Does the Scorpio hot and cold never end?

Is this part of the whole death and rebirth Scorpio psyche?! Or just games and i need to walk away and stand my ground?

So I’d like to say that my Scorpio and I have come a long way since my previous posts, but we havent lol. It’s good and then it’s not good. And I never know when it’s going to go either Way. I won’t bore you with details, but we have external obstacles to being together, you can see them from my previous posts (long story short, I have a history with one of his friends - never a relationship, but long term friendship and some FWB stages once upon a time) I met him through said friend.

We are still on a teeter totter of emotions. We had a falling out last week where he said we can ever be a thing, he wants his friends support and he knows he’d never get it. Then Monday he texts me that he told work people about this girl he is crazy into, showed them my pic, etc and can’t get me out of his head. We talk every day all week, he goes on about how he can’t even believe I am real, how I check boxes he didn’t even know excited, blah blah clang we see each other, things are amazing as usual, then bam. Cold again. When I call him out on it and ask if everything is still cool here between us or if he was back to being weird (in a calm cool matter of fact, we are adults let’s discuss your switch up here way) he acts as if I’m outrageous for demanding words. After that I told him I won’t apologize for asking a merited question and I’m not going to ignore the changes I sense in his vibes. And that he could get in touch with me when he knows how he feels and is ready to talk about it.

I guess what I’m asking is. Is this normal Scorpio male behavior?! Should I be tolerating this with patience?! Is there a better way I should be handling this? Or am I totally off and giving him way more credit than he deserves and I need to just call it?

I’m actually a Leo. I use my words, I make my feelings known and I’m bold as hell. He’s actually told me before he likes how bold I am, how I always have more things to say lol. However he never enjoys it in the heat of the moment. But tells me about how he does later on once we are back on good terms lol

What do you mean by “don’t get scorpios signals that’s why he can get cold”?

Lmao sounds like my Scorpio 😂 mostly In the beginning. After a while, he stopped and is more consistent. But idk. If he cares about his friends support then he may not budge much. What’s his other placements?

Like the user above me said, if they’re hot & cold they don’t trust you yet. Mine was hot & cold while putting me thru a bunch of tests 🙄

Odd that he wouldn’t trust me given I have been the only one unwavering in my feelings and pursuit here. And the drama wouldn’t be happening if he could just have any amount of continuous consistency. I don’t even bring it up as drama. Never come at I’m in an attacking way, just trying to talk about things like grown ups. But perhaps you’re right. Not anything I can do to change how he feels there.

I don’t really know much about natal charts but I’m a cancer ascendant

I don’t really know much about natal charts but I’m a cancer ascendant

@therabbit lolol this is the blunt answer I was most afraid of

@dilettante lol yeah I’ve noticed the moodiness and I’m getting better at rolling with them. Y’all are fantastic, intriguing but exhausting humans. Lolol I know I’m also a pain in the ass, just in different exhausting ways

We have known each other for about 4 years, as in hanging out at our mutual friends house regularly that whole time. He finally made a move on me about 4 months ago. Said he has had his eye on me since we met, but never wanted to go against his buddy. But that he knew once he contacted me it would be Pandora’s box and so he held odd until he count hold off anymore. So we have “known” each other. But i guess really only on an intimate level since end of May. And when we are good he talks about us in the LEAST casual way. As in he sees the future with us and it’s all the things he’s ever looked for in a partner. He brings up having kids, being 70 together blah blah. And he’s not a player that just does and says these sort of thing to women to get what he wants . Not only do I know he’s not at all shallow like that, but I’ve been “one of the guys” hanging out for years. I hear how they all discuss women stuff. He is intriguingly different than any guy I’ve ever encountered

@diletattente i have done nothing but fight like hell. I’ve even plainly called him out like you can be cold with me all you want, I don’t buy it. I know what we have and I know how you feel and when you’re ready to be consistent about it, I’m all open.

@diletattente i have done nothing but fight like hell. I’ve even plainly called him out like you can be cold with me all you want, I don’t buy it. I know what we have and I know how you feel and when you’re ready to be consistent about it, I’m all open.

@jaysmen that is so entirely accurate. Like I feel his intensity, his passion his energy. But he is so good at smoldering it. Whereas I am like a blowtorch lol

@peachy06 I don’t know much about natal charts, but I have a Gemini moon? I certainly am social, direct and impulsive. And also guilt of liking attention. But not every body’s attention. But certainly from my partner. I’m good with stages of withdrawal, decompressing and what not. But given our tumultuous start, I would be a lot better if he just used words. Like “hey, it’s been a day, I’m in no mood for banter. It’s not about you. Talk soon.” I’d be all good with that. Just hard not to assume the worst when there is a history of it there

@peachy06 damn that’s like a huge revelation for me. 🤯 I honestly never ever thought about it like that. So what do I do now— Lolol. Seriously thinking about through that light, I can see how me just trying to clear the air seems intrusive to him.

Apparently he is a libra moon and libra mercury? Does that help. I’m so not educated on natal charts idk exactly how this all lines up

Mine:

Venus is in virgo

Mars is in Scorpio

Jupiter is in Capricorn

His:

Venus is in sagittarius

Mars is in libra

Jupiter is in cancer

WAIT I MESSED UP!! My mars is in sagittarius

Hahahaha I have probably been guilty of this. It’s not my norm but after 4 months of back and forth, yes I’ve definitely pushed as time went on. But not so much for a decision. Just consistency. Say what you mean and mean what you say. And stick to it. Whether that’s being with me, or staying away for good. (Although I definitely don’t actually want that to happen)

Yeah that’s the plan. Last thing I said to him was I don’t know what you want so I’m going to chill and let you steer this ship. I’m willing to bet it will be a few days before I hear back. Sigh. I’ll keep my patience about me as long as I can lol. The connection, for now, is still worth all of the garbage in-between