How do you work with a scorpio's moods, control & oversensativity?

How do you work with a scorpio's moods, control & oversensativity?

The majority of our arguments are because he takes offence to something i do or say. He gives me the cold shoulder and silent treatment. I try to get him to discuss why he's upset with me but he refuses or says nothing is wrong.

It makes me feel uncomfortable, so i want to leave, but he doesnt want me to go. Am i expected to stay and feel punished for something i didnt mean to do?

The things that he goes in a mood about seem superficial to me. Examples are:

i left the room to get my bank card, got distracted by my phone and was longer than he expected.

I got frustrated trying to order pizza online while walking and asked if i could just order it when i got in (maybe slightly snappy).

Mentioned that i may stay at my place rather than go to his to finish some work.

Whats the best way to handle his moodiness, when i unintentionally upset him?

Also... if he makes any attempt at affection and i dont respond immediately, he gets very offended and pushes me away in a mean way.

Him

Sun- scorpio

Moon- virgo

Mercury- sagitarius

Venus- sagitarius

Mars- Leo

Jupiter- virgo

Saturn- virgo

Uranus- Scorpio

Neptune- sagitarius

Pluto- libra

Me

Sun- Sagitarius

Moon- Cancer

Mercury- Scorpio

Venus- Capricorn

Mars- Virgo

Jupiter- Virgo

Saturn- Virgo

Uranus- Scorpio

Neptune- Sagitarius

Pluto- Libra

you can't.

that's probably the only moodiness you know about, they pick on such little things you don't even think about it

and if he feels slightly rejected in any way he'll push then pull then push then pull, probably will get to playing games with you to see how you react

my advice is patience and calmness

a lot and lot of patience

make sure he's worth it first and then just be mature about all his moods and his tests and you'll last

however if you don't have time for that drop him

also, may i ask you, are his moods like sudden? you feel like he just goes cold for no reason at times and you feel like he's lost interest?

This sounds somewhat familiar. He was an absolute sweetheart, but I used to get the silent treatment from my Scorpio, so I've given him the silent treatment for 18 months. Well, no, actually I ended things properly and told him I wanted no further contact from him, which he often ignores and keeps coming back to say he loves me. Which I have ignored for 18 months.

They can be extremely manipulative. After I ended things I had various behaviours being employed by him: threatening to commit suicide, him moving to another country to never return again, the usual, including a 9-page email of desperation. Beware the post break-up behaviours and backlash if you're thinking of ending it and make sure you have lots of support.

Sensitivity isn't always easy for us Saggies, we're so forthright, upfront and logical, but if you feel you're too different and you don't want to change yourself for him then don't. If you try being sensitive and get the same reactions he's unlikely to change. An honest conversation would also be a good place to start. If you're saying he won't communicate then that might be another sign of control from him, or he might need time to process the things he is feeling. It also depends on the level of trust the two of you developed in the relationship to enable him to emote.

My Scorpio said once that I was "bossy". Well I thought I was happy, emotionally-balanced and assertive. He then started to put me down with words like "you don't seriously think you can achieve that do you?" and more underhand criticisms. I'd had enough of his jealousy and attempts to control me and insecurities after I had given him my total, unconditional support.

Know when to walk away, but if that's what you decide, be careful to do so in a way that causes minimal damage to both him and yourself x

Just to add (incase it sounds like all male scorpios are being tarnished with the same brush) my father is a Scorpio too. He once said that the silent treatment is an underhand form of emotional warfare and not employed by mature people!

Thanks so much for your advice and comments.

They really help. I want to understand whats going on and hiw to handle it.

He sometimes seems to lose interest, but it's been 8 months and he always wants to see me and text me.

What should i do when after an argument, he tests the water to try to put it in the past?

Should i stand my ground letting him know im unhappy with how hes treated me, wait a while to give him space or just forgive?

When he feels slight rejection and he pushes and pulls, Whats the best way to react?

Hes obviously testing me to see what i will and won't put up with...but he keeps making the same moody mistakes with me over and over again.

He says I drag things on.

I just want to be loved and get to a stage where he's honest and open with me.

BTW...his ex of 5 years cheeted on him.

Posted by Reincarnation
He sounds young.

He's 40

Honesly, sounds like too much work imo

If somebody makes you unhappu and isn't treating you right, end it.

I know Scorpio men are complicated but 8 months is a long time to feel incomplete with your partner.

Posted by HopefullyIrememberthisone
Honesly, sounds like too much work imo

If somebody makes you unhappu and isn't treating you right, end it.

I know Scorpio men are complicated but 8 months is a long time to feel incomplete with your partner.

+1

Posted by AzureBlue
Just to add (incase it sounds like all male scorpios are being tarnished with the same brush) my father is a Scorpio too. He once said that the silent treatment is an underhand form of emotional warfare and not employed by mature people!

This.

This sounds a lot like my ex. I made the mistake of getting in deep, and I would always forgive, forgive, forgive. He probably IS testing to see what you'll put up with, so I would calmly tell him you're not okay with that form of communication (or lack thereof) and that if he wants to be with you, he's going to have to change.

Honestly, I think therapy will be needed if he doesn't change and you want it to work. It took my guy losing me for him to really try to change. He had gotten so much better, but I think his insecurities made him go back to his old habits. My ex is SO incredibly loving and makes me the center of his world when things are fine, but he is emotionally immature when he is hurt.

I recommend stand your ground in a loving way, and possibly have a professional tell him what he's doing is somewhat abusive and definitely immature.

But, if you are able to leave, my suggestion is to run like hell. lol

you do nothing.

you stand back

and let us deal.

when we better

we come back.

Just ignore him. But when he contacts you and comes back for affection, then give in. If he's ready to accept it, you need to give it.

I agree with the fear comment^^^^ Until he realizes that he still has some healing to do, nothing you do or say will be good enough. I know it doesn't seem like this is what the problem is but hurt Scorpio men can do some serious damage - hell, most PEOPLE can but scorpio men especially. Plus, if youre a sag you probably are rather confident which only adds fuel to the fire. Not saying you two aren't compatible but he has some inner work to do before he can love anyone else without damaging them.