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This is depressing T-T Call me high standard, whatever. But I have this thing where my guy has to know a lot of things. Has to have his own philosophies, and I'd like to talk to him for hours trying to analyze something even though we cant, because I find that 'fun'. I like my guy to be bascially knowledged in life and even street wise. But I'm getting kinda worried and I know it's silly of me but my boyfriend didnt know one simple thing that EVERY frickin kid knows from birth and it makes me worry what else he doesnt know T-T I like my guy to have this teacher presence.... I dont want to be the one in position of that.

Am I wrong to feel this way? I dont want to state what he didnt know because it's just embarrassing for him.
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I love the topic of the thread! Sorry i didn't read this yesterday but i only just logged on after seeing your message on the misc. board. Ok, first of all, what does T-T mean? Is it a face? I'm not sure.

Is what you're saying is that your guy has his own philisophies and is not open to the facts, the truth and what you have to say? If you are discontent with the amount of stimulation you are getting from him then it is time to push him for more. In my experience, Sagittarians are very apt at intellectual debate and are quite open to new philosophies and ideas. You just need to get the juices running.

Does he go to school? I'm not sure how old he is.

Ah, okay, just read the end of your post and it sounds like he doesn't know some general knowledge. If he doesn't know things like this and you feel it is important for him to know then you can just tell him. There is no reason why he or you should feel uncomfortable. Just point it out to him nicely, or pretend you don't know and say, "oh, let's go and look it up on the internet", so he thinks that the two of you have learned it together. Then start encouraging him to do some more learning by saying, "isn't this fun!". Just go and look stuff up on google; you learn so much that way.

Failing that, if you want him to be more inspired in life then encourage him to take up some interests or do some courses. Or give him some books for christmas.

Hope i have got the message right and that this helps 😉
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Thanks Libragirl. I dont want to state what he didnt know because really..it's so embarrassing LOL it's like basically breathing AIR... you just gotta know, he will not survive. I told him, you are not human. You did not live a normal life, make peace with yourself and go back home. But ofcourse I was joking with him!!! lol. Let's just say I'm surprised he even knows what "cooties" mean...

Yes, he's very broad minded I must say and he's 18. I guess I just expect a lot of things from my boyfriend because if he didnt even know what I was talking about..

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..OK I admit it. He didnt know what "rolling eyes" was. I MEAN C'MON. Everyone knows that since you were friggin born and yes I'm exaggerating right now. Hasn't he ever heard anyone say "dont roll your eyes at me @#) $ *#) $ ?" Even at school! It's everywhere! TV! SCHOOL! EVEN YOUR GODDAMN MOTHER ROLLS HER EYES AT YOU PROBABLY! BLA!

So with that said...it worries me. Really..nah. No really. It does. I seriously didnt expect that out of him though...

>_
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Yeah, it's not only that I guess. Can't really explain it. There's a lot of guys I see who have so many things to share and my boyfriend is the type who just doesnt give a treetrunk about anything. Sometimes I like that but I tend to think about a lot of things and I dont know if I could share that with him because all he does is agree but doesnt really actually delve deep into it with me. I dont know. I guess what's the point of even thinking about such things, there is no point. Live and die, thats it. And I'm starting to not believe in anything inbetween nor all the stupid treetrunking things I analyze about.
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I don't think something's terribly wrong, Luz, but I think if you're having doubts NOW, ponder a lifetime with him. Really think about it. I do think 18 is pretty young for most people. I was briefly engaged when i was 16 (NOT something I'm proud of, in fact it was quite stupid of me) for about five months, and I am SO GLAD we broke up....*SO* glad. Now, when I actually ponder what a lifetime with him would have been like (he wasn't very intelligent, and lied a lot)...it gives me the eebiejeebies. 😛 I think to sign your life away to someone whose intellectuality (is that a word?) is not on the same level as yours, and especially at this young of an age, would be kind of tragic. These are JUST my opinions, though, based on my own bits of experience.
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Even at 38 there are still things I'm naive about lol. I think you maybe over emphasizing the fact that he didn't have that simple piece of knowledge.

Our minds run constantly, and we tend to not pay attention to detail. Don't let this one thing distract you from the rest of him. We as human beings tend to ignore the good things in someone and focus on the bad...or better yet what someone is not doing without realizing the full extent of what we want.

Simply stated, is it that big of a deal that he didn't know the meaning? There was something about him that made you accept him "as your boyfriend." Perhaps the fact that he demonstrates behavior that you're not used to is the lesson you should learn. That love comes in different ways and to appreciate the forms it comes in.
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Posted by beautifulsoul74
Even at 38 there are still things I'm naive about lol. I think you maybe over emphasizing the fact that he didn't have that simple piece of knowledge.

Our minds run constantly, and we tend to not pay attention to detail. Don't let this one thing distract you from the rest of him. We as human beings tend to ignore the good things in someone and focus on the bad...or better yet what someone is not doing without realizing the full extent of what we want.

Simply stated, is it that big of a deal that he didn't know the meaning? There was something about him that made you accept him "as your boyfriend." Perhaps the fact that he demonstrates behavior that you're not used to is the lesson you should learn. That love comes in different ways and to appreciate the forms it comes in.



This is an old thread. I don't think they're even together anymore.
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Posted by AriesIntrovert16
Posted by beautifulsoul74
Even at 38 there are still things I'm naive about lol. I think you maybe over emphasizing the fact that he didn't have that simple piece of knowledge.

Our minds run constantly, and we tend to not pay attention to detail. Don't let this one thing distract you from the rest of him. We as human beings tend to ignore the good things in someone and focus on the bad...or better yet what someone is not doing without realizing the full extent of what we want.

Simply stated, is it that big of a deal that he didn't know the meaning? There was something about him that made you accept him "as your boyfriend." Perhaps the fact that he demonstrates behavior that you're not used to is the lesson you should learn. That love comes in different ways and to appreciate the forms it comes in.



This is an old thread. I don't think they're even together anymore.
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