Advice for a fishie that doesn't want to break up

Okay so I am Pisces Female 20, and I am dating a Scorpio Male 22. I just had surgery this past week and he has ignored me the whole week, breaking promises of coming to see me and "surprises" that he apparently had for me, and lying about excuses so he doesn't have to come. And yes I know he is lying because I am good friends with his dad... his family is basically my family and my boyfriend said today that his dad said he had to stay home even though he promised to come and apologize to me today and spend the day with me. His dad confirmed otherwise. I would never question my man, but lately this entire week has been lies and broken promises. It really bugs me that he is apparently so in love with me and I am quote " SO SO VERY IMPORTANT TO HIM" that he would avoid me when I needed him most. Like that really hurts me on the inside. I have physical pain in my heart right now because of how poorly he has been treating me. This happens every few weeks, but never this bad. I give him his space because I know he is loyal and independent, and I don't nag or bother him. But I don't understand why he acted like this.. It has seriously made me consider ending our relationship. But the problem is I am so in love with him. It has been a year and a half of serious dating which most of we have lived together. We do not now because he acts like an asshole when we live together and treats me bad for no reason when he is in a bad mood which is 3/7 days of the week. Should I break up with him? I feel it is the only way to make him realize that I don't deserve this treatment, especially when I am recovering from a huge surgery. Any other time we talk he fixes stuff for a while, but then just reverts back. Like I shouldn't have to sit in tears 6/7 days because I don't understand why he is treating me like this. And if so, let me know how I should do it. The thing is though, I want our relationship to continue. Unfortunately I am attracted to broken souls due to my need to nurture but I don't want to get sucked into a horrible cycle of suffering for me. I have already sacrificed a lot for this relationship to work. But I really want to be with him. I have thought he was the one for so long... but us silly pisces tend to do that with our men and I don't want to not be able to see past my love vision so to speak. I don't want to break up if that means that we could never be once again. Please, I really need some advice. 😢 -The Sad Fishie
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Focus on recovery.

Nothing in your post that says what it is you like or love about him. Nothing really positive in there at all. His actions says it all. If he can't act accordingly now then it's not going to get any better. The good news is you're only 20. You're unlikely to be with this person as your life partner. It looks like it has run its course so it might be best to considering cutting ties and focusing on yourself and getting better because frankly, this guy couldn't give a fuck.

A guy who won't even be there for you after surgery...what a catch.

Some people are really good with words and know how to keep you in place. When things go south or when it's time for action you actually find out how little you mean to them.
My ex (yes, also a scorpio) is similar to your guy. Told me how much he loved and needed me and whatever else. He truly only cared about himself, though, and needed someone. Someone who is not necessarily me or any other girl. Just someone. He said the same sort of stuff when we broke up "I'll never find someone like you". Less than a month later, he was with someone else. Moral of the story - If you let yourself fall into the fantasy of a perfect relationship or a mutual deep love based on someone's words and ignore their actions, well...you have a lot to learn. And I hope you do learn. I will never feel so deeply for another person, but it was more one-sided than I ever realized while with him. There's a bunch of other positives as well, but I've already talked too much about myself.

Also, if you want to continue living in your fantasy, at least do NOT break up with him unless you mean to leave. Don't play those silly games.

Posted by Scenic
A guy who won't even be there for you after surgery...what a catch.

Some people are really good with words and know how to keep you in place. When things go south or when it's time for action you actually find out how little you mean to them.
My ex (yes, also a scorpio) is similar to your guy. Told me how much he loved and needed me and whatever else. He truly only cared about himself, though, and needed someone. Someone who is not necessarily me or any other girl. Just someone. He said the same sort of stuff when we broke up "I'll never find someone like you". Less than a month later, he was with someone else. Moral of the story - If you let yourself fall into the fantasy of a perfect relationship or a mutual deep love based on someone's words and ignore their actions, well...you have a lot to learn. And I hope you do learn. I will never feel so deeply for another person, but it was more one-sided than I ever realized while with him. There's a bunch of other positives as well, but I've already talked too much about myself.

Also, if you want to continue living in your fantasy, at least do NOT break up with him unless you mean to leave. Don't play those silly games.

^^^ yup

Posted by Arrius
Given this set of facts, I would say that he has proved himself to be a person of little worth and less use. As Damnata said, focus on recovery. But you already know what you have to do.

Agreed

Thanks, though I still consider it a mostly positive experience. Most of the bad things I didn't learn/realize until after I broke up with him so I didn't care as much. It was already in the past at that point. I likely got the better end of the stick, emotionally.

Yeah, I think when you're in a relationship where the worst you argue about it food or similar things that that means you have found yourself a pretty good match. Unless you're the type who enjoys drama and conflict in relationships. I think OP should try to define what a healthy relationship is and if that matches what she has.

My scorp senses are telling me that while you were in recovery he is seeing another woman. You confirmed you are attracted to lost souls so your expectations of him is leading yourself into disappointment. When someone show you who they are believe them. He doesn't love you because he doesn't love himself. You should ask yourself why do you put up with this behavior. You said this happens every few weeks so that should tell you he does it so he can lay up with another woman who he might pretend to be perfect for. You know the real him so you need to cut off communication.

Bottom line he treat you like crap because you allow it.