Millennial relationship problems

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nnunez
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10 Years

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Hey so I just recently stopped talking to a guy. We've been hitting each other up for 2 or 3 years but I didn't pay much attention to him up until the end of last year. I knew he liked me and he has asked me out before but when he didn't I wasn't into him. A couple of months ago I went to up to my best friend's college and saw him there. I didn't except to see him there and just got over a heart break so I figured why not give him a chance. We started hanging out and hooked up twice but then out of nowhere he started acting distant and I just don't know why. He used to put in sooo much more effort before to the point I thought he was annoying and then when I do like him he starts acting weird. I remember when he used to make plans to see me and now he doesn't so it's obi not there anymore... Ever since we started doing shit his attitude's changed. We used to have nice little convos. I was kinda mean before but that was the past! I clearly changed! I feel like now it's the other way around. He obv doesn't take me seriously anymore. I confronted him once and made a ton of excuses about being busy. Then that week he made plans to come see me but I couldn't because I had work😢 Things have gone downhill from there. On top of that I went on his page and saw hi talking dirty-ish to some girl. That really pissed me off. He hit me up recently and I ignored it. Then he started subtweeting me saying how "these chicks don't matter" but then I guess fell bad because he tweeted "What's a king without a queen" and of course I knew that was about me and I ignored that too. He even complained about people cutting people off for no reason and lol yeah, that was definitely about me too. Now he just goes through my twitter page and favorites some of the convos between my friends and I. He reads all my snapchat stories so I know he keeps an eye on me. I still like him. I want to get close. I want to be with him but I can't get myself to talk to him because I kinda want nothing to do w him. I know talking dirty to a girl on social media isn't a big deal to some but it is to me. I can't help but wonder many other girls does he talk dirty to. I don't trust him anymore and don't want to waste my time. I know I shoulda have talked to him about it but I feel like there's no point. Should I keep ignoring him?
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nnunez
@nnunez
10 Years

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Posted by beggarsblanket
I think that if he wanted to be your boyfriend that would be obvious by now.

I guess you are aware of this yourself.

but just to be sure, why not tell him that you miss him and try to make plans with him and see how he responds ?

when a guy really likes a girl he will make the effort to spend time with her.(not just sex)


Yeah, that's the problem. He's very upfront and as I said has asked me out before so if he wanted to be my boyfriend now he'd make that very clear I just don't get why he's acting that way all of the sudden and why he keeps complaining about it ...
I do want to make plans and tell him I miss him but I know he's going to make a big deal about the whole cutting him off thing and try to switch things over on me and make it seem like I'm the one w problems bc that's what he always does when I'm upset at him. I really don't feel like going through all that work. Lol this is so annoying.
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Octoberbaby91
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11 Years1,000+ PostsScorpio

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please continue to ignore this guy it is a hunt and conquer game. Men (boys) have fragile egos so when you never pay attention to him and relentless chase you it is all for his ego and less about you. You finally like him back and he starts hot and cold games. Most guys in their 20s only want what they can't have basically the unattaintable. More than likely you took to long to "notice" him and now he is doing this to make himself feel better he is immature in the emotions department.
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nnunez
@nnunez
10 Years

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Posted by Octoberbaby91
please continue to ignore this guy it is a hunt and conquer game. Men (boys) have fragile egos so when you never pay attention to him and relentless chase you it is all for his ego and less about you. You finally like him back and he starts hot and cold games. Most guys in their 20s only want what they can't have basically the unattaintable. More than likely you took to long to "notice" him and now he is doing this to make himself feel better he is immature in the emotions department.


I thought of that too, but he puts up such a Im-A-Good-Guy-Im-Harmless act that it's hard for me to take that possibility (or reality) in. Eh, I think I'm just gonna leave him alone and move on.
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Octoberbaby91
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been there done that and from expiernce I will tell you those are the worst kind of men because they are deceiving you with a facade. They are really assholes underneath that nice guy charm. Atleast with a upfront asshole what you see is what you get I respect those more than that nice guy act.

yeah move on it's a game to him and he is still young most guys are not in a rush to settle down at 21 he will crush your fantasy of a being inlove.
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LordTerramine
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Posted by nnunez
*snip* I know talking dirty to a girl on social media isn't a big deal to some but it is to me. *snip* Should I keep ignoring him?

He doesn't really care about you, that much is obvious. You're just insanely attractive, so it's obvious he's just using you :/ Don't listen to these other people saying to give him another chance. He definitely doesn't even deserve you.

So yes, ignore him for all eternity. Mark him down as "kicked to the curb", ya feel?
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LordTerramine
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Posted by starlover
Posted by Octoberbaby91
been there done that and from expiernce I will tell you those are the worst kind of men because they are deceiving you with a facade. They are really assholes underneath that nice guy charm. Atleast with a upfront asshole what you see is what you get I respect those more than that nice guy act.

yeah move on it's a game to him and he is still young most guys are not in a rush to settle down at 21 he will crush your fantasy of a being inlove.



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Their brains don't fully form until at least mid 20s so that is why he comes across as a 13 yr old.

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You mean fully develop, big difference. But I feel you there to be honest, I still don't feel like a "man". Not really. I have made some pretty big mistakes recently that just seem like something someone who is ACTUALLY mature would do. Oh well, can't be helped. I'll get there soon enough.
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LordTerramine
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Posted by starlover
Posted by LordTerramine
Posted by Octoberbaby91
*snip* he is still young most guys are not in a rush to settle down at 21 *snip*.

Gotta rule the world first 😉



...or...

Master the ego?
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Hmm. I try to humble myself but it's hard to say anything different when literally I know my purpose and it's specifically no purpose other than to go at life as hard as I can and get as big as I can. Ego is one thing, but actually being capable is another.
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Noreallynow
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Posted by starlover
Posted by Octoberbaby91
been there done that and from expiernce I will tell you those are the worst kind of men because they are deceiving you with a facade. They are really assholes underneath that nice guy charm. Atleast with a upfront asshole what you see is what you get I respect those more than that nice guy act.

yeah move on it's a game to him and he is still young most guys are not in a rush to settle down at 21 he will crush your fantasy of a being inlove.



True

Their brains don't fully form until at least mid 20s so that is why he comes across as a 13 yr old.

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Some of their brains still don't develop in their mid 20s.... Smh...
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LordTerramine
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Posted by Noreallynow
Posted by starlover
Posted by Octoberbaby91
been there done that and from expiernce I will tell you those are the worst kind of men because they are deceiving you with a facade. They are really assholes underneath that nice guy charm. Atleast with a upfront asshole what you see is what you get I respect those more than that nice guy act.

yeah move on it's a game to him and he is still young most guys are not in a rush to settle down at 21 he will crush your fantasy of a being inlove.



True

Their brains don't fully form until at least mid 20s so that is why he comes across as a 13 yr old.



Some of their brains still don't develop in their mid 20s.... Smh...
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Fuck that, fuck stagnancy.