What's wrong with him??

This topic was created in the Sagittarius forum by ScorpLeo on Thursday, July 10, 2014 and has 8 replies.

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@ScorpLeo
12 Years

I really love how free sprited sagittarius men are.... The only problem is that even if they don't show it, they get pretty attached.... I've had this friend who's a sag sun aries moon, he's incredibly handsome and he's just so sympathetic..... Adventurous but empathic.... I just don't get it why he lets people hurt him the way they do especially his girlfriends... He's very successful at his job and girls tend to use him to get ahead in their careers... He of course being the good guy he is helps anybody who asks for help..... Once they're done they break his Heart and he being the total dude never let's the pain show..... It's exhausting to see him repeat his mistakes over and over again.... I've known him for a long time now and I just get so upset to see the pain in his eyes.....

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12 YearsSagittarius

As I said in your other post, we just want people to be real with us. That's what he is doing, being real with people, it's who he is, you can neither protect nor change him and nor should you. The world should change around him and then one day he will find someone who sees the truth in him and wants exactly that...
We do get attached, we are greatly misunderstood. We love with a passion that other signs don't really understand of us, many think we are shallow - that says more about them than it does us.

If a guy tells me he is looking for a f*** buddy, I believe him, if he says he is looking for a lifetime, I believe him... and if he is lying (which is not something we do) we get confused, because we are OK with either as long as you tell, it's called an even playing field where everyone knows the rules. We don't understand why people would lie about this. Your friend has problems because I suspect people are not telling him the truth of what they want from him..

All you can do is actually support who he is and tell him that the right person will love that and just be there for him, he will love you unconditionally for it and it will offer him comfort when he needs it.

And he's not repeating mistakes, they are, because they are using people and not realising the karma they are building up 🙂

*hugs* bless your heart for caring.

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Thanks Jenova.... I'm just worried about him... I keep telling him the same thing you just told me.... Somehow I feel guilty because he's told me a few times that he loves me and not platonically... It's just that I'm a very confused person and I just don't wanna drag him through my craziness.... I don't think I care for anybody more than I care for him..... I have denied him a few times but he always sticks around.... Weirdly enough I don't find myself with anybody else... I don't sleep around with people and I genuinely believe that until I've found myself i shouldn't be with anybody..... It's not fair. People use him and it really hurts to see him down even if it it for a couple of minutes.... He gets himself so bush when something like this happens.... He has a new girl every night and slowly and most recently it feels like he's turned off his emotions.... I just feel like it's my fault!

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12 Years

Posted by piscesmoon2
Who is using who—

Some girls will believe anything... He always has a choice...

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He's not the type..... He genuinely helps people but they're usually so ungrateful.... You're right... He has a choice and he's never taken advantage of anybody in his life!

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@Jenova
12 YearsSagittarius

Posted by ScorpLeo
Thanks Jenova.... I'm just worried about him... I keep telling him the same thing you just told me.... Somehow I feel guilty because he's told me a few times that he loves me and not platonically... It's just that I'm a very confused person and I just don't wanna drag him through my craziness.... I don't think I care for anybody more than I care for him..... I have denied him a few times but he always sticks around.... Weirdly enough I don't find myself with anybody else... I don't sleep around with people and I genuinely believe that until I've found myself i shouldn't be with anybody..... It's not fair. People use him and it really hurts to see him down even if it it for a couple of minutes.... He gets himself so bush when something like this happens.... He has a new girl every night and slowly and most recently it feels like he's turned off his emotions.... I just feel like it's my fault!

Guilt is a wasted emotion. He knows the deal, you do. If you have been honest with him then you have honoured him and everything beyond that is his choice.

Equally, it's not about fault and blame, again - you have been honest with him, it's his choice.

Continue to be there honestly... and you know what, neither of you know what's around the corner, be open to what the 'verse brings you, it wants what is best for both of you 🙂 so trust him and trust yourself. You got this.
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Posted by Lhasa
Sag sun aries moon... does he rush into relationships?

No he never rushes but he has a fair share of one night stands to cope up with any kind of problem he's going through..... It seems like nothing matters to him anymore.... But he will never admit that he's in pain!