SEX + SCORP = BABY?

I've been contemplating writing this, but I was too embarrassed to for obvious reasons. I cant get it out of my mind so here it goes..

The scorp and i have been having problems for such a new relationship and i must admit that i havent been kind to him in the last few weeks, he gets on my nerves tbh. I wont go into much into details about our spats, but i'll sketch some out. We had a fight about me going over to my 'old house' for my son (@ my place) and i threw him out in the middle of the night bcause he wouldnt quit arguing (and annoying me). My son couldnt come over for a visit bcause he had an ear infection due to water getting into his ear during a swimming lesson @ his school, so i had to go over to my 'old house' to be with him. I told the scorp not to call during my visit there (divorce is not over yet and husband doesnt know about him- sensitive issue still) and he kept asking where i would sleep, blah-blah-blah. He thought that i went there to rekindle romance with my husband and that irritated me.

Fastforward..now he wants a baby! We've been using protection since im not on birth control, it makes me fat, lol. So this other day he was all excited and wanted to jump me without protection, i said no glove no love. He didnt have any (condoms)on purpose so i made him to go buy them. He came back, we did what we did, but he kept mumbling about making babies, lol. The thing is, now i dont trust him, if he fiddles too long with a condom im afraid he is pricking holes on it and when he has it on i make sure its 'really' on, not just lights playing tricks on me.

My conclusion is that its either he is trying to 'trap' me with a baby or is trying to compete with my husband since i have a child with him and now its threatening him..not sure.

I'll answer any replies later, im going out somewhere with him, lol. Cheers for now

Continue being careful not to get pregnant. You may end up with babies from different fathers and no relationship. It's easy for a guy to ask for a baby.

As FUM wrote, do not get knocked up. If the relationship is bad now, a baby will make things worse. He can be jealous that you and your ex have a child and he does not. Can also be afraid that you may get back with your ex. Just needs assuring that you won't. Actions speak louder than words.

Posted by WaterCup
I've been contemplating writing this, but I was too embarrassed to for obvious reasons. I cant get it out of my mind so here it goes..

The scorp and i have been having problems for such a new relationship and i must admit that i havent been kind to him in the last few weeks, he gets on my nerves tbh. I wont go into much into details about our spats, but i'll sketch some out. We had a fight about me going over to my 'old house' for my son (@ my place) and i threw him out in the middle of the night bcause he wouldnt quit arguing (and annoying me). My son couldnt come over for a visit bcause he had an ear infection due to water getting into his ear during a swimming lesson @ his school, so i had to go over to my 'old house' to be with him. I told the scorp not to call during my visit there (divorce is not over yet and husband doesnt know about him- sensitive issue still) and he kept asking where i would sleep, blah-blah-blah. He thought that i went there to rekindle romance with my husband and that irritated me.

Fastforward..now he wants a baby! We've been using protection since im not on birth control, it makes me fat, lol. So this other day he was all excited and wanted to jump me without protection, i said no glove no love. He didnt have any (condoms)on purpose so i made him to go buy them. He came back, we did what we did, but he kept mumbling about making babies, lol. The thing is, now i dont trust him, if he fiddles too long with a condom im afraid he is pricking holes on it and when he has it on i make sure its 'really' on, not just lights playing tricks on me.

My conclusion is that its either he is trying to 'trap' me with a baby or is trying to compete with my husband since i have a child with him and now its threatening him..not sure.

^^^^^

a) He's jealous.
b) He's suspicious of your potential "rekindling" because you loved or were with your husband before and because of your child.
c) He wants a long term commitment from you.
d) In his mind, a baby would tell him that you want a long term commitment with him.
e) His annoying you is his fear of losing you.

I can see you are there for your son, but it's hard for him to see that.
The new scorp relationship stage unfolding while the soon to be x husband stage is yet to be closed, tells me that
you two are working awfully fast. Risky business.

I am seeing some REAL hazards for you, here. A world of hurt!
Be careful Watercup, don't get yourself hurt on top of whatever hurt you're already carrying.

Watercup! NO!!! It's a trap! Don't do it.

Thanks everybody for the replies and mrfire your response in particular gave me food for thought.

Melly, nothing in my previous posts indicated that i dont like/trust him. Having disagreements with him doesnt necessarily mean i dont like him and the trust problems is something that just surfaced now due to this. I like him which is why im with him in the 1st place. But the new development is honestly making me think twice. I havent been with him intimately for about a wk now due to the mentioned issue, its freaking me out and i explained it to him and he said he will never trick me like that, but im not so sure, lol

Size zero, yeah i have complications with birth control beside weight gain. I cant seem to find one that agrees with me. Ive tried combined pills, nur-isterate and other kinds which is why i chose to settle for condoms instead.

Melly, yes u have. Where does it say i dont like him? I admitted the trust part on my op, what more do u want me to fill u in on?

cbseawind, how do u assure a person about something that u r not even thinking about doing?

Xin, i know girl. And what i dont get is that he already has a son of his own, a few months younger than mine so i dont really get the sudden broodiness

Get an IUD! When you're ready to have a baby, you can have it removed. The copper one doesn't use hormones and its relatively painless.

Posted by WaterCup
Xin, i know girl. And what i dont get is that he already has a son of his own, a few months younger than mine so i dont really get the sudden broodiness

It's definitely about your ex. Mine used to get that way and would make references to what ever x, y, z had and he wanted it to. Yet im not that much of a dummie. They get so broody when there is competition.

Your posts stress me out.

Can't imagine you understand your scorpio boyfriend. I'm also siding with mellymel on her posts. You speak kindof rough about this man you supposedly like. Maybe I am just taking those words from you more seriously than you intend.

:/

How long have you been dating?

Truecap, whats an iud and how does it work? Xin, whats sad is that theres no competition so i dont get what he is competing against. Im divorcing, unless he is competing to be the 1st one out the door, lol. Wow @ your ex

Scorpio jealously can get out of hand, yes. But it isn't something to mock.

What I don't think other elements will understand is the depth of feeling in the scorpio (or cancer or pisces).... That these "negative traits" stem from real, alive, deep feelings that vibrate from the pits of our very being. And while reactions to these feelings may seem out of hand at times, they need to be soothed and understood, not mocked.

Maybe his jealousy comes from insecurity, but I imagine it also comes from a place of his fear of losing you, someone he cares for.

I know we don't know the full story, but your ex not knowing of your current.. And you going to your exes, may make your scorpio think of your exes intentions with you, or with winning you back since he doesn't know you are with someone new.

I am rambling but am I right here?

...

Loulore, im not a gentle kind of person and i stated everything (my weaknesses too) so i dont paint myself as an angel and him a devil. We've bee together for 2&half to 3mnts not sure, im not into anniversaries and counting.

Oh, holy crap. That's not a very long time :/

I don't foresee this lasting :/

Good luck tho.

Loulore, great point there with the last paragraph, but how do i make him trust me and not be paranoid? Forget what he thinks about the ex since he is not dating him but me.

My comment referencing "mocking" was inspired by xins post mostly.

Air will not understand water unless water has a lot of air placements.

Because then at least water will understand why air doesn't understand them.

And visa versa.

Mmmm...Ok I am going to open my big mouth here for a second because I for some odd reason got really heated reading Loulore's posts.

First off Lou you need to understand that just because you live in fantasy land with rainbows and glitter ponies with your Scorpio doesn't mean the rest of us are. Ok?

Second it doesn't mean that she doesn't understand him. Just because your boyfriend is acting right (which no offense male Scorps) for once doesn't mean that she doesn't know him, so that has to be the answer because your Scorpio can do no wrong. Plus you're a water sign of course you fucking get him....

Thirdly this quote about people not understanding the depth of emotion that come from water signs, that is NOT our fault. Water signs need to communicate it to other people in a language they understand. Don't expect everyone to be emotionally telepathic and empathetic when certain signs all they do is test the fuck out of you and irritate you in the end. The way that water signs deliver this information is sometimes borderline psychotic.

And last just because someone has insecurity doesn't mean they have a right to go around being a dumb ass, making other people suffer. It's not the job of any mate to sooth anyone's insecurities. You want that, see a fucking therapist.

I dont forsee it lasting too but who really knows

You should make your new man known to your ex. And let your scorp know that the ex knows about him. Being a lover held in secret is not the most trust-producing place to be.

How long have you been split from your ex?
Did you give yourself a year to recover from the split?

These are rhetorical questions and while I don't know your sitch, I feel it's healthy to recoup after relationships, and seeing the issues you've posted on the scorp board over the past month (having only been with your scorp for 3 months) I do wonder if you are ready to date?

Not trying to get personal, just throwing out my own impressions.

Xin, I absolutely had no intention of heating anyone up, just letting you know that. I was writing as my ideas were flowing, I've never thought much about what I wrote, before.

And you know, I would probably suck ass in a relationship with an air sign, as I have no air and perhaps I am not very stimulating in that manner. Also, my boyfriend has mercury as mars in air signs, so really, someday he could get bored of me, because I don't know how to relate to or stimulate those parts of him.

I was just being specific about that water sun, and suggesting that when that part of him shines out in a negative or jealous way, soothing him will help him to learn to trust you, versus mocking him, which will make him close up and view you as his enemy, rather than his partner.

Yeah learned that the hard way. It's just some of you water signs expect us a completely different element all together to "get you" and when we don't we get drowned, shunned, or stung the hell out of. I'm sorry but to me I want a man not a baby. If I have to soothe you something is wrong. I find that unattractive. I want you to be BEAST MODE. That's why Cancers and especially Pisces aren't for me. Scorpio's are warriors and yes I find them delicious even though they are so, so, so bad for me.

And mars*

And lol to rainbows and butterflies or however you worded it. I'm a true piscean, so you're right on the mark. :p

Posted by LouLore
And mars*

And lol to rainbows and butterflies or however you worded it. I'm a true piscean, so you're right on the mark. :p

I am aware that you live in the fantasy world. I had to remove a Pisces from my midst recently because he's just irritating with that kind of thing. After he pulled that whole "living in eden" dream on me, yeah my answer to that was no.

I made mistakes with my scorpio, and stepped on his toes in the past, and have had to learn as well.

I met an older scorpio once and we were chatting about my boyfriend. I was asking for advice on something, on an issue we were having, and if I could make the relationship work. He said something along the lines of "if you want to spend the next ten years helping to shape him into the man he's supposed to be, go for it."

I'm prepared to comfort his demons for now.

They'll know one another when im ready, right now im not ready for introductions since there's still a lot to be solved between me & the ex. I dont need a year or whatever to heal over nothing, the split didnt hurt me which is why i quickly dated after it ended. I posted the posts i posted simply bcause no relationship is a smooth sailing, some fight 20 times in 1 day while others dont. And im with Xin in that we fight bcause we have differents style s of expression and its not something i can 'cure' in 3mnts. Btw me and the ex ended it somewhere in the 1st trimester of this year.

Yeah again no. Mine never gave me one reason to want or do anything like that. I mean I could if I wanted to try if he was like a fucking god or something. Your's must be an evolved Scorpion.

Size0, yeah the trying to 'oops' me didnt go unnoticed which is why i dont sleep with him now.

Lmao @ xin

Posted by WaterCup
Truecap, whats an iud and how does it work? Xin, whats sad is that theres no competition so i dont get what he is competing against. Im divorcing, unless he is competing to be the 1st one out the door, lol. Wow @ your ex

I PMed you.

Watercup,
On the other hand....
Have you considered getting fixed and demand your Scorp that you "want a baby!!!!"
Subliminally hint to him about kidnapping your State Governor's baby.

IUD stands for
Improvised Uberexplosive Device.

Fireass - Yeah and your face stands for shut the hell up! 😄

Anyways, Watercup he might poke holes in that thing. I wouldn't put it past him.
Get on some BC girly or try the IUD.

Posted by IntriguedScorp
So the guy went and got condoms when you asked and now you are ready to believe he's a dick who would puncture the skin to get you pregnant? Am I reading that right?

^^^^That. Hey Scorpions can be fucking insane. I wouldn't put it past him. IT'S A TRAP WATERCUPLET! RUN!

Posted by WaterCup
They'll know one another when im ready, right now im not ready for introductions since there's still a lot to be solved between me & the ex. I dont need a year or whatever to heal over nothing, the split didnt hurt me which is why i quickly dated after it ended. I posted the posts i posted simply bcause no relationship is a smooth sailing, some fight 20 times in 1 day while others dont. And im with Xin in that we fight bcause we have differents style s of expression and its not something i can 'cure' in 3mnts. Btw me and the ex ended it somewhere in the 1st trimester of this year.

Don't introduce them just yet. When my at the time soon-to-be-ex husband found out I had a boyfriend, he started trying to change stuff with the divorce settlement and began to treat me like shit. Of course, your situation might be different.

Posted by truecap

Posted by WaterCup
They'll know one another when im ready, right now im not ready for introductions since there's still a lot to be solved between me & the ex. I dont need a year or whatever to heal over nothing, the split didnt hurt me which is why i quickly dated after it ended. I posted the posts i posted simply bcause no relationship is a smooth sailing, some fight 20 times in 1 day while others dont. And im with Xin in that we fight bcause we have differents style s of expression and its not something i can 'cure' in 3mnts. Btw me and the ex ended it somewhere in the 1st trimester of this year.

Don't introduce them just yet. When my at the time soon-to-be-ex husband found out I had a boyfriend, he started trying to change stuff with the divorce settlement and began to treat me like shit. Of course, your situation might be different.

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^^^^Ooo ooo this too! Good advice.

Intriguedscorp, well its something very popular with guys here so yeah u read that right. He could have stayed and slept, but he chose to go- the choice was his, not forced

Dazed, im an aqua, i focus on the big picture, the point, whatever- i get bored with writing whats unimportant. If asked for more details i give them, i just dont put them all in a single post since i dont hve whole day or writing a novel.

And hello, he knew i wasnt divorced yet but still wanted to go out with me which means he asked for the so called disrespect.

He is the one troubled, not me, why isnt he doing the move himself? He is not a hostage, u know

And i didnt feel like saying it so?

Posted by Xin
Fireass - Yeah and your face stands for shut the hell up! 😄

Anyways, Watercup he might poke holes in that thing. I wouldn't put it past him.
Get on some BC girly or try the IUD.

ummm, Not sure what that's all about.

They used/use them over in the Middle East.
First they bury them, then when the army comes, they explode.
Very simple strategy.
Effective?
Not particularly as the army keeps on goin', though, a few fall.

I never said i was mother theresa and since we are both consenting adults, it is his right too to choose to be the 'bigger person', a midget or whatever, OR TO NOT- we both didnt.

Im selfish? Lmao. If i am so is he bcause he is here, isnt he (he couldnt wait either). He is no hynotized zombie

Yes was the correct answer for me

Who is keeping him there other than himself? He is being selfish and inconsiderate to himself if thats the case