"Situationship" with a Scorpio man

Hello everyone,

First, thanks for taking the time to read this. I just wanted a honest opinion from anonymous Scorpios 🙂 I do know that it takes more than just a sun sign to trace a part of a person's profile. My sun sign is a fire one, but my rising is in Scorpio.

So... I have been friends with this person for more than one year now and we started talking and hanging out alone.

Things started to evolve romantically about 3/4 months ago. We are both attracted to each other, he already verbalized it, but the thing between us is more of a friend with benefits thing/grey area “situationship”. In between, I started to develop feelings for him  and whenever I try to ask him if he feels the same, without being too direct or pushy, I feel frightened.

We see each other every 2 weeks, sometimes once a week and most of those "dates" are just to hang out, talk, and do activities together. We text often, for many days in a row, but not daily. He is able to grab my hand in public and demonstrate affection with hugs & kisses but does not want to label anything. I do not know any of his friends and so far have not attempted to introduce him to mine, although I would not mind to do it.

I already approached him, when I had the chance, with a talk about this situation. He says he likes things as they are and says that from his experience a commitment into a relationship is the same as conditioning his freedom. I get that, as I also believe that a couple should have time to spend by themselves. However, the grey area is killing me... I do not know how to react or what to do, I do not want to be pushy and I respect him and his freedom.

We are nothing; I may be investing my time and emotions into someone that simply demonstrates he does not like me enough to take things further and could potentially be seeing other girls at the same time.

I like him and I want to break it off now. I am terrified of going on with this because I do not want to get hurt...

Thanks.

What sun sign are you? This is the problem with women settling for a FWB situation because it really only benefits the man unless you are a woman who can control her emotions. Normally it's the woman who ends up falling in love and the man still wants a FWB then she gets hurt because he isn't in love too. Yes you should break it off with him if his feelings are matching yours and learn from this. There is no gray area you knew what you were getting into.

there is way better guys out there,dont waste ur time

Ignore him and move on.

As a woman, liked the gray area and didn't think about a commitment (to the surprise of men, even men who also seemed to like the gray were surprised that I liked it too, lol).

I enjoyed the gray area for freedom. I liked people. I'm extrovert. I enjoy experiences and can savor them well past the end with a smile. And, I was hard to fuck the first time.

I didn't really care about marriage, love, etc beyond the momentary endorphins. I like romance and lovely times for however long it lasted. I saw many marriages, relationships, and knew it was hard work. So I enjoyed the easy parts for as long as the man would allow or that my attention could endure.

I met my husband and thought he was "the one" but, I still remained skeptical and resigned myself to enjoy him first and foremost with no expectations.

Basically, it's about pleasure to me. And, I found pleasure in the gray... and it could stay that way... and sometimes fade away.

You don’t need to have the relationship talk.

You need to have the ‘let’s be sexually exclusive’ talk.

Posted by VenusAquarius

As a woman, liked the gray area and didn't think about a commitment (to the surprise of men, even men who also seemed to like the gray were surprised that I liked it too, lol).

I enjoyed the gray area for freedom. I liked people. I'm extrovert. I enjoy experiences and can savor them well past the end with a smile. And, I was hard to fuck the first time.

I didn't really care about marriage, love, etc beyond the momentary endorphins. I like romance and lovely times for however long it lasted. I saw many marriages, relationships, and knew it was hard work. So I enjoyed the easy parts for as long as the man would allow or that my attention could endure.

I met my husband and thought he was "the one" but, I still remained skeptical and resigned myself to enjoy him first and foremost with no expectations.

Basically, it's about pleasure to me. And, I found pleasure in the gray... and it could stay that way... and sometimes fade away.

THIS^. these are usually the women that these guys end up wanting to lock down. The minute they realize that you really don't want a relationship but are after what they are after it causes them to take pause, become insecure and become obsessed with her.