I would appreciate scorpio view on this

3.5 yr relationship with Scorp love. Recently he got increasingly nervous and distant, cutting off all contact like very 2 wks.

I ended it saying this obviously isn't what he wants and I'm letting him go so he can do what is right for him and what his heart needs. I actually thought I was doing a good thing and saving him torture of being in a relationship he didn't want. I want to be with him, but I could see it was hurting him.

He couldn't stand that I wasn't falling apart, pushed me to talk to him and I thought he wanted to try again but he said "This isn't what I wanted meaning a committed relationship even though he was talking marriage ( I was thinking ... Isn't that what I said?) and the he will take time away and then reconnect with me after."

I feel like he was trying to flip it on me because it made him crazy that I wasn't upset. This did upset me though and I contacted him a number of times over the next week but never asking to rekindle the relationship. Most contacts he ignored.

I worked through it over that week then sent him a nice message saying I hope he's okay, maybe we will reconnect someday, I don't know. If he ever changes his mind, I'd be willing to discuss giving things another try, otherwise I just think it's better not to reconnect. I'm aware of the irony of saying we might reconnect but I think it's better not to, but I was still upset at the time. His reply mirrored mine but he also added: "I'll see you around." I did not respond to that, but just said thank you. I'm glad you're ok. Take care.

Obviously you don't know him but your view from a scorpio angle would be appreciated. I'm not sure if these are typical Scorpio responses to this kind of situation. My questions:

1. Did I save face AT ALL? I feel like a real idiot getting upset and falling for his trick to make me upset.

2. Do you think he will be in touch or was this his way of having control by saying I will see you around and making me expect it.

I still love him and would like to try again if he wants to, but I'm moving on regardless and leaving it for him to get in touch.

lol that's okay. I appreciate the feedback and yeh I see your point. I just meant that if he is wanting to have a serious relationship then he can contact me but if not, then it's better not to, but I'm kind of hoping he does because I'm still in love with him so I guess I'm trying to work out what the odds are of that.

Ok woman! If I’ve learned anything about them - they make it happen if they want to make it happen!

Nothing! And I mean not a thing can make them do anything they don’t want to do!

It’s sucks! It’s hard. It’s mind blowing...

I wish you speedy recovery.

Yeah, right? I know...

Just take care of yourself. Don’t fall apart.

Or if you will - don’t be in that state for too long. Shiiiiiit! I feel your pain...❤️

Thanks for your feedback. I appreciate it. I have sent him an email explaining and I won't contact anymore. Hopefully that will help ease any feelings like that, he may have experienced.

Hi Edgelord,

Not quite. I did try to talk to him and communicate with him, but he kept ignoring me and cutting me out. Maybe I should have been more patient but he was becoming more and more angry and more and more distant, disconnecting. He acted like he was in pain just being with me so I thought I was doing the right thing letting him go.

I'm so confused. Everyone says something different... don't do anything, end it, don't contact, contact... and when the man you love cuts you off altogether and you can't get through to him, what else are you meant to do? If he acts like it's over and he tells you he's rethinking your relationship, you don't sit there and be all... yeh ok, you just treat me badly and without respect and then I'll still wait around like a sucker.

Idk... I give up. It seems to me like he has all the control here and all the choices and I don't believe that's right in a relationship. It should be worked out between the two of you.

@edgelord... thank you. I didn't realize. Right now I love him and I want him back but I have no idea if he's just doing what he did because of me or what. He said he didn't want the commitment. He said he thought originally it was just going to be something light and that he knew a while back this wasn't what he wanted but he was convincing himself it was.

I felt the best thing to do was to give him space but now I've emailed him again. Oh well, it won't hurt things to explain to him what I really want I guess. I'll just leave it alone now. All I wanted to know is what the odds are of him contacting me again. I guess it doesn't matter now.

@edgelord. Yeh that's what I'm doing. Thank you. I appreciate the help.

Oh sorry. He lives in a different location. He's been to visit me and he was going to move here to be with me. He said he wanted to marry me, but as it got closer to the time, he got more nervous and distant. He said this wasn't what he wanted. He wanted to re-evaluate his life and do a lot more things first. I asked "Like what?" He didn't know.

Posted by lesenfantterribles

Posted by tiziani

Posted by lesenfantterribles
fyi, no one who responded in this thread thus far, is a scorpio.

it sounds like he is over it. people say, "we'll try again later" when they break up but no one ever really means it.

i am surprised no one's asked for the OP to expound on why he got nervous & distant?

I suggested that twice.

suggested what twice? for her to expound?

where? ... cuz i dont see where you did that.

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He is old...he forgets he meant to but didn’t...

I had the same reaction...like fk it’s just 2 pages...whaaat? Lmao

Posted by beautifulmountain
Oh sorry. He lives in a different location. He's been to visit me and he was going to move here to be with me. He said he wanted to marry me, but as it got closer to the time, he got more nervous and distant. He said this wasn't what he wanted. He wanted to re-evaluate his life and do a lot more things first. I asked "Like what?" He didn't know.

Hon! That was my breaking point when he said he didn’t know!

I said call me when you know!

That wasnIT!

It’s feustrating...wtf do you mean you don’t know! Right? ❤️

Sorry you’re not the one. It doesn’t take a man longer than a year. You were a place holder. He’ll be back because he know you are still a good woman but by then it will be too late. The one for you will have already walk in your life. 🙂

Keep your head and standards high Queen.

Posted by tiziani
Oh damn I am not a Scorpio though. Good luck to you both.

What you wrote was on point. People that try to guilt trip me get ignored, which is what he did.

Posted by beautifulmountain
lol that's okay. I appreciate the feedback and yeh I see your point. I just meant that if he is wanting to have a serious relationship then he can contact me but if not, then it's better not to, but I'm kind of hoping he does because I'm still in love with him so I guess I'm trying to work out what the odds are of that.

Thing is, unless you're dealing with a slow Scorp he knows this already. You saying this is after the fact is pointless and comes of as an an attempt to contact him/get a reaction.

You should have said all of that during your farewell speech and called it a day. Given you're so focused on saving face.