How to Step up the Mystery in A Scorp

I am a female scorp dating a Cancer. I know...I know. LOL. But the thing is I really like him. I enjoy the time that we spend together and he seems to like me alot as well.

Well to make a long story short, we have been dating for the last 3 months. We spend a good amount of time together. He is going through some family drama and will have to move from his apartment into his grandmother house to help her out financially. Hes not happy about the drama nor the fact that he has to move.

We had a discussion about our relationship yesterday and he told me that he is not ready for a relationship...b/c of all the drama going on right now. Also, he told me that he has been pushing me away a little to avoid getting into a relationship too soon and that he thinks that things are moving too fast. I offered him the door, and he said that he does not want to stop dating me, he just wants things to move a little slower and more natural. He said that he feels forced sometimes.

My question is this, I know Scorps are supposed to be known for our mystery. I need to turn that up a notch and turn down the possesiveness and the urge to want to be in a relationship with this guy. Also, I have a feeling that the less I want to be in a relationship with him, the more he will want one. Just a guess. So, how can I turn the female Scorp seductive and mysterious traits up to work for me.

I am tired of being the overly attached type. LOL.

Date other men.

Ok...I know I have to change the way I think. I have a really one tracked mind. When I really like someone who I am dating its hard for me to date other people. But I know I have get over that.

Im guessing he's not feeling very independent right now...living with his gramps and all....kinda cramps his dating/relationship style . I suggest you give him his space and be just a friend. See other people if you have to keep distracted and busy...I have a feeling he'll realize what he really wants then.

Yea....thanks Lady M!

"Date other men."

Yeah that and keep yourself occupied with stuff that you enjoy. Go out with your girl friends. Get a makeover. Learn from an Aqua.

LOL@anti. Thanks Amethyst. I dont know where I get this controlling possesive quality about myself. It SUCKS! In a way, I admire the aqaurius and Sags they are so non chalant and laid back. I need to slow myself down more...be more laid back. 🙂 Crazy Scorp!

"Also, I have a feeling that the less I want to be in a relationship with him, the more he will want one. Just a guess. So, how can I turn the female Scorp seductive and mysterious traits up to work for me."

Oh know ... I've been through this before with a cancer guy. Trust me, if he says he doesn't want a relationship right now then the best thing is to just let things be and date other people. If you try to push a relationship then you will end up getting hurt if things don't work out.

Oh noo I am saying the exact opposite. I believe that right now he does not want to be in a realtonship...so I will back off, and not desire one from him.

At the same time, I have made myself WAY to available and eager in the past. I think that possibly if I hadn't ALWAYS been there and the aggresor perhaps things would be slightly different. Atleast, I would have better control over my own emotions. I realize that no man (Cancer or not) wants to be with a woman who answers his every beck and call and presents no challenge what so ever.

So, there are two reasons why I want 2 become more mysterious and back away and let him chase me...reason one, for myself. So I can begin to emotionally detach and live my life and be happy regardless of what he does. Reason 2, so that maybe he will chase me and value and appreciate me more...miss me a little, instead of me always in his face pushing the issue. And if not, who cares b/c I will be over it, hopefully. 🙂