Smothering Scorpio

Anyone experience this? I like this guy tonnes, but I am scared I might freak out one of these days cuz this guy is just smothering me with love. He's all the good things a person could ever ask for. I think I secretly have some commitment issues and I am scared I'll do something stupid and fukk this up. I guess I'm gonna give some space to avoid me feeling cornered, but I really don't wanna push him away. I want to keep it good. I'm just thinking ahead.

you " like" tonnes ? your commitment issue will dissolve when you fall in love and love does not like to share..if you can break off with him and go on to someone else,do it.

They are the Kings of Smother. And not easy to get rid off if or when you do decide it's too much. I totally do not envy you, been there three times.

haha you guys are funny. Well Atlantic, I am acutally going on a 8 day vacation to the Bahamas. He is all sad and saying he won't know what to do & how much he'll miss me. I am happy to get away for many reasons, (not him). But a little getaway from him will let me miss him and really appreciate how good he is to me.

What you guys don't understand is that I haven't been in a long commited relationship since 1998. That is quite awhile ago. I was with someone after that for a long time but it involved a lot of ugliness & my man going to rehab. My point is, I've had a LOT of space in my relationships and long dry spells inbetween. I am not used to a man that wants to be with me all of the time. Don't be quick to judge how much I like him. Space is something some people just really need. It doesn't hurt to miss someone either. Besides I am not used to this kind of treatment. I am lucky as long as I can get him to understand I liked my life before I met him. He is just icing on the cake. And very good sweet icing I might add.

What you guys don't understand is that I haven't been in a long commited relationship since 1998. That is quite awhile ago. I was with someone after that for a long time but it involved a lot of ugliness & my man going to rehab. My point is, I've had a LOT of space in my relationships and long dry spells inbetween. I am not used to a man that wants to be with me all of the time. Don't be quick to judge how much I like him. Space is something some people just really need. It doesn't hurt to miss someone either. Besides I am not used to this kind of treatment. I am lucky as long as I can get him to understand I liked my life before I met him. He is just icing on the cake. And very good sweet icing I might add.

^^Scorpios are supposed to be understanding,I would understand the above stuff mentioned but im also supposed to be a freak scorpio too in this department because people can say anything to me pretty much and my not be too sensitive to it unless it was being rude or insulting to me intentionally.But it is a dice roller as to what this guy may take it as.Maybe explain that you two should probably work on a comfortable balence in the relationship as to the together and private time so it's more medium,middle ground time along with the above statement by you except for the "I liked my life before I met him" one in case he is the sensitive type he might get paranoid by it and take it as oh she doesn't want me to be around or something else crazy like that.

TG...

You went from a Cancer to a Scorpio? LOL You just love that water doncha? I can't tell you much about Scorps though...I HAVE found that it is best to be yourself otherwise it will backfire on you regardless. If you are a person who needs space in a relationship, tell him now while it is early. Either he will deal with it or he won't, but in the long run you won't have to worry about that aspect anymore as a negative.

Good Luck!
Cancerlady/CancerMamaDeuce

"I liked my life before I met him" one in case he is the sensitive type he might get paranoid by it and take it as oh she doesn't want me to be around or something else crazy like that."

I say this because I am not one to be with someone because I have emotional holes that a man must fill. I hate the thought of dependancy. It sickens me. It's almost like someone bought me or like I owe them something. I want to be with someone because I like THEM not just I NEED to be with someone. I think it's important to be strong with yourself, and happy, and this way you will have so much more to give to someone.

Anyone out there ever meet someone and you're left wondering, where the H are your friends? What the fukk did you do before you met me?!! The good thing is, Scorpio man has some wicked friends & family, he just wants to spend lots of time with me. It's not like he doesn't have a life. I met one guy a few years back & he was dependancy case galore! I figured out why at the end of it - no one would wanna put up with his $ HIT!

lol,yeah TG,that needy stuffs annoying and not really showing that you want to love them.Loves really a choice when you get down to defining it,at least thats what I think thanks to certain libras here who wanted to analyse it lol,not a need because of whatever reasons,the "needs" are the things that should be involved with the willingness to work things out so you can get what you want by taking the negative as well as the good.Thats what I think the needs in the love department is because you actually know it's because they want to be there and stay there when they make those sacrifices as well as yourself doing them too.But again me has taurus moon and fire signs for mars and venus so very much not a normal scorp.Whats his charts look like BTW?

Yikes! You guys are harsh. JD, you might of hit a few notes with that I have noticed that I have almost dated men that I know will fail (intentionally) yet blindly to myself. Thank God I am growing out of that and learning to love and embrace the beautiful things in life.

But one thing that you have off is that I don't want this guy. If me being a little scared and nervous is what you would call "time to let him go" then I think you have a problem understanding feelings that a person or woman goes through when they meet someone they feel strongly for. I KNOW how I feel when it's not right or when I don't want someone. That is much, MUCH different than that. You just want to answer the question straight up without much thought?

I guess this is a blog and people are asking for comments and advise on here, but really, these comments are totally far from what I expected and completely off on where I am headed. (well some of the comments, anyways) This does not apply. Man, people are strange. I am quickly learning who has intelligence on this site, and who is on here to barf out their thoughts. I guess that's why they make these sites. eeeeek what am I doing here? No, no, back up, some really cool people on here. Sorry. 😢

Yeah, space is a good thing. I seem to need tons of it. They (the scorps i knew well) always suspect you need time off because you must be up to something...so beware of that reaction!

Hey yatta,
haha you love your scorps! lol How's things in your life?

Oh it's because theres a whole bunch of feelings and he's most likely just can't get enough of you for a possibility of his side of it for that reason,it's kinda like an addiction only it's with certain humans really.

LOL @ me loving my scorps! Things are good TG, some bizarre stuff happening with me at the moment, but it's all fine and dandy.

Nope jack, I think some of us just need lots of space! And it has a lot to do with self-love, not feelings of inadequacy.

"it's kinda like an addiction only it's with certain humans really"

I know the addiction thing. It's scary. If fed too much too early it can break things. I know this because I've been there. I believe a little healthy space can avoid the rise and fall of the intense passion that fades away as quickly as it came. NOW, who cannot understand that concept?!!

Yatta, what's up with the bizarre stuff? Meet another scorp? LOL

what do you do with your space? look for the opportunity to find dream guy? be honest with yourself.

My space? I sometimes see my family & friends. Mostly I write, I collect myself. My time of solitude, I burn candles and play my favorite songs, smile, think about dreams and things I love. I figure out my weaknesses, my troubles. I talk to God. That is my space. I need this to be who I am.

How long has it been Taurusgoddess? A couple of months since you met this guy? Most of the posters here are being judgemental about a relationship that has only just started. You all seem to think she should commit and say how madly in love she is already?

Get real everybody. TG is just being cautious - she has already said she had one obsessive relationship and doesn't want this to be the same. I don't think this is a measure of how much she likes her scorp guy.

TG, you say you have may commitment issues. That may be true - you know yourself better than we do. But if you are dating the guy exclusively and it hasn't been that long - I wouldn't worry about it yet. Wait until HE brings up the issue of commitment and then see how you feel then. In the meantime, just be honest - if you want to just visit your own family or friends sometimes then do that. If he has problems with that then you need to know now anyway.

Scorpgal

"Anyone out there ever meet someone and you're left wondering, where the H are your friends? What the fukk did you do before you met me?!!"

I have been there, it's awful!!!!!!! Being a scorpio...I just couldn't respect that. I lost respect for him. And I totally think in a good relationship, space is crucial.

TG, I am going through what you already went through, so I'm also trying to invite the good things in life.

But then again, we don't like things in others that we don't like in ourselves. People are all just mirrors of ourselves.

I have a strong feeling that he has Cancer influence in his chart. Does he?

I have no idea what his chart is. I don't wanna drill him for info right aways. haha

Scorpgal, yes I am being cautious, but open minded. Making some space allows me to think about things, and make sure of things. Things like: is this what I want? Does he treat me good, does he inspire me? What do I do for him? A person must take a few steps back sometimes to see things clearly. At least I do. I am only learning from my past here. I would like to commit to the right person, but I must ask myself certain questions along the way. Otherwise I will be kicking myself in the A $ $ again.

Bizarre stuff is: I am now up to my eyeballs in Taureans, it's the new trend! lol
The first one kinda went "funny" on me, but won't go away. Then a second one came crawling out of the woodwork.....and now I REALLY just want my space!

BTW, you pretty much do the same things I do in my solitude, I read, write, do my designing, dabble in painting and all that fun stuff....stuff that usually takes a high degree of focus and that gives immense satisfaction. It restores the soul. Or sometimes I go bananas and rearrange all my furniture, binge clean my place, take a long soak in the tub....all good stuff that I rarely have time for.

I need my space even now 7 years into a living together for just introspection and almost like meditation(relaxing) which is kinda difficult when someone is around even when you do love them.Ya know,even as kids people need time away from siblings and parents for private time by hiding in thier bedroom.It all normal for sanity even when it's not related to relationship caution lol.

Nice quote by Socrates. You read Nietzsche as well? Anyways, thanks's for the constructive criticism JD. Being blunt is sometimes the quickest way to find out the truth! lol I do understand that a scorpio sees the truth and as strong as they may be they are sensitve as well. Maybe that's why I like you guys. Being a taurus women, I can definately relate.