Saggitarius and grief

If there is a pattern on how Sags love or feel and other signs accordingly to astrology, Im wondering how Sags deal with grief.

Im still pretty shaken by this last days events.

After a period of almost 4months no contact my Sag reached out. He is moving to China for a couple of years. He wanted to tell me that but when asked why he wanted to share he said he didnt know why, he just wanted to tell me.

Then this last week he insisted a few times to meet. On Thursday I agreed to meet him. I thought it was going to be awkward but it was in fact quite pleasant. I went to bed happy. Relieved.

But Friday morning, very early in fact (around 6:30am) he replied to my text saying he was driving to his parents home because his dad passed away.

I was on the phone with him as long as I could, around 1hour until there was no reception in the area he was. I didnt want him to be all alone with still 1,5h drive away..

He wanted to speak about it. I think I was one of the first person outside his immediate family to know about it and I still feel that conversation was surreal. I tried my best to be supportive and to send him strength for what he was about to face. It was an unexpected death, so I guess it made it even worst. We even managed to lightly laugh at one episode about me dreaming about his dad once..☹️

Tried to call him a few other times during the day but it was impossible to reach him. I imagine that by then he was comforting his mum/ brother so phone was not exactly his priority, of course.

We exchanged a few brief messages though where I told him he shouldn't worry about getting back to me, that unfortunately I couldn't take his pain away, but if he needed to speak or unload, I would be here.

This episode has been on my mind 24/7. Im completely heartbroken for what this guy is going through. He is very close to his family. And regardless of what happened between us, it hurts me to see him hurt.

I've sent a couple of other messages here and there always reassuring him he doesnt have to answer, just to tell him Im praying for his family and shall he needs, Im still here. Im sure he has a lot to deal with now, and will have for the next days, months..years? His life will never be the same without his dad.

I have no right to make this about me, but my heart broke a little last Friday too and I truly wish I could help him. But this is a fight no one can fight for him..

Im now giving him space not to add any stress to what he is already going through. Perhaps when he is back in town I'll just quickly drop by with some food..

In the meantime, Im wondering if any of you ever lost a parent and if you want to share the emotions that went through you. And if you did, what do you find supportive in this situation.

This has haunted me all weekend ?

Im sorry about your grandmother sagosa. Arghhh and on your birthday, that sucks big time.

Seems you dont let tour emotions control you. Thats good, so you can move on quicker.

Yeah...I think thats when the phone calls stop and you go back to "normal life" that will probably hits you the most.

He calls himself a logical guy. I hope he has it in him to go through this in the least suffering way.

I cant relate as I luckily still have both of my parents.

Damn, I wish I was not so sensitive! I hear / read this stories and I really feel sad for the people involved. Need to toughen up!

Im sorry your dad is not with you anymore..

But Im so glad you can now smile when your share your dad stories! And how sweet that he sang to you on you bdays ?

Why you did it in your own? You chose not to unload with friends? Was it easier keeping it to yourself?

I could imagine the next year as being the lowest...but I didnt think of birthdays, xmas, etc..

7 years.... life really does suck sometimes, ah?

Hope those sweet memories can make up a little bit for no longer having him around 🙂

Just knowing someone cares means the world. He trusts you, he called you, and I'll bet he will call again when he's ready. It's not easy to talk to people about what someone experienced after the passing of someone close. But I know he wouldn't call just anybody to talk about it. You've been a good friend obviously & money can't buy that, it transcends all else.

Part of life indeed.

Thank you both... to let it out and read your feedback already made me feel better 🙂

Posted by Algol-Rising
Hmm, I can say this about my Sag best friend, she will tell me everything and more, even TMI about her heart, head, and body, except about her grief. She is 40 and "processing things" from childhood now, as she puts it.

Seems so personal and private how we deal with pain, that Im wondering if there are similarities amongst sun signs.

...but then how we love or what attracts us in other people is also very intimate and we look into astrology for that.

Posted by Lunabee
Just knowing someone cares means the world. He trusts you, he called you, and I'll bet he will call again when he's ready. It's not easy to talk to people about what someone experienced after the passing of someone close. But I know he wouldn't call just anybody to talk about it. You've been a good friend obviously & money can't buy that, it transcends all else.

Thank you for saying that. 🙂

I care. Regardless, I do.

But then I would care for a few other people in this situation.

A friend told me I must have a big heart for caring so much after not speaking to him for a while. But to me it would be against my nature not to.

Besides, I got so unexpectedly involved in this that I just cant pretend Im not feeling for him.

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Posted by Lunabee
Just knowing someone cares means the world. He trusts you, he called you, and I'll bet he will call again when he's ready. It's not easy to talk to people about what someone experienced after the passing of someone close. But I know he wouldn't call just anybody to talk about it. You've been a good friend obviously & money can't buy that, it transcends all else.

Thank you for saying that. 🙂

I care. Regardless, I do.

But then I would care for a few other people in this situation.

A friend told me I must have a big heart for caring so much after not speaking to him for a while. But to me it would be against my nature not to.

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Yeah, despite the past, trust is earned. That's why he reached out to you. 🙂 Good people are everywhere but how often are they noticed? I think he noticed, and I believe we reap what we sow in terms of good will.