Hi fellow Saggies. Lately, I've been noticing that I need to fix some things that hold me back...weaknesses so to speak. Please share your thoughts on how someone can be a happier/better Saggie.
How to be a happier/better Sagittarius
Been feeling the same. I find that it helps me to make lists of what I want to accomplish. I set a time frame, it could be a week or a decade.. Then I write down what I'm like as a person when the time has passed. It's definitely a constant process for me, redefining my goals. I recently made a new five year list including what skills, characteristics, habits, hobbies and accomplishments I will have by the end of the five year period. I try to be very honest with myself and to really listen what it is I want from my life. I think the list is just there to help me visualize my wants and to make me realize where I'm headed with my current life style (pretty eye-opening at times).. And as I learn more about myself, I do go in and edit stuff 🙂
I find that I can only challenge myself to achieve or complete something, if it is something that actually matters to me and I truly want for myself. Sometimes thinking about it leads to hours of philosophical questioning.. what's my purpose, why do I exist, what makes me happy. I occasionally shock myself with my realizations - I might have thought I really wanted something in life, but I actually don't. But the confusion is all worth it, because when I'm feeling low and uninspired, that personal philosophic journey is the key to everything. It helps me evaluate my purpose and reasoning and make the necessary life changes in order to feel joyous and inspired again. In my opinion life in many ways is like the four seasons, even when broken down to periods as short as a month, a week, a day.. While a cold winter might not be the climate you want to live in, as with nature, a spring and a summer will always naturally follow. So I try to embrace and accept the confusion and difficulties, as they will soon help me find myself in a much better place. I have become much calmer and focused when I adopted the thinking that all emotions are good and beautiful, they make me human and are a proof of me being alive.
I find that I can only challenge myself to achieve or complete something, if it is something that actually matters to me and I truly want for myself. Sometimes thinking about it leads to hours of philosophical questioning.. what's my purpose, why do I exist, what makes me happy. I occasionally shock myself with my realizations - I might have thought I really wanted something in life, but I actually don't. But the confusion is all worth it, because when I'm feeling low and uninspired, that personal philosophic journey is the key to everything. It helps me evaluate my purpose and reasoning and make the necessary life changes in order to feel joyous and inspired again. In my opinion life in many ways is like the four seasons, even when broken down to periods as short as a month, a week, a day.. While a cold winter might not be the climate you want to live in, as with nature, a spring and a summer will always naturally follow. So I try to embrace and accept the confusion and difficulties, as they will soon help me find myself in a much better place. I have become much calmer and focused when I adopted the thinking that all emotions are good and beautiful, they make me human and are a proof of me being alive.
Recently I have been pondering on happiness and went on to write a few pages on it too to my personal notes. I think with the aspirations and ideals we set for ourselves, we sometimes end up thinking we enjoy something while we actually don't. For example, you might consciously or subconsciously think the ideal version of you loves & is great at yoga. Then you go on to do yoga every day, having brainwashed yourself into thinking you enjoy it. Can't exactly say yoga would be bad for anyone, but if you were very honest with yourself, stripping away all the standards and expectations imposed on you by either yourself or your environment, you might come to realize you actually hate yoga. After thinking about this I have had to re-evaluate everything I thought makes me happy. It is scary but liberating. I have been making mental notes and writing down about moments and experiences when I feel great. It helps me to see what is authentic and what I want to cultivate in my life.
Something else I've thought of is that one might need to shift their focus from trying find happiness to trying to create happiness around them instead. If you focus on your happiness alone, I think life can become rather meaningless. We tend to want all these creature comforts and instrant gratification. But I think genuine happiness and peace of mind come from thinking "what it is that I can do today (or this week/month/year..) to create happiness around me?". It could be something as small as saying something nice to a stranger or something as big as starting a company in order to create more jobs for people. I guess it might sound hypocritical, but I honestly believe this shift in thinking will make a huge difference in how happy, accomplished and meaninful your life feels to you.
Not sure if I have been answering your question at all, but these are some thoughts I've been having, and I thought maybe you could find something in them to find your answers 🙂
Something else I've thought of is that one might need to shift their focus from trying find happiness to trying to create happiness around them instead. If you focus on your happiness alone, I think life can become rather meaningless. We tend to want all these creature comforts and instrant gratification. But I think genuine happiness and peace of mind come from thinking "what it is that I can do today (or this week/month/year..) to create happiness around me?". It could be something as small as saying something nice to a stranger or something as big as starting a company in order to create more jobs for people. I guess it might sound hypocritical, but I honestly believe this shift in thinking will make a huge difference in how happy, accomplished and meaninful your life feels to you.
Not sure if I have been answering your question at all, but these are some thoughts I've been having, and I thought maybe you could find something in them to find your answers 🙂
Posted by beautifuldiaster
@ safire - I really enjoyed reading that as I can relate.
Working in healthcare is beneficial for me. I get to ignore myself and focus all my energy and attention on healing other people. It's a blessing for me. I say that because of your comment on "creating happiness around you or life can become meaningless" and I could not agree more.
The things that I do to help others that end up helping me more are:
- watching someone talk about their passions, noticing how their eyes and mannerisms light up
- listening to a person's troubles and feeling the weight drop from their shoulders, like they just wanted to be heard
- making someone smile, just being polite is huge.
- validating a human's inner drive to just feel "normal" when everything in their life is anything but
- hearing countless stories and life lessons from the older generations and asking them for advice (I forget I have much to learn from others and people generally want to feel helpful)
Glad you enjoyed it! 🙂 You have a really nice list there, I agree with all of it helping me as well.. Just recognizing those moments and being grateful of them makes life so much more worthwhile.
Generally paying attention to articles/talks around "secrets of the successfuls" doesn't cost a thing. We need not to follow them strictly. It's good to know about them. Some of them may comply well with our own nature.
Like Safire I do this too:
- making lists of what I want to accomplish.
- setting time Frames
- setting priorities
- reuse of process management methods I learn from my workplace. E.g. cacelling, exchanging, postponing, redefining goals.
Like Safire I do this too:
- making lists of what I want to accomplish.
- setting time Frames
- setting priorities
- reuse of process management methods I learn from my workplace. E.g. cacelling, exchanging, postponing, redefining goals.
ilosophic journey is the key to everything."
I agree.
Also it may happen that a person gives you the best inspiration within five minutes whereas you may have needed weeks to get there. Sometimes overthinking creates a similar situation as depression.
Posted by safire
Recently I have been pondering on happiness ... aspirations and ideals ... realize you actually hate yoga ...
Yep, that's it.
I remember I had my times when people around me helped me define my goals. A few years later I betrayed those goals. You 'd think things like patriotism, religion, marriage, clique etc. should work always, they are Standards, common sense. But in life you change. They may stop making sense to you. To you.
Posted by safire
... create happiness around them instead. If you focus on your happiness alone, I think life can become rather meaningless. ... genuine happiness and peace of mind come from thinking "what it is that I can do today (or this week/month/year..) to create happiness around me?" ...click to expand
While I agree with you in principle, I have to remind you of "maintenance".
It is written in the astro texts that Sags promise more than they can keep. This is where I stop creating happiness around me when I see it is not giving me happiness. "Cause all of my kindness, is taken for weakness". In the same astro texts is written that we don't like to be used. I was involved in charity works and I came to a point where I was not happy anymore about it.
Hi all, I'm a Cancer but have Sag moon so I feel I can relate a lot to what you guys said..I enjoy making others happy but in the same token I feel pressure sometimes as well( even though I put the pressure on myself). Is that a Sag thing? Anyhow, I feel Sag moon makes me more optimistic so I'm thankful for having it 🙂
Posted by DwellingOnMove
Sometimes overthinking creates a similar situation as depression.
I agree with you there. I am completely addicted to thinking but it also complicates my life a lot. I am often being told that I am overthinking things, and I am starting to believe it myself, too. I honestly can't tell where to draw the line. I feel like it's my dearest hobby, but at the same time it can make me really depressed or worry for no real reason. Plus it seems to scare people, so I only share my thoughts with two of my closest friends.
Posted by DwellingOnMove
I remember I had my times when people around me helped me define my goals. A few years later I betrayed those goals.
I know what you mean and it's a horrible feeling to let other people down, when they had so much faith in you. With myself, I can always negotiate the deal.. But I can't deny my spirit has been completely crushed before as I have also betrayed most of my own expectations for myself. Still building myself back up.. Happy to finally have saturn out of scorpio! Looking forward with courage 🙂
Posted by DwellingOnMove
While I agree with you in principle, I have to remind you of "maintenance".
It is written in the astro texts that Sags promise more than they can keep. This is where I stop creating happiness around me when I see it is not giving me happiness. "Cause all of my kindness, is taken for weakness". In the same astro texts is written that we don't like to be used. I was involved in charity works and I came to a point where I was not happy anymore about it.click to expand
You're right. I think for me the greatest struggle is to find the balance in between. Either I focus too much on others or too much on myself. But I think for me personally, it's healthier having more focus on others, else I just drive myself nuts. I try to avoid making promises as much as I can, have definitely learned that lesson the hard way.
Btw, I admire your courage for quitting your job, good for you making these changes for yourself 🙂 I like my job, but the thought of being free is so exciting. Then again, I'm scared if I had all that time, I would get lost in my head and not find a way out anymore.
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