How to break it off with a Scorpio?

Hello lovely Scorpios. 🙂 I find you to be an incredible bunch.

So here's the deal: I got involved with a Scorp about a year ago, and I was so excited about it that I didn't play my cards right and slept with him too soon and ohmygod it was glorious. But he filed me away as a fuck buddy. I kept hoping it'd turn into something bigger and better. Being with him taught me so much about myself, including the fact that I'm not wired for casual sex. I kept wanting to end it, but I was to comfortable all snuggled up in his web. I confronted him once or twice about us not being on the same page emotionally, and he said I could leave him anytime I wanted to. If only it were that easy.

About three months ago I moved back home and began to get him out of my system. I even wrote him a letter to help me get some closure... But I'm moving back. He found out about it and told me to tell him when I get back so we could pick things up again. But as much as I love how he makes me feel, I hate the idea of just being a fuck buddy. I'm a Leo and I want to be on a pedestal damnit! Lol 🙂 I want more.

The problem is that I kept texting him, and so there's been a build up to our reunion. But now that I'm calling it off I don't want to hurt him. Well, I really just don't wanna get stung. So what would you suggest? (My original idea was to just not let him know I was in town, and let him know I wasn't interested anymore if he asked me about getting together.)

His astro info:
Sun: Scorpio
Moon: Cancer or Leo, not sure
Mercury: Scorpio
Venus: Scorpio
Mars: Capricorn

Thanks in advance for your help!

I don't see what the problem is. The possibility of hurting him doesn't seem to be an issue here since casual sex was the basis of your communication. More importantly, he actually welcomed you to exit anytime you want. So, I think it is that easy (at least for him I'd assume). Is it not that easy for you? It sounds like you developed feelings for him and if so, have you become emotionally attached? Do you really want to say goodbye? I imagine that might be difficult if you really like him. I suggest you handle this in the way that is most comfortable for YOU. At most, his pride might be a little hurt because he was anticipating the usual, but he'll get over it. No worries. 🙂

Yeah, I'm pretty emotionally attached. And no, I don't want to end it but I'm pretty sure I *need* to. It's like I'm living in my own fantasy world where he's concerned and I'll always be trying to devise a plan to get him to fall in love with me once and for all when it's reeeally just not gonna happen that way. Like he knows how I feel about him, and I'll try to wiggle my way out of it, but he has a way of pulling me back in again. It's exhausting and I need to move on.

I guess it's good to know he won't be too hurt by it.

It's good that you are so self-aware and know what you need to do. It's the "carrying out" of the plan that always seems to be the most difficult part. The fact that you even considered how he might be affected by it is selfless and heartening. I wish you all the best!

Ughhh yeah, I'm notoriously bad at carrying out my plans. I have no earth in my chart whatsoevs. Well... Neptune's in Capricorn. On the bright side, now's an excellent time to exercise my willpower, something Scorpios have so naturally.

Anyway, thanks lady. 🙂 You helped me out.