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This Scorp I've been seeing semi ignores me when he's pissed, although he doesn't tell me why. I put a few pieces together and realized he befriended a coworker just to spy on me. This guy is a very good looking Sag. We hit it off as friends and text constantly, as we have a lot in common, but no flirting. The Scorp made a slick comment about me texting one day and when I asked what he was referring to, he told me I think he's stupid and he'd find out himself. When I think about it, his silent temper tantrums started when I became friendly with this guy. We aren't GF and BF so technically I can do what I want, even though I'm not seeing anyone else. I really do like the Scorp, but these tantrums are straining me. Ive asked him to tell me what's wrong, but I guess he doesn't want to blow his cover with the snooping. How should I try to resolve this? I'm sure the Scorp would want me to stop contact with this guy, but is that fair? Or have I been single too long, and don't know how to deal with men's egos lol?
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Me and the sag usually don't text on the weekend. One Saturday we were texting back and forth a lot about working out. When I saw the Scorp he asked how was my weekend. I said it was good. He replied ,"yeah since you were texting all weekend.". I aked what he meant and he replied,"You think I'm stupid. That's okay I'll find out myself.". Thats's when it dawned on me. When I asked him again, he lied and said he looked at my phone and texts were popping up asking where was I. That was a big fat lie because no one texts me like that, and I never received texts like that when I'm with him. Also, he kind of acts like this guy doesn't exist, when normally he'll inquire about anyone with whom he sees me interact.

I guess I say "tantrum" but it's really pouting. He knows it irks me when he doesn't spend time with me or talk to me. He'll call me 4 times a day or ask me where I am to come say hi. Then if there are texts and he and this guy work around each other, he'll be very short and cold with me and say he's busy or something. It took me a while to see the pattern.
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Me and the sag usually don't text on the weekend. One Saturday we were texting back and forth a lot about working out. When I saw the Scorp he asked how was my weekend. I said it was good. He replied ,"yeah since you were texting all weekend.". I aked what he meant and he replied,"You think I'm stupid. That's okay I'll find out myself.". Thats's when it dawned on me. When I asked him again, he lied and said he looked at my phone and texts were popping up asking where was I. That was a big fat lie because no one texts me like that, and I never received texts like that when I'm with him. Also, he kind of acts like this guy doesn't exist, when normally he'll inquire about anyone with whom he sees me interact.

I guess I say "tantrum" but it's really pouting. He knows it irks me when he doesn't spend time with me or talk to me. He'll call me 4 times a day or ask me where I am to come say hi. Then if there are texts and he and this guy work around each other, he'll be very short and cold with me and say he's busy or something. It took me a while to see the pattern.


Hahaha, could be worse I guess. I think you're worrying too much tbh.
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Ooookkaaaaay. Hmm. Just so annoying.
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I'm married to a Scorp and this behavior is par for the course with him. Sooo jealous. Yes, there's a ring on my finger... and he STILL checks my texts, gets pissed about them, and mopes around. It's annoying. I tried changing my behavior for him at first, but it never did any good (and wasn't fair to me), so now I just do what I want and let him deal with it. Don't expect this behavior to go away as your relationship progresses.
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Hmm I wonder if the scorp I'm sort of seeing would be upset with stuff like that. Have you slept with him?


I doubt it.
Women since the beginning of time....errr, well sms have been sneaky sneakers with their 'send friends in to get the dirt in the guy', as far as I'm aware anyways, haha.
Depends on the individuals outlook though, if it isn't malicious or catty games, it's kinda cute, lol.
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What? Sometimes I can't understand the way people on here type?
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Girls have always had their friends around to find out more about a guy they're interested in.
It's rather nice if the intention isn't malicious.

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I don't think I have ever done that. No of my friends would ever look at the littlest things that I want to know about lol

Except now this gem girl I'm sort of after I am asking a guy friend for some help up on that. Never tried you know? 🙂
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this is going to happen alot. you are a flirty, friendly, jovial sag. he aint. and hes jealous if the time and attention you give to others. but you cant change that about your personality and nor should you. in fact, he loved that about u when he first met you. how could he say no to all that FUN!

get ready for alot of silent treatments and temper tantrums, but shit....its his problem not yours. they will be draining and numerious. all you can do is reassure him...and youll be doing it constantly until hes finally gotten comfortable that you are really is. hes worried that he may lose you to someone else...hes insecure like that...poor thing, just give him a kiss, hug, and a blowjob.

you could maybe become a hermit or wall flower for a day or two but eventually that horse is going to want to be free! plus, hed think you were boring if you became a wall flower. dont lose your spark!

hes not trying to be a pain in the butt, he just cant take it when the attention is off him. he wants you mind body and soul...he wants all those smiles for him and not any other PERSON (male or female).

him be friending the cowroker, i wouldnt sweat it. he just wants to find out more about you. u need to do the same 😉

hold onto your skirt when he starts spewing insults...in public.
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Hmm I wonder if the scorp I'm sort of seeing would be upset with stuff like that. Have you slept with him?



Yes I slept with him. His nonsense is getting on my nerves. He's always snooping and copping attitudes but won't say why.



That is weird. Does he want you to be just his?
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hes not going to say why until hes ready to let you in. he dont trust you and your flirtacious lovng self. lol, boy oh boy the shit my scorp would throw out to me. you have no idea whats churing in his head.

water signs can be draining for us saggis. so i cant stress enough, hold on to that mysterious and spark.

also, while hes doing him homework on you...you should be doing the same. dude could me married or have 10 kids.
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Hmm I wonder if the scorp I'm sort of seeing would be upset with stuff like that. Have you slept with him?



Yes I slept with him. His nonsense is getting on my nerves. He's always snooping and copping attitudes but won't say why.



That is weird. Does he want you to be just his?
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He says he doesn't want a relationship. Yet a few weeks ago when I told him I wasn't a good girl for him, he told me he wouldn't let me go so I could give someone else what's his. I was like whatever. He was like, "No I'm serious. We have to work this out.". Nutball.
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Would you kick off if your man was tlaking to girls loads though ?
This to DMV too as it's been a while and I like your type 🙂



As long as it wasn't sexual, no. And if he's not my man, he can do whatever he pleases, just not in front of me. I don't even speak on the phone to this guy. It's only texting and our interactions at work. But then he says he doesn't want to get too deep. He's a big spoiled baby.
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Hmm I wonder if the scorp I'm sort of seeing would be upset with stuff like that. Have you slept with him?



Yes I slept with him. His nonsense is getting on my nerves. He's always snooping and copping attitudes but won't say why.



That is weird. Does he want you to be just his?



also, while hes doing him homework on you...you should be doing the same. dude could me married or have 10 kids.


lol.
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You are so right! But I'm so terrible at that. I'm always so obvious. It's also a little more difficult for me because he has more casual interactions with all kinds if people. The people normally mix with, don't really mix with him, so I'd have to step out of my zone to spy. The Scorp even admitted early on about one guy he was questioning about me. When the guy approached me a few days later, asking some stuff, I tried to see if he'd tell me why he was asking. He wasn't saying squat! Men stick with each other if they're ceratin you're not going to sleep with them lol.
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Hmm I wonder if the scorp I'm sort of seeing would be upset with stuff like that. Have you slept with him?



Yes I slept with him. His nonsense is getting on my nerves. He's always snooping and copping attitudes but won't say why.



That is weird. Does he want you to be just his?



He says he doesn't want a relationship. Yet a few weeks ago when I told him I wasn't a good girl for him, he told me he wouldn't let me go so I could give someone else what's his. I was like whatever. He was like, "No I'm serious. We have to work this out.". Nutball.
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but what he didnt say is "i dont want a relationship now." Whats does his chart look like and yours?

i gave my scorp that same spiel about us not being right and he agreed to every word. then he told me why and i jumped outts his car and slammed the door. 15 mins later hes dropping the L word.. see what i mean—

also his ego dont want no other man touching his cookies. the hell with that! just dont let him find out if u wanna visit some stables. clear your texts and VMs. best believe, he may have a few woman ont he side while he makes up his mind.
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@DMV girl I'm so not used to this. And I swear I'm not flirting or anything, then he's like, "Oh. You just low having all of those men around you wanting to fuck you. You're a tease. That's why they're always around you.". I'm just like ,"whatever." I don't even mean to do it lol.



ding ding ding. he told u exactly what his insecurities are. whose to say another man cant charm the pants off you 🙂

i 2 was like you. naive lol. i thought i was just being DMV, but oh no, i was stompng all over his fragile ego.

see you dont get it lol. any hello is like a freakin red flag.. you think im playin right—

like i said, your being you. and you should stay that way. he has to come to terms. u have to reassure that hes da man!

few other things, id he didnt like you he wouldnt be wasting so much valuable energy being a dick and such. but just be careful that your not providing entertainment cause hes bored with life.

keep talking back 2. he loves it.
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@DMV girl I'm so not used to this. And I swear I'm not flirting or anything, then he's like, "Oh. You just low having all of those men around you wanting to fuck you. You're a tease. That's why they're always around you.". I'm just like ,"whatever." I don't even mean to do it lol.


haha
If you've got it flaunt it.
I know I'd hate it if a woman was like 'you're not allowed to talk to them' regardless of reason, unless it was for my own good I guess.
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your rational my friend
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"Men stick with each other if they're ceratin you're not going to sleep with them lol."

Man law is still alive and breathing, oh yeah !!!🙂
That's a great thing though imo, like some dudes will spill the beans at the flutter of an eye or they'll do anything for the queef ('scuse language). That guy must have good friends if they remain tight like that, I guess.

I'm sure women have girl code too though but I wouldn't know if it's the same as the male equivalent lol.



we do 😉
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this is going to happen alot. you are a flirty, friendly, jovial sag. he aint. and hes jealous if the time and attention you give to others. but you cant change that about your personality and nor should you. in fact, he loved that about u when he first met you. how could he say no to all that FUN!

get ready for alot of silent treatments and temper tantrums, but shit....its his problem not yours. they will be draining and numerious. all you can do is reassure him...and youll be doing it constantly until hes finally gotten comfortable that you are really is. hes worried that he may lose you to someone else...hes insecure like that...poor thing, just give him a kiss, hug, and a blowjob.

you could maybe become a hermit or wall flower for a day or two but eventually that horse is going to want to be free! plus, hed think you were boring if you became a wall flower. dont lose your spark!

hes not trying to be a pain in the butt, he just cant take it when the attention is off him. he wants you mind body and soul...he wants all those smiles for him and not any other PERSON (male or female).

him be friending the cowroker, i wouldnt sweat it. he just wants to find out more about you. u need to do the same 😉

hold onto your skirt when he starts spewing insults...in public.



THIS. This should be published as a pamphlet and handed out to anyone dating a Scorp.
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also his ego dont want no other man touching his cookies. the hell with that! just dont let him find out if u wanna visit some stables. clear your texts and VMs. best believe, he may have a few woman ont he side while he makes up his mind."
Nope. bad DMV ! Begins with the letter P :
If someone can't be straight up across the board they aren't worth the others time.
Again, boot on the other foot...no-one is capable of telling me otherwise hehe 🙂



i hear ya...scorps just have secrets and their possessive.
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"Men stick with each other if they're ceratin you're not going to sleep with them lol."

Man law is still alive and breathing, oh yeah !!!🙂
That's a great thing though imo, like some dudes will spill the beans at the flutter of an eye or they'll do anything for the queef ('scuse language). That guy must have good friends if they remain tight like that, I guess.

I'm sure women have girl code too though but I wouldn't know if it's the same as the male equivalent lol.



we do 😉


Hahaha
Real talk !
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but you men are something else..
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"Men stick with each other if they're ceratin you're not going to sleep with them lol."

Man law is still alive and breathing, oh yeah !!!🙂
That's a great thing though imo, like some dudes will spill the beans at the flutter of an eye or they'll do anything for the queef ('scuse language). That guy must have good friends if they remain tight like that, I guess.

I'm sure women have girl code too though but I wouldn't know if it's the same as the male equivalent lol.



we do 😉


Hahaha
Real talk !



but you men are something else..


Leaving 'em tongue-tied and lost for words ?
I concur !
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exactly! you take bros b4 hoes to a whole other level.
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@DMV girl I'm so not used to this. And I swear I'm not flirting or anything, then he's like, "Oh. You just low having all of those men around you wanting to fuck you. You're a tease. That's why they're always around you.". I'm just like ,"whatever." I don't even mean to do it lol.



Oh my god! That is what mine said to me the other night. I was like " I hate when people ask me to dance " he was like " Whatever you probably like the attention "

Excuse me— I have a cancer rising, people intimated me all the time. Especially guys. Unless I feel safe around them or I am going after them full throttle.

That's okay though. He doesn't know me that well yet.
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Hmm I wonder if the scorp I'm sort of seeing would be upset with stuff like that. Have you slept with him?



Yes I slept with him. His nonsense is getting on my nerves. He's always snooping and copping attitudes but won't say why.



That is weird. Does he want you to be just his?

just dont let him find out if u wanna visit some stables.
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I love how you put that lol
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@DMV girl I'm so not used to this. And I swear I'm not flirting or anything, then he's like, "Oh. You just low having all of those men around you wanting to fuck you. You're a tease. That's why they're always around you.". I'm just like ,"whatever." I don't even mean to do it lol.




Excuse me— I have a cancer rising, people intimated me all the time. Unless I feel safe around them or I am going after them full throttle.





Exactly
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You have a cancer rising too huh daze?
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@ DMV Ok I'll be on the lookout for that. He seems a little helter skelter. He has a bunch of different real estate investments. He's always looking for another way to invest his money. I definitely see a lack of focus in him. It seems like he prposely overfills his plate just to not have to sit still. So the need for a little extra stimulation from me to keep his life exciting is a possibility I'll look into.