Heart ache - Libra lady Scorpio man

I feel really bad, the normal/common cycle again. Sleepless nite and loss of appetite..

I met my Scorpio begining of the year, through a match making site. He is a nice man, 12yrs my senior, never married in another country.

We started off as friends, and we are truthful with each other on our wants. His wants: a long term relationship but not marriage, my wants: a long term relationship lead to marriage.

We were clear on our wants and till we were carried away by the heat of the romance, subconsciously we both thought that we both accepted each other wants. We are planning to meet up in another country next week. It's a plan made two months ago.

We talked over it last nite, and it seems that all these 'acceptance' of each other wants is imagenery. I fell apart. I thought naively that my love and care for him will be able to soften and heal his injured soul... but i was wrong. he is unlikely (he said so) to change his wants, and he thought i will accept his. He does care, concern and like me , as he said and I can feel it.. but whenever he think abt my 'want' , he pull himself away... and that is why i am feeling all these inflatuations that he is 'in control' of his feelings and not able to give in more. We know it's not easy to solve this, and we are planning to re evaluate the whole relationsihp after we meet next weekend.

There goes the brief story of mine. my heart still ached, because I fall for him. he told me that he is very sorry he put me in this situation, and he didn't stop it earlier, he was carried away as well. he told me that he will tell me the whole story of his injured soul when we meet face to face. Just to add in, aside from chatting over the internet and emailing daily, we call weekly and sms daily (few , esp morning, afternoon, evening, nite, to let each other know what we been doing etc)

my question is, does it mean that I have to face the reality that chances of him changing his wants, is slim? btw, he is 40. he has been truthful in things he does, he went out with friends etc. from the brief description i wrote, should i still be patience and hope that one day he will be touched by me? or I am just wasting my time?

thank you very much for reading.. your comments are highly appreciated.

still heart aching

wait for irishlibra or PM her if you like.

There is alot to consider even if he were to change his mind.

He's a bit older and scorpios are a fixed sign...they are rooted in their beliefs and dont take to change very quickly. This will be a difficult relationship for you.

Thank you very much Lady_M. I do agree with you, a lot to consider, and I will wait for IrishLibra. TQ

Thank you Emeraldgem,

I like your story on the bird, and I understand the morale behind it. True, there are things that we can't fix or change. Thank you once again Emeraldgem

I was NOT playing with her.

As a libra I believe irishlibra can sympathize and share her experiences with a stubborn scorpio.

Thank you egem.

Thank you Lady_M... I understand ur pointview there... talking abt being a libra...libra is somehow pretty 'indecisive' at most time.. it's a balance, always look at things in both ways, and hard to make decisions... not like scorpio, once decided, that is it, fixed...can't change..

I did NOT say advise her...I just said share and sympathize.

Emeraldgem, thanks...yes, we shall never give in for the second best...that is what my best fren always tell me....

Hmmm not to rub salt in the wounds..but this pairing hardly ever works out...I haven't seen one successful thus far.

It will take a VERY special person for us to accept marriage...

Us libra's hate not to get what we truly want..because to truly want something rarely happens to us without something in our minds holding us back. Although you are feeling destroyed at the moment (and i know it hurts like hell), the man appears to have been nothing but fair. Not leading you on even more, just shows how much he cares for you..you could have been living under false pretences for months, or even years. Never say never, but try and distance yourself from the situation however you can. Stop all contact because that "staying friends" scenario just keeps the hurt intact for longer than it needs to be.

LOL @ Geminifox with her astrology....and scorpio pairings..thats the 3rd time you've posted the scorpio pairings!..lol