Limits....possibly dealing with a narcissist scorpio

Why is it ok for Scorpios to test you and push you to unimaginable limits for them to know you truly love them? He told me he could do anything he wanted to me and I would never leave him. I left, how can I stay with someone who feels like if he chose to not love me in the capacity of how I love him, I will stay? He said he called me a bitch, weak, and told me if I fail at being obedient to him he will leave me and never talk to me again in addition to the above mentioned statement because he thought that would motivate me to do what it takes to keep him in my life. Smh WOW! He told me because I left means I dont love him and never loved him. Not only do I have to deal with the fact I had to let go of someone I love and in love with, but now I have to deal with they may never had loved or been in love with me. He only apologized for how what he said hurt me, but said he meant everything he said to me. He continues to put all the blame on me and takes no accountability for the demise of our relationship. He keeps speaking about his hurt but doesnt acknowledge my pain. I tried to put my pain to the side and comfort him, although he knows I just had a loss in my life of a father figure. Im trying to juggle all of this, but again its all about him and its all my fault. This pain I feel is indescribable. I mask it, and love my son harder until I find the strength to love myself and truly except that I made the right decision in leaving. 3 1/2 years riding the fastest, largest, thrilling roller coaster I have ever been on in my life. Now Im of, and my head is spinning and Im dizzy, vision is blurred and I dont know which direction Im headed.

That is narcissist and not Scorpio. Yes we test...there is no doubt. But obedient and put up with whatever he dishes out as proof of love? This isn't the 1800's. Love is giving and supportive. Not demanding with head games. For example, I told my boyfriend I am moving on Jan 1st and he offered to help me. I didn't ask him...it was a test to see if he would offer. But that is just small and gauging someones reaction to you. Not being a dominating buttery poop eyes. Sorry for you pain OP. Hugs.

Break the cycle. No man that truly loves you would allow you to suffer like that.

THIS!

I was with a Scorpio for about a 2 1/2 years and he was the same way. It was always a roller coaster ride! I think they do that out of their own insecurity and because they are kinda crazy. :/ You're best bet is to just block his number and don't look back because he will keep trying to pull you back into his web and it will only bring you down. That is what I finally did and I am sooooo glad I did!! You already said that you need to love yourself, I'm assuming that by his actions it has torn you down. I know because it started happening to me also. It is hard when you love and care for someone and you see a destructiveness in them and know they are hurting, you want to help, But with people like him you can't, its sad but they aren't going to change. What they don't understand is that their change needs to happen on the inside and honestly I think they are to weak to do what they need to do to make their lives better. Maybe it is time that you did what is best for you and for your son and not worry about someone that isn't treating you how you should be treated. You also have to remember that people that are narcissist are incapable of loving any one, not even their self. So don't take that part personal just see it for what it is.

Now I am in another relationship, my boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year and just moved in together. He is also a Scorpio and it is night and day. There has always been open honest communication with us, no games or bs. None of the weirdness like I had with the other one. Our relationship is very loving, stable and secure. My boyfriend is very strong and confident, very much a mans mans. He has been through things in life and learned from them and let them grow him and make him a better person. Were the other one let the things in life weaken him, make him feel insecure and worthless and then used other people to make him feel better about himself. It is sad when you think about it but I guess it just goes to show how some people have a victim mentality while others will decide to be over comers.

They are selfish not all there are some good ones im sure i just never met one and when it comes to choosing love or there ego the ego will win even tho can see the pain in his eyes

Posted by tegony
I had read somewhere that when a scorpio man and a cancer woman fight, the cancer throws stones and the scorpio, trying to be harsh, and the scorpio gets out of his cave and throws back stones to the cancer's crystal house 😉

Cancerians are bullies...

Well in that relationship with us, we did not argue or fight, he scolded/fused at me or in his words "got in my ass". He never allowed me to speak, except to answer his questions when he was upset. What was so crazy he would get mad about if I tried to help someone out, he would say Im not suppose to help them because they dont give a fuck about me, and that he should be the center of my world. The final straw was when he threatened to leave me if I ever be disobedient again or have an issue with being obedient. Thats when he said all of those harsh and mean things to me. I had to leave, I didnt know who he was anymore, I was hurt and scared of who he became. Our relationship wasnt always like this, but the signs were there, I just ignored them because I love him and I thought he loved me. I dont bully anyone, emotionally or physically, I love hard, and will take the brunt of the pain and hurt for a while, but when its killing me I will protect myself.

Thanks very much to those who showed compassion, and giving HUGS back to you. I have good and bad days, but this to shall pass, I know there is no turning back. My God, 😭 it just hurts like hell. Thanks for reading, sharing your experiences and giving advice, I need all the positivity I can get.

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Posted by CancerrifiC
Why is it ok for Scorpios to test you and push you to unimaginable limits for them to know you truly love them? He told me he could do anything he wanted to me and I would never leave him. I left, how can I stay with someone who feels like if he chose to not love me in the capacity of how I love him, I will stay? He said he called me a bitch, weak, and told me if I fail at being obedient to him he will leave me and never talk to me again in addition to the above mentioned statement because he thought that would motivate me to do what it takes to keep him in my life. Smh WOW! He told me because I left means I dont love him and never loved him. Not only do I have to deal with the fact I had to let go of someone I love and in love with, but now I have to deal with they may never had loved or been in love with me. He only apologized for how what he said hurt me, but said he meant everything he said to me. He continues to put all the blame on me and takes no accountability for the demise of our relationship. He keeps speaking about his hurt but doesnt acknowledge my pain. I tried to put my pain to the side and comfort him, although he knows I just had a loss in my life of a father figure. Im trying to juggle all of this, but again its all about him and its all my fault. This pain I feel is indescribable. I mask it, and love my son harder until I find the strength to love myself and truly except that I made the right decision in leaving. 3 1/2 years riding the fastest, largest, thrilling roller coaster I have ever been on in my life. Now Im of, and my head is spinning and Im dizzy, vision is blurred and I dont know which direction Im headed.

I am not going to pass judgment on you or him - since I did not hear his side of the story.

I will say that the absolute worst thing you can do is walk away from a Scorp man in an argument, which is what you did.

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Oh, I thought the absolute best thing I could do is walk away, Ive should of walked away a long time ago.

Posted by queencancer
Read up on the Spirit of Jezebel and how to deal with this. Don't let him abuse you or play head games with you.

I dealt with the same type of ish before and then one day it just hit me like a sack of potatoes: the guy thrived off of confusion and games. He plays with women like a boy would play with toys. He wanted to control many aspects of my life without really adding to it. Once I found out what he had been saying about me/us to others I realized that our bond was nothing short of a game to him and a delusion for me. Worst part is, he never found fault in himself, it was always my fault and shortcomings. Even when he was dead wrong he never apologized, he just pretended like nothing ever happened. I did cause trouble, I won't front, but nothing that was deserving of being treated lowly.

Break the cycle. No man that truly loves you would allow you to suffer like that.

I just finished reading about the spirit of jezebel, Wow! What I read just sounded so evil, I would hope that deep down he was trying to love but just didnt know how because of his past. Now for what you described about the guy you dealt with, sounds like my ex, except for he actually spoke good things about me to others, at least thats what he told me. Smh I dont even know what to think anymore. 😢