He shut me out suddenly. Will he come ever come back?

I'm a Sag who briefly (for 3 months) dated a Scorpio guy. It was a short period of time but he made quite an impression. We met on Tinder. We started chatting on there and I was immediately struck by how warm and fuzzy he was and how curious he seemed about me. I did however, sense a bit of timidness and awkwardness (like he hadn't done this whole flirting thing in a while) even through the text.

We talked via text for a couple weeks and had set a night to meet in person for the first time. The day before, he canceled on me. He admitted to me that he had recently gotten out of a relationship and realized he needed to take time before he started dating again. He apologized for wasting my time "so immaturely".

Now, I, being the idiot that I am, giddily told him I really enjoyed talking to him and that my door was open if he just wanted to do something more casual. As soon as I said this, he immediately changed his mind and said he really enjoyed me too. So a few days later, we went on a date. We went on a few dates over those 3 months and had a great time. We had a extremely strong sexual chemistry as well.... It was pretty insane.. Lol. Each time we went out he always wanted me to stay the night and we'd cuddle, play video games, and he'd buy my breakfast in the morning. It was casual but nice.

Suddenly, he proceeded to drop out for nearly the whole month of December. Went from responding to me within minutes to not responding for a month. I also noticed he had either unmatched me or perhaps deleted his own profile on tinder (not sure which one). I figure he probably has too much going on in his life and made no attempts to contact him further. He would view my snapchat stories here and there but not much from him aside from that. Come New Years, he throws me another curveball and comes back, saying he's coming back into town the following day and wants to see me. I was pretty shocked at this sudden resurfacing but did agree to see him the next day. We did our normal thing minus me sleeping over (he had to pick up a friend from the airport later in the night.). Before I left he kissed me and told me he wanted to spend more time with me the next time we saw each other. I agreed.

The following night, I decide I feel like sending him a risqué photo of myself via snapchat just for the heck of it. I thought he'd appreciate it. That morning, I discovered he'd blocked me on snapchat upon opening my photo. This sends me into a state of panic, and I check instagram. He's blocked me there too. I also assume my phone number was blocked. Only thing he didn't touch (at first) was Facebook. A week later though, he unfriended (but for some reason, did not block) me on Facebook. Another week passes, I decide to message him on FB since he for some reason, partially spared me on that platform. I asked what happened and why he felt the need to do that. Mind you, he had not mentioned his ex the entire time we dated, so out of curiosity, I ask if this was about her and I tell him that I understand and that I never expected to compete with his past relationship right off the bat. He completely evades this question and gives me a much more generic apology/explanation. He tells me he has too much chaotic (s word) going on in his life and that casual encounters would only hurt us both. I told him that I hope things improved for him...but also added that his messages, in my words "seemed devoid of the warmth that used to come from you. Feel better" (he viewed, but did not respond to the last tidbit).

It's now been a month. I can't help but wonder, do I cross his mind at all? Will he ever reach out to me again? I'm trying to move on with my life but somehow I keep getting thrown back into this cyclical frenzy wondering if he'll ever reach back out... Could it be a month from now? a year? 5 years? Never? I can barely handle it.

Thanks in advance guys 🙂

His gf saw the snap and made him block you from social media.

Yeah my friend did suggest that might have been the case and that the "friend" he was picking up was this ex. If that was the case I guess I'd feel less personally slighted by it.

Girl, you know if you leave your doors open somebody gonna Come up in there and rob you 😝

Posted by Waterbearerwearer
I feel for you..

You can’t play casual with Scorp. They don’t respect that.

At. All.

It was too easy for him sorry.

Yeah I tend to fly by the seat of my pants, I guess Scorps tend to see things more black and white. Didn't need him to be my boyfriend, just enjoyed spending time with him. It's just startling to be cut off cold turkey since I feel like guys fuck girls they don't like all the time.

Posted by Moonbutter
Girl, you know if you leave your doors open somebody gonna Come up in there and rob you 😝

Ha, I know. I can be too open at times and it blows up in my face.

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Posted by Waterbearerwearer
I feel for you..

You can’t play casual with Scorp. They don’t respect that.

At. All.

It was too easy for him sorry.

Yeah I tend to fly by the seat of my pants, I guess Scorps tend to see things more black and white. Didn't need him to be my boyfriend, just enjoyed spending time with him. It's just startling to be cut off cold turkey since I feel like guys fuck girls they don't like all the time.

Problem is they interpret that as your modus operandi in life

He would feel insecure about leaving you alone. Scorp need hella exclusive relo.

If it’s open he’s not anchored and being a fixed energy that is bound to back fire.

You’re cool though I’m sure you’ll meet someone you enjoy. Scorp are hard to move on from tho I get it.

It’s their generosity.

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Yeah I've been seeing other people. They're cool but eh.... they ain't him. Frankly, I'd give my left (figurative) nut just to have him slap my patootie again, Lol!

Posted by Leowwwww
Are you serious?

If *you* cross his mind?

You should twist that around,learn from this experience and have him begging on his knees for you to even give him the time of day... And turn him down anyway.

Sorry. #ScorpioMars

After all that mess of ghosting you, popping back in without a genuine explanation and then blocking you pretty much everywhere you'd be willing to give it another shot.. If ever?

You can't be serious.

Oh but I am serious. I'm a sucker for pain!

In all seriousness though, I kind of lack the "cut people off" bone. I'm always trying to dissect and understand the situation or why they did what they did. I consider myself to be a good person but I have done some really shitty things to people too. I guess I try to give people leeway for that reason.

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Posted by Leowwwww
Are you serious?

If *you* cross his mind?

You should twist that around,learn from this experience and have him begging on his knees for you to even give him the time of day... And turn him down anyway.

Sorry. #ScorpioMars

After all that mess of ghosting you, popping back in without a genuine explanation and then blocking you pretty much everywhere you'd be willing to give it another shot.. If ever?

You can't be serious.

Oh but I am serious. I'm a sucker for pain!

In all seriousness though, I kind of lack the "cut people off" bone. I'm always trying to dissect and understand the situation or why they did what they did. I consider myself to be a good person but I have done some really shitty things to people too. I guess I try to give people leeway for that reason.

Dissect away...... from a distance!

There's a difference between wanting to understand the whys and whats and... then there's actually entertaining the idea of a round 3-4-5..

No matter what you've done don't use that as a crutch to allow people to use and walk all over you.

It's pretty fucked up.

You're basically allowing him / men treat you like garbage.

If *you* don't even respect yourself,

you think guys will?

You don't think you deserve better?

Work on your self love.

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You're right, thank you.

He’s not a quality man. He served your purpose. Move on. Loads of single men out there who are ready for a relationship or just a shag.

Posted by Jorjors_
I'm a Sag who briefly (for 3 months) dated a Scorpio guy. It was a short period of time but he made quite an impression. We met on Tinder. We started chatting on there and I was immediately struck by how warm and fuzzy he was and how curious he seemed about me. I did however, sense a bit of timidness and awkwardness (like he hadn't done this whole flirting thing in a while) even through the text.

We talked via text for a couple weeks and had set a night to meet in person for the first time. The day before, he canceled on me. He admitted to me that he had recently gotten out of a relationship and realized he needed to take time before he started dating again. He apologized for wasting my time "so immaturely".

Now, I, being the idiot that I am, giddily told him I really enjoyed talking to him and that my door was open if he just wanted to do something more casual. As soon as I said this, he immediately changed his mind and said he really enjoyed me too. So a few days later, we went on a date. We went on a few dates over those 3 months and had a great time. We had a extremely strong sexual chemistry as well.... It was pretty insane.. Lol. Each time we went out he always wanted me to stay the night and we'd cuddle, play video games, and he'd buy my breakfast in the morning. It was casual but nice.

Suddenly, he proceeded to drop out for nearly the whole month of December. Went from responding to me within minutes to not responding for a month. I also noticed he had either unmatched me or perhaps deleted his own profile on tinder (not sure which one). I figure he probably has too much going on in his life and made no attempts to contact him further. He would view my snapchat stories here and there but not much from him aside from that. Come New Years, he throws me another curveball and comes back, saying he's coming back into town the following day and wants to see me. I was pretty shocked at this sudden resurfacing but did agree to see him the next day. We did our normal thing minus me sleeping over (he had to pick up a friend from the airport later in the night.). Before I left he kissed me and told me he wanted to spend more time with me the next time we saw each other. I agreed.

The following night, I decide I feel like sending him a risqué photo of myself via snapchat just for the heck of it. I thought he'd appreciate it. That morning, I discovered he'd blocked me on snapchat upon opening my photo. This sends me into a state of panic, and I check instagram. He's blocked me there too. I also assume my phone number was blocked. Only thing he didn't touch (at first) was Facebook. A week later though, he unfriended (but for some reason, did not block) me on Facebook. Another week passes, I decide to message him on FB since he for some reason, partially spared me on that platform. I asked what happened and why he felt the need to do that. Mind you, he had not mentioned his ex the entire time we dated, so out of curiosity, I ask if this was about her and I tell him that I understand and that I never expected to compete with his past relationship right off the bat. He completely evades this question and gives me a much more generic apology/explanation. He tells me he has too much chaotic (s word) going on in his life and that casual encounters would only hurt us both. I told him that I hope things improved for him...but also added that his messages, in my words "seemed devoid of the warmth that used to come from you. Feel better" (he viewed, but did not respond to the last tidbit).

It's now been a month. I can't help but wonder, do I cross his mind at all? Will he ever reach out to me again? I'm trying to move on with my life but somehow I keep getting thrown back into this cyclical frenzy wondering if he'll ever reach back out... Could it be a month from now? a year? 5 years? Never? I can barely handle it.

Thanks in advance guys 🙂

Waste no more time on this little boy.

He treats you like you are disposable and you wonder if he will ever come back?

He treats you like a throw away...are You?

He treats someone he barely knows with so much disregard...I wonder how he treats the ppl close to him.

Stop being desperate for the attention of an asshole.