How to get rid of a Scorpio male

I met the Scorp two years ago at work, we've had a nice conversation about literature and arts and exchanged numbers bc I offered him help with some editing. He is married and has a little son. He gave me some information about his struggling relationship and I was polite but distant bc I was already just falling for my Bull at that time. Every conversation was strictly work related to me.

Nevertheless the Scorp started to call me in the middle of the night, trying to invite me for dinner, meeting for coffee etc. I told him I'd be listening if he needs somebody to talk to but that's it. He just doesn't seem to get it! I really like to work on his manuscript but he makes it difficult for me to talk to him at all. How should I handle this?

just tell him that you are not interested.

be straight forward.

Thanks for your replies, what troubles me is that I've already told him twice that whatever he's projecting onto me, I'm not reciprocating. He doesn't seem to believe me for whatever reason. Everytime we interact (E-Mail or personally) it starts out as a professional conversation, then he bugs me with his private stuff.

I'm not good at rejecting people who need help/advise at all (and he has real trouble going on), but I've never sent mixed signals. It was obviously wrong to offer him friendship in the first place.
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Posted by exsqueezeme
Throw him in the bin and run away screaming

I would if I was scared. It's more like dafuq.

Posted by waterbearer_fem
Thanks for your replies, what troubles me is that I've already told him twice that whatever he's projecting onto me, I'm not reciprocating. He doesn't seem to believe me for whatever reason. Everytime we interact (E-Mail or personally) it starts out as a professional conversation, then he bugs me with his private stuff.

I'm not good at rejecting people who need help/advise at all (and he has real trouble going on), but I've never sent mixed signals. It was obviously wrong to offer him friendship in the first place.
🙄

gurrll ur NEED to help him is overriding everything else professional...your boundaries are porous.

fine if he's also giving out vibes of platonic, but naw...um.. he wants to get close.

Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by waterbearer_fem
Thanks for your replies, what troubles me is that I've already told him twice that whatever he's projecting onto me, I'm not reciprocating. He doesn't seem to believe me for whatever reason. Everytime we interact (E-Mail or personally) it starts out as a professional conversation, then he bugs me with his private stuff.

I'm not good at rejecting people who need help/advise at all (and he has real trouble going on), but I've never sent mixed signals. It was obviously wrong to offer him friendship in the first place.
🙄

gurrll ur NEED to help him is overriding everything else professional...your boundaries are porous.
fine if he's also giving out vibes of platonic, but naw...um.. he wants to get close.
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I know! You're so right. Inner Aqua says I have to solve every damn problem of every undeserving individual around. 😖
Except mine.

Posted by waterbearer_fem

Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by waterbearer_fem
Thanks for your replies, what troubles me is that I've already told him twice that whatever he's projecting onto me, I'm not reciprocating. He doesn't seem to believe me for whatever reason. Everytime we interact (E-Mail or personally) it starts out as a professional conversation, then he bugs me with his private stuff.

I'm not good at rejecting people who need help/advise at all (and he has real trouble going on), but I've never sent mixed signals. It was obviously wrong to offer him friendship in the first place.
🙄

gurrll ur NEED to help him is overriding everything else professional...your boundaries are porous.
fine if he's also giving out vibes of platonic, but naw...um.. he wants to get close.
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I know! You're so right. Inner Aqua says I have to solve every damn problem of every undeserving individual around. 😖
Except mine. click to expand

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i'm getting dr. phil vibes ;p female style .