Cliched request for women scorpio's input:P

How often have you ever tried to reconnect with an ex-boyfriend? If you did, what were you after?

In my case, this is coming after a few years of mutual cold shoulders and after parting on pretty bad terms. I'm not looking for a crystal ball, just an honest opinion.

Me: Sun Scorp Moon: Aries Rising: Gemini Her: Sun Scorp Moon: Scorp Rising: Scorp

I'm most excited about your occupation. How's that going for you? What's the most rewarding part? What are the challenges?

To answer your question, no. I've never tried to reconnect with an ex once I accepted the relationship was over. But, that may not be saying much since I've only ever had two boyfriends. Did you ask her what she was after? If not, maybe you should ask her what she's looking to get out of this? I don't know. I don't see the harm in that. Good luck.

lol yeah....where are you teaching? where 'abroad' in particular?

i've never gone back to an ex but i've only really had one lol!!

if you want to know her motives you have to observe her behaviour and you'll get your answer.

Boom. Roxi, NAILED it! She might come out and say it. But you gotta listen to what people say and more importantly, watch they do.

I'm in Zagreb, Croatia and I teach at private language schools here. I'm finishing my MA in Applied Linguistics with hopes of jumping into the university level..not many native speakers here! It's a great job all things considered.

She never really struck me as the vengeful type, more often she'd just walk away when the situation wasn't acceptable and be silent for days or weeks (or years in this case.) She's invited me to a concert/birthday party this weekend, but I'm not going to be in town. This situation is making me neurotic..lol. That should probably be a key to not respond.

Posted by Scorp73

She never really struck me as the vengeful type, more often she'd just walk away when the situation wasn't acceptable and be silent for days or weeks (or years in this case.)

Oh, she sounds like me! I'm not vengeful (anymore), but I will just disconnect from persons/situations that give me grief.

But, wait...WAIITTTT...HOW did she invite you to this party? By what means did she contact you? Aside from this invite, has she reached out to you in any other way or at any other time recently?

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Posted by Scorp73

She never really struck me as the vengeful type, more often she'd just walk away when the situation wasn't acceptable and be silent for days or weeks (or years in this case.)

Oh, she sounds like me! I'm not vengeful (anymore), but I will just disconnect from persons/situations that give me grief.

But, wait...WAIITTTT...HOW did she invite you to this party? By what means did she contact you? Aside from this invite, has she reached out to you in any other way or at any other time recently?

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I reached out to her a few times over a year ago, but she responded less than 50% of the time. It seemed like a hint to leave her alone, so that's what I did. We've had no contact in the last 12 months or so. To invite me, she sent me a msg on Facebook of all things even though we're not "friends" there anymore.

The only time I reached out to an ex is to get closure. I don't understand the vengeance thing. It would be a waste of time and unneccessary negative emotions inflicted upon myself.

Now that I'm connected occasionally with him again -- it wouldn't matter if he wanted me back even if badly -- I do not want him back! Our relation was a highly emotional one.

I think you should respond to her, which is what civilized grown-ups should do. If you do not reply, it makes the MAN look like a coward in my eyes. Which my ex did to me by ignoring my occasional messages in the beginning. We connected last year again. That is after 3-4 years.

Again... it did bring closure to me, perhaps for him, too, as he explained his part of the story. I did think of inviting him to a garden party in my backyard this summer. I found out he was abroad at the time. Anyway... I was thinking -- we perhaps -- could build some friendly connection, because we were very close to each other. I'd definitely stay f a r away from any physical connection with him. He was very potent for me.

All this means... I'm over him. Therefore, I can accept to see him with someone else.

I've never gone back to an ex.

(If there only was a sexual relation, that doesn't count as ex to me).

I reached out to her a few times over a year ago, but she responded less than 50% of the time. It seemed like a hint to leave her alone, so that's what I did. We've had no contact in the last 12 months or so. To invite me, she sent me a msg on Facebook of all things even though we're not "friends" there anymore.

Perhaps you said something she didn't wish to answer. Sometimes I do same when I feel that my response can be taken the wrong way. Sometimes I make up a totally irrelevant new conversation. He likes to talk in sexual inuendos sometimes. But as I said, I stay far away from such or anything that implies 'flirting' back.

I was too hurt at the time and I woudn't allow myself getting pulled back again. However as friend, I do miss the way we were close to each other and able to exchange even our deepest secrets and emotions.

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She never really struck me as the vengeful type, more often she'd just walk away when the situation wasn't acceptable and be silent for days or weeks (or years in this case.)

Oh, she sounds like me! I'm not vengeful (anymore), but I will just disconnect from persons/situations that give me grief.

But, wait...WAIITTTT...HOW did she invite you to this party? By what means did she contact you? Aside from this invite, has she reached out to you in any other way or at any other time recently?

I reached out to her a few times over a year ago, but she responded less than 50% of the time. It seemed like a hint to leave her alone, so that's what I did. We've had no contact in the last 12 months or so. To invite me, she sent me a msg on Facebook of all things even though we're not "friends" there anymore.

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I was afraid you'd say that. A facebook invite? After not really talking to you and barely responding to you all this while? I don't trust it, dude. Obviously, you know her better than I do, but sometimes people "rekindle" when they have a desire for you to see how great their life is now that you're no longer in it. You know, like being showy without actually bragging. Like, "Come to my party/wedding/event and see how hot my new man is/my cool new career/my amazing house. I beat you! I win!!" That sort of thing. *shrugs* My vote is to SKIP IT!! But that's just my humble opinion.

@SS-I've got to skip it anyway and I just responded to her that I wouldn't be attending. I told her I'd be back in town next week and she could contact me then if she wanted. I'm not expecting much to be honest.

@FUM Hmm, that sounds familiar. We really talked a lot of innuendos with each other. I'll have to keep my wits about me to make sure I don't slip back into an old habit. I'm honestly a bit confused. I really never counted on hearing from her again.

Posted by NovLady
Your intuition would more than likely be accurate...if it makes you feel neurotic...

However, when I have made attempts to reconnect with someone from the past...it was more for closure or reconciliation.

Thanks, Nov! I appreciate that. I actually do miss her in a lot of ways, but I'm a bit gun shy.

How did you go about reconnecting? I've declined the party invite, but I left the door open to talking.

it could just be curiosity? bit of nostalgia perhaps?

why does it matter anyway? you're doing the typical scorp thing of looking for hidden motives and i bet you're inevitably reaching the wrong conclusion cos she's a scorp too, lol!!!

do you wanna see her or not? if you didn't think you would hear from her presumably you've moved on? why then does it matter what her motives are. either go or don't....what's the biggie here—

and fb is the best way to know you're re-connecting with the right person. nothing sinister about it at all, lol.

Posted by NovLady
Hey! I'm an Aries Rising Scorpio with a Gemini Moon. We are opposites!

I've met a Triple Scorpio before. It was so fascinating. Nearly everything she said was cliche "Scorpio talk".
What I think, when I see someone that is double or triple the Scorpio that I am is that I take everything that I feel that is Scorpionic in nature: the sometimes paranoia, suspicion of motives, vengeful impulses, etc. and I multiply by 3 and imagine that to be their inner challenges.

And, if there was mutual cold shoulder action for some time, my guess is that whatever went down between the two of you really hurt her. If she's reaching out again, there's something in the way of seeking closure that may be at play. Whether that closure means exacting revenge or needing to understand...hmmm, you would know better than anybody.

NovLady,
According to Ellybean, I am a double Scorp -
According to myself, I been black balled with that Black Moon and......
I'm pleading the 5th that got denied when I found in my name 666. 😢
C'est La Vie

We're texting back and forth now. I'm amused and paranoid at the same time. Haha. Neurotic city is calling.