some guys are just weird

this doesn't have much to do with him being a sagittarius it's a general doubt??_

so a few days ago me and the guy I was going out with, kissed, it was our first kiss and I was expecting something different, his kiss was really soft, too soft, no tongue at all, no biting, nothing! just lips touching and light kisses. i thought it was a bit weird but didn't mind, then few days later we had sex and he was as i expected him to be, very aggressive, i don't understand how can he kiss so softly and then be that aggressive in bed.
it doesn't make much sense. I tried to kiss him with tongue and he didn't respond back, he ONCE tried to use tongue but never again (we were in bed).

Is kissing with tongue associated with the how much he likes me or something? for instance, he doesn't kiss me with tongue because he doesn't want to be serious with our relationship? because I've heard some guys say that they don't kiss girls with tongue if they're not serious about them.

I never though much about kisses because I never had any problem with it, is just this particular guy who's different and I don't understand how can he kiss that softly and be that aggressive in bed.

Posted by crow
this doesn't have much to do with him being a sagittarius it's a general doubt??_

so a few days ago me and the guy I was going out with, kissed, it was our first kiss and I was expecting something different, his kiss was really soft, too soft, no tongue at all, no biting, nothing! just lips touching and light kisses. i thought it was a bit weird but didn't mind, then few days later we had sex and he was as i expected him to be, very aggressive, i don't understand how can he kiss so softly and then be that aggressive in bed.
it doesn't make much sense. I tried to kiss him with tongue and he didn't respond back, he ONCE tried to use tongue but never again (we were in bed).

Is kissing with tongue associated with the how much he likes me or something? for instance, he doesn't kiss me with tongue because he doesn't want to be serious with our relationship? because I've heard some guys say that they don't kiss girls with tongue if they're not serious about them.

I never though much about kisses because I never had any problem with it, is just this particular guy who's different and I don't understand how can he kiss that softly and be that aggressive in bed.

Lol tongue kissing is normal practice but I wouldn't necessarily say its the standard lol. Maybe he was just inexperienced *shrugs*

Kissing is initimate, fucking is not for some

Posted by crow
for instance, he doesn't kiss me with tongue because he doesn't want to be serious with our relationship? because I've heard some guys say that they don't kiss girls with tongue if they're not serious about them.

LOL

Posted by Damnata

Posted by crow
for instance, he doesn't kiss me with tongue because he doesn't want to be serious with our relationship? because I've heard some guys say that they don't kiss girls with tongue if they're not serious about them.

LOL

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Yeah I'm like wtf! This sounds like something out of an episode of "Shit My Dad Says..."

@OP: you needs to make like Kanye and run away as fast as yoooooouuuu caaaaaan lol. If he's willing to pull that bullshit from the start it doesn't get any better lmao. I mean, wtf. Bet he's willing to have sex though. Sex, whether its fucking or making love, is intimacy...period. And anybody who tries to tell you otherwise is pulling a fast one. If I were you, I'd keep it moving. I see this train wreck a mile away. He's obviously full of fear and isn't ready...for anything.

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Is kissing with tongue associated with the how much he likes me or something? for instance, he doesn't kiss me with tongue because he doesn't want to be serious with our relationship? .

r u 2 in an established committed relationship? Sounds like he is not.

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Posted by crow
for instance, he doesn't kiss me with tongue because he doesn't want to be serious with our relationship? because I've heard some guys say that they don't kiss girls with tongue if they're not serious about them.

LOL

Yeah I'm like wtf! This sounds like something out of an episode of "Shit My Dad Says..."

@OP: you needs to make like Kanye and run away as fast as yoooooouuuu caaaaaan lol. If he's willing to pull that bullshit from the start it doesn't get any better lmao. I mean, wtf. Bet he's willing to have sex though. Sex, whether its fucking or making love, is intimacy...period. And anybody who tries to tell you otherwise is pulling a fast one. If I were you, I'd keep it moving. I see this train wreck a mile away. He's obviously full of fear and isn't ready...for anything.

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I dont believe that fucking and intimacy is the same thing, I pull no fast ones.

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Posted by crow
for instance, he doesn't kiss me with tongue because he doesn't want to be serious with our relationship? because I've heard some guys say that they don't kiss girls with tongue if they're not serious about them.

LOL

Yeah I'm like wtf! This sounds like something out of an episode of "Shit My Dad Says..."

@OP: you needs to make like Kanye and run away as fast as yoooooouuuu caaaaaan lol. If he's willing to pull that bullshit from the start it doesn't get any better lmao. I mean, wtf. Bet he's willing to have sex though. Sex, whether its fucking or making love, is intimacy...period. And anybody who tries to tell you otherwise is pulling a fast one. If I were you, I'd keep it moving. I see this train wreck a mile away. He's obviously full of fear and isn't ready...for anything.

I dont believe that fucking and intimacy is the same thing, I pull no fast ones.

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Ok. So how is it not intimacy?

Its a penis going into a vagina. I see it as a self contained biological function; a release, a vitamin.

Posted by DMV
Its a penis going into a vagina. I see it as a self contained biological function; a release, a vitamin.

Lol. Ok. Biologically speaking that's what happens but energetically and spiritually speaking you're solidifying the connection...exchanging. That is what makes it intimate.

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Not passive aggressive, just don't need to point out and be direct about the fact that I disagree...that's more than obvious

Why r u so passive aggressive anyway? If you dont agree with something I wrote just say so.

I feel like you start a lot of fights simply because someone may not agree with you.

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Posted by DMV
Its a penis going into a vagina. I see it as a self contained biological function; a release, a vitamin.

Lol. Ok. Biologically speaking that's what happens but energetically and spiritually speaking you're solidifying the connection...exchanging. That is what makes it intimate.

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we define intimacy differently and thats okay. But whats not ok is your dismissive and condescending attitude.

Its funny how you turn off and on your spiritual enlightenment when it seems convenient and advantageous for you.

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Why r u so passive aggressive anyway? If you dont agree with something I wrote just say so.

I feel like you start a lot of fights simply because someone may not agree with you.

Lol. DMV, I've directly challenged you and others on this site for their views in the past. I have also been challenged on mine and I defend them. So if everyone decides that they want to hold a grudge or try to spin this into something that its not...cool with me. If you take what I said as "passive aggressive" way to disagree, your choice.

And that where I think you fall flat. Everything is not a challenge, this isnt a fight. If u truly want to open someones mind to seeing and buying Into your POV, you may want to alter your delivery so that your audience absorbs what you have to say, instead of being turned off by it.

no one is holding a grudge aganist you so give up the pity party act. You are indeed a passive aggressive person to me. People, including myself, wont hold a grudge as you would call it, simply we just stop listening to what and whatever you have to say because in the past youve shown yourself to be combative, condenscending, and it muddies your intended message no matter how insightful it is.

what good is a message if it cant be delivered?

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Posted by DMV
Its a penis going into a vagina. I see it as a self contained biological function; a release, a vitamin.

Lol. Ok. Biologically speaking that's what happens but energetically and spiritually speaking you're solidifying the connection...exchanging. That is what makes it intimate.

we define intimacy differently and thats okay. But whats not ok is your dismissive and condescending attitude.

Its funny how you turn off and on your spiritual enlightenment when it seems convenient and advantageous for you.

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Lol, that's a good one. What's really funny is how I've witnessed you numerous times be dismissive of me and others since I've been here. Being so adamant in how you feel about something. What's absolutely hilarious is the fact that I've said numerous times that I'm imperfect. Nowhere in my post history did I say I was. As for spiritual enlightenment, I speak on those terms and I believe in it. I defend what I say and I back it up, no different than anyone else. Being spiritual doesn't mean "run me over and I'll continue to be nice." Smh, where people get that logic from I'll never understand.

Lastly, me and and you have had disagreements on sex and what it means before. You've said your views, I've said mine. So there's was no need "to pick a fight" a you put it. For what? Like I said, I know how you feel so there's no point in even discussing it with you. But since you decided to make a comment addressing what an unknown person told the OP about you, you picked the fight and I said what I had to say about it. All thus condescending stuff is crap...truth be told. If that's how they want to take it, their choice.

Some are just not into tongue and the whole drool/slobber thing. No need to hold it against him.

Posted by DMV
And that where I think you fall flat. Everything is not a challenge, this isnt a fight. If u truly want to open someones mind to seeing and buying Into your POV, you may want to alter your delivery so that your audience absorbs what you have to say, instead of being turned off by it.

no one is holding a grudge aganist you so give up the pity party act. You are indeed a passive aggressive person to me. People, including myself, wont hold a grudge as you would call it, simply we just stop listening to what and whatever you have to say because in the past youve shown yourself to be combative, condenscending, and it muddies your intended message no matter how insightful it is.

what good is a message if it cant be delivered?

The pity party comment proves my point. If your mind isn't open in the first place, what I have to say won't change that. Passive aggressive, forward, etc won't matter. So, I say what I have to say, either they get it or they don't. Sometimes its nice, sometimes its not. As I've said long before, I'm not here for a popularity contest. Never was, never will be.

Posted by TimidArcher
Some are just not into tongue and the whole drool/slobber thing. No need to hold it against him.

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I myself don't like all that drool jazz...even in a serious relationship, I have to really be in a romantic mood to kiss with tongue. If I'm not it will be lips, with no tongue.

It's just something about the texture of someone else's tongue....isn't my cup of tea.

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Posted by TimidArcher
Some are just not into tongue and the whole drool/slobber thing. No need to hold it against him.

+10

I myself don't like all that drool jazz...even in a serious relationship, I have to really be in a romantic mood to kiss with tongue. If I'm not it will be lips, with no tongue.

It's just something about the texture of someone else's tongue....isn't my cup of tea.

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lol @ texture. But your right. Kissing in general is reserved for people who are just more than a fuck buddy. Its more romantic and a hell of alot more intimate than sex.

now you got me thinking of tongue textures.

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Posted by TimidArcher
Some are just not into tongue and the whole drool/slobber thing. No need to hold it against him.

+10

I myself don't like all that drool jazz...even in a serious relationship, I have to really be in a romantic mood to kiss with tongue. If I'm not it will be lips, with no tongue.

It's just something about the texture of someone else's tongue....isn't my cup of tea.

lol @ texture. But your right. Kissing in general is reserved for people who are just more than a fuck buddy. Its more romantic and a hell of alot more intimate than sex.

now you got me thinking of tongue textures.

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I'm sorry....lol. It's just feels weird; like if it's cool, and taste like cherry a cause you just ate some kind of candy or something then cool. But if it's warm or hot....stand clear cause I'm not gonna do the whole tongue lock thing.

To me it is a very special reserved kind of thing, that's not for every Tom dick and Harry. It's for someone I'm in a relationship, and the mood has to be right. Can't be with no fling, or FB, or FWB either.

But that's just me;all together though I tend to be a bi picky, but that's just me_??

Damn, I love kissing, and slobber. I need romance to get my juices flowing, even if it's just a one nighter.

I've found that most men will accommodate me, and I think they enjoy a little romance too 🙂