i dont know what i have done to be cut off ...

Ok.. 17th jan 2013 I met a amazing man (10 yrs younger than me)
we got on so well and started seeing each other for a year...
have never argued never said a bad word to each other..
yet he has cut me out totally.. blocked on whatsapp and kik...
don't reaply to my texts..
but the last time I saw him was 15th jan 2014..
we was very happy.. joked around just like it has always been ..
but then day after he shut me out..
Is this the end or does he need space..
I have given him all the space he needs..
he tells me im the most nices person he has met,im layed back and chilled..
last time I saw him he started to open up to me..i have never probed in to his life..
and he also told me her really liked me ..
but now its like I am out of site out of mind...
this is the longest he hasn't spoken to me ..and I have said to him in text I am worried about him,
and if he needs me im here for him ..
I do miss him like crazy.. I have been single for over three n half yrs and not felt like towards him
before to any other man ..even the one I was with for 14yrs..

I just need someone to tell me if they think its done dusted ..should I move on or is there hope??

I honestly didn't say or do any thing.. like I said to my best friend if we did have a argument said bad words then it would be so much easier to take it all in.. but we haven't and yet im totally confused...

thank you hun..
Im a Taurus .. I did tell him just before xmas I have strong feeling for him..and I think we should brake up for a bit as I didn't want to get hurt..but he sent cold rely..have it ur way..then was very nice ..and wanted to see me..
I just don't get it..

Posted by XxdelightsxX
Ok.. 17th jan 2013 I met a amazing man (10 yrs younger than me)
we got on so well and started seeing each other for a year...
have never argued never said a bad word to each other..
yet he has cut me out totally.. blocked on whatsapp and kik...
don't reaply to my texts..
but the last time I saw him was 15th jan 2014..
we was very happy.. joked around just like it has always been ..
but then day after he shut me out..

Unless the man has a dissociative disorder, something has happened that you??re not divulging. A person doesn't just switch "off" without some reason (rational or otherwise). Your perception of the two of you getting on "so well" is clearly not shared by him. Explain what happened without the rose coloured glasses and perhaps we can help.

Or, short answer: He's not responding to you. Why are you willing to accept that type of behaviour? Move on.

I am thinking along them lines...time to move on I guess.. but its hard...
He has shut me out before and after a week I msg him a hi u ok..and I get a reply .. but this is so different and its making me think that its all done..sadly

I haven't done one thing to him..
He asked to meet my kids and did on the 15th.. but as I said it was all normal as it has been with us before

btw my kids are 22 and 21 .. so not babies ..lol

Posted by XxdelightsxX
I honestly didn't say or do any thing.. like I said to my best friend if we did have a argument said bad words then it would be so much easier to take it all in.. but we haven't and yet im totally confused...

....and 15 minutes later....

Posted by XxdelightsxX
thank you hun..
Im a Taurus .. I did tell him just before xmas I have strong feeling for him..and I think we should brake up for a bit as I didn't want to get hurt..but he sent cold rely..have it ur way..then was very nice ..and wanted to see me..
I just don't get it..

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SMH. Anything else missing? However, I think you may already have your answer. Like I stated, a person doesn't just swith "off" without a reason....

so its me that has pushed him away ..
me that has made him cut off ...
why for telling him I have strong feelings for him ..
yet he clearly didn't have for me...

but why ask to meet my kids ..
sleep with me the last day I saw him??
and tell me how much he likes me n so on...
this is the bit im so confused over ..

maybe I did push him away but that was not my set out mind ...

Posted by XxdelightsxX
I am thinking along them lines...time to move on I guess.. but its hard...
He has shut me out before and after a week I msg him a hi u ok..and I get a reply .. but this is so different and its making me think that its all done..sadly

If you have to chase a 34 year man every time her gets in a mood I would say there are other less dramatic people out there that know how to communicate. Has he ever blocked you before? If not, then that tells you something this time around. If so, why are you wasting your time with someone that acts like that?

Clearly, things weren't as great as you claim or you wouldn't have wanted to break up with him would you, so...you're already losing me on the "I really don't know what could have happened" front. As for the other stuff, it seems like he was hurt by your words/concerns and rather than ask you "why you are feeling this way" and address the issue, he decided to sulk and acted as though he was cool and then pulled away to save face. You seem to also be "pretending" things are cool when really they weren't. Intersting little dance you are both doing. This fear of being hurt was based on what exactly?

he has blocked me before..but only for a week..
iv been hurt before and it took me yrs to recover..
I didn't want to have that feeling back of the recovering ..
I am scared of being hurt this is very true..
but im not scared of commitment also..

He told me about his exs how they treated him how they said so many bad words to him made him feel useless..
but I have never done that not even now..not even been nasty to him at all .

Posted by XxdelightsxX
thank you hun..
Im a Taurus .. I did tell him just before xmas I have strong feeling for him..and I think we should brake up for a bit as I didn't want to get hurt..but he sent cold rely..have it ur way..then was very nice ..and wanted to see me..
I just don't get it..

That is what it is. He thinks you want to break up and now he isn't bothering you. Might have hurt him when you said that. He's protecting himself by cutting contact with you.

So, basically, you knew why he has cut you off. You didn't share that part with the first post.

For my money, the "break up" statement did it. Shouldn't have said that if you didn't mean it. If you get back with this man, he will test you to death. Drama. Games. Your fault. Next time, don't tell a scorpio you're insecure about having or being in a relationship with him. Forget the past and be ready to start anew. Then IF he gives you a reason to make the "break up" statement, make sure it is because of HIS behavior with you and not that of ghosts from the past.

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by XxdelightsxX
I honestly didn't say or do any thing.. like I said to my best friend if we did have a argument said bad words then it would be so much easier to take it all in.. but we haven't and yet im totally confused...

....and 15 minutes later....

Posted by XxdelightsxX
thank you hun..
Im a Taurus .. I did tell him just before xmas I have strong feeling for him..and I think we should brake up for a bit as I didn't want to get hurt..but he sent cold rely..have it ur way..then was very nice ..and wanted to see me..
I just don't get it..

SMH. Anything else missing? However, I think you may already have your answer. Like I stated, a person doesn't just swith "off" without a reason....

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Me? miss that? lol...I knew it was coming too!
For a change someone said something before I did.

Posted by XxdelightsxX


so its me that has pushed him away ..

why for telling him I have strong feelings for him ..

NO! FOR THIS!!!!!!!!!! (in bold)

Posted by XxdelightsxX
thank you hun..
Im a Taurus .. I did tell him just before xmas I have strong feeling for him..and I think we should brake up for a bit as I didn't want to get hurt....

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How old are you?

If he's 34 then she's 44 and has kids in their very early 20's.

He unblocked me msg me 2 days ago ..as if its normal.. then last night blocked me again on whatsapp but not kik...
I give up .. this is so childish block unblock .. told him im done.. not chasing him any more ..

Thanks everyone but I know I messed up now I have to deal with it ...

Posted by XxdelightsxX
I did tell him just before xmas ...I think we should brake up for a bit...

We are very good at giving people exactly what they tell us that they want.
It's the only thing we can be sure we're doing right.

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by XxdelightsxX
I honestly didn't say or do any thing.. like I said to my best friend if we did have a argument said bad words then it would be so much easier to take it all in.. but we haven't and yet im totally confused...

....and 15 minutes later....

Posted by XxdelightsxX
thank you hun..
Im a Taurus .. I did tell him just before xmas I have strong feeling for him..and I think we should brake up for a bit as I didn't want to get hurt..but he sent cold rely..have it ur way..then was very nice ..and wanted to see me..
I just don't get it..

SMH. Anything else missing? However, I think you may already have your answer. Like I stated, a person doesn't just swith "off" without a reason....

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It never fails...........yeah there is more..........

Posted by scorpiopics

Posted by XxdelightsxX
I did tell him just before xmas ...I think we should brake up for a bit...

We are very good at giving people exactly what they tell us that they want.
It's the only thing we can be sure we're doing right.

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And does this not like the most emotionally manipulating thing a person can say to you?
I feel for you but let's break up. WTF? Seems a bit crazy too, I think he is rightfully keeping his distance from a wackadoole. The End. Pass the grits.

Posted by XxdelightsxX
He unblocked me msg me 2 days ago ..as if its normal.. then last night blocked me again on whatsapp but not kik...
I give up .. this is so childish block unblock .. told him im done.. not chasing him any more ..

Thanks everyone but I know I messed up now I have to deal with it ...

You set this in motion; your best bet is to start over with someone else and don't emotionally manipulate them if you don't want problems.