Sag ignoring me

I'm a Leo female and met a Sag guy - it was an online emotional relationship (don't judge me 🙂 ) but we had fully intended on meeting in person (he lives on the other side of world). We clicked and got on like a house on fire. Lots of fun, jokes, love, affection, mutual support - it was bliss. To cut a very long story short, we had many arguments eventually - started by me - but because of his behaviour - FB commenting on other girls pages/getting distant, cold and surly. I was so upset and angry that I blocked him a few times and unblocked/refriended. (The first time I blocked him he contacted me from his brother's account and asked me to unblock him so I did and then he called me crying saying how much I had upset him - the reason I blocked him that time was because of his getting really distant/neglecting me/playing games). However, he has ignored all my messages for a very long time. Sometimes he doesn't even read them. I have tried no contact - lasted a full month - inboxed him again (hoping he would reply) - nothing - that was two weeks ago. He really broke my heart - I was devastated - getting much better now and am into second week of second round of no contact. Will he ever contact me again?!!! And more importantly, why has he not blocked me? He has nothing to lose by blocking me.....

Being neglected and him flirting was annoying too (and hurtful). He was the one who pursued me; and the one who came on strong, and then out of the blue went cold and then "hot and cold". "Blocking" is the equivalent of leaving; unblocking- coming back - you get me? Won't be contacting him again and intend to keep moving, but was wondering if this is typical behaviour for Sag guys (i.e. completely ignoring). Forgot to mention that one of the girls he was flirting with I called him out on - and he said he would block her - I never even asked him to do that. Just asked him was he was being so dishonest as it was he was the one who kept telling me I was the "only one" and "the one"....

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Sorry... something weird happened with posting. hehe. Yes @thinktoomuch and @dontgetmewrong - he has nothing to lose if he doesn't care. My gut feeling is that he still does though - anyway we shall see.... thanks. 🙂

Sorry... something weird happened with posting. hehe. Yes @thinktoomuch and @dontgetmewrong - he has nothing to lose if he doesn't care. My gut feeling is that he still does though - anyway we shall see.... thanks. 🙂

@dontgetmewrong Thanks. Ya, I think he hasn't a clue what he wants at the moment - he's all over the place. Definitely not waiting around - I was though, at the beginning of the ignoring period. Lost so much dignity (I'm a proud Leo 🙂 ) begging him to tell me why he was ignoring me. Crying for days - don't think I ever got as hurt - not even in the "real" world. But am a million times better now and getting on with my own life. All the best. x

@dontgetmewrong Thanks. Ya, I think he hasn't a clue what he wants at the moment - he's all over the place. Definitely not waiting around - I was though, at the beginning of the ignoring period. Lost so much dignity (I'm a proud Leo 🙂 ) begging him to tell me why he was ignoring me. Crying for days - don't think I ever got as hurt - not even in the "real" world. But am a million times better now and getting on with my own life. All the best. x

Sometimes I avoid people I'm irritated with and blow them off until I get over it on my own or am ready to hash things out with them.

But to ignore someone alltogether for an extended period of time like that usually means I simply have nothing left for them.

@brianafay: Yes indeed, I think that sometimes too i.e. that he is gone for good.

i too am a leo and had a rollercoaster ride for over a year with a sag,he chased me i wasnt much interested ,then i became interested,he said he loved me (i dont even say that unless i mean it)we are loyal and faithful if in love and true love lasts not for just a few months
i won't put my story on here its extremely long but it's exactly like yours ,i didnt block just stopped following, came off certain social media.its because we feel really hurt
he wasn't totally bad though,they are either devil or angel
he wants to stay single and i have said i want to remain friends,because i love his good side
i would say dont contact him after saying you will remain friends if possible,give him loads of space
even if he is seeing someone else he will be bored after so long and may be in touch again
if you can let him see you have a life and interests without him .

oh mine wasnt online, distance doesnt help and also they put you on a pedastal,your his princess then suddenly he see's your not perfect ,so his bubble bursts and goes looking for someone else
he expects 100% from you i couldn't give that much

Hi Firebabe. Yes! Same here. I was his "princess" "the one" etc. etc. I've no doubt in my mind he will get bored with her 🙂 She's beautiful but dull as dishwater. lol. I don't know what my rising sign is or any of that stuff. I go by Chinese - I'm a Monkey in that. He's an Ox - they are meant to be so faithful - and when they decide to love someone, it's forever. However, I think his Sag side won out with me - with the running when things aren't exciting/or when something else caught his eye. Don't you think that's a bit shallow? I do. I am definitely letting him see I'm getting on with my life but it's not a lie, I am now. I think I actually only posted this cos I was a bit bored - it's more like a "pebble in the shoe" than a real problem. I'm getting plenty of attention from other guys right now (as I Leo I love that) - but part of me still wants to see what will happen next with Saggi - I just feel like it's an unfinished story - but you never know. My friend (Taurus) was married to a Sagg for 10 years- he left her nine months ago suddenly without warning - he went back to his first wife! He is now is "hinting" that he wants to get back with her. She wouldn't even consider it for a second. When she told me about it I asked her if her husband was a Sagg by any chance and she said funnily enough yes! 🙂 🙂

Posted by firebabe
oh mine wasnt online, distance doesnt help and also they put you on a pedastal,your his princess then suddenly he see's your not perfect ,so his bubble bursts and goes looking for someone else
he expects 100% from you i couldn't give that much

That particular bit of info sounds like a virgo...

@busyeyes88 I did get very emotionally invested. He broke my heart - but am healing very well. And yes Leos are all about loyalty. Amazingly, he constantly said how much HE valued loyalty - and look what happened! Glad you met a nice Taurus. My second bf was a Taurus - was with him seven years. I have to say, I found him very boring but these days, know a couple of Taurus men and they are far from boring - very sexy and manly actually and very married too! 🙂 My first bf was a Sagg - he two timed me with my so called "best" friend and when I eventually left him for good - begged me to take him back for weeks on end. I met him about a decade later in a pub - and he could not look me in the eye. He was almost cowering. haha. My third long term was Gemini - I got on good with him for a while and we had a good thing going but again I got bored - now that I type this I'm beginning to see a pattern! (Probably my restlessness as Chinese Monkey). Might have got bored of Sagg too. (He was always whinging and complaining - it used to get irritating and he was quite negative about things). Must look out for a Taurus man - now that I am a bit more "mature" and know what I want/don't want a bit better. Let me know if that Sagg contacts you again. haha. p.s. I always get on well with Taurus females - you are a great sign. 🙂 x

@busyeyes88 - I think Sagg men are a bit messed up - the ones I know and have known have mostly been. Behind all the bravado and jokes etc ., there can be - well, depression I suppose. I have a platonic Sagg male friend. I had big crush on him years ago, but he was a friend of my very recent ex at the time, and sort of told me no way, that he was being loyal to his friend. 🙂 I still meet up with him from time to time and we do click and have a warm friendship but he is now in a relationship.

I actually know very few Leo males.... a lot of Leo females though - and only know a few Sagg girls but not very well. My main female friends are Taurus, Leo, Aquarius and loads of Geminis. 🙂

Yes I think Taurus and Leo very similar value wise - and also in clothes, home decor and comfort-wise. We want quality everything and luxury everything lol.

@dgmw - Like you were saying to Busyeyes about when a Sagg has found "the one" and that there will be no doubt in the person's mind - well if I were to go with my gut feeling, I would say that this guy was deeply in love with me (as I was with him) - there was just too much other stuff going on - and way too many external influences and problems. I think that there were too many other temptations for him aswell and he just couldn't resist - like a kid in a sweetshop. I had my Tarot cards read by a really good reader and she said he had a bit of a harem going on (but that none of the women meant anything to him). I asked her was I the number one and she said yes but that he was really really angry at me. I suppose I did say hurtful things but having been cheated on and lied to (my God sooo many lies) - I was naturally very angry. I did apologise for my side of things i.e. saying hurtful things in anger. But he never admitted to cheating - in fact when I called him out on it properly having PROOF (prior to that it was just a "sense" I got), it was then he started to ignore completely....

@dgmw: You are actually 100% correct. There is no way I could give him full security due the circumstances I am currently in. I think we may both have been dreaming but he woke up first.....

@busyeyes: Yes he did. 😢 I lost a lot of dignity already (and that hurts as a proud Lioness I can assure you!). But now with the no contact going on - I am coming back to myself and moving on. So glad I have got the feedback here though! It's great to get a perspective on things. I had been talking to one friend about it but she's not a believer in astrology. I wouldn't say I live my life by astrology, but from experience, I see how useful it is, in terms of understanding relationships and behaviors... 🙂

i was born 21st august on the leo/virgo cusp
i couldnt be 100% perfect for him .

yeah he has an harem,i was top of the list,now ive been moved down hehe
i found out a lot about him by googling ,info all over the place because he works in media
i too got fed up of each time i texted or chatted it was poor me ,i felt like i was talking to a woman
looking for sympathy all the time
i will and have given my support but it got boring.

i think they will be loyal and faithful to the right person,who is 100% perfect for them
doubt they will ever find that

@firebabe: I suppose we have to ask ourselves if they wanted to fully commmit to us, would we even want that?!! Are we looking for true love or just an ego boost? It's a tricky question (and confusing) but I often ask it of myself. Why are we attracted to an unavailable man? My Sagg was the same - sooo annoying with the complaining all the time. Very pessimistic and negative - and no matter what I said or did, it was never enough. I was very very supportive of things he was going through. In fact, he exhausted me..... I don't think I could have put up with that in a relationship. I already have one child! 🙂

Haha so true @busyeyes! I saw right through him. Not much gets by me and he knew it. I actually think he was/is a bit scared of me. 🙂 I saw a nice Taurus guy I know at an event I was at this evening and he smiled at me - and another guy too (a bit younger than me) - not sure of his sign. lolol

Do you know what this means or maybe someone else could explain the basics to me? I seem to have a lot of Cancer and Gemini in here....

http://www.psychicscience.org/astrochart.aspx

Saturn - Aries
True Nor th Node — Aries
Midheaven — Aries
True North Node — Aries
Chiron - Aries
Neptune - Scorpio
House V - Scorpio
Moon - Libra
Uranus — Virgo
Pluto- Virgo
Jupiter — Virgo
Venus — Leo
Ascendant — Leo
Sun — Leo
Mercury — Cancer
Mars — Cancer
True Lilth — Gemini
Fortune - Gemini

Got this from online chart - based on time of birth being guessed but my mother "thinks" it was around 5 a.m.

Wow this is so exciting. Reading up on the meaning of all these and what struck me most was the Aries in North Node - particularly relevant to my first post.

"CHOOSING A PARTNER

In seeking a mate or any other close connection, Aries North Node people are subconsciously seeking a relationship in which they can lose themselves. They wish to become so submerged in the other person that they are totally —safe.?? It's the old —1/2 + ?_ = 1 whole?? theory, but it doesn't work for these people. Rather, they are here to learn that —1 whole + 1 whole = a healthy team.??

However, until they become aware, they will attempt to find someone with whom they can identify, and then they pour all their love and support into reinforcing that other person. But when they seek a partner from this position, it never works out. Often they are attracted to people who abuse them or let them down. In fact, just the opposite approach is scheduled to work for these folks. They need to stop focusing on others and concentrate on themselves instead. As they begin to focus on being themselves, allowing their own true, unique identity to emerge, and going in their own individual direction, their energy will attract the right person—someone who will appreciate and value them.

Aries North Node people are so accustomed to the joys of partnership from past lives that they subconsciously associate being happy with being in a relationship that is mutually, joyfully symbiotic. They came into this lifetime wanting to do everything with their partner, all the time. They are basically cheerful people, but an energy drain is taking place beneath the surface of the relationship that is based on feelings of dependence. Aries North Nodes?? need for attention and to be included as part of the other person??s identity are a bottomless pit.

Subconsciously, these folks believe they cannot survive without the energy of others. So they tend to cultivate a mutual dependence with stronger people around them. They take time and energy away from their own goals to help the partner reach hers. They give of their understanding, being more sensitive to others?? needs than to their own. In this way they create a dependence, becoming an integral part of what the other person needs to survive.

Then Aries North Node people resent their partners for —interfering?? with their independence and blame them when they don't reach their goals, even though the Aries North Nodes created t

he unhealthy dependence. They think it's love (indeed, these folks are very loving and cooperative), but a lot of their self-sacrifice is subconscious manipulation. Love never expects anything in return for giving, and resentment is a by-product of expecting something and not getting it. Aries North Node people must learn to be honest with themselves and others about how much they are willing to give and what they expect in return. Being part of a team means making sure they are also supported."

This is all so true! This is sooo helpful.

When you were blocking him and unblocking him, were you asking for attention? I know a lot of Leos are attention seeking with huge egos and loves to be the centre of attention. Since he became distant, contacting other girls, etc , did you think by blocking him would gain his attention and divert his attention from other women? Also, I don't think you should tie him down to commitment so fast, since you both do not know if you are compatible in person. We will run if we see possessive people that try to tie us down into commitment before we settle and see where you really stand. Is there anything wrong with wanting to date and nothing serious? Why don't you just let him do whatever he wants and become more distant (complimenting and flirting less) everytime he does things. And when he confronts tell him upfront and be honest? Meanwhile, leave your options open. Show how open and free you are to other guys and for sure he will come to you when he sees how independent you are from him and give him much needed space.

There are two opinions from me right now. One, is that he is playing hard to get, feeling great that you are once again showering him with much needed attention after many days of ignoring and absence. The other is that he has moved on to another girl. Mutable signs are very popular. Also do not exclude the possibilities that he is seeing other girls behind your back. He may want to get a feel of each and see where each of them stand, including you before he makes a final decision whether to find one to commit to.