I finally told 'my' Scorpio off!

I let him have it, what he did with the lies and cheating and all the sneaky bullshit was to much, no one deserves to be treated like that and as much as I loved what we had when I thought and believed he was a good man? I don't need the games and bullshit. I'm better than that and he can go play his game somewhere else. I also told Jim his behavior hurts people, really hurts people's feelings and causes real pain and anguish. I am pretty certain I am not the only one to be blindsided in this way and he should be ashamed of himself. To purposely lie and mislead women for what ever his reasons are is incredibly selfish, cruel and straight up mean.

I then said leave me alone, don't call me, dont stop by, if I see you I will be civil out of decencies sake, but to me? You are a pitiful little boy who needs to man up and grow the fuck up.

He had called me, we were talking, then he said he had to go and would call me right back, he blew me off, told me some lame ass story about getting hung up, and forgetting his cellphone! Fucking liar! My girlfriend called me and told me she saw him out at a bar with that skank he hired who has caused me so much hurt!

So, when he called me? I laid my cards out on the table and hung up! Prick.

I feel like the weight of the world has been lifted off my shoulders.

But guess what? He sends ROSES to my office, three days in a row now( I left them at the reception desk). He texes me every day how sorry he is, how much he loves me. I do not respond. Screw it.

I would rather be alone than feel the way he made me feel.

Wow. Bethann. You story is the story of my life!. I am glad you let him have it. 🙂

Yes I should have. I loved this man so much, and even today, it hurts and I still cry. But no one has hurt like he has and I struggled for a long time trying to first deny the first signs, but as I lived in denial, his actions got bolder and I was confused he would tell me how much he loved me, and when were together it was awesome. We got along so well, had so much in common. People would actually tell us how striking we were as a couple, he would be so proud if that. Then I would have to go back to work and the crap would start again, as a Virgo, we tend to worry anyway. But I foolishly, desperately wanted to believe. As it is, I was played for a fool. I am honest, I have a great career I feel fortunate for, I never deserved to be treated so badly, with such little concern for my feelings, I still still hurt, and just writing this chokes me up a bit. Tonight is hard, he left me a message telling me he messed up, he loves me and would I please call him. I can't. I would love nothing more than to be able to beleive him. The hurt is to much, just to much.

I feel his messages of how much he loves me, how sorry he is, how much he misses me is all just bullshit and more games. How cruel can a man possibly be? He confuses me, but I will not cave in anymore.

I know you all must think I'm a fool, but that's ok, I guess I am.

I meant, no one has hurt me like he has.

I meant, no one has hurt me like he has.

I remember you, I remember you posting about your relationship .... and I also remember that you were an equal player on many fronts with him. Mostly, I remember your rage and jealousy over a female he hired ... you said in here that it was because you were more qualified, but, once your outer layer was stripped off, the truth came out .... you were a very jealous girlfriend.

You need to realize that only one person cannot go wrong in a relationship of two participants ... he was a jerk for things he did, but, you accepted those things, which made them acceptable terms of the relatinship.


Water under the bridge now .... we can only hope that you stay on the bridge and not jump over. You did let yourself mention his good qualities, and how happy/awesome you two were together ... just make sure that you aren't talking yourself into giving it another go.

P Angel, you are very right. I was incredibly jealous of her, and I had reason to be, she went after him, and when I was out of town? Who knows, either way I learned something very valuable, women's intuition is real. I could FEEL it, I knew deep down they were messing around, when I would go home? He was with me, I remember her friend, we ran into one of her friends one night and she was incredibly, obviously very rude to me, when before? She was nice. I remember sitting at dinner a few months ago with one of his co workers, and him mentioning that 'the other' woman was with them a few evenings earlier to dinner. I about choked. I am not jealous by nature, well I didn't think so anyway, but no one had ever cheated and lied so blatantly to me before- that I knew of anyway.

What's sad, really sad, is NOW he realizes what he had with me. Now he is sorry, what ever, I could never trust him again, I would always wonder. I can't live that way anymore. Hi messages are all over the map sort of, romantic and loving, then irritated to angry. I did talk to him on my way to work today, he wants me to rethink this. He doesn't love 'her", he loves me. I felt bad, but you know what? He KNEW how I felt about her, he KNEW I was hurting, confused, he caused that hurt and confusion, and now that I say that's it, NOW he's all upset. Where was all this concern for ME, the woman he loves (—?) when I was hurt and down, lonely, working my ass of in a City miles and States away? With her. The obnoxious party girl.

My question is this, WHY did he do this to me?

Posted by Bethann

What's sad, really sad, is NOW he realizes what he had with me. Now he is sorry, what ever, I could never trust him again, I would always wonder. I can't live that way anymore. Hi messages are all over the map sort of, romantic and loving, then irritated to angry. I did talk to him on my way to work today, he wants me to rethink this. He doesn't love 'her", he loves me. I felt bad, but you know what? He KNEW how I felt about her, he KNEW I was hurting, confused, he caused that hurt and confusion, and now that I say that's it, NOW he's all upset. Where was all this concern for ME, the woman he loves (—?) when I was hurt and down, lonely, working my ass of in a City miles and States away? With her. The obnoxious party girl.

My question is this, WHY did he do this to me?

Did you tell him this? Did you say THIS to his face? He'd probably go silent, but it sure as hell would stick with him and he'd think about it. I think if you haven't you should say this to him so you have closure, then leave it all together. Never good not to have closure cus then it's harder to get over the person. But maybe the fact that he cheated will help you get over him faster. Idk, I've never been cheated on that I know of so I can't really say if I'd get over them fast. Probably just be repulsed by their very appearance.

Bethann,

Wow, do I feel you pain (Scorpio moon, always feel others feelings ). You ask a very real question "Why did he do this TO me?". Sweetie, the truth is he isn't doing it TO you, you are just a victim of his own personal inner demons. No one really purposefully sets out to harm somene they hold dear, its a variety of reasons their own self destructions affect others. My former husband loved me but he was an alcoholic, and he cheated, lied, all that stuff. It ripped me apart. But it wasnt done TO me...he was a good man with severe issues who just didn't know what love looked like. If you dont know love, you cannot give love. Please dont take this about YOU, you dont cause him to be howhe is. That cause probably starting taking root when he was a toddler. The only issue you have to wonder about and investigate is why you accepted this treatment for so long and what you can do to heal and not attract another man of this low caliber. Hang in there....

I "believed" him for a long time, because I didn't want to acknowledge that he could actually do this to me. I'm still hurting, he called about 20 minutes ago, I didn't answer, he left a message, I could tell he's been drinking. Of course at first all apologetic, then ticked off cuz I would not answer. I know I have to move on, one day at a time. This is not easy. The little things I am missing, I've picked up my phone a few times to call him to tell him something funny, or on my way home from work. The enormity of his actions hit me full on. It made me realize I had to just end it, and I have. It's the little things I miss so much.

Oh, I stopped myself from calling him. Ahhhhghhh!! I just want to scream at him again! Selfish prick!!