In relationship with Sag female

I've fallen for her completely and we have been in a relatioship for a few months now. Sometimes I feel like she's neglecting me and our relationship a little. But when I talk to her about it, she denies it and tells me she thinks about me all the time and such. Then I feel like an idiot for asking. Other things like she has a rude behavior in regards to common courtesy - and even admits this - comes out when I do special things for her like prepare a dinner, that she'll just take in the next room so she can watch tv or just leave in the middle of a casual conversation without a word...
I sometimes ask if I'm doing something wrong and she tells me that I'm doing everything right and that it's her.

This is very confusing to me. Is there anything I can do to gain understanding of this?

i think u need to read about sags they love to be free and not be tied down maybe u should try wit ur own element like cancer and Pisces or tha earth side cap Virgo.

but good luck anyway

I know that it's the common understanding that Scorpios and Sags don't mix well... However, I haven't felt better about someone than her. And besides, it's a little difficult meeting people based on their signs...
Also I feel more mature about this whole relationships and have successfully fought off any sign of common jealousy that is normally related to my kind, simply by remembering that it's all in my head and that one should only allow that feeling if there's a reason to as it can be very destructive.
Being a appalled by a wild past is another issue that should be handled correctly, but even then I feel that as long as the whole truth about it comes out so we're not stuck with bits and pieces that will soon form a story of its own...

So... what I'm trying to say is that I want to make this work, knowing that I'm being stubborn about it, but also willing to do the work.
And on a side note... if Sags don't like to commit, how will they find comfort in a strong relationship?

Posted by thousandmph
I know that it's the common understanding that Scorpios and Sags don't mix well... However, I haven't felt better about someone than her. And besides, it's a little difficult meeting people based on their signs...
Also I feel more mature about this whole relationships and have successfully fought off any sign of common jealousy that is normally related to my kind, simply by remembering that it's all in my head and that one should only allow that feeling if there's a reason to as it can be very destructive.
Being a appalled by a wild past is another issue that should be handled correctly, but even then I feel that as long as the whole truth about it comes out so we're not stuck with bits and pieces that will soon form a story of its own...

So... what I'm trying to say is that I want to make this work, knowing that I'm being stubborn about it, but also willing to do the work.
And on a side note... if Sags don't like to commit, how will they find comfort in a strong relationship?

they like they're own like Leos Aries Geminis Libra and aquas because they have a certain charm about them and they are so similar in many ways but i can be honest i really dont get along with Scorpios at all. Scorpios have this brooding quality about them.

have u did a natal chart with u and this person to see were ur planets are.

The natal chart is an interesting angle, cause I did have one made and it showed to my surprise that I have a lot of Leo and Aqua in me as well...
Also I must say that I find it appalling that you base your dislikes one a persons birthday... People are very different, even if they have the same birthday, their behaviors are different. We can all have principals, but if it's not for the greater good of peace, what good does it do? Aren't we all just a pile of egoists but allowing immediate comfort before the good deed to benefit our surroundings? You may disagree, and yet again I will state my opinion - we are different, but I see that as a good thing. Despise all you want - see how far that'll get you. I asked for advice on a personal matter and all you have is criticism? I should stick to my own kind? You hosting a concentration camp for Scorpios?

Posted by thousandmph
The natal chart is an interesting angle, cause I did have one made and it showed to my surprise that I have a lot of Leo and Aqua in me as well...
Also I must say that I find it appalling that you base your dislikes one a persons birthday... People are very different, even if they have the same birthday, their behaviors are different. We can all have principals, but if it's not for the greater good of peace, what good does it do? Aren't we all just a pile of egoists but allowing immediate comfort before the good deed to benefit our surroundings? You may disagree, and yet again I will state my opinion - we are different, but I see that as a good thing. Despise all you want - see how far that'll get you. I asked for advice on a personal matter and all you have is criticism? I should stick to my own kind? You hosting a concentration camp for Scorpios?

not even tha case i know to many scorps so its base exp i noe how they are inside and out i can't deal with them dats just me it may not be tha same for everybody else i just wanted to give tha best advice i kno i can give i saying dat save ur self from tha heart ache and drama but people love drama anywho.

sticking to ur kind u will kno wat to expect and u wont be surprise and shock by they're behavior.

the criticism ima virgo can't help it but its not harsher den a real criticism a virgo can dish out virgos can mentally damage u with they're tongue i'm glad i have alot of air and fire in my chart which helps tone dat down.

ur gonna do wat u do wat regardless.

goodluck

Posted by thousandmph
I've fallen for her completely and we have been in a relatioship for a few months now. Sometimes I feel like she's neglecting me and our relationship a little. But when I talk to her about it, she denies it and tells me she thinks about me all the time and such. Then I feel like an idiot for asking. Other things like she has a rude behavior in regards to common courtesy - and even admits this - comes out when I do special things for her like prepare a dinner, that she'll just take in the next room so she can watch tv or just leave in the middle of a casual conversation without a word...
I sometimes ask if I'm doing something wrong and she tells me that I'm doing everything right and that it's her.

This is very confusing to me. Is there anything I can do to gain understanding of this?

hi, im a female sag, thou i have a pisces moon and cap venus that give me different emotions and views, but i can be very rude and impacient aswell... and admitt it openly aswell lol
so i would advice u to talk to have a frank talk to her about the things that r bothering u
but dont make drama or complaining
try to explain ur point of view and feelings with a rational touch
im only running from commitment when im not sure, if iam im the most devoted person on earth
maybe she dont have the sensitivity to care about all ur feelings cos shes looking fot things that r very far, but doesnt mean she cnat change, we sags r very changeble people we adapt to what we think it makes sense, i cnat tell it was and still is a long run for what i am today, and im still fighting against my temper
if she really likes u and if she sees ur point she??ll at least make an effort
but its better to talk than to be suddenly dumped
i wish u the best luck

sorry i meant '' i can tell it was and still is a long run for what i am today''

geez i miss a text editor for this forum (besides the one im writting it)

I don't think so...

dont u think so what??

Posted by baby consuelo
dont u think so what??

Someone asked if I was talking about Sag89, but they must have deleted that posting...

Posted by emeraldgem
...I think they unconsciously test your loyalty by pushing away. Don't push back! Just "be there"[...]they have a real appreciation for someone who stands their ground. And if anyone can stand their ground it is a scorp![...]If you need shows of emotion, you are not going to get it - you have to stand back and look at the whole picture. Is she there for YOU? Is she loyal? Do you have wonderful conversations and enjoy spending time together? You have to look for other cues - not just the ones you expect her to have.

This makes total sense! In my ability to adjust(which is also why I think Scorpio should be Chameleon), yet stand my ground and stick to my opinion, I've come to realize that it's about pushing less and you'll get more. That have been very true for the last couple of days. That doesn't mean I can't say or otherwise express what I feel, but I should let her know by mentioning things briefly and not try to discuss it too much if she disagrees, as she'll be thinking about my point of view as well, without showing it.
The hard exterior is easy for me to relate to. Scorps have those as well, and I just have to recognize that there are things going on underneath.

I'm not sure if we have lengthy and wonderfull conversations as I would picture them and hope for, but it doesn't matter as our line of communication has opened up a lot lately and more things have become easier to talk about - thereby it's easier to solve issues and differences.

Oh yes... By the way
I have found that all the guidance given by 'specialists' in how to properly match signs is often inaccurate and misleading. I have personally had the most successful relationships with signs that shouldn't make any sense for me to be with. Granted those relationships are over, they didn't end in fights and chaos as some would have predicted. But it has become normal for people to blindly follow and believe what they read about and obviously without much consideration for personal, rational filtering...:

Posted by LeGendary ViRGo

i think u need to read about sags they love to be free and not be tied down maybe u should try wit ur own element like cancer and Pisces or tha earth side cap Virgo.

but good luck anyway

Signs are interesting because they clarify and describe our personalities well, but only to a certain extend. Even with natal charts you'll see that not all factors are accurate, and some people would probably claim that it doesn't matter, for it is just detail. But I firmly believe that it is that detail that makes the entire difference. As interesting and accurate things may seem, it is far too inaccurate for me when it comes to matching signs against each other. And I have my own personal experience to prove it.
OK... so I asked for some help with my current one, but that doesn't mean I was about to explode, I just wanted a solution to something that could have turned sour. I got what I asked for, and I'm thankful... To most of you. I'm not declaring war, Legendary Virgo, and I understand that you mean well in what you say, but as you may even admit to, you have little consideration for others than yourself..? Perhaps I'm wrong. I hope I am, but if I'm not, you possess a survival tool beyond compare. Some people like brute force and a direct, honest opinion, but I do not when it is blindsiding and inaccurate.