can get a feel for whether or not you're into him.

He'll Say Things Like:
—Maybe someday, we can buy a house together.??
"When we live together someday. . ."
—Maybe someday, I??ll take you here for dinner.??
—I have a weekend getaway planned in August (and it's May), maybe you can come with me.??

If I has dollar for everytime a guy did this. LOL. Yes I hate this sweet talking bullshit. I won't even entertain. It any more.

yeah i got fooled plenty of times. Ironically, I was waiting for the gym to open and Lauren Hill song Doo Wop came on. First time I really listened to that song and the lyrics resonated with me.

Posted by PVandJellay
Okay on second thought, parts of this article sound like a lot of game playing and bullshit. Smh. I think the idea is to take it slow, not reveal too much too soon, don't get emotionally attached until you're sure the relationship can go the distance. The whole uncertainty thing, yeah I can see how that plays out, but it shouldn't be a game. Like Phoenix said I'll assume a guy is just not that into me if he isn't pursuing me in the way that I prefer and keep it moving. I'm not gonna play the ignore calls for days game. Because how you start a relationship is how it continues. I don't want to play games just to keep a man. And those games don't work anyway, he'll just leave later rather than sooner.

I agree and disagree with the article. I am soooo excited when I meet someone. Im giddy and want to shout from the mountain tops.I get emotionally attached pretty quickly. I wanna talk about every and anything, no limitations. Any attempt to slow me down or my excitement will turn me off. Any missed calls, delays will put out my fire.

Posted by DMV
This shit is all over DXP. I know, ive written a few threads myself.

After reading the virgo push/pull thread, i really dont know what to make of men sometimes. I feel like my Father is the only man i can trust.

Anyways, I found this article:

http://www.aphroditeastrology.com/2012/06/disappearing-reappearing-man-what-to-do.html<BR>
What do you guys make of this? Especially the Rubber Band Theory...

yea i wouldn't even touch a Virgo. I tried once... Most boring experience of my life.