Is it cold in here ot is it just you Scorps?!

Is it cold in here ot is it just you Scorps?!

Finally got Mr. Scorp to respond to me and it took me calling him out on being a jerk and telling him I am not putting up with it.

He claims he wants to work things out with me and told me what it was that started the "silent fight" in the first place. It was exactly what I thought. He is still upset about our saturday nigth tiff about him not being open.

He has been giving me the cold shoulder ever since. I live in the desert and every time I have talked to him this week I have had this feeling of needing a jacket.

I explained to him this emotional time out or cold shoulder or whatever it is he is doing is not going to fly and the only way we are going to work is to be brutally honest about what is bothering eachother.

Is there a better way to deal with him on this. He is a wonderful and romantic guy when he is happy, but my goodness hell freezes over when he gets upset.

Message posted by: Mamma_Roz on 5/18/2006 12:52:54 PM

Wow you really open that can of worms I hope you are ready. I want to tell you to fight back but that might be a bad idea. ummmmm but you don't want to be a wimp and not stand up for yourself...

HELL I Don't know what to tell you...I think about me when I am being brutally honest, temper goes up, everything I been holding inside comes out like a volcano exploding

DB you are funny you should have done that on your board.

Hey I think we should all have a board of our own to post our own crap on. What do you think

Message posted by: Scorpionlady on 5/18/2006 3:38:18 PM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.232

Message posted by: Mamma_Roz on 5/18/2006 12:52:54 PM

Wow you really open that can of worms I hope you are ready. I want to tell you to fight back but that might be a bad idea. ummmmm but you don't want to be a wimp and not stand up for yourself...

HELL I Don't know what to tell you...I think about me when I am being brutally honest, temper goes up, everything I been holding inside comes out like a volcano exploding


Thats how I would prefer it to be. Let's put on the gloves and ring the bell for round one. I hate this "i'm not talking to you" crap. Duke it out and have crazy makup sex after you have finished.

I have a pretty explosive temper myself as my scorp just found out. You piss me off enough and I will go for the throat and it seemed to work for me this time. We will see what happend.

its funny but once i upset my scorpio love and he was still holding my arm i felt physically cold!! magic.

It's not drama to want your signifigant other to be honest and tell you whats going on (even if it is a bad thing), rather than to give you the cold shoulder for no good reason. If honesty and openness means a knock down drag out fight on occasion, so be it. At least its out and you know what needs to be fixed.

Patched things up with the scorp and we both agreed this sulking/brooding/not talking to you stuff isn't going to work in our relationship. He doesn't like the idea of being brutal with our honesty, because he is afraid of hurting my feelings or making me mad, but he will not hold back from telling me whats going on or if he needs his cool down space.

I explained to him that you cannot fix what you don't know is broken and even if he hurts my feelings initially, it is better that we get our problems/annoyances out in the open and do something about them.

Then go for it Mamma roz, let us know the outcome.

Branh

I respect your viewpoint on things you bring an interesting angle to the conversation, while I will agree on some of what you said I just cannot agree with it all. I don't believe in just ending a relationship because of a few fights, or because we have 2 different ways of dealing with things. If we are both willing to work on the relationship, there is no reason to end it.

We are still in the get to know you stage. We have to learn how to work together to make any progress in this relationship. No one is perfect and no one knows all. As long as the Attraction/Chemistry/willingness to work together is there, then the relationship can move foward.

As for Drama, unfortunatly fighting is inevtable. No relationship is perfect, so on occasion a knock down drag out fight will happen. If you want to call it drama, so be it.

Amen to Mamma Roz

"I can understand this logic if you were actually in the relationship for any real amount of time. However if you are just in the so-called "getting to know you stage", then it is more trouble than it's worth."

Thats more a matter of opinion. I don't consider 3-4 months enough time to say "I know this person", so I consider myself to still be in the "get to know you phase", however I do consider 3-4 months time well invested in the relationship, and if you both want to work on it then it is not "trouble" it is a "relationship". No one ever said it is always going to be perfect. The only time that happens is while your in the Lovey Dovey Puppy Love initial attraction phase and that goes away real quick and then you have to deal with the real person flaws and all and see if it works.

"I sometimes forget how idealistic Aquarians are"

I smiled when I read that line. Yes we can be quite Idealistic, I will not deny that. Its not a bad thing, it's just a different perspective!!

"If he isn't willing to be honest, then you may have a problem with the relationship.I've been in a relationship with a person like that, they basically say what they are going to do, but as far as action are concerned they just too addicted to their bullshit"

Actions speak louder than words and if they don't follow through then I agree 100% it's time to cut losses and move on. Me personally, I have to give the benifit of the doubt in the beginning before I give up.

i agree with momma roz you go hunni! WHIP HIM ...LOL