confused and need some guidance

I started hanging out with a scorpio a few months ago. he texts every day and acts interested. he asks what i'm doing, says things like you look pretty, i miss you...etc. he confuses me to no end. when I come to his town, we hang out sometimes. i can tell by the way he looks at me, that he has feelings for me. its one of those intense stares scorpios are known for. the thing that confuses me is he would ask to hang out and we would. but maybe for only an hour or so. then i asked him a couple times and he says yes and then bails right before we are supposed to meet up. he'll act like we didn't even make plans. after he did this a couple times, i sent him a message (weird thing, we don't talk on the phone, we text and hang out in person) telling him its cool if he's ever busy, its not a big deal. basically to not agree to something unless he's gonna follow through. then the next time i as in town, he was much more assertive and forward about asking me out. we hung out and we had a great time, i felt we got closer. but then, the next couple times i came in, i let him know and asked if he wanted to get together, once again he agreed then backed out. he'll go from acting like he really wants to see me, to be unresponsive. the next time i came in town, i didnt say anything, but he kept asking if i was there yet, about three times, he acted like he wanted to get together, but then the next day, i was there, he texted and said he was doing something with his friends. so basically, i sent a letter saying i respect him, but i felt like i was being played with and that that was not okay with me. i told him to be sincere. then i told him the things i liked about him. i was being genuine when i complimented him, because even though i felt toyed with, i still feel his an incredibly kind and keep individual. then i told him he can call if he wants but the texting has to stop because it sends mixed messages. so, is this typical scorpio behavior? its been a week now and we havent talked, do i let it go?

Eyes of Fire +1.

One word: Fear.

thank you for your feedback. it's hard to accept because I care for him. i'm a pisces and its not in my character to be so upfront with my feelings. i tend to avoid confrontation, but it felt as though he was not respecting my time or me. we've known each other since we were thirteen (i'm 23) and i've always felt this pull towards him. i agree that I need to let it go. but it is difficult for me not to wonder if that letter had any effect on him. his silence either tells me he doesn't care or he needs time to process. sometimes i feel angry because I do feel him testing me by certain questions he asks and stuff. but then i try to remember that he's not doing it to be malicious, he's just cautious about who he trusts. i do feel more self respect for myself after calling him out, but does that make scorpios mad or make them respect you more?

thank you

Winning a Scorp's heart is like passing a series of tests, each one gets harder and harder. Not for the faint of heart. I think there just needed to be more communication, if he doesn't do it first then make a point to do it yourself.

I just wanted to post and give you some encouragement. I'm impressed with the way you identified your acceptable standards of behaviour and have laid them out clearly for him to understand. I'm guessing the next stage is for him to decide whether he accepts that. If he doesn't, let him go. If he does, then it probably looks good for the future. I'd give him some space to mull things over while you go on enjoying your life. You're both young - no need to rush. Sometimes early on in a relationship there can be a little power struggle. Just stick to your guns and you'll be fine. You have a right be treated respectfully.

Well, it indeed sounds like he is interested. When me and my scorpio boyfriend started hanging out he drove me total nutters with mixed signals. But I learned what to read and what not to read into it. And also, I learned patience is not only a virtue, it is ESSENTIAL if you want to get serious with a scorp.
He may have never had plans to hang out with you that day, but he was still curious what you were up to that day (just double checking whether there was anyone else interesting you were spending your time with). Mine did that as well sometimes (and still), calling me for absolutely no reason, besides asking what I'm up to, without the intention of asking me to go and do something together.
On the other hand, had I not initially pursued him a bit, we not never have taking the step from thinking about each other to actually being together, so if he was vague about meeting up etc, I sometimes just really had to push him to be clear. Like "so i texted you the other day whether you had plans for tonight, so I'm up for having a beer at that place at that time, are you in or out. Let me know", and then he would usually finally come forward and show he was keen to come see me. It made me crazy insecure in the beginning, because I just felt like a crazy stalker coming on to strong, as I sometimes had to sent several messages in a row to get any response. But clearly it's not because he wasn't into me (cause now, half a year later we're still crazy in love together), but it could just be some kind of scorp-thing, maybe a test, although I'm not sure what this one is supposed to prove.

So basically, I understand what you're going through and how it can make you crazy insecure, but it doesn't have to mean he is not into you. I also don't claim to know his intentions but i'm just comparing.
I think the best thing you could do now is sent him a message with a potential plan and date for a meet up and demand a yes or no answer. Then if it's a yes, remind him a few times when getting closer to the date. If it's a no, you should probably let it go.

p.s. maybe I should add we started to hang out intensively 10 months ago. So the pursuing, before we started to be more open about our feelings for each other and the potential to be in a relationship (i.e. he started to be less vague and wasn't giving as many mixed signals as before, instead being more honest about his intentions), took 4 months. Like I said, I learned I needed to be patient

good luck

Pisces here??_

I'm pretty sure he's interested in you, if you guys texts each other everyday.

Don't read too much in everything he says, even if his actions tell you the otherwise. There are things he does that might confuse you and make him look like a jerk. That doesn't mean he's being a jerk. He has his own reason for acting that way, whether it's mind games or he is toying you around, let it go. Thinking too much into it, will drive you crazy. Some men are jerks, whether he's a scorpio or not.

What you need to do right now is to focus on your life first. Enjoy your life, do whatever you wanna do. You??re single and he's single. You both have freedom to be with anybody, although I know you like this guy. Never show him you want him more during the initial stages, but at the same time stroke his ego, seduce him, and make him feel wanted.

You told him what u wanted to say. If he does wanna be with you, he will come with his own time. Pressuring him will only push him away more. I'm not saying u need to let go. Just stay friends with him, expect nothing in return, let him trusts you first. When you guys hang out, just try to have fun. Before he's really gonna decide whether he wants to be with you, he must trust you enough to let you get into his sanctum.

Be patient and understanding. My ex loved this dearly. Pisces has a tendency to become very emotional and insecure, it happened to me. Be strong, genuine, sincere and stand on your ground without letting your EGO and EMOTIONS take control of your actions. Please, don't do the mistakes I did.

My honest advice: If you cannot handle/control yourself during this initial stage, you won't be able to handle the ride you??re gonna face once you??re in a relationship with him. If, you both decide to be together in the future.. Great amount of patience is a must.

Just take it easy??_ Believe me, it's gonna be worth it if u know how to handle him. I love scorpio.

—I told him he can call if he wants but the texting has to stop because it sends mixed messages.?? ---> Before we got together, we always talked through IM everyday and every night. No phone call, no texts. He's more to texts and chat than calling.

—He'll go from acting like he really wants to see me, to be unresponsive.?? --> Again, on out initial stage, he would pull away sometimes. I would say —hey.. — and he didn't reply. Gone for few days. Then he came back like nothing happened. What I did when he act like this, ignore him. Act like you don't care. Never showed him that this kind of thing affected me in one bit.. But at the same time he would always wants to see me on the weekends. And if he didn't ask for us to get together, I would be the one initiated it.

I'm just telling you this based on my experience with my ex Scorpio.

Hope everything works out for you in the end. Good luck!

The OP is two months old. Wonder what happened.

LOL. In my exp. if a scorp wants you, YOU KNOW IT. It's never ambiguous. So if it is unclear, then he probably doesn't or isn't sure yet and you were reading into flirting and fun further or faster than was intended.

Everyone's feelings grow over time and generally don't get off the ground under pressure. Have fun with this guy. If you like him, keep it light and merry... just what it should be when you are getting to know each other.

IMO based on what was said... he's not wanting to date monogamously. I could be wrong, but thats what my instinct says based on the inconsistent behavior and lack of consistent and open communication.