feeling uninspired and pessimistic from leo mother's actions

Can somebody help me?

Here's the situation:
I feel uninspired and pessimistic right now. My step-mother a leo (born on Aug. 8) invades my privacy and does not respect me, she lies to get what she wants with me. Recently from a stoke of luck i got a brand new car. She has her own SUV. She always insisted to borrow my car but i always have something to do so she couldn't. The other Wednesday morning, she told me she can't use her car because of Coding (in our country, there is a traffic law that forbids cars with plate numbers with certain number endings to be on the street for 1 day to lessen heavy traffic. If you ride a car with the specific number that is forbidden on that day, the police will catch you and you have to pay a fine. In this case her SUV AND My car are both forbidden to be driven every Wednesdays) and then she insisted that she will "borrow" mine. Little did i know that when she was just asking me if she could borrow my car, she already had my car out of the garage and her peers inside (she has an extra key.) She never gave me a chance to say anything and she just left with my car without my permission (me saying yes). I just remembered that my car was also forbidden on Wednesdays when she already left so she could have just used her SUV and it would still get the same result (she will still get caught by the police). I called her and she said "no return no exchange...we are already far" I told her i will just bring her SUV to wherever she is and get my car back but she said "No." She told me via a text during the afternoon that she will go back after 1 hour. But what actually happened was, she went back late at night with my car. I felt betrayed and lied to and disrespected because she never given me the chance to think about lending her my car and actually decide that i want to and she said that she will be back in 1 hour but in reality she didn't. And she doesn't seem to be sorry for what she did. Please help?

(addition) And what she usually does is she will make it look like it's my fault and she is the victim and that she is justified to do that.

Posted by Impulsv
Where is ur husband in this.

I am single. before when i was a child she abuses me physically and emotionally. The funny thing is she does those things to me and yet she is afraid that i would commit suicide.But she does it frequently anyway. I am now with low self confidence and afraid of people. But i don't want to be like this forever. I want to be successful and achieve a lot of things for myself.

Where's your dad?

to be really really honest, i am afraid. I've never lived by myself before in my life. I guess what frightens me is that if something doesn't work out, i don't have anywhere to go back to. My education in school and college was lacking. I barely learned anything i can use in my life so I'm still self-studying to compensate for that. But i really want to live by myself. i barely have savings. Before, I was very independent but my independence was thought of as bad thing by my parents so they literally violently opposed me. I've never had anyone (not even one) who would encourage me or believe in me. i guess that translated in me not believing in myself. i've been trying to find ways to overcome this because i want to succeed in life. I don't want to be like this forever.

Posted by Montgomery
Where's your dad?

he had brain stroke when i was in high school and now he can't speak straight. He is well and healthy but he can't speak straight.

i really don't trust all my relatives because she talks to all of them from when i was a child until now. she always complains to them about me . so they all have a negative impression about me right now.

I was in your exact situation, I used to think I could handle this horrible person by ignoring her when in fact all she ever did was try to hurt me over and over again.

What happened with me is my dad passed away and then she went vicious with the hurt up until I said enough, got the hell away from her cut all communication and heal all my wounds. (Btw she didn't get vicious because she was sad, she had a new man after a month, she went vicious because she saw me weak).

So trust me on this: she won't stop, nobody will make her stop but yourself. Put on your big girl pants, stop listening to your insecurities and get the hell away from there, because honestly if you don't it will only get worse.

Posted by LittleMissPerfect
I was in your exact situation, I used to think I could handle this horrible person by ignoring her when in fact all she ever did was try to hurt me over and over again.

What happened with me is my dad passed away and then she went vicious with the hurt up until I said enough, got the hell away from her cut all communication and heal all my wounds. (Btw she didn't get vicious because she was sad, she had a new man after a month, she went vicious because she saw me weak).

So trust me on this: she won't stop, nobody will make her stop but yourself. Put on your big girl pants, stop listening to your insecurities and get the hell away from there, because honestly if you don't it will only get worse.

yeah. thanks for that. before when i was in college i used school as an escape from her. my school is 4 hours away. When I was in school i was the cool kid and i was thriving. When i became part of the dean's list in my college she was actually surprised. So i never noticed that it was bad with her because i was okay at school. It all started when i graduated. She started telling me what to do and was threatening me if i don't do it. She tried to make amends with me yesterday but it felt like she was just acting so i don't feel better. She was saying to understand her and her situation. She justified her actions by the result that she got from it. Funny because she's been doing things to break my trust and she is expecting me to trust her. now i'm afraid to trust anybody. does anybody had the same trust problem? how did you handle it? thanks!

What the fuck is this shit?

Cinderella—

Woman the fuck up Scorp! Jesus fucking Christ, why are you giving this Leo too much to work with??

Spare key? I'd ram it up her arsehole along with any fine and her own car!

Does she have Cancerian placements?

Which country are you from?

Posted by Impulsv
I hate step mothers cruel one who ruin a child's life.u are strong Who you have friends you can rely on or at least one family member that is on your side. You don't have to be able to live on your own about getting a roommate

thanks. i don't have anyone on my side among our relatives. i'm the only one youngest in the generation. next to me are teenagers, and 5-6 year olds. all the old people, my uncles and aunts, and cousins think she is right because she uses phrases like it's for the best of us and that she is doing all the work and that nobody is helping her...we're just burdening her. And she may even make it look like i'm burdening her by not "lending" her my car when clearly she can just use hers. and i don't talk about it with my friends. so they don't really know what is happening. Before I debate what she says (because i know that i am right) but what she always does is get angry and still insists on what she wants. To be really really honest i don't know what to do right now. I feel pessimistic and still uninspired. I felt like with what she did, my sense of security was threatened. so i'm just hibernating trying to figure things out. I reached out to you guys to maybe get some clarity. i'm a 100% introvert according to personality tests. thanks.

I would try to talk it over with your friends. Even if they can't room with you, just knowing that they have your back and hearing advice from them is nice. I do think your best bet right now it to work on moving out. Preferably far enough away that she can't try to come use your car or whatever else. Do it all under the radar so she can't try to ruin your plans somehow. Maybe your friends can help out with looking for places. Maybe even one or two has a spare room open for you to stay in temporarily. Just remember how much better you felt living away at college than at home with her. That may help motivate you.

i think that i'm the only one in the family who can tell that she is lying... by the time our relatives get to talk to me she already talked with them and they just talk to me just to tell me that they think she is right. they never listen to my side of the story and i don't trust them to tell them. it's kind of a chicken and egg problem... they lie to get me to talk to them... they tell me that i can trust them and that they will not tell anyone about what i will tell them but they do. they all think i have a problem. and they are expecting me to "help" her despite everything because she is "my mother" and she clothed me and sent me to school and paid for everything so i should repay her. I was thinking "isn't those things out of love? why should i repay that? if that is indeed the case, it's not love...it's debt." had i knew when i was a child that one day i will be asked to repay all of that, i would have refused it. i always felt like i was in debt. i never felt loved at all..

This is not about her, this is about YOU. Is about what hurts you and what keeps your sanity. Don't let other people define you, you define yourself.
Do what you need to do to get out of there and stop making excuses.