Virgo re-appears

He’s been calling from all sorts of numbers.

But I thought it was a scammer until I listened to once voicemail. It sounded like him.

A few nights ago I had a dream that he was trying to get his friend request accepted.

I haven’t talked to him since he ghosted me 4 years ago, after we had just reconnected after 20 years.

I did get a reading on him as I really liked him, we went to high school together. The lady told me he was in a relationship and was using me for an ego boost. He was expecting me to chase him and court him. He’s a Venus in Leo.

Now that he’s calling again, I am feeling perturbed.

When he ghosted me, he became the last guy I even gawked at. I finally got sick and tired of men being dicks to me and decided to pour into myself since they didn’t want it.

When men ghost me or disrespect me, they kill the vibe. They smack the rose colored glasses off my face, they break the spiritual connection, the feeling of euphoria just ends. I’m snapped back down to earth.

Getting that passionate feeling back is damn near impossible.

I always have in the back of my mind that this guy played me and I gave him a second chance. I must be desperate.

The good thing is now, I am not desperate nor do I need the validation. I’ve learned to go inward for my own validation and acknowledgment.

Do guys/girls who ghost people really expect things to go back to the way they were?

Do they expect the same level of passion?

How far did the relationship get before the ghosting? Sex involved?

Posted by PilatesBod
How far did the relationship get before the ghosting? Sex involved?

No sex.

He called me up through Facebook messenger and we were having a lovely great discussion for about 5 mins and as I was talking, he hung up.

I called back 3 times and waited for him to return the message but he never did.

Me thinks, his girl walked in the room.

Ghosting after a 5 min phone call was a new record for me.

Usually guys wait until after sex

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Posted by PilatesBod
How far did the relationship get before the ghosting? Sex involved?

No sex.


He called me up through Facebook messenger and we were having a lovely great discussion for about 5 mins and as I was talking, he hung up.


I called back 3 times and waited for him to return the message but he never did.


Me thinks, his girl walked in the room.

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Definitely had a girlfriend

Many years ago my friend met a guy in a park and they hit it off and spent the whole day together. They both were from the same state (not the state they met in) and had a lot in common. He asked her out the next day and they had a great dinner date and kissed under the stars.

The following day I was with her and I locked my keys in my car. He called her and offered to come help us. We thanked him and told him I had roadside assistance on the way but we would call him when we were back on the road.

She called him when we got back into my car and he was being so sweet and joking with us and then all of a sudden was disconnected. She tried to call him back and no answer. She followed up with texts later just to make sure he didn’t get into an accident or something crazy. The guy just never responded to her.

I went into FBI mode and from what I could gather he was still legally married and probably separated and wasting peoples time while trying to get his wife back

I’m still mad about that guy.

maybe it's just someone who sounds like him

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Posted by DMV

Posted by PilatesBod
How far did the relationship get before the ghosting? Sex involved?

No sex.

He called me up through Facebook messenger and we were having a lovely great discussion for about 5 mins and as I was talking, he hung up.

I called back 3 times and waited for him to return the message but he never did.

Me thinks, his girl walked in the room.
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Definitely had a girlfriend


Many years ago my friend met a guy in a park and they hit it off and spent the whole day together. They both were from the same state (not the state they met in) and had a lot in common. He asked her out the next day and they had a great dinner date and kissed under the stars.


The following day I was with her and I locked my keys in my car. He called her and offered to come help us. We thanked him and told him I had roadside assistance on the way but we would call him when we were back on the road.


She called him when we got back into my car and he was being so sweet and joking with us and then all of a sudden was disconnected. She tried to call him back and no answer. She followed up with texts later just to make sure he didn’t get into an accident or something crazy. The guy just never responded to her.


I went into FBI mode and from what I could gather he was still legally married and probably separated and wasting peoples time while trying to get his wife back


I’m still mad about that guy.

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Classic

Tale as old as time

The signs are always there and I’ve really tempered my FOMO to take a step back. See the signs. And be realistic.

Posted by hydorah
maybe it's just someone who sounds like him

He has a distinctive voice

Posted by DMV
He’s been calling from all sorts of numbers.


But I thought it was a scammer until I listened to once voicemail. It sounded like him.


A few nights ago I had a dream that he was trying to get his friend request accepted.


I haven’t talked to him since he ghosted me 4 years ago, after we had just reconnected after 20 years.


I did get a reading on him as I really liked him, we went to high school together. The lady told me he was in a relationship and was using me for an ego boost. He was expecting me to chase him and court him. He’s a Venus in Leo.


Now that he’s calling again, I am feeling perturbed.


When he ghosted me, he became the last guy I even gawked at. I finally got sick and tired of men being dicks to me and decided to pour into myself since they didn’t want it.


When men ghost me or disrespect me, they kill the vibe. They smack the rose colored glasses off my face, they break the spiritual connection, the feeling of euphoria just ends. I’m snapped back down to earth.


Getting that passionate feeling back is damn near impossible.


I always have in the back of my mind that this guy played me and I gave him a second chance. I must be desperate.


The good thing is now, I am not desperate nor do I need the validation. I’ve learned to go inward for my own validation and acknowledgment.


Do guys/girls who ghost people really expect things to go back to the way they were?


Do they expect the same level of passion?

He is obviously suffering mental health issues. Listen pray for him but you are better off alone. You would have to deal with his breakdowns and mental health issues etc.

The truth is I think you are viewing this wrong.

You connected to the euphoric part of his disorder not him. And it wasn't him that broke the connection. Not knowingly in anycase. The pendulum swung. The manic part of the cycle ended. That person you thought you knew cycled into the other phase. That is what broke the connection because you only know that part of his energy.

You know the high you don't know the low.

I am going to be honest. But I think if you truly knew him you would feel sorry for him.

And you would not be attracted to him. Also you would realize there is no way he can cope with a relationship.

Pray for him and feel compassion. Because his life is going to be really really hard.

And take care of yourself and realize you deserve a healthy person and a healthy relationship because you are amazing.

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Posted by DMV
He’s been calling from all sorts of numbers.

But I thought it was a scammer until I listened to once voicemail. It sounded like him.

A few nights ago I had a dream that he was trying to get his friend request accepted.

I haven’t talked to him since he ghosted me 4 years ago, after we had just reconnected after 20 years.

I did get a reading on him as I really liked him, we went to high school together. The lady told me he was in a relationship and was using me for an ego boost. He was expecting me to chase him and court him. He’s a Venus in Leo.

Now that he’s calling again, I am feeling perturbed.

When he ghosted me, he became the last guy I even gawked at. I finally got sick and tired of men being dicks to me and decided to pour into myself since they didn’t want it.

When men ghost me or disrespect me, they kill the vibe. They smack the rose colored glasses off my face, they break the spiritual connection, the feeling of euphoria just ends. I’m snapped back down to earth.

Getting that passionate feeling back is damn near impossible.

I always have in the back of my mind that this guy played me and I gave him a second chance. I must be desperate.

The good thing is now, I am not desperate nor do I need the validation. I’ve learned to go inward for my own validation and acknowledgment.

Do guys/girls who ghost people really expect things to go back to the way they were?

Do they expect the same level of passion?

He is obviously suffering mental health issues. Listen pray for him but you are better off alone. You would have to deal with his breakdowns and mental health issues etc.


The truth is I think you are viewing this wrong.


You connected to the euphoric part of his disorder not him. And it wasn't him that broke the connection. Not knowingly in anycase. The pendulum swung. The manic part of the cycle ended. That person you thought you knew cycled into the other phase. That is what broke the connection because you only know that part of his energy.


You know the high you don't know the low.


I am going to be honest. But I think if you truly knew him you would feel sorry for him.


And you would not be attracted to him. Also you would realize there is no way he can cope with a relationship.


Pray for him and feel compassion. Because his life is going to be really really hard.


And take care of yourself and realize you deserve a healthy person and a healthy relationship because you are amazing.

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“Manic”. I totally agree!

Very interesting perspective

Posted by DMV
He’s been calling from all sorts of numbers.


But I thought it was a scammer until I listened to once voicemail. It sounded like him.


A few nights ago I had a dream that he was trying to get his friend request accepted.


I haven’t talked to him since he ghosted me 4 years ago, after we had just reconnected after 20 years.


I did get a reading on him as I really liked him, we went to high school together. The lady told me he was in a relationship and was using me for an ego boost. He was expecting me to chase him and court him. He’s a Venus in Leo.


Now that he’s calling again, I am feeling perturbed.


When he ghosted me, he became the last guy I even gawked at. I finally got sick and tired of men being dicks to me and decided to pour into myself since they didn’t want it.


When men ghost me or disrespect me, they kill the vibe. They smack the rose colored glasses off my face, they break the spiritual connection, the feeling of euphoria just ends. I’m snapped back down to earth.


Getting that passionate feeling back is damn near impossible.


I always have in the back of my mind that this guy played me and I gave him a second chance. I must be desperate.


The good thing is now, I am not desperate nor do I need the validation. I’ve learned to go inward for my own validation and acknowledgment.


Do guys/girls who ghost people really expect things to go back to the way they were?


Do they expect the same level of passion?

To be honest, I have ghosted people. Not in a long time, but still. What I haven't done is expect them to ever want to talk to me again. The reason why I thought my actions were okay had to do with low self esteem--I couldn't see how people could get hurt because I seriously didn't think they cared...until one of them told me. Haven't ghosted anyone since.