never be truly loved..

There is no one that i have met that has truly genuinely loved me...
im 24 but,
i feel like i need to figure out why this keeps happening.

yes,the guy that i was talking to tells me 'im not ready to be in a serious relationship,
blah, blah, blahh..im sorry. I didnt mean to hurt u..blah, blah..'

I take that back....the only ppl that have ever loved me were my parents.
yaay...

Im just pissed off thats all..wanted to share it on here.

Galactic - what happened with the Taurus?

I wouldn't stress it too hard. Its pretty rare to find real/true love as young as you are. Usually people think they've found it, get cheated on or cheat, go through major heartbreak, become wiser, etc. Our culture isn't exactly conducive to young couples maintaining serious committed relationships.

@TaurusLovesScorpio
Yea the Taurus guy said that..today actually. The sad thing is, as a Sag i tend to 'set myself up' for certain situations without realizing it. This was one of them..im on a roll.
In the beginning,(somewhat after i broke up with the ex) i told Taurus that i needed to be by myself before i got into another relationship even tho i was liking Taurus guy. Well, he somewhat told me the same thing also,but stated he didnt want to be rebound..hmph.
So today i kept bothering and asking him what was going on between us,cuz things seemed like a relationship but not really like i thought he was coming around..(listen, this is my first time this has happened to me so gimme a little break plz!)and this is how it went thru text:

ME; your just confusing me sometimes because u act like were dating cuz of certain things u do, but then other times u act so distant-why is that? do u not care how i feel? or sometimes when i say something, u go around certain things i say..if i did that to u im sure u wouldnt
like it.

TAURUS; your right

ME; so what then..ur just a guy that likes attention?

TAURUS; no.not at all. im a guy who needs to focus on himself and working my own stuff out. i told u before, im not ready for a serious relationship. ive always been honest with u about that and never meant for u to feel used or anything...im sorry.

TAURUS again; Im sorry i thought i told u this before.

after that, i just told him that its been almost a year and its a total waste of time, and he just said sorry again and that he didnt mean to make me feel this way or waste my time. Then i all of a sudden remembered that he did SOMEWHAT tell me this before (i know, silly me) and i said the same too.
I apologized for that part but said he wont be getting the same attention from me again tho..he just said 'ok i understand'. Thats all i can say to him at this point.

Another one crossed off the list..ive only been able to be in 2serious relationships because i dont date unless i really see a future. and in between that when im single im really single; no hookups or anything;just getting drunk all the time. I liked him enough to think that maybe something could happen (hes even said that to me too). But i walked into it myself, and i am feeling the pain..and blaming myself.

@CluelessCancer
Yea, i kno..for the most part i do try not to worry about things like that.
but, there are times where i cant help it..every guy i like i feel like 'oh is he the one
that ive been waiting for all this time?!' and i think for sure this is the guy--nope, its not.

Honestly,i dont even know if its lust or love i feel most of the time because i get so passionate when
i like a guy, only for things to not be what i thought..feels like a trick every frikken time.

why is that—!!

@Impulsv

yea i understand what ur saying and ur totally right..i do focus on me, but i guess i just tend to get lonely. I dont try and get involved with anyone unless i want to seriously date them..and its rare to find. And sometimes i feel happy being single, and sometimes i get tired of it.
The situation that happened to me, was a dumb move on my part..and its just bumming me out.
But i kno ill be single for awhile.
First and last time i make this mistake.

well it takes love to get love so you probably didn't love anyone either so maybe focus on that

Posted by GalacticFun89

i feel like i need to figure out why this keeps happening.

yes,the guy that i was talking to tells me 'im not ready to be in a serious relationship,
blah, blah, blahh..im sorry. I didnt mean to hurt u..blah, blah..

One side of your mouth says you need to figure out why this keeps happening .... which makes the insinuation that you realize something is wrong, and it needs to be fixed.

While the other side of your mouth mocks a person who tries to tell you ...


So, that makes YOU the problem ... you should check that.

@Cunninglinguist

yea i will next time..the problem was he was really into me in the beginning. He wanted to take me to dinner, movies, even offered to pay for me to go on a ski/cabin trip with him and some friends we knew. He texted me constantly all day to the point where if i didnt respond right away hed say 'talk to me!'and he'd text me goodmorning before work and would call. I had a lot going on at that time and wanted to take it slow cuz i didnt want rush into something right away when i didnt kno him. so either i would be working and couldnt go, or i already had plans wayy before. he barely knew me, but wanted to do things like that. i got suspicious a few times.but i would always try and makeup for it. then after 4months of that is when he switched and went hot/cold.
And now it went from that, to 'oh well im a guy that needs to focus on himself and work stuff out'.
i thought i did the right thing this whole time by trying not to rush into it, but clearly whatever issues he had before he met me is still there and hes not over it..so whatever to him. his lost, not mine.

@P-Angel

I was just venting out, i think i have the right to do that. and yea, if me being too nice to the wrong ppl that come into my life is the reason for ME being the problem? Then, ill agree. If me wanting to do the right thing and take things slower and see where it goes is ME being the problem? sure, ill take that. But, dont try and pursue me like you want to marry me and get something going, only to turn around and tell me that you need to focus on yourself and things in your life..i dont switch like that, i never have. if i like you, i stick with you until u screw me over. I dont jump in, only to tell someone 'im not ready for a serious relationship'..its bull**** and fake imo.
Obviously whatever issues he had before, he should of fixed that first then come talk to me. People (or men) switch, and it pisses me off. Its like a trick--for what? just to get what u want out of me? This is exactly why i only want serious long term relationships; no FWB bull.
Now, i bet you a million dollars, hes going to try and get in contact with me somehow again.
Its stupid mind games that ppl play just to get what they want, and i was never like that.

Wow, I see a lot of who I was in this post. I've been there, I know that hurt. It sucks, but in the end I learned to just not focus on it so much and not have so much of an expectation towards the other person. That and to get it all straight the first time. Also dating guys who aren't emotional retards helps 🙂

Posted by tiziani
I get

so lonelyyyy,

can't let

just anybody hold meeeeh

: D

Posted by happykitsune
Wow, I see a lot of who I was in this post. I've been there, I know that hurt. It sucks, but in the end I learned to just not focus on it so much and not have so much of an expectation towards the other person. That and to get it all straight the first time. Also dating guys who aren't emotional retards helps 🙂

Thanks, and im sorry u were in the same situation too; it really sucks. yea, i should of known better.
oh well, im already feeling a little less sad about it.
Im pretty sure he will try and text me sometime soon..he can be pretty persistant. But thats just it, we havent even had sex (thank u lord) yet, but the last time i saw him we were super close.
you think he'll try and come back just cuz of that? should i curse him out? or flat out ignore?

the one thing he most likely wanted, he didnt even get..lol.hah.