How do you deal with passive/aggressive people?

How do you deal with passive/aggressive people? That applies to people in general: scorp man, cappie mom, taurus dad etc

sagitTAUries- cute site🙂 funny
taurus/aries-cusp - nope, i'm an aries with a scor moon

FuckinA- can't really move on when it's your parents🙂

good advice sagigoat. thanx!

Just kill 'em.

I say fuck'em. Don't tell me what to do if you can't tell it to me in front of my face. I don't take orders from cowards. Either man up or I'll take anything and everything from you. Literally and figuratively. Passive aggressive people piss me off because most of them don't get anything done. I live with one and I want to rip his head off I swear mofo needs to earn his keep. Rant done, carry on.

Why would you add more fuel to the already raging fire that is DK? I mean do you really want an early funeral lol? I mean pissing me off once in a while is okay and all but to keep piling it on means you die now! No amount of sorbet could put out that kind of fury.

Really? Why? DK bad guy! He no good! No! Bad! Bad! Bad! Stay away!

^ My aunt when she doesn't want any of her kids emulating their favourite older cousin.

People say that but I don't buy it. I think they're just humoring me for my own sake.

I was kidding lol.

Just like my Pokemon card collection.

A Scorp at my job is passive aggressive. It's kinda difficult to avoid ppl you work with closely.

AND...I'm willing to bet at least half of you have p/a tendencies. Sometimes the behaviors that are so recognizable in others can be found somewhere w/in ourselves. Perhaps at a different frequency. Look closely. People have their moments.


We are all victims of circumstance. 😛

I was married to a P-A for years. I didnt even know what the term passive-aggressive meant at the time, let alone realise what her behavior pattern was. I just knew that when she hit me with her zinger (the 'aggressive' part of P-A), it always made me bitter and angry. It was the "got you back" thing that was her reward. They avoid conflict and disagreement like the plague, which within any marriage is unavoidable. It was her inability to effectively and assertively deal with these issues that she shriveled away from.

They lack the coping mechanisms to negotiate with anyone who doesnt agree with them, or let them get thier way. So they turn to psychological revenge.

BTW, one of her favorite tactics was known as "gaslighting". Its devastating when you dont know its happening to you.

My Ex's Mum had the whole family wrapped round her little finger. If they crossed her, she got a migraine, and boy did they suffer THEN! Had to tiptoe round the house, etc. The key is in that 'had to'. Of course, nobody HAS TO do anything, and that's the key. As people have said, call them on it, refuse to play.

You are bound to see it in the office if you work in one. I have a colleague who pisses everyone off, yet somehow, we none of us confront her 'in case it upsets her'. WTF— We all argue like mad sometimes and love each other to bits.

Passive aggressive people have a lot of power but it is POWER WE GIVE TO THEM BY AVOIDING CONFRONTATION.

I'm still working on that one myself but at least I'm less of an offender and hopefully less of a victim of it in others too.

Always look to yourself when thinking about what irritates you in others. Very often you are behaving in similar ways at different times... that's why it gets to you. That was certainly true of my Mum and me, though it took me till my thirties to admit it and deal with it! If it's a parent, I think you need to realise that you may never get 'closure' (ie an apology, an admission, whatever). Then the difficult thing is to step away from being drawn in, This gets easier with age, distance and independence. It's very, very hard to sort it whilst you live at home. Don't be too hard on yourself, get some friends to support you (like my teenage boyfriend who pointed out that I was in the right over some issue - it had honestly never occurred to me that I could be in the right and I was stunned, but it moved me on!) Use it as an opportunity to learn patience, which is always oing to come in useful!