For The Record

Posted by Velocity
I recently rejected this amazing Scorpio... for the second time. As much as I would love to be his everything, I, unfortunately am not ready. He is so intense and profound! It's beautiful and so alluring but as an Aquarius it can get overwhelming and I know I can't return the 110% I'll be getting. At least at this young age... I'm too detached and independent for that. He has offered to be patient, understanding and everything but I can't do that to him. I can't put him in a waiting position while having him feel like he has this absolute chance. So it had to end. He doesn't ever keep any contact or friendship with anyone he's been in a relationship with and it's heartbreaking because I would love to have him in my life more than anything. I care about him and want to be there for him regardless of anything but the "all or nothing" mentality is cruel. It takes everything in me to not reach out to him. I know I'd give him mixed messages. It's not fair you guys are so damn inticing and addicting. Oh give us a taste and pull yourselves away cold turkey if we don't continue taking the high? Is there any way I'll ever have a shot at having him in my life as a friend? No, right? HOW DO I COPE WITH THAT? But I just realized it wouldn't matter if I was a friend though... I've already got a taste of his passion... he becomes so open while indifferent to everyone else... Screw this. Is there any way to break this behavior of him? Is this common within Scorpios?

It's either be his or be not.
Commitment is the keyword, here.
And the more he is rejected, as in the past the more distant he becomes.
You call it cruel. Another tells you to spare him the torment.
It is a cruel torment.
And this is part of why the higher Scorps don't engage in friends with benefits and
other goofy behaviors. And that is where the loyalty is found and committed relationship is preferred.
Betray him and he'll move along. He "may" carry a flame for you for a LONNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNG time.
Decades...perhaps.
But you will have to do a lot of proving of yourself to regain his trust to the level he is comfortable enough
to reunite with you.

Understand, he's not the one breaking your heart. You are. You break his heart, his reaction is what it is
and you get hurt. Don't blame him.

Posted by Impulsv
Why the delete
Wanted to know if her reason to keeping him around where ego based or genuine.

Best to let him go than torrure him. P

That's a good question. She's free to answer here, if she likes.

People get into these relationships. talk about how "addicting" their lover is, then "pull the plug" because they are "not ready".
Common sense would tell anyone that when you pull the light plug out of the wall socket, the light doesn't come on.
But prehistoric mentalities and attitudes don't quite get the message.
You know.... "Hey let's do this" then turn around and say "Hey let's be friends" - such people may have problems already but
rather than rising above their problems with commitment, they choose to continue to wallow in the weaknesses that afflict them
not fully appreciating that the other person could be their greatest strength to overcome.

Emotionally immature people don't understand that such (intimate type) relationships are for a higher purpose and not mere
"sexual gratification" and ego. They also fail to appreciate the intensity of such relationships and the spiritual impact on the
other person whom they are involved with. What makes it worse is when there are children involved.
Hurt and anger becomes a hand-me-down tradition.
Expectations born out of fantasies are set so high that reality proves a let-down.
When both have realistic expectations, attitudes and goals, success is far more likely, regardless what those expectations, attitudes and goals are.