How would you answer this question?

Being popular with men is definitely a double edged sword. There's three guys I hang out with on a regular basis (two are just my friends, but they like me, one is the guy I've been seeing for 2 months- all three of them are friends with each other). The two that are friends are far more available than the third one and we hang out a lot more, feel like I can tell one of them anything, and the other has a huge crush on me (though all three of these guys are into me to varying degrees). I talk to both of these guys about the third one, they know that I'm into him and that he is confusing me.. and they also know that I've discovered about myself that I can only be into one person at a time. The one I can tell anything to tells me hes tired of seeing me being yo-yo'd around and I deserve better than that. The one with the huge crush on me asked me last night (mind you these are people I also care about) "What does (guy #3) have that we don't? We would treat you better than that".

Still really like the third guy. He likes me also but is afraid to be involved with anyone. I think that explains the way he acts. And you all are probably going to ask me all details about that, but if you don't then I'm not going to get into it.

How do you answer this question? All of these guys are decent, good guys and my friends. I'm evaluating myself and the way I did react, which, being a little drunk and very hormonal, I basically just left the room and cried with my dog for an hour. I did answer the question.. with "I completely understand his emotional state. I'm in the same place."

I can't really give them anything more specific or concrete.. all of them are very similar people. TBH, the one that asked is the one I have the most in common with... if I was acting based on no emotion and only intellect, he'd be the more obvious choice for that reason. He's also the one I'm the most afraid of, trust the least.


Dazed, please.. I don't want to hear the same answer from you to another different question. I love you but you are getting redundant. I hear your opinion, and I disagree. 🙂

+1 kagillion ^^^^^

you cant help who you attracted to and is unavailability intrigues you more you like the challenge?


and the one you dont trust you may really like him but the uncertainty or mystery and unpredictability that he may holds scare you.

do you have a list Sky?

Guy #1 pros/cons
Guy #2 etc etc


Personally I don't go for the "unavailability is intriguing" theory. Unavailability is a pain in the friggin azz.

"Unavailables" need ankle bracelets that zap them with 110 volts in the goolies when they get to close to a single person.

QUE??

Personally, I never like to hear what I don't want to hear. That's why I wear earmuffs.