how deep is his love?

Ok, this is so fun, i haven't written here for a long time, so i'm excited to get some new responses.
Well I have a friend, Leanna, and one day I aksed her if she could tell her bf to find me someone to go to her bf's school dance(they go to different schools). So she introduced me to him, and I got his screen name, and his cell phone #, and all seemed just nice. While I send him on mission to ask his best friend is he wants to go, I get to know more about Mike from Leanna. Like they have been together for a while, and they used to go out when they were in junior high, and that they are now together again, happier then ever, and they both love eachother very much, they have hit the sack before and all is just perfect. So they seem happy. they have a history together, which does help make a bond.
So one day I bump into him, cuz i was on my way to take the bus, and he says that he would accompany me to where I wanted to go, and I say sure. So pretty soon we go, and he ivites me in his house and I meet his parents, he just had to stop and get something really fast. And then we walk together and talk about light stuff, my life story in a nutshell, his also, and when we com back, he tells me he has a pool, and some awsome stuff, and i want to see them. So i go in his house and I see the pool and it loooks so nice, and well we just talk and we seem to be getting along a bit too well. He invites me to come over sometime and swim if I'd like, so I Thank him and leave. Now I have a feeling that if I would go over his home and go swimming that stuff would start to happen, like we start to like eachother more, and things like that.
Now I don't know what is going to happen, but I have a feeling I would have a pretty good chance of tuurning his affections in a 180 degrees rotation. So I would get this almost perfect for me guy, that' i've been looking for, but then I would feel bad for her, and I just don't want to be in the middle, i don't know, i think I'll try to saty away. Any advice? I just don't want this to turn into a jerry springer show.

Hi expozed,

It's obvious you have the hots for this guy, and it seems he likes you too.

I am assuming that you are a scorpio. I know it's difficult to contain your feelings of...desire..heat ..whatever, especially at your age.

Ask yourself this question, is he worth losing Leanna as a friend?

I am giving you advice from my own experience.

Sometimes our passion, excitment, lust...takes over our rational thought. I'm sure Mike is a nice guy and everything, but in the long run..the truth is...guys may come and go, but the strong bonds of good close, girlfriends could last a lifetime.

Maintaining those kinds of frienships will make you a stronger, better person.

If I were you, I would try really hard not to give in to temptation. Try not to see Mike alone. Let Leanna be the 'go-between' person to find you a date.

If they find a date for you, you could start to hang out the four of you and you could get to know Mike better,and see the relationship that him and Leanna have.

Perhaps they arn't as good a couple as you think. Maybe if they break up, you will have a chance to start something with him. In that case the three of you, will try to deal with it in the open..in a mature manner.

Perhaps they really do have a great relationship, and Mike is just a nice guy, who is being nice to his girlfriend's friend.

It's my opinion that your loyalties should be to your girl-friend.

Good Luck,
let us know what happens

That is truly as clear as anyone could put it. See teptation is not abad, thing, and i feel i need to experience it, the only way to rid urself of temptetion is to give in to it.I need to give in to my emotions and take risks, i'm young an di don't want to waste the flame, u know, i'm not that good friends with her anyway, and she drinks alot, and she;s so blind. she thninks that her boyfriend would never cheat on her. I mean the way he's acting, i don't know, seems he's well, maybe he wants something new. Romances don't last a long time anyway, so why not enjoy them as they come, I just want to enjoy my life and feel that i'm living. the guy mike found for me is a bum, not attarctive, not interesting, not my type. So I don't care. Leanna and mike have been together for a while, and a while beore that, they kinda act like friends. So let em know what u thing again. thank u for the awsome advice, and mostly the way in which it was worded

I am a scorpio and proud of it

Yes my dear...I could tell you are a true scorp, just like me.
The only thing I could say now, is try to control the situation. Try not to just fool around with Mike, make him cheat, keep secrets, etc...it will be a whole big mess that nobody needs.

If you really feel that you have to give in to your desires, to learn from your own lessons, feed your passion etc.... go for it; but at least try to get Mike to break up with Leanne first.
That way, you will know if you really have his heart and not just his....you know.

I would play it cool, wait for another opportunity when the two of you are alone. I am sure that will be soon, since you are both probably willing it to happen. He will be really nice to you again.

Spend more time with him as a friend, you will know when the time is right..he might even bring it up first ...that he is interested. Tell him how you feel, but ask him to break up with her first. It will just be more clean that way.

If you get together after the two of them break up...you might lose Leannes friendship, but you say it's OK

If you go behind Leanne's back..and..you make Mike cheat, he might resent you later..he might regret doing something immoral...because it is. CHEATING IS BAD. Just because you are a beautiful powerfull scorp, you are not exempt from the laws of social morality. It is important to think of Leanna's feelings. You know how powerful you are and that you can get what ever you want..just try do it the clean way.

Use your powers to get him to break up...not cheat.

You will be happier in the long run.

Good luck!
-Blue

Hey Sweet P

I have a feeling that Mike wants to fool around...I simply meant..make him break up first if he wants to fool around or wants a relationship that includes fooling around.

You are right about everyone having power. I don't dispute that. I do know what it is like though, to be a young Scorpio woman..or girl who might have trouble..containing her urges....maybe other signs are the same, I was only speaking from my experience.. Scorpio to Scorpio.

I didn't intend to offend any one, and I apologize if I have.

Look what you've done here Exposed, you are creating soap opera! I was reading other posts/answers on the Cap. site,
You got really good advice there. Follow your better judgment..since youare asking what to do..we know you are conflicted..which is a good sign.
Maybe you should try to be open for another great guy to come into your life..and forget this whole mess!

What is your rising sign?

Good Luck,
Blessings to all,
Blue

Hmmm...What is natural anyway? if one can make something happen then that is natural. Taking fate by the horns is not an easy job, but some like and live to venture. I have gotten two very different responses, and I have to say I can see both of them, why they would b good, but only one seems to go with my nature, and that is what Blue eyed scorp said. I can really feel what she is trying to tell me.(i hopeit's a she)But sweet pea u are very logical and reasonable, but I don't think those are principles to live by, for they stop u from really living. Making up reasons why u should not do something, and taking away pleasure from urself, leaving urself starved. Key is being in control of the situation, and scorpios are very cunning in that way, and can spend much time coming up with a good plan to get what they want.Cheatig is ugly, and I don't think I would play that way, but rather get him to see that I have better qualities then his girl, and well, don't they want the best? Again some can't handle the "best" cuz of self insecurities. But this guy has it staright, and on second thouhts cheating on him would only show him the type of girl I am, which I'm not. I simply found someone who seems right for me, but is currently commited.
Now about those signs. No matter what anyone says there is something unique about evey sign. But the scorpio has power because we crave it, we know hoe it works an dhow to get it, it is built within, from the fabric so to say. Sex is Something that we find extaordinary in every aspect, from a certain line of the body to the sound of breathing. We like to explore, and loose ourselves in emotions. Most signs are not intense about that stuff, they fear loosing control, and endulging in the pleasures and desires that feed us. bUt all this does also take something from us. We put or souls, hearts on the line to feel, and so we risk getting hurt really bad. But in the end the ride was worth taking, worth IT. Eery one ca say they have power, but scorpios are simply more intense, more deep, more driven, moivated, and seek power because we want to conrol our lives and let no one else be the dictator of our actions.

I do appreciate the curtecy and ur advice, both of u. Thank u very much, and well i'll have to wait and see how I can work this right.Thanks

I would agree with sweet pea, I would let fate take it's natural course. Forcing things to happen is not letting nature take it's course, and as for 'living', I'm sure there are plenty of other fish in the sea to 'live' with. It's like if you work with someone and are attracted to them, I wouldn't make a move unless I was sure it was the real deal rather than just out of curiosity or desire cos the consequences can be dire, but if you thrive on drama, then hey, who am i to stop you. I haven't been innocent myself, i have done what you are considering doing (naughty me, naughty me) and it got me into a lot of trouble, but it's all okay now so i suppose in the long run it didn't really matter anyway, and i had my fun (I wouldn't do it again though, or I would give it serious thought now).

Xposed, it sounds like you have made up your mind so do what you want to do and live with the consequences.

If I were a women and could not get at least 7 to 10 inch of love I would not bother.

i think thats what shes hoing for, i mean hoping for.lol
i agree with sweetp, its probably the challange of it all thats making this seem so interesting. my mars is in aries(which can be as intense, if not more than scorpio) i wouldnt want it like that though, i would feel better about it if they broke up because of thier own reasons. what if he just sees u as a challange and then wont care once he puts a notch on his bedpost. then he will get the power and not u. then he meets your friend and.....well, u get the picture. your gonna do what u think is best for u and it probably doesnt matter what we say so .......ummm..good luck

xposed, i wasnt calling u a hoe so relax. i was just kidding.

You know some people just need to experiance and afterward they find the answer. Lo and behold though, sometimes we lose friends and we become just another notch on someone's tatoo. Until the next time we continue to do it again until we are alone and used. That isn't a very good feeling now is it. Why don't you just go and get a tatoo and
in years to come you can look at that tatoo and try to remember why you got it in the first place. Kind of like how you will feel after your current experiance.

well..so much good advice was given here and on th cap board that i don't really need to put in my two cents..
so to you expozed, i say, pace yourself, and good luck!

ok, thank u for everything

Cj, you're funny, lol!

Oh yeah, Sweet-P, I agree, power has to be *earned*, and true power is when you have the right intentions. Power is an energy that flows from within, and i believe that to be truelly powerful, you must first become powerless. Sometimes the most power-less acts are the most powerful; just look at Jesus. I think life is a paradox. Those who appear powerful are not powerful at all. Just take George Bush for example. Yes, he may be the president of the United States, but he is not 'powerful' man. It is not powerful to kill civilians in a third world country, it is not powerful to attack with brute force without first trying dialogue, and it is not powerful to want to be powerful... What IS powerful, however, is putting out your hand to help someone.... The most powerful things are compassion, tolerance and patience.

Oh anyway, I'm on a rave, but I just wanted to raise the point that i think the most 'powerful' thing you can do in any situation is to be dignified. If you've had to fight dirty for something, it is not worth having, and it will never truelly feel like yours.

Well that is my piece of wisdom for the day, for what it's worth. Just be aware that what you do today effects you tomorrow.

Great wisdom Libragirl 🙂 I agree with what you said.

Less is more 😉 = Powerful

LOL, ok

You guys seem have it all figured out.
Let's see what u call power is what i have right now, but i don't feel satisfied. I've helped many, I have given most of the time and have recieved little, Noble isn't it? and I don't feel that happy, so maybe why not try something different? I M COMPASSIONATE, AND TOLERANT AND TOO PATIENT, BUT TO TELL U SOMETHING THAT NEVER SEEM TO GET ME ANYTHING I WANTED. HAS IT DONE SO TO U? i ALWAYS HAD TO BE CLEVER AND RESOURCEFUL TO GET WHAT I WANT. PLEASE ENLIGHTEN ME, AND GIVE ME EXAMPLES FROM UR OWN EXPERIENCES, DON'T JUST GENERALIZE EVERYTHING IN ONE PARAGRAPH, THERE ARE MANY DETAILS THAT ARE VERY SIGNIFICANT.
AS FOR THE PRESDENT I DON'T THINK WE ALL KOW ENOUGH TO BE JUDJING HIM.

Xposed, i know what you mean about standing back, being 'noble' and not getting what you want, i have often toyed with this idea, thinking "am i just being apathetic?". I don't know, there seems to be a fine line between 'going for' what you want, and sitting back and waiting for opportunities.

Ok, I'll give you an example. I liked this girl once (i am gay) and instead of sitting back and letting it happen i jumped right in, head first. It turned out to be a really bad relationship, i should have just sat back and let it unfold naturally. It would have either passed me by, thus saving me heart-ache and pain, or it may have eventuated into something a little more balanced, rather than based on desperation (i feared that if i didn't make a move, she would disappear out of my life forever).

An example of sitting back and letting things happen. As i write this post i realise more and more that you may be right. I think i have been way too unassertive in my life, but i think the answer to the dilemma is to put yourself forward and if it doesn't work out, then you have to move on. Infact, the more i think about it, the more i have let relationships pass me by. I am sick of the one missing out. Maybe you are on to something Xposed... Hmm. To answer your question about whether helping others etc... has given me what i've wanted, no it hasn't, it has just made me live with myself better. Well, I'm sick of living with myself, I'm moving out 😉

Tell me what you think, I am interested in hearing your thoughts on getting what you want.

Well pretty much, life is what u make it. For me it is very convenient to say, yes I will wait and let life come to me, but it doesn't. I have to chase it and crab it by the foot, u know? And I don't know if u noticed but time slips by with giant feet, and one day, if u or I keep on waiting We'll realize we did nothing in our life. I want to congratulate u for going for what u wanted. It doesn't matter that things didn't work out, it was an experience, u took it, and it's not ur fault for why u guys are not together. It takes two to make it work. One can't put all the effort. As long as u look, and search and take chances there is no way u will Have regrets, or go wrong. Follow ur heart. It's risky, but only those who don't have a life tell u other wise. U know u did as much as u could, and that's the fact that u rely on, and that feeds u more and more. Think of all the opporunities that u could have had, if only u made a move, if only u did something, if u put urself out there, In the face of life, instead of hiding, and pretending ur not. U only get one chance, in this life time, so why not go out there and grab that thing that u want, Live for the day when u'll get it, struggle, anything, if u don't even do this much, how will ur dreames ever cometrue? Work to get it. I train myself to go out of my comfort zone, to say hi to someone new, to innitiate a conversation, it's awkward, and it's agressive, but how else are u suppose to get what u want? No one, except ur parents only gave u what u wanted without working for it.

Life consumes us anyway, we might as well consume ourselves getting what the heck we want in this life. I feel so sick of myself when I make excuses for why things aren't the way i want them. It's cuz I never did anything to make them that way. Why should things fall in place on their own. Does anything really? Nope. It's also about fear. We, U , me, are afraid of making mistakes, we don't like the smell of failure, we don't want to fail. But then we never win either. and the wins are little ones. Now imagine, putting urself in the fighting rink, and giving it ur all, and u win, wouldn't that be a big event in ur life, that u are proud of. To sleepy to write anymore, but u get it right,
I hope i don't sound all knowing, but I have to listen to myself talk in my mind like this. LOL

No Xposed, it's good, and i get it and i thank you 😉 What can i say? You are right. We should all go for what we want and not let fear rule our lives. I think you're right about following your heart too. It's just so risky when it comes to relationship stuff. The rest of it i can do, but the relationships... Ok, i am now going to follow my heart.

Hey Xposed, have an excellent day 😉

Well, I hope i helped a little. we are all confused sometimes, and I still am, but what matter is what ur heart says. U can't go wrong, and that's that. I wish u all the best in life.

Tylly

Ask yourself this question:
What is your FIRST PRIORITY?

If it's love that you want, then you can have it and NOTHING IS GONNA STOP IT. What is it? I know what I want, do you? I am not playin anymore!

I keep hitting enter and not yet finished, lol.

You have to have your priorities straight. Figure out what you REALLY want in life and future. Get your head together with your heart, and then go for it!

"What are you doing to be losing the one you held them so tight in your hand?"

Dont get to careful with the steps you choose!