Feeling angry all the time

Do you ever get angry and let it out on others? Build up days or even months of anger and let it out ?

How do you control or deal with this?

I feel like I'm angry about soo much in my life from my past and now. I'm not a negative person , I have a good laugh when I'm with family or friends or at work. I??ve been told I have such a great sense of humour and enjoy the conversations they have with me.

But I've realised I have a side where I lash out at my mum or sisters for no reason.. my tone changes aggressively.

Posted by Fox
All the time, which is why I enjoy alone-time.

Me too lol.. I hardly get alone time but when I do its fun and relaxing.

Posted by Whatu
Yes, I need cathartic release. I try get out on my bike and ride it to fast, a good adrenaline rush will sort your emotions out pretty quickly. otherwise I'm going to get angry and yell at someone, Its not pretty.

Try kick boxing or something that might suit you, Paint you walls, Write a novel.

I agree with you, when you focus on a task like painting, drawing or even cleaning and organising it helps.

I do go to the gym and it does help me..but i still feel this anger is still inside me.. it can be from something my sisters do/say or Im not being heard or being misunderstood. 😐

Sometimes I just get in a bitchy mood and just feel like fighting a fight with somone. Not a particular someone, but like I'm just begging for a chance to be bitchy and argue. Maybe so I can let it all out? Is that weird?

I've also come home in a bad mood for no reason. No one made me mad. Nothing happened to ruin my day, just in a mood. I would tell the kids (teen and pre-teen at the time) to stay out of my way that I was in a bad mood and if they would just leave me alone they would be fine. Sure enough, that's when they would start fighting, or pester me, or mouth off or just plain be annoying (basically being themselves) then I would go off on them. Why couldn't they just leave me alone? lol!

I tried to track and see if its hormonal (maybe, but I don't think so).

*scorp rising and venus*

I do this all the time...

I bought a punching bad. I also play angry music on guitar to relax. Good stuff.

Posted by Angeleyes17
Do you ever get angry and let it out on others? Build up days or even months of anger and let it out ?

How do you control or deal with this?

I feel like I'm angry about soo much in my life from my past and now. I'm not a negative person , I have a good laugh when I'm with family or friends or at work. I??ve been told I have such a great sense of humour and enjoy the conversations they have with me.

But I've realised I have a side where I lash out at my mum or sisters for no reason.. my tone changes aggressively.

You sound just like me. Over time I've come to realise that I think, when we lash out at family members and i mean properly lash out, were letting out a million other screams for our deepest problems deep down and were just comfortable enough to raise our voice at the closest people we have in our life.
From past experiences I could be angry and upset about something which has hurt me, I never let it out or confide in anyone so when something my parents do to make me tick, I explode like a bomb and my tears are about something completely different! (I'm a massive drama queen with my emotions)

Posted by Angeleyes17
Do you ever get angry and let it out on others? Build up days or even months of anger and let it out ?

How do you control or deal with this?

I feel like I'm angry about soo much in my life from my past and now. I'm not a negative person , I have a good laugh when I'm with family or friends or at work. I??ve been told I have such a great sense of humour and enjoy the conversations they have with me.

But I've realised I have a side where I lash out at my mum or sisters for no reason.. my tone changes aggressively.

do you feel that it's certain people you are around with all the time? If they bring that out of you? Some people have a calm and soothing effect, while others bring out the bitch, or bring out the happy loving feeling out of you. Doing all those things like painting and listening to music is temporary, and if you exercise alot it helps too, so that way you stay fit.

That is like the story of my life..I am generally happy go lucky but I hold shit inside for so long and always end up blowing up for the smallest things. I also have a lot of anger inside which I try to keep under control but some times I fail...haven't mastered the art of calm, cool, and collected yet. When I hit that stage any little thing can send me right over the edge and lately I have been blowing up a lot...expression of inner turmoil perhaps? Any how I haven't learned to control it to the fullest yet I'm hoping I learn soon

Posted by scorpchi

Posted by Angeleyes17
Do you ever get angry and let it out on others? Build up days or even months of anger and let it out ?

How do you control or deal with this?

I feel like I'm angry about soo much in my life from my past and now. I'm not a negative person , I have a good laugh when I'm with family or friends or at work. I??ve been told I have such a great sense of humour and enjoy the conversations they have with me.

But I've realised I have a side where I lash out at my mum or sisters for no reason.. my tone changes aggressively.

You sound just like me. Over time I've come to realise that I think, when we lash out at family members and i mean properly lash out, were letting out a million other screams for our deepest problems deep down and were just comfortable enough to raise our voice at the closest people we have in our life.
From past experiences I could be angry and upset about something which has hurt me, I never let it out or confide in anyone so when something my parents do to make me tick, I explode like a bomb and my tears are about something completely different! (I'm a massive drama queen with my emotions)

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actually that is true.. even when we are upset or angry from something at work or school, we can lash out at them but to family members or even close friends we can.. not a good thing but we end up doing that and it all comes down to the comfort zone. I snap at my mum at times and i don't even realise im doing it.. yeah i get like that too.. I could randomly be thinking about something and out of now where on my own il burst out crying.. then after im fine lol.

Posted by confusedInsane
That is like the story of my life..I am generally happy go lucky but I hold shit inside for so long and always end up blowing up for the smallest things. I also have a lot of anger inside which I try to keep under control but some times I fail...haven't mastered the art of calm, cool, and collected yet. When I hit that stage any little thing can send me right over the edge and lately I have been blowing up a lot...expression of inner turmoil perhaps? Any how I haven't learned to control it to the fullest yet I'm hoping I learn soon

Have you tried certain things that would relax you for a few hours? I think people just have to try to experienment a little and see what/how anger can be controlled. I've been going to the gym and its helping me but i still feel the problem is still there.. i need to find somethng else to keep my mind busy.

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Posted by Angeleyes17
Do you ever get angry and let it out on others? Build up days or even months of anger and let it out ?

How do you control or deal with this?

I feel like I'm angry about soo much in my life from my past and now. I'm not a negative person , I have a good laugh when I'm with family or friends or at work. I??ve been told I have such a great sense of humour and enjoy the conversations they have with me.

But I've realised I have a side where I lash out at my mum or sisters for no reason.. my tone changes aggressively.

do you feel that it's certain people you are around with all the time? If they bring that out of you? Some people have a calm and soothing effect, while others bring out the bitch, or bring out the happy loving feeling out of you. Doing all those things like painting and listening to music is temporary, and if you exercise alot it helps too, so that way you stay fit.

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In the past iv had friends who used to talk behind my back and caused issues and i cut them off my life, so because of that i don't have many friends at the moment. Been in stinky relationships lol..

I've grown up with a dad who neglected my mum and wasn't a responsible dad. I can come up with soo many scenarios and eg of my past and I know im still holding them inside me. my mum has gone through a lot health problems. so its like im surround with family and a bulk of issues. I am going gym and I have lost weight which I'm proud of.. just doesnt feel like its enough.