Just a few questions

Ok, my sun sign is aquarius, but I have a lot of scorpio in my chart & other 8th house placements, so I dont think the issue I have is related to my sun hence I put it here.

Scorpio placements are mainly described as being sexual, or are said to make a person give off some sort of "sexual vibes", etc...I'm not comfortable with that. I find that I try so hard as to not come across as sexual anything, I dont even like to have discussions about sex lol.. I can talk about sex in general, just not when its about me & what I do. I know some people with scorpio planets that love the idea of being sexy, or being seen as sexy & flaunt it too etc. Like I said, I try to control how I come off to people, the less sexy/sexual...the better. Scorpio is about all things sex/sexual, but I find I'm not comfortable with any of that outside the bedroom, or wanna deal with it in everyday life. There's time & place for everything.

My question is, do you think you give off sexy vibes the way astrology descriptions says you do?
Do you like/enjoy being seen as sexy?
Or do you try to not let people focus on how you come off physically (eg. change subject if its about hotness, YOUR hotness lol)?

Please put your scorpio planets or pluto aspects.

I'm just trying to figure out why being seen as 'sexy' is so offensive to me & nothing to be celebrated. But, of course I do want the guy I'm seeing to think I'm sexually attractive...I just dont want every person I come in contact with to see me that way...it feels disrespectful lol.

One last thing, the scorpio suns I know dont try to come off or be seen as sexy either..I've seen this "oh, I'm so sexy/sexual" in people with other scorpio planets throughout the web & I relate more to scorpio suns in that regard even thou I'm the 'other' planet person here. Why the difference between sun scorps and scorp planets people?

You last paragraph rings true to me, even the sociopathic tendencies lol. If you dont mind me asking, what sexuality difficulties have you observed with your aqua/scorp friends? The other stuff you said I can totally relate, one's sex life shouldnt be front page news..its distasteful & weird to talk about what you do in private.

Posted by s4nd
Im contradictory. At the same time my node is in gem in 8th. I want to know what is taboo for people.

Lol rly? Weird that was my friend with scorp mars pluto and saturn and aqua sun. Last time i talked to hom about 7 years ago he was still a virgin. The last one among my friends. All my friends were jocks so fangirl pussy come their way but hes always been a gent in that regard. We went to the same college together. I think my friends jokingly even blamed me for not being a good wingman... But it slipped my mind that hes never gotten laid coz he was a badass.

lmao @ your virgin badass friend. I'm the opposite of that, I had sex early cause I was curious & I've cooled down after I knew what its all about. I was 15 when I lost my virginity, that was 14 years ago & I can count my sexual partners in one hand...so much for the hyper sexuality tagged on scorpio planets. Or maybe it has to do with the extreme nature of scorpio, either you're into it (sex) or you aren't.

Posted by Pecheresse
I'm a bit like you WC, regarding this whole sexy bs. I hate when some guy calls me sexy. It's so reducing? Unless Im intimate with him, or close emotion-wise, it's like no! There's much more to me than what your eyes can see.

I guess the vibe we give off, is more of a profound unfathomable kind of nature. It's a warning sign of some sorts? It can intrigue or repulse. It's kind of magnetic.... and dangerous 😉

8th house is about death and rebirth, there's not much sexy about it.. but it really is a *catharsis* for ourselves & for those around us through our transformations....allowing themselves to be transformed as well. (It takes some balls, indeed).

What makes me sexy I believe has nothing to do with my 8th house...it has more to do with a mix of my whole chart.. and my Lilith in the twins. 😉

interesting, so you do think you're sexy or give off some kind of w/e vibes? See, that's the other thing I dont get about having scorpio planets..you get to hear about people describing themselves a 'intense', having an 'energy or certain aura' etc about them. Wth is that all about? Personally, I dont think I'm intense or have any kind of weird energy about me, so I dont understand all these descriptions that other people apply on themselves. 'Intense' is the one you get to hear about A LOT, what does it mean in regards to how one comes across to other people?

Posted by tiziani
I find a lot of Scorpios are uncomfortable with talking about sex simply because it holds a lot of meaning to them. There's an idea that they talk or act on sex liberally when really the ones I've met are quite focused and don't use their sexual energy sparingly.

true. Sun scorps dont hype themselves sexually like that & I respect that about them. But the other scorpio planets like the idea of being sexpots, or gods. You get to see threads/posts like, "scorpio moon/mars/venus etc..how sexy are you?" all the time on the internet. At one time I even thought that maybe the sign expresses itself differently in every placement it's in.

Posted by IntriguedScorp
Sometimes I get the feeling that although Aquas (and quite possible all Air signs) love sex, etc. that there is a tendency to perceive sex as a lower instinct unlike gaining knowledge which is viewed as a higher level of being.

As a Scorp, and I might just speak for myself, sex can be viewed as a spiritual event that deserves to be place amongst the highest realms of existence.

Maybe as an Aqua/Scorp this is where you are feeling the unbalance? Sexual energy does in no way equal promiscuity and doesn't have to represent something "dirty." It is the very essence of human energy when you learn to properly channel and focus it. *shrug*

i think you misunderstood me, but okay & I get + feel exactly like you just described. The issue is not about sex as an act, but an issue of one seeing/projecting themselves as a sexual person, or a sex symbol..that I dont get. We all have sex, right? But *I* just dont see the point of that outside the bedroom. Like, why would one want to be seen as sexy outside a bedroom? I dont know if I'm making any sense here lol.

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I'm a bit like you WC, regarding this whole sexy bs. I hate when some guy calls me sexy. It's so reducing? Unless Im intimate with him, or close emotion-wise, it's like no! There's much more to me than what your eyes can see.

I guess the vibe we give off, is more of a profound unfathomable kind of nature. It's a warning sign of some sorts? It can intrigue or repulse. It's kind of magnetic.... and dangerous 😉

8th house is about death and rebirth, there's not much sexy about it.. but it really is a *catharsis* for ourselves & for those around us through our transformations....allowing themselves to be transformed as well. (It takes some balls, indeed).

What makes me sexy I believe has nothing to do with my 8th house...it has more to do with a mix of my whole chart.. and my Lilith in the twins. 😉

interesting, so you do think you're sexy or give off some kind of w/e vibes? See, that's the other thing I dont get about having scorpio planets..you get to hear about people describing themselves a 'intense', having an 'energy or certain aura' etc about them. Wth is that all about? Personally, I dont think I'm intense or have any kind of weird energy about me, so I dont understand all these descriptions that other people apply on themselves. 'Intense' is the one you get to hear about A LOT, what does it mean in regards to how one comes across to other people?

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Well the intensity comes with the ability to deal with what's *hidden* I think.

And no, I'm not considering myself sexy, but people project whatever they want anyways.

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i think I get it, but not quite. And I do agree that people project what they want which is my exact essence for this thread..are you in control of what energy you give to people, sexual energy?

Posted by IntriguedScorp
I personally have had that "intensity" thrown back my way and Oh. My. God. it is intense.

Also, I have felt my intensity focussed like a laser beam on someone and I know without a doubt I was NOT trying to be intense. Its like--where'd that come from?

Fascinating when you think about it.

what will you be doing when 'intensity' is thrown your way? Is it how you talk or is it energetical?

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are you in control of what energy you give to people, sexual energy?

no.

....and the sooner you accept that, the better off you are.

you will never be able to control people's perception of you.

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Elle, ok let me put it this way & by no means am I talking about general perception..I could care less about that. I'm talking more in terms of attraction, letting yourself exude something that attracts others to you. I personally think I'm in control of that. I can tell a guy to fuck off with that 'hey, baby' bs without saying a word or look at him. I can also make someone have interest without fluffing my boobs, or making duckface..its like there's an on/off switch *for me* when it comes to that, which is why I was wondering if anybody else is in control of what they put out out there.

Posted by Ellybean
I've never been described as sexy or sexual by friends. Or anyone really other than by the person I'm dating at the time.

Now intense, oh yeah. Lol. Which is weird, because a lot of times I don't see it as intense, but it's most likely because the intensity is my normal.

I'm with you, I wouldn't really want to be seen as sexy or having an obvious sexual energy by others. That idea makes me uncomfortable. Not because sex makes me uncomfortable or talking about sex makes me uncomfortable, but because of the emphasis others place on sex.

Now sensual? I could get on board with that! 😛 but that's more of a Taurus(and to an extent Capricorn) thing. Sensual is different. It can extend into many areas if life and somehow be different from the sort of desperation to talk/boast/prove sexual bravado via conversation.

Cute anecdote: I always make people guess my sign if it comes up in conversation. People always get it wrong, no where near Scorpio. The one person who got it right was an Aquarius girl who plainly said "I bet you're a Scorpio! You're so sweet all the time and never talk about your sex life. I know what that means!" It was so funny. She also had a Scorpio brother too. So she got it.

i agree with your post & its interesting that only your mate finds you sexy while others dont..do you think you do that on purpose? Like how I just described to Elle. And please explain 'intensity' cause that's one of those things I dont get lol.

Lmao @ stingerbaby & I agree with most of what you said. Ok, so maybe scorpio suns do have the sexy thing on auto than those of us who see it as something you can turn it on/off at will depending on where you are, or who you're with...at least that's how I see it.

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are you in control of what energy you give to people, sexual energy?

no.

....and the sooner you accept that, the better off you are.

you will never be able to control people's perception of you.

Elle, ok let me put it this way & by no means am I talking about general perception..I could care less about that. I'm talking more in terms of attraction, letting yourself exude something that attracts others to you. I personally think I'm in control of that. I can tell a guy to fuck off with that 'hey, baby' bs without saying a word or look at him. I can also make someone have interest without fluffing my boobs, or making duckface..its like there's an on/off switch *for me* when it comes to that, which is why I was wondering if anybody else is in control of what they put out out there.

I'm talking in terms of attraction too. You don't "Let" something exude from yourself that attracts others to you. I'm sure some people go out of their way to do that.....and it's very obvious when they do.

The only thing you can control is your reaction to others....because some people really need finishing school.

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I beg to differ lol. I think these kind of things are controllable "energetically", vibes, w/e.. for a lack of a better way to explain it. Ever seen those people who give off a "dont fuck with me" vibe without them ever saying anything mean or having a mean look on the face? Thats what I'm talking about..the energy one gives out. I dont think people are born with that, but can acquire the skill to control how they come across/not come across. Another example, is the vibes you get when someone is attracted to you, even if they dont show it, but you just know they do. I honestly believe that energy/vibes can be controlled, I've done it numerous times..especially the 'come here' ones & I've never been obvious about it. No eye contact, nothing..only invisible whatever & they get the message hahaha

Posted by ellessque
there is no "switch".....personally, I don't think I'm "sexy", I actually detest that label.

however, like stingerbaby said.....you can walk out of the house in house shoes, no makeup on and a ratty t-shirt WITH A BRA and some dumb ass is going to hit on you.

sorry, but I believe there is a "switch" or at least 'sensor' to whether someone is interested or not. Or to send out an 'im not interested' message without uttering a single word.

Posted by ellessque
I'm going to share something....and it might sound twisted to others, but I don't care. 😄

I'm pretty sure it has to do with my scorpio mars....or other scorp placements and probably some of the hard aspects in my chart.

Scorp mars has a real problem with that "sexy" label....or that is what I've gathered since I've learned about it. We either overplay it....or are repulsed by it. It just "goes" with that placement. Black or white. Wrong or right...no in between, no gray. It isn't until we become comfortable within ourselves and learn how to accept it, do we find some kind of "balance" with it. It's difficult to become comfortable with it because of all the outside influence it attracts. You've seen it on the boards, you can only imagine what it's like in "real life". People are fucking with you all the time.....they either are repulsed or obsessed. Those mixed messages can create a lot of turmoil from within.

When I was a teenager thru my mid twenties....I would hide my body with oversized clothes because I didn't like the attention it brought me. I admired it to myself....but I didn't want people to see me. At a young age, I realized rather quickly what kind of attention it brought.

When I was married.....I gained weight on purpose. I felt disgusted when men would hit on me, because I was married. My husband didn't mind and that was my way of "controlling" it.

Now that I've figured all this out....I wear it proudly and basically have come to embrace myself wholeheartedly. I can confidently tell people to piss off....regardless if the attention is negative (they are repulsed by me) or they are overly eager to get close to me.

It's not easy and you definitely need a thick skin because it can swing so chaotically from one side to the other. If you get caught up with either side...it can be really self-destructive.

I can totally relate to what you just said & thanks for sharing 🙂 Sometimes you can just read what dirty thoughts are on people's minds just by a mere look & its an uncomfortable feeling to say the least. Like, ugh..in your dreams! Lol

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there is no "switch".....personally, I don't think I'm "sexy", I actually detest that label.

however, like stingerbaby said.....you can walk out of the house in house shoes, no makeup on and a ratty t-shirt WITH A BRA and some dumb ass is going to hit on you.

sorry, but I believe there is a "switch" or at least 'sensor' to whether someone is interested or not. Or to send out an 'im not interested' message without uttering a single word.

ok!

there is a "switch"....your switch. the switch that tells you whether to give a fuck or not! 😛

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😄 my finger is forever on 'fuck off' mode unless on those rare ocassions when I'm really interested in a person, then its on. Jokes aside, a guy told me this at work..he said i give off an unaprochable 'scary' vibe, which is exactly my aim after the disaster with the coworker last year. I didnt mean to be SCARY thou lol, just a 'try nextdoor' kind of thing.

I have moon and uranus in Scorpio. I am absolutely a sexual being, no doubt about it. I do give off sexual vibes, I am very flirtatious, and more than one guy has told me I am "insatiable" and that I seem overtly sexual from the get-go.

I do enjoy being seen as sexy and feminine, and I absolutely enjoy attention from the opposite sex, as long as it is light and appropriate. I do shy away from people who are disrespectful, inappropriate or seem to have a purely sexual interest.

I am very comfortable discussing any sexual topic with anyone, but I am shy-er about revealing likes and dislikes to my partner, especially once I am emotionally invested with them, but that goes more with not revealing my feelings, I think. I always try not to get too close to people. This is backwards, I realize, and I am trying to be more open.

My bf is a Sun/Mercury/Venus/Pluto Scorpio and he does not give off an overtly sexual vibe to me. In fact, out of all the men I have been involved with, he probably comes off as least sexual. But, like me, (he has a Capricorn moon), he keeps everything under wraps, and he is kind of uptight about things, and you really don't see that side of him until you are in private. He definitely is a very private person in general. He also is very sensitive to my emotions, he keeps himself controlled if he thinks I don't want to be sexual for some reason. He is definitely not a pressurer at all.

Sexy.

It is an attitude, a mindset, absolute confidence. The woman is comfortable in her own skin and she does not give a damn what others think, she is happy with herself, laid back, neither trying nor worrying about her looks, constantly. These, these exuding vibrations, are the very thing that draws the men and women in, a like. Nothing to with her body shape nor her features nor her facial features, it comes from inside out.

Even if we are fixed as a Sun sign, we could be chameleons, shape shifters, we know what clothes works to the effect we want, that is our 'power' of knowledge peeking through. Often we subtly know the undercurrents surrounding the subconscious attractions of others. Scorpio Suns aren't particularly out to prove anything, out of the signs within the zodiac we are not Sensual and Earthy like the Bullettes, nor are we aesthetically beautiful like the Librans and Mermaids, nor are we 'sexy' and glamorous like the Gems.

Simply because we are a feminine sign (in general) but one that is matched with the Gods of War and God of the Underworld, Mars and Pluto, respectively, that in itself is the emitted mysterious aura and magnetic draw that pulls most people in, nothing to do with any specific 'look'. At the end of the day, we are wall flowers should we choose and we live in the limelight most of time. Our Sun sign, more often than are not natural beauties nor commonly known goddesses, our sexy is in our minds, our will, our capabilities, our emotions, our depth, our intensities, our abandon, our passions, our fear(less), our abilities, our soul.

There at the end of the day, what constitute as sexy?

*I hope I made sense some what, did not proofread, just wrote*

Posted by ellessque
there is no "switch".....personally, I don't think I'm "sexy", I actually detest that label.

however, like stingerbaby said.....you can walk out of the house in house shoes, no makeup on and a ratty t-shirt WITH A BRA and some dumb ass is going to hit on you.

I have found all my life that this is the case. More men would hit on me when I was working in the movie theater, for example, I'd have butter (for popcorn) in my hair and guys would hit on me, but I'd get all dolled up and no one would seem to notice. Even at home, when I'm in my workout shorts and my hair is in a pony tail, that is when he is all over me.

I think this is because when we are in our element, our natural sexiness can come through, we are more relaxed, self assured, and perhaps even happier, at these times because we are not trying to impress anyone at it allows our inner beauty to come through. It's more genuine. Anyone can look good in a suit.

As I wrote previously, sexy...

it is not what you wear but what you are, who you are.

Posted by Scorpiorabbit
You could show me a national poll that shows 78% of all women think I'm sexy...

And I still wouldn't admit it.

It just seems narcissistic

don't be stubborn. lol.

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Posted by TheLadyScorpio
As I wrote previously, sexy...

it is not what you wear but what you are, who you are.

I once was told by a woman that she could see how women could go out on a date with me only being halfway interested and after a few hours of good conversation would be in a hurry to get their clothes off for me.

*shrug* I dunno

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Well, no more mental musing for you, you have a lovely Virgal wife now.

🙂

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As I wrote previously, sexy...

it is not what you wear but what you are, who you are.

I once was told by a woman that she could see how women could go out on a date with me only being halfway interested and after a few hours of good conversation would be in a hurry to get their clothes off for me.

*shrug* I dunno

Well, no more mental musing for you, you have a lovely Virgal wife now.

🙂

She said she liked me because I was smart and smiled a lot.

I think she just has bad taste lol

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Ay, be humble but also be proud of what momma gave ya!

I kid, but no, it must have been your inner sexiness which is much more highly attractive than pure good looks.

I am a scorpio woman with gemini moon and I would rather be beautiful than sexy. I also feel it to be reducing. My scorp man has a moon in aquarius and he is very attractive and physically seems really into me but he does not pressure me about sex. We are still very newly together but I think if he isn't asking for it on the first date he's a good man because all the others seemed to expect it because they thought I was so "sexy"...Just pisses me off.

Posted by IntriguedScorp
Sometimes I get the feeling that although Aquas (and quite possible all Air signs) love sex, etc. that there is a tendency to perceive sex as a lower instinct unlike gaining knowledge which is viewed as a higher level of being.

As a Scorp, and I might just speak for myself, sex can be viewed as a spiritual event that deserves to be place amongst the highest realms of existence.

Maybe as an Aqua/Scorp this is where you are feeling the unbalance? Sexual energy does in no way equal promiscuity and doesn't have to represent something "dirty." It is the very essence of human energy when you learn to properly channel and focus it. *shrug*

^^^Yep

Posted by Scorpiorabbit
You could show me a national poll that shows 78% of all women think I'm sexy...

And I still wouldn't admit it.

It just seems narcissistic

^^Yep