Coping Skills Please

I am almost 40 years old and the intensity of my emotions is just ridiculous. How do you get some of these feelings OFF of you? I'm sick to death of emotionally obsessing over things I know intellectually are not good for me/unproductive and otherwise a waste of time. But here I sit suffering anyway. How do you hyper sensitive types cope? This butter is for the birds. Thanks for your constructive responses.

All helpful responses. Thank you.

Posted by ScorpiosHarmony
start by not judging yourself for feeling things so intensely. Treat your sensitivity as a gift and try to reserve it for the things that truly matter to you.

Exercise is a great way to get rid of that cortisol, wine helps too. Being in good company. Take your mind off things by laughing at funny tv shows/good books.

Channel your energy into art, do you make anything?

Journal too. sometimes I make voice notes on my phone to rationalise how i'm feeling (my aqua moon lol), it helps me make sense of things and brings much clarity.

I am not creative in an artsy sense. I do walk in the evenings. Usually when this happens to me I can be with family/watching tv/living my life and the emotion just takes it course anyway. I've learned to move through life in spite of it. But some days it cripples me like today. I've never tried meditating so I've been googling that since previous poster suggested. I just get so jealous of people who seem to be oblivious to all the emotional energy that swirls around. I just want some peace for a minute. It's exhausting.

Posted by starlover
Cry, laugh, shout.....just release it. Dancing and singing are good

Yoga and meditation (as others) mentioned are good too

Also talking to people about how you feel..a good friend or therapist maybe


Sadly wine doesn't help...been there, done that, alcohol in all forms is a depressant so i would
stay away from that as ultimately it will make the condition worse, not better

I've been crying all morning. I can't seem to stop. The tears just keep rolling. So hopefully that will help release some of it. I have talked myself to death and worn out anyone who cares to listen lol. I have not tried yoga or meditation so I'm going to give that a try. Ditto on alcohol. It only makes it worse.

Posted by starlover
(((hexum)))

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Please try meditation...you can start off my doing some guided meditations on youtube...i use them often and my emotions have become more balanced. I have also been for lots of different forms of healing....i work as a complimentary therapist so get to do lots of swaps....lifesavers!

Was there any trigger where you felt worse. I noticed after giving birth to my son, a whole new set of emotions opened up for me and i felt more raw and exposed. If you can pinpoint this, it may help you to heal it ?

xx

My son is graduating high school and I'm moving out of state next week. There have been many goodbyes over the past few days and one in particularly hard one that I didn't manage well. I got so emotional I was physically shaking and had to leave without saying the important things. So now I'm just trying to let it go - I can very much relate to Rabbit and the hampster roll. I can't just feel a little bit sad...it has to be an overwhelming tidal wave of sad.

Posted by Rabbit
The first step for me is ALWAYS stopping that hamster wheel of over-thinking/paranoia.

You WILL catch yourself in a death spiral if you let it fester.

This may sound counterintuitive, but sometimes the best strategy is to, right from the jump, let your mind instantly go to the worst possible scenario/outcome of the situation you are in, then work backwards from there. Then, you are forcing yourself to find the positive and often work out solutions to the issue.

Too often people with more...sensitive...minds will attempt to hold the negative feelings at bay, which makes them dwell on those feelings even more. That's just a sugary snack for the hamster.

Embrace that dark side for a bit. Sometimes you can't see how bright things can be if you haven't seen how DARK it can be.

Fascinating strategy ...seriously...that might work. Very insightful feedback - thank you!

Posted by humbleknight
Find an outlet to try to reach your inner self with. Relationships are not generally the answer to this part. It has to be something that defines who you are. For me it was singing. It is my outlet that takes my mind from dwelling and contemplating too much to a place where my positive energy is recharged. I agree with the vitamin D as a regulatory supplement. I take it every day.

Thank you. It will sound funny maybe but I really enjoy driving. I live in the country and some days I will drive for hours in the middle of no where. That doesn't really work when I am stuck at work but generally that would be my "singing". Thank you for the response!

starlover I just copied and pasted the whole thing below. I agree with the mom transition stuff. I think I'm having a very tough time with relocating and losing my entire support system. There are several key people that I will miss so much it is physically painful. I know other people don't feel emotions like this because like one of the other posters said more or less "just get over it". I wish it worked like that.

Sun Scorpio 29.04 Ascendant Gemini 23.47
Moon Cancer 5.19
Mercury Scorpio 25.09
Venus Libra 13.10
Mars Cancer 0.56 R
Jupiter Aries 15.20 R
Saturn Leo 2.55 R
Uranus Scorpio 4.26
Neptune Sagittarius 11.04
Pluto Libra 10.55 Midheaven Pisces 3.40
Lilith Aries 2.17
Asc node Scorpio 21.51

Posted by starlover
Yes .. you have very sensitive placements there, so it's expected you will feel deeply (which is a gift btw). For anyone that says get over it, they need to gain some compassion and get over themselves. Being a parent can bring up all kinds of feelings. I lost all my family and my son is the only one left, so I empathise with what you are saying........such loss at times can be excruciating

X

I appreciate the empathy - believe me when I say I can feel it all the way through the internet lol... At times the sensitivity is a blessing, but there are many times when it is also a curse. Either good or bad it always has physical manifestations for me. Shaking, anxiety and nausea. Even when they are good feelings - they are overwhelming. I will try the meditating. I don't know much about the placements in my chart but am learning. It helped just being able to vent here a little while I boo hoo'ed. Thank you all for taking the time.

Definitely try meditation. I have the same issue and recently started meditating and it has helped. It is very hard and takes a lot of practice but slowly I am getting stronger at it.

I also find focusing on myself helpful - instead of over-analyzing situations or turning my mind off I just channel it into myself. This is also hard but has helped me quiet my mind in the best way!

yoga and pray 🙂

Posted by hexum

Posted by starlover
Cry, laugh, shout.....just release it. Dancing and singing are good

Yoga and meditation (as others) mentioned are good too

Also talking to people about how you feel..a good friend or therapist maybe


Sadly wine doesn't help...been there, done that, alcohol in all forms is a depressant so i would
stay away from that as ultimately it will make the condition worse, not better

I've been crying all morning. I can't seem to stop. The tears just keep rolling. So hopefully that will help release some of it. I have talked myself to death and worn out anyone who cares to listen lol. I have not tried yoga or meditation so I'm going to give that a try. Ditto on alcohol. It only makes it worse.

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Meditation is a good idea but be careful with yoga and breathing because if you suddenly change/alters vital functions functioning (like breathing) can produce a very strong shock on you, it is very dangerous.

Look for information about "Noesiology", approach to meditation but not in a eastern way because that is for East people, and you're not, right?

Our first four planets are the same ... I have had similar experiences.

I found all of the suggestions above helpful to some degree but really ended up learning to control my emotional crisis like a person would control the urge to binge eat. I decided they weren't helping and challenged myself to learn to find stability in those moments of complete duress. Chances are, half of what you're thinking isn't accurate anyway.

It takes time and I haven't mastered the art yet, but every time I am faced with a crisis now my goal is to manage it in such a way that allows me to say ... "better".

Your support system is critical. I cleaned house. Now, the only people I allow into my inner circle are people that I know I can trust because they have proven that they are trustworthy. No one gets a free ride in my world because I am finally aware of how deep I can go and how much it hurts when I have to let go.

Thanks for the info. I'm doing a bit better today. I really do appreciate the support!

That's good ... I am glad you're doing better today 🙂

Found this very informative and interesting:

http://themindunleashed.org/2013/10/30-traits-of-empath.html