Feeling threatened....

And for once in my life it's not another man that I feel threatened about. It seems my best friend's girlfriend who is bisexual has taken a liking to my girlfriend. My girlfriend seems interested, depending on the circumstances, mainly after a few beers. I'm all about some menaj action, but I have the feeling my friend's girlfriend wants her all for herself...what should I do? Should I just ask her? I'd like to tell her right out, either we share, or you back off, simple as that.

mmmm...this is a very interesting topic. Now, first I should let you know that straight girls wanting to be with a women is not too new of a trend. If women are honest with themselves, they have to admit that they've thought about it...I know I have! Now, I'm dating someone who knows that my fantasy is to be with a woman. But I personally would feel weird if he wasn't there. I would never just want to be with only the girl, and not him, because I would think of that as cheating. Just like if he were with another guy, and not me. But, my bf "claims" he wouldn't mind if I was with another woman all by my lonesome...since it is my fantasy.

However, I've heard the argument that because there is a difference in genitalia...if your girl engages w/ another girl by herself, it's not cheating...either way, it depends on how you want to describe it. Me personally, I would rather be with another girl by myself...but I'd want it to become threesome for the extra thrill and excitement. Either way, you just need to talk to her w/out jumping to conclusions. All this is human nature, it's all good!

It's not that I'd have a problem with them going at it alone. Along as I was at least told in advance, and they/she wasn't hiding it from me. The problem I have is that I feel like this other girl is trying to steel my woman from me to have all to herself.

I'm sure there will be men who would try to steal your girl, too.

Your woman is straight, yes? So I doubt she would leave you for another girl. You can always make sure of that yourself just by asking. If the girl is trying to steal her, and your girl isn't going for it, than you shouldn't have to worry about it.

Yes, I agree, your girl should tell you b/4 sleeping w/ another woman.

GeminiLover:

This isn't my girlfriend's best friend, this is my best friend's girlfriend that is doing this. I'm very good friends with her too. She know's I'd be interested in the three-way, however, she's more interested in girls then guys, and she has openly admited it to both of us. The thing is, she knows I get very jealous when other guys try to get with my girl, yet she does this to me?

Like I said before I wouldn't mind it, if I'm involved or not, but I get the feeling she wants her all to herself, and that's where my dilemma comes in. The problem is, my girlfriend only ever lets anything happen after she has been drinking, so I'm not sure what her true feelings are about the hole thing. So how do I even approach it. I was just going to jokingly ask her, so you like her eh? And then see where it goes from there.

When they're together sober, things are fine. However, last night we were all drinking, and they were both biting my back at a restaurant in a very sexual way, and I was super turned on by it. Then we went to a club and I had the feelings something was off. After I took my girlfriend home, my friend's girlfriend sat up front, and said we kissed again at the club, like it was some sort of secret. I mean, if you're gonna hit on my girlfriend and you know I really don't have an issue with it, why hide it from me?

I think my main concern is my friend's see this going on, and immediately ask me what's going on. I'm stuck there without an answer because at this point I'm not really sure. And you know how people always gossip.

Truthseeker:

As far as my girl being straight, yes, however, she has admitted to thinking about it.

*********

Now that I've read all the responses, I'm not really sure what I'd like out of this. I just want to piece my relationship back up with my girlfriend for once and let things ride out for once. It seems like everytime we get into a fight and reconsile, one of our friends goes and butts into our business and we're back at square one again.

GeminiLover:

"If she's not into being with another woman (even just to try it), but she knows that you'd like to be with another woman (as a threesome); she may think that you don't love her enough."

I'd like it only for the sexual aspect in all honesty. I don't want to be with two girls at once, especially my friend's girlfriend, being with one is complicated enough sometimes. This is more of a thing to do to have fun, and possibly spice up our relationship. But if it's going to cause problems, no thankyou.

GeminiLover:

I forgot to add that very thing in my last post. He actually doesn't care one bit. In fact he said he'd congratulate me if it happened. Them two are swingers, so this sort of thing doesn't bother them in the least.

I think what she means is she may be "thinking" about doing it when she doesn't really want to herself just to make you happy,thats the reason for making completely sure shes okay with it and would enjoy it herself and it not being just for you to get your rocks off by having sex with two women and all that other stuff that will be right in front of you instead of in a porno.You have to let her know if shes not okay with it she can say no without much to worry about in that department.

As far as the friend goes yeah sounds like she is wanting her all to herself BUT was this all talked about between the three of you in the past?Sometimes (the other)woman who knows that the other woman may need some special attention to get into it they will do the pampering threefold,women are women they understand each other in the comforting department.

All that stuff should probably be done or at least started sober though,because if your girlfriend doesn't really want to do it,you should respect her enough to not take advantage of it when shes drinking-point just in case it NEEDs to be pointed out.You might be in more trouble if she wasn't aware of what she was doing and you sleeping with other women as well as getting her sleeping with other women when she wouldn't if she'd been sober-possability of a big,bad mess doing it that way.

She was aware she was doing and she has said in the past while sober, that she would like to try something out with another woman.

Anyways, the other girl in question realized that I wasn't too happy with the whole mess the other night and appologized to me. She then went on to say, if it is to happen again, she'll come get me. She also told this to my girlfriend which seemed to go pretty well.

😄

I'd like it only for the sexual aspect in all honesty. I don't want to be with two girls at once, especially my friend's girlfriend, being with one is complicated enough sometimes. This is more of a thing to do to have fun, and possibly spice up our relationship. But if it's going to cause problems, no thankyou.

I think you had best give this a miss and leave it to the field of imagination for now. What may be titillating in the mind, may be awkward as hell in real life.
As for feeling threatened, if your gf is straight, she won't do it either. If she goes off with this chick while drunk, she will probably regret it. If she doesn't (regret it, that is) well........it's down to her in the end and you just have to deal, one way or another.