Sags and forgiveness

Sags, I gotta know how you guys can forgive someone over and over and over.

My BFF is Sag and she has had people (co-workers, supposed friends) screw her over several times and she STILL trusts them and associates with them. As a cap, I can't tolerate disloyalty. I just don't understand the concept of how she can continue considering these people friends.

One was a co-worker who ended up costing her her job and a couple years later, she enters into a business partnership with this woman. Huh? No WAY could I do that.

And a supposed friend almost created a negative business reputation for her and she STILL considers her a good friend. She also works with this girl as well as socializes with her outside the office. I know her too and wouldn't trust her with a stick, much less include her in my inner circle (which she is not).

Please explain. Caps aren't that forgiving. Oh, we might forgive, but we never forget and CERTAINLY would not go into business with someone who cost me my career.

I admire the Sag spirit, but I don't understand this forgiveness/re-trust thing yall got going on....

Help me understand.

Really? I really thought they were the opposite. I had a Sag friend, and after a falling out he refused to accept my return to make ammends. I made 2 attempts and he declined. It was for the best, but even though it wasnt anything I did wrong, I still missed him as a friend.

Life is too short to be mad at someone. I always give someone another chance if they apologize and admit their faults humbly. We always see the bright side of a situation.

Now come the Sag/Cap version -
I will give you THREE times to come and apologize. Once shame on you, twice shame on me, third time cut the MF strangs and never look back.

Posted by Sagtastic2
Life is too short to be mad at someone. I always give someone another chance if they apologize and admit their faults humbly. We always see the bright side of a situation.

Now come the Sag/Cap version -
I will give you THREE times to come and apologize. Once shame on you, twice shame on me, third time cut the MF strangs and never look back.

Same. It's a lot of energy to get so so upset like that. It can happen to me and does but I really try to not let things bring me down so much in that way.

But to be continually disappointed in someone, that's pretty exhausting too isn't it? Seems to me like the constant forgiveness just gives people the "okay" to let you down.

I understand second chances, and I do give second chances, but for me there will always be a leerines or wariness of that person from then on. A little distance and a lot less vulnerability to person. I'd almost rather trust a stranger before I'd trust that person again. I would go into observing mode and it would take a long, long time for things to be the same again.

Maybe my cold cap brain just can't get a grasp on it.

I do wish I could be more forgiving like you guys. Every Sag I meet always seem happy. I suppose the forgiveness is one of your secrets.

Posted by RainDancer88

Posted by truecap
But to be continually disappointed in someone, that's pretty exhausting too isn't it? Seems to me like the constant forgiveness just gives people the "okay" to let you down.

I understand second chances, and I do give second chances, but for me there will always be a leerines or wariness of that person from then on. A little distance and a lot less vulnerability to person. I'd almost rather trust a stranger before I'd trust that person again. I would go into observing mode and it would take a long, long time for things to be the same again.

Maybe my cold cap brain just can't get a grasp on it.

I do wish I could be more forgiving like you guys. Every Sag I meet always seem happy. I suppose the forgiveness is one of your secrets.

I give forgiveness not because someone deserves it, but because I deserve to be happy.

Someone may disrespect me or let me down but if they make amends and prove themselves of worth than why not give it a shot?

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If they make ammends and prove themselves, do you trust wholeheartedly again?

And how would they go about proving it? For me I would have to observe their actions for a while. How would a Sag go about determining how and when someone has proved themselves?

As a sag it is so hard to hold grudges ecspecially since many people don't understand that we truly do put ourselves in other peoples shoes. This has gotten me into so much trouble with shitty selfish people "they don't know any better" kind of attitude. Until we have a valid idea that a person is a complete shit head we will forgive even if we no longer talk to this person

Posted by Ssasy
Really? I really thought they were the opposite. I had a Sag friend, and after a falling out he refused to accept my return to make ammends. I made 2 attempts and he declined. It was for the best, but even though it wasnt anything I did wrong, I still missed him as a friend.

my dad's like that, but rarely. I think sags are generally pretty forgiving people, but they will always remember the incident. However, if something major happens, they will avoid you, even if you apologize.

I think a big thing about sagittarius (at least the women) is that we don't get caught up on anything that's insignificant to us. Yes I always cut a person right off as soon as they screw me. Whether I befriend them again or not isn't a big deal to me. You're in out you're out, let's move on. It's all about moving on, shooting ahead 🙂 no wasted time stressing on drama.

I use to know a sag whose ex had beat her in the past.. I few years later he wanted to be friends with her... she gave him that opportunity... and he did it again..
Sags want to give ppl reasonable doubt no matter who you are or what you've done the majority of sags want to see good in all people/things but can be naive and let real bad ppl in.. perhaps thinking to have them redeemed..