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My Scorpio guy is ignoring me..
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The place we went, they dont sell the one that he really wanted and I bought another brand that's quite similiar to what he likes. The next morning, he kept asking me to cook for him and after that, he has fallen for it. He kept telling me that noodle was nice and it was the best noodle he ever had. Even when we came back, he would still wish I could cook that for him again. Till now I never had the chance to cook for him for the 2nd time. He knows that I don't know how to cook dishes and I just know how to cook basic stuff. But he doesnt mind. I was really happy that he love the noodle that I cook for him and he was the first guy I do that for!
Even tho we were together for not long, He was serious with the relationship as he told me that he'll try to come back after 2 to 3 years after he's posted out of my country and told me he'll come here to visit me whenever he has long holiday. I really felt the love from him as my previous ex before him never promised me things like that even when we were together for longer time and loved each other too. This one really make me feel so special in so many ways. He is also the first guy who made me think I'm beautiful too. There are many people who said I am but I never dare to believe it. At home, my mother and sisters have always been calling me "fatty" since I was young and whenever I tried to want to do something new, my mum would look down on me and say "You think you can do that? You are so fat. I dont think you can do it. Don't do it" All those words really made me the shy and self conscious girl I am now. I would never really have the courage to really talk to people most of the times and I feel so trapped and started sweating, and getting nervous when I am around many people. I tried to talk sometimes but its not always I am "ok" with talking with people. I am only most comfortable to talking with the people I am very close with.
When I get older, I never dare to believe anyone who calls me beautiful. I will just shies away from them. or ignore them or started being rude if it was guys who call me pretty, sexy, things like that. This happens to all the guys, just EXCEPT for him. I have no idea how or why, but, its just him that I dont get rude to when he calls me beautiful. Instead I gave myself courage to call him "Cutie" as he was just too cute. I still remember hearing him say that "Oh my God! You're so beautiful" when we kissed. I've never had bf calling me that! He really made me feel beautiful.
Even tho we were together for not long, He was serious with the relationship as he told me that he'll try to come back after 2 to 3 years after he's posted out of my country and told me he'll come here to visit me whenever he has long holiday. I really felt the love from him as my previous ex before him never promised me things like that even when we were together for longer time and loved each other too. This one really make me feel so special in so many ways. He is also the first guy who made me think I'm beautiful too. There are many people who said I am but I never dare to believe it. At home, my mother and sisters have always been calling me "fatty" since I was young and whenever I tried to want to do something new, my mum would look down on me and say "You think you can do that? You are so fat. I dont think you can do it. Don't do it" All those words really made me the shy and self conscious girl I am now. I would never really have the courage to really talk to people most of the times and I feel so trapped and started sweating, and getting nervous when I am around many people. I tried to talk sometimes but its not always I am "ok" with talking with people. I am only most comfortable to talking with the people I am very close with.
When I get older, I never dare to believe anyone who calls me beautiful. I will just shies away from them. or ignore them or started being rude if it was guys who call me pretty, sexy, things like that. This happens to all the guys, just EXCEPT for him. I have no idea how or why, but, its just him that I dont get rude to when he calls me beautiful. Instead I gave myself courage to call him "Cutie" as he was just too cute. I still remember hearing him say that "Oh my God! You're so beautiful" when we kissed. I've never had bf calling me that! He really made me feel beautiful.
Then in December, the Armies have stand down and he went back to his own country to visit his family for nearly a month. Before he left, he told me that he'll call me& he loves me a lot. I know phone calls from his country is expensive and text is quite exp too. I expect at least a text or something. But I didn't get his call and saw him commenting to pictures and all that. So I sent msg to him on FB asking him why he didn't contact me. He send a short reply saying he's busy with the family. I try to understand and leave it that way. But I can't leave it for too long as something came up.. I had unusual discharge before he left and at first I thought it would go away after a day or two, but it didn't.. Then my bottom part starts to itch, I had some rashes too. It was after he went back to his country that I googled about it and I was surprised that the condition I had was similar to STD! I got so worried.. I really wish he'll contact me soon so I can tell him.. But he didn't. I tried going to our government clinic and told them about the discharge & itchiness but they didn't do any checks on me. The only thing that they gave me was a cream for the rashes and itchiness. That time as well, my period was late for few days and I started worrying. My period was never late for so many days and I got worried that I might be pregnant. I had no one to turn to over here. I have friends, but.. I do not want them to get more worried about this new issue in my life. I have given them too much to worry about already. So many bad things happened to me before in my life. It all started when I got cheated by someone whom I thought i could trust and treated her as good friend few years ago. and she cheated me for all my monies and had two expensive cars under my name. It was too late for me when I realised that. (I also came to know some time after that she has done many bad things in the past just because of money. Quite a number of people knew her name too) After that when I was desperately trying to sell or let go of the cars (cos the monthly payments are eating me up) and I got cheated by another one of our country's famous cheater! He Told me that him and his friend wanted the cars and I stupidly believe him and made contract for him to sign. I did call up a car agent to check with them about the procedures to ask for someone can't re-loan for a car.
And they taught me to issue a contact. But I never would have thought that he was a cheater and sold the cars to other country!
Life was like hell and i did report to police about those two cases. Even though the cars are not with me, I still have to pay for them every month. For many years. All my salary just go to the debts I had, including owing my sister to pay for other debts. I can't give much money anymore for household expense and for my mum to use herself and she complained a lot. I even have family problems like my parents not talking to each other. I just wish I could end the life that time. But, I gave myself courage telling myself that I still have my bf (the previous one). Even though he was not in the same country, I told myself that being able to still talk with him is enough. He was furious when these things happened but he still stayed and I know... I felt that his feelings for me has slowly faded.
I used to work with a car workshop before i had this current job and the bosses there were very nice to me. Especially one who always call me pretty and he was never angry with me for the mistakes i made at work. His wife was one of the bosses there too. I treated him like a father and he has children of his own, one older than me. One time after a year of what happened, I saw him and thought to ask for his help as I know he has many contacts. He promised to help and ask for informations, went with me to see his lawyers to seek advices,etc. Again, something I never expect happened! He wanted me to have sex with him!! He tried hugging me and kiss me. I pushed away and from there i never try to contact him anymore. He knew that after I left my first ex (I met my first ex from the car workshop) I got together with the 2nd bf (army. And to the people in our Country, my 2nd and 3rd bf's races are being looked down and also there were cases of girls being rapped by his race decades ago) and I know to them who knew I was with my 2nd bf, they thought I was with him for sex or money, but they never know its for love. I had insomnia after what happen and I kept remembering what the previous boss did to me. I could never sleep properly and when I thought of what my previous boss did, I felt so dirty being touched by him even when I didn't have any sex with him. I'm just not that type of girl. It took me a very long time to be "normal" again. The workshop and the place i stay is very near and the bosses used a microphone to call their workers.
Life was like hell and i did report to police about those two cases. Even though the cars are not with me, I still have to pay for them every month. For many years. All my salary just go to the debts I had, including owing my sister to pay for other debts. I can't give much money anymore for household expense and for my mum to use herself and she complained a lot. I even have family problems like my parents not talking to each other. I just wish I could end the life that time. But, I gave myself courage telling myself that I still have my bf (the previous one). Even though he was not in the same country, I told myself that being able to still talk with him is enough. He was furious when these things happened but he still stayed and I know... I felt that his feelings for me has slowly faded.
I used to work with a car workshop before i had this current job and the bosses there were very nice to me. Especially one who always call me pretty and he was never angry with me for the mistakes i made at work. His wife was one of the bosses there too. I treated him like a father and he has children of his own, one older than me. One time after a year of what happened, I saw him and thought to ask for his help as I know he has many contacts. He promised to help and ask for informations, went with me to see his lawyers to seek advices,etc. Again, something I never expect happened! He wanted me to have sex with him!! He tried hugging me and kiss me. I pushed away and from there i never try to contact him anymore. He knew that after I left my first ex (I met my first ex from the car workshop) I got together with the 2nd bf (army. And to the people in our Country, my 2nd and 3rd bf's races are being looked down and also there were cases of girls being rapped by his race decades ago) and I know to them who knew I was with my 2nd bf, they thought I was with him for sex or money, but they never know its for love. I had insomnia after what happen and I kept remembering what the previous boss did to me. I could never sleep properly and when I thought of what my previous boss did, I felt so dirty being touched by him even when I didn't have any sex with him. I'm just not that type of girl. It took me a very long time to be "normal" again. The workshop and the place i stay is very near and the bosses used a microphone to call their workers.
At home, whenever I heard the boss's voice, I just freeze and wanted to cry. When that happen, I dont even dare to go back home from work or even go to work from my house fearing I will bump into that boss going or coming from the workshop.
From there, I was always more scared of guys. I suspected them when they get nice to me. I never dare to go out alone with them unless they are the ones I really know for a long time. Flirting was never a problem as I just dont flirt with guys. Not much people know what happened to me. I didn't tell much. Only the close friends. That's why I don't want my close friends to worry more about this. And now they all have their own family too.
I become so stress hoping he'll call when he went back to his country but he never did and I keep sending messages on FB. I saw him read it but he doesn't really respond even when I told him I have something urgent to tell him. I know he often goes on FB and I tried posting statues only for him to see and trying to hint him on something to make him call me. But... Still there's nothing. It was just like how he was before. I kept saying he has time to go on FB but never care about me to send me any messages. There were times I mentioned about giving up even before he left (the reason was about him not responding to my messages and calls) but I never really do that.. I feel more for him instead.. It was one time while he was still in his country that I got so stressed up about the STD and the possibility of getting pregnant that I sent a long and crazy message accusing him things like what is he trying to do, is he trying to make me give up on the relationship, etc.. That made him mad and when he read it, he replied with a msg saying that he has already told me the problems he was facing and asked can't i understand? what is it? That time, i got so hurt and I told myself I can't wait for him to call to tell him anymore so I replied to him telling him that my period is late and might be pregnant.
From there, I was always more scared of guys. I suspected them when they get nice to me. I never dare to go out alone with them unless they are the ones I really know for a long time. Flirting was never a problem as I just dont flirt with guys. Not much people know what happened to me. I didn't tell much. Only the close friends. That's why I don't want my close friends to worry more about this. And now they all have their own family too.
I become so stress hoping he'll call when he went back to his country but he never did and I keep sending messages on FB. I saw him read it but he doesn't really respond even when I told him I have something urgent to tell him. I know he often goes on FB and I tried posting statues only for him to see and trying to hint him on something to make him call me. But... Still there's nothing. It was just like how he was before. I kept saying he has time to go on FB but never care about me to send me any messages. There were times I mentioned about giving up even before he left (the reason was about him not responding to my messages and calls) but I never really do that.. I feel more for him instead.. It was one time while he was still in his country that I got so stressed up about the STD and the possibility of getting pregnant that I sent a long and crazy message accusing him things like what is he trying to do, is he trying to make me give up on the relationship, etc.. That made him mad and when he read it, he replied with a msg saying that he has already told me the problems he was facing and asked can't i understand? what is it? That time, i got so hurt and I told myself I can't wait for him to call to tell him anymore so I replied to him telling him that my period is late and might be pregnant.
I saw him read the message but he didn't reply. After that I just went out from house to search for a place for me to really cry out loud. I have been crying since I suspected I have STD and pregnancy but those time I controlled myself as my family are always around. This time, seeing his reply I just can't control. I cried for so long and I just cant stop crying. It was more than half an hour that I get a text from him telling me he'll call me later as the network was not good. After about 15 minutes, I left that place and suddenly get a foreign call. It was him and when I picked up the call, he asked me how was I and I told him he knew it so why ask. But then he still asked. I told him not good and he said he knew. He just wanted to hear it from me. I couldn't stop myself from crying again.
He then asked me to stop crying or else he'll hang up. I just had to make myself to stop. And he asked me to go to the clinic to get it check. He said —If you are worry about the cost, don't worry about it. I will pay for whatever it will take. But I can only pay you when I get back there??. Actually I wanted to wait for him to come back first as I read that both partners would have to go for checks and look for treatment if one partner is infected with any diseases. (Plus also i don't know how much those will cost. If it's expensive, I don't have much money to pay. I didn't tell him that) I bought a pregnancy test kit but I did not dare to check as I was afraid of the result being positive and that he wont be here. He asked me not to wait and go for the check. And then he told me one thing that made me feel shattered. He said if I was pregnant, get some sort of medication to get rid of the baby. He didn't even talk about us having to discuss and all that. He just said he's still too young to get married with me yet. And his parents want him to get married after another 5 years.(that I know cos he told me before. But he ever told me that if he likes a girl, his mum might support him no matter what. That's also another thing that made me feel that he is serious about me and we might have future together) I know our relationship was still new and it's too soon for us if I get pregnant. But at least I would like some discussions to let me feel that he agrees or not agrees with whatever it is. Not to just say that he thinks it's best for us to not have the baby that time.
He then asked me to stop crying or else he'll hang up. I just had to make myself to stop. And he asked me to go to the clinic to get it check. He said —If you are worry about the cost, don't worry about it. I will pay for whatever it will take. But I can only pay you when I get back there??. Actually I wanted to wait for him to come back first as I read that both partners would have to go for checks and look for treatment if one partner is infected with any diseases. (Plus also i don't know how much those will cost. If it's expensive, I don't have much money to pay. I didn't tell him that) I bought a pregnancy test kit but I did not dare to check as I was afraid of the result being positive and that he wont be here. He asked me not to wait and go for the check. And then he told me one thing that made me feel shattered. He said if I was pregnant, get some sort of medication to get rid of the baby. He didn't even talk about us having to discuss and all that. He just said he's still too young to get married with me yet. And his parents want him to get married after another 5 years.(that I know cos he told me before. But he ever told me that if he likes a girl, his mum might support him no matter what. That's also another thing that made me feel that he is serious about me and we might have future together) I know our relationship was still new and it's too soon for us if I get pregnant. But at least I would like some discussions to let me feel that he agrees or not agrees with whatever it is. Not to just say that he thinks it's best for us to not have the baby that time.
It brought back memories of what my ex before him said to me that we can't get married cos of his strict family and I do not know how to cook, he can't see a future with me. Argh. It was really heart breaking to hear that.
We spoke on the phone for almost an hour til he has to go as his uncle was waiting for him at home to go somewhere else. But he did assure me that everything will be alright and he will try to contact me and call whenever he has the chance. He really cares.. I felt a lot better after he called me and the next day, when I decided to check the pregnancy test, my period came! I was relieved but sad at the same time too. I didn't tell him straight away cos I was worried if it would be just a spotting. I read from the website that one of the disease make someone has spotting too if I was not wrong. So I decided to wait a day or two to make sure. Another reason also I don't want him to stop contacting me again after knowing my period has come. Cos it was still a long time to go before he comes back.
He didnt call anymore but sometimes he texted. He told me the cost of the text and I didnt keep wishing he will text all the time anymore as I worry about him not having enough money to use. There was about twice that I saw him online late at night and we chatted for a while before he has to go. as there are someone else there.
He texted at least once a day and he always tell me he miss me.
During New Year Eve, he texted me a sweet forward message and it mad me feel touched. I told him that I am going across the border with my friends (its the place where I spent the night with him. And he has been saying that he wanted to go with me again and if I were to go there with anyone without him, i have to let him know. So I did.) and at night he replied asking me who I went with and if there were any guys. I have realised that he is a jealous and possessive guy too and I didnt mind at all. To me, its cute and it made me feel that he love me. So I tried calling him and he answered the phone. We talked and he asked again how many of us and if they were all girls. I told him and he went quiet when he knew there was a guy. But then that guy was my best friend and his wife was there. I know he felt relieved too hearing that. That really made me feel glad too. And he told me that he and the friends are celebrating at a pub and all that. After sometime, he has to go and we hang up.
We spoke on the phone for almost an hour til he has to go as his uncle was waiting for him at home to go somewhere else. But he did assure me that everything will be alright and he will try to contact me and call whenever he has the chance. He really cares.. I felt a lot better after he called me and the next day, when I decided to check the pregnancy test, my period came! I was relieved but sad at the same time too. I didn't tell him straight away cos I was worried if it would be just a spotting. I read from the website that one of the disease make someone has spotting too if I was not wrong. So I decided to wait a day or two to make sure. Another reason also I don't want him to stop contacting me again after knowing my period has come. Cos it was still a long time to go before he comes back.
He didnt call anymore but sometimes he texted. He told me the cost of the text and I didnt keep wishing he will text all the time anymore as I worry about him not having enough money to use. There was about twice that I saw him online late at night and we chatted for a while before he has to go. as there are someone else there.
He texted at least once a day and he always tell me he miss me.
During New Year Eve, he texted me a sweet forward message and it mad me feel touched. I told him that I am going across the border with my friends (its the place where I spent the night with him. And he has been saying that he wanted to go with me again and if I were to go there with anyone without him, i have to let him know. So I did.) and at night he replied asking me who I went with and if there were any guys. I have realised that he is a jealous and possessive guy too and I didnt mind at all. To me, its cute and it made me feel that he love me. So I tried calling him and he answered the phone. We talked and he asked again how many of us and if they were all girls. I told him and he went quiet when he knew there was a guy. But then that guy was my best friend and his wife was there. I know he felt relieved too hearing that. That really made me feel glad too. And he told me that he and the friends are celebrating at a pub and all that. After sometime, he has to go and we hang up.
In the texts, he was very excited to come back and told me that he wants us to be like before again. us having our happy time. But.. when he got back, he told me that he would be very busy with work til maybe end of the month then his life will get back to normal. There were just too much of work waiting for him.
I have been wanting to meet him and he told me too that he miss me but then he's just too busy he told me. So we havent meet each other... I only get to see him for a while when he comes to my office with work. And I know that he's the type of guy who wont spare time for himself and he will just concentrate on his work til he finished them. That's also a characteristic of a scorpio which i read later on.. and things about scorpio are true.. that they are possessive and jealous, Passionate, and that they are hot and cold..
i know i should have read and understand how to make him contact me and all that but i just cant stand it not seeing him for so long. its been more than 1 month we didnt see each other (except at work) and i dont wish to wait. I miss him a lot!
About two days after he got back, and at night, I saw him liked a girl's pic. It was a girl from Thailand and It just got me sad/hurt. One, its about maybe 8pm plus and since he could be online, why doesnt he think to ask me out at all to meet? Doesnt he miss me at all to want to meet me? Two, What could have happen in Thailand? (he and his friends transit at Thailand before coming bck to my country and went to Pattaya which he initially said Phuket in the first place). I know there are a lot of prostitute there and his friends are the type who would look for prostitute. so i am really worried about him too.
I have also heard a lot of guys (the ones I knew and the ones I dont know) who told me that they went to Thailand to get prostitute. So when he liked a Thailand girl's pic and added her as friend, i went crazy. I tried calling him and he didnt answer the phone. Then i texted him asking if he has someone new and how could he change so fast. Did he has sex with her, all that..
I have to admit that when I got mad, its very hard to control what i want to say from my mind. Even bad or evil things. When he didnt still reply i sent another message saying fine! If you dont want to reply. That's it then. and it was quite some time that he reply and told me he was away from his phone to his friend's room.
I have been wanting to meet him and he told me too that he miss me but then he's just too busy he told me. So we havent meet each other... I only get to see him for a while when he comes to my office with work. And I know that he's the type of guy who wont spare time for himself and he will just concentrate on his work til he finished them. That's also a characteristic of a scorpio which i read later on.. and things about scorpio are true.. that they are possessive and jealous, Passionate, and that they are hot and cold..
i know i should have read and understand how to make him contact me and all that but i just cant stand it not seeing him for so long. its been more than 1 month we didnt see each other (except at work) and i dont wish to wait. I miss him a lot!
About two days after he got back, and at night, I saw him liked a girl's pic. It was a girl from Thailand and It just got me sad/hurt. One, its about maybe 8pm plus and since he could be online, why doesnt he think to ask me out at all to meet? Doesnt he miss me at all to want to meet me? Two, What could have happen in Thailand? (he and his friends transit at Thailand before coming bck to my country and went to Pattaya which he initially said Phuket in the first place). I know there are a lot of prostitute there and his friends are the type who would look for prostitute. so i am really worried about him too.
I have also heard a lot of guys (the ones I knew and the ones I dont know) who told me that they went to Thailand to get prostitute. So when he liked a Thailand girl's pic and added her as friend, i went crazy. I tried calling him and he didnt answer the phone. Then i texted him asking if he has someone new and how could he change so fast. Did he has sex with her, all that..
I have to admit that when I got mad, its very hard to control what i want to say from my mind. Even bad or evil things. When he didnt still reply i sent another message saying fine! If you dont want to reply. That's it then. and it was quite some time that he reply and told me he was away from his phone to his friend's room.
I called him and we talk again. He was not happy asking why am I always thinking a lot of negative things and he told me he didnt sleep with the girl. They are just friends only and his room mate added her too. and the girl liked their pictures too. And since I have already started.. i asked him about him in his home country too.. if there's anyone. Another reason why I ask is also because being with him, I found out that he is sexually active. I worry that he will look for sex even though he love me. For me asking about him in his home country, he got mad.. He said he went back there to spend time with his family, not to sleep around. And he said the way you say it, its like i bring girls to hotel to sleep every night. I feel bad about that and I said no. But he said "that's what you mean" it got me feeling bad and guilty.
I have love him so much in a short time and i dont wish to lose him. I also admit that i am possessive and jealous when it comes to love. He knows very well that i have a bad temper and I think a lot too..
It was also that night I get to know how it really was when he was in his country. That if he wants to use internet, the PC was at one of the sister (maybe he meant cousin, they called cousin as sister too) room and whenever he uses it, he wil have to go to her room. Or else the brother will be with him. So he cant really check or read my messages and really reply it. I asked if they will be there all the time beside him and he sort of say yes. but i dont understand why he didnt explain too when we talked on the phone when he was still there. For me, i am the type who would understand if things were explained properly and clearly. If he did, i wont misunderstood all this and wont think too much anymore.
I felt bad and I prepared a list of what I want to say and what i want to explain and apologise for why I worry about him adding the Thai girl.. were times when we made plans to meet but it never happen cos at the end, there will be something happen. Either he has to work late or there will be other functions from the guys at the barracks and he cant meet me.
I have been wanting to meet and I grew desperate. I nearly go crazy too. I started to think a lot. I have seen him going online, commenting pics, liking pics, etc.. but he doesnt message me or chat with me. He has went back to being "hot and cold" again.. Even if i send him messages, he read but he doesnt reply. Sometimes when i called, he doesnt answer.
I have love him so much in a short time and i dont wish to lose him. I also admit that i am possessive and jealous when it comes to love. He knows very well that i have a bad temper and I think a lot too..
It was also that night I get to know how it really was when he was in his country. That if he wants to use internet, the PC was at one of the sister (maybe he meant cousin, they called cousin as sister too) room and whenever he uses it, he wil have to go to her room. Or else the brother will be with him. So he cant really check or read my messages and really reply it. I asked if they will be there all the time beside him and he sort of say yes. but i dont understand why he didnt explain too when we talked on the phone when he was still there. For me, i am the type who would understand if things were explained properly and clearly. If he did, i wont misunderstood all this and wont think too much anymore.
I felt bad and I prepared a list of what I want to say and what i want to explain and apologise for why I worry about him adding the Thai girl.. were times when we made plans to meet but it never happen cos at the end, there will be something happen. Either he has to work late or there will be other functions from the guys at the barracks and he cant meet me.
I have been wanting to meet and I grew desperate. I nearly go crazy too. I started to think a lot. I have seen him going online, commenting pics, liking pics, etc.. but he doesnt message me or chat with me. He has went back to being "hot and cold" again.. Even if i send him messages, he read but he doesnt reply. Sometimes when i called, he doesnt answer.
I dont want to wait too long to apologise. I am worried that the longer it is, it will not mean anything else.. But when i started not texting him for a day, the next day he will text me saying he miss me. When i ask when can we meet, he wont really reply. or he will say he will try to find the time. it goes on for a long time.
I read from a website that sometimes guys react to "aggressive" and i tried a few times to threaten to end things or tell him that we wont see each other anymore if he doesnt meet "that night" or whenever date i set. There, he will respond. and agreed to meet.. But then when the time comes, something will happen again.. He wil say that he has work (which happens to be true as i saw it myself) or one of the seniors wanted to go out and he cant disobey the seniors. It was just so difficult to meet.
And about the report of STD, when it was ready, i told him about it, hoping he would collect with me. It was actually ready at the middle of January but didnt have the time and also I was hoping he would go with me cos I didnt tell anyone of my friends about that.. and it never happen.. On 26th Jan we were suppose to meet to go to the capital to collect the STD result. I dont have driving licence as on 21st Jan I attended court case for an accident i had two years ago and they temporarily suspended my driving licence. I can only try to request for it back after 6 months and which is in July. It was so sad for me and that day i wish to share with him and i was so down. I texted him telling him i wish to meet and wish he could hold me cos i was feeling so down. He replied and then called me to ask what happen. I told him I want to tell him when we meet and ask if we could meet that night, he kept asking what's wrong and I only manage to tell him briefly that I dont have my licence temporarily. and not in full details of how and when i will get it back. He said he will see if he manage.. but then.. he doesnt again.. .
I read from a website that sometimes guys react to "aggressive" and i tried a few times to threaten to end things or tell him that we wont see each other anymore if he doesnt meet "that night" or whenever date i set. There, he will respond. and agreed to meet.. But then when the time comes, something will happen again.. He wil say that he has work (which happens to be true as i saw it myself) or one of the seniors wanted to go out and he cant disobey the seniors. It was just so difficult to meet.
And about the report of STD, when it was ready, i told him about it, hoping he would collect with me. It was actually ready at the middle of January but didnt have the time and also I was hoping he would go with me cos I didnt tell anyone of my friends about that.. and it never happen.. On 26th Jan we were suppose to meet to go to the capital to collect the STD result. I dont have driving licence as on 21st Jan I attended court case for an accident i had two years ago and they temporarily suspended my driving licence. I can only try to request for it back after 6 months and which is in July. It was so sad for me and that day i wish to share with him and i was so down. I texted him telling him i wish to meet and wish he could hold me cos i was feeling so down. He replied and then called me to ask what happen. I told him I want to tell him when we meet and ask if we could meet that night, he kept asking what's wrong and I only manage to tell him briefly that I dont have my licence temporarily. and not in full details of how and when i will get it back. He said he will see if he manage.. but then.. he doesnt again.. .
Back to 26th, we were suppose to meet.. We chatted on Fb on 25th as before that, he told me on FB that his phone was not working. and he has to send it to fix but we can chat on FB. That, he was the one who contacted me first. And i was happy that he still tells me that. he knows i will worry if i dont get to contact him.
But then on 26th, he suddenly told me that he was sick. and very sick til he could hardly get out of bed...
well, i was suspicious about him being sick that time but still i know i have to trust him. he told me he will try to meet me at night if he gets better and i was hoping that he will. Then at about 4pm i saw him playing games on FB but there was nothing from him. And at night, it was complete silence. then on Sunday in the afternoon I message him on Fb again asking if he was better. He replied about an hour later telling me he's more worse, had high fever and he wish his mum will be there to take care of him. He said he was very weak.. Then he told me about them having training at another country on Monday which, they can reach by taking ferries. He told me that he will go if he gets better.
he got me worried too and i think he tells the truth by then about him not well.
And the next day, there was no news from him the whole day. I saw his roommate who knows about us and wished to ask about his condition but i didnt. I texted but there's no reply as i didnt say much. just his name. But on the way back from work, i got a message from my bf on FB telling me that he went for the training. and told me he was better in the morning but then the fever came back again. i just dont know what to do.
it was the next day when his roommate submit work on his behalf that i asked about him and he told me that if my bf didnt go for that training, he would have to work. At least he gets to relax a little when he goes for that training. It was also from that time onwards i started being close with his roommate. I thought of asking for his help and at night i called his number to ask him if he could help me to get my bf when he gets back from the training out so i can talk to him. He did agree and from there, we talked a lot. He told me about my bf too and his friend is so funny. it was fun talking to him and he told me that he wont let my bf know about us talking as he doesnt want me to get into trouble too. (cos my bf is a jealous type)
But then on 26th, he suddenly told me that he was sick. and very sick til he could hardly get out of bed...
well, i was suspicious about him being sick that time but still i know i have to trust him. he told me he will try to meet me at night if he gets better and i was hoping that he will. Then at about 4pm i saw him playing games on FB but there was nothing from him. And at night, it was complete silence. then on Sunday in the afternoon I message him on Fb again asking if he was better. He replied about an hour later telling me he's more worse, had high fever and he wish his mum will be there to take care of him. He said he was very weak.. Then he told me about them having training at another country on Monday which, they can reach by taking ferries. He told me that he will go if he gets better.
he got me worried too and i think he tells the truth by then about him not well.
And the next day, there was no news from him the whole day. I saw his roommate who knows about us and wished to ask about his condition but i didnt. I texted but there's no reply as i didnt say much. just his name. But on the way back from work, i got a message from my bf on FB telling me that he went for the training. and told me he was better in the morning but then the fever came back again. i just dont know what to do.
it was the next day when his roommate submit work on his behalf that i asked about him and he told me that if my bf didnt go for that training, he would have to work. At least he gets to relax a little when he goes for that training. It was also from that time onwards i started being close with his roommate. I thought of asking for his help and at night i called his number to ask him if he could help me to get my bf when he gets back from the training out so i can talk to him. He did agree and from there, we talked a lot. He told me about my bf too and his friend is so funny. it was fun talking to him and he told me that he wont let my bf know about us talking as he doesnt want me to get into trouble too. (cos my bf is a jealous type)
But. when my bf got back, and when his friend wanted to bring him out, there are things happening too. Its just so difficult. i got more desperate again. then on 13th Feb, we were suppose to celebrate our Valentine's day but he cant make it again.. and i try not to wait as i know it will be another broken date..
but that night, he was online on fb and he told me the most shocking thing.. he wants to break up cos when he went back to his country, his family has set up an arrange marriage for him with another girl of their race. HE said he told his parents about me but they told him no. they wanted him to be with a girl who is from their same race and culture. and the parents like that girl cos she si from a good family too.. He said he doesnt like to see his parents get hurt so he agree.. he told me she's as beautiful as me.
he said he wants to end things but the ting is that we didnt meet face to face, and he just told me on FB. cos he said he has been wanting to meet but he just couldnt find the time. he told me he will love me only but then he just cant continue this relationship
There are many things that I have prepared since he got back and that I wanted to tell and share with him. And when i noticed there's something different from him, I told him that If he wants to end the relationship, just tell me face to face. Dont leave me hanging like this. But he never say anything at all. He was back here for more than one month and he never said anything until 13th Feb. I told him i just want to meet and still tell him what i want to. and he said he wil try to meet me. But i felt like he wont..
I did ask to meet on 15th night and he said he cant promise. That time, he stil call me dear.. And on the next morning when we chatted, he kept asking me to forget things and told me he will try to find time to meet. i was on leave on 15th afternoon and as i was leaving, I saw him.. He saw me too and the both of just just looked at each other. He was going to the next building and when he reached there, he stopped and turned to look at me for a long time too.. I felt like he look sad or something. And I was hoping that we will really be able to meet that night. But.. there's nothing from him again. When i tried to call his phone that night, it was switched off. And I called his best friend. His best friend told me that he was on duty. and it was a last minute duty asked by other people. But he just didnt tell me at all. (like how he always do)
but that night, he was online on fb and he told me the most shocking thing.. he wants to break up cos when he went back to his country, his family has set up an arrange marriage for him with another girl of their race. HE said he told his parents about me but they told him no. they wanted him to be with a girl who is from their same race and culture. and the parents like that girl cos she si from a good family too.. He said he doesnt like to see his parents get hurt so he agree.. he told me she's as beautiful as me.
he said he wants to end things but the ting is that we didnt meet face to face, and he just told me on FB. cos he said he has been wanting to meet but he just couldnt find the time. he told me he will love me only but then he just cant continue this relationship
There are many things that I have prepared since he got back and that I wanted to tell and share with him. And when i noticed there's something different from him, I told him that If he wants to end the relationship, just tell me face to face. Dont leave me hanging like this. But he never say anything at all. He was back here for more than one month and he never said anything until 13th Feb. I told him i just want to meet and still tell him what i want to. and he said he wil try to meet me. But i felt like he wont..
I did ask to meet on 15th night and he said he cant promise. That time, he stil call me dear.. And on the next morning when we chatted, he kept asking me to forget things and told me he will try to find time to meet. i was on leave on 15th afternoon and as i was leaving, I saw him.. He saw me too and the both of just just looked at each other. He was going to the next building and when he reached there, he stopped and turned to look at me for a long time too.. I felt like he look sad or something. And I was hoping that we will really be able to meet that night. But.. there's nothing from him again. When i tried to call his phone that night, it was switched off. And I called his best friend. His best friend told me that he was on duty. and it was a last minute duty asked by other people. But he just didnt tell me at all. (like how he always do)
I know I should try to understand. but i cant stop myself from getting frustrated. and i pretend to send a message on Fb asking him not to avoid me etc.. he didnt read til a long time later. saying that's just how he is and told me he was on duty. Then he was kinda harsh saying "you have to understand that we are friends now, if you still want to be friends. but you can tell me what you want to say in FB. we can never be together anymore. "
I replied that i do know very well. but still i want to meet to tel you things. He said he will try to find time and will call me... and lastly i say that at least, let us meet for the last time and break up properly. not just thru FB. he just read that and doesnt reply anymore.
I have to admit, sometimes i dont know why do I still hold on to this relationship, but, i cant let go too cos of love. I have been telling him i would like us to make things work between us and i want things to improve. we havent really talk much since he got back.
he just never answer any of those.. On 9th, He told me that he wants to meet and talk too and he will try to find the time to meet.. But.. actually, i knew from his best friend already that morning he told him that its over between us... it hurt me a lot.. but i still try to pretend as if nothing happen til i hear from him. when i told his friend that i called him, he asked me what did i say to him and then he told me that there is zero chance for us to be together..
I just never imagine that the reason would be him wanting to get married. and on 16th, I finally get the result.. I was tested as STD negative. But when i told the doctor about the discharge and itchiness again, she told me its a kind of infection and told me its only passed on from the guys.
the doctors wont be able to check anything from the guy and they will only be able to know what kind of infections through the girl. I was prescribed medicine for it and the doctor told me that the guy has to take the same medication too.
On 17th night, i sent him a text telling him that I have taken the report and the doctor told me that I got the infection from him..
i was hoping for him to at least care and contact me to ask me more. but he didnt.. and i send another text to ask if he has some discharge too.. still no reply. I just dont know what to do anymore! He just doesnt care. I dont know how to tell him about the medication and hope again that we would be able to meet.
I replied that i do know very well. but still i want to meet to tel you things. He said he will try to find time and will call me... and lastly i say that at least, let us meet for the last time and break up properly. not just thru FB. he just read that and doesnt reply anymore.
I have to admit, sometimes i dont know why do I still hold on to this relationship, but, i cant let go too cos of love. I have been telling him i would like us to make things work between us and i want things to improve. we havent really talk much since he got back.
he just never answer any of those.. On 9th, He told me that he wants to meet and talk too and he will try to find the time to meet.. But.. actually, i knew from his best friend already that morning he told him that its over between us... it hurt me a lot.. but i still try to pretend as if nothing happen til i hear from him. when i told his friend that i called him, he asked me what did i say to him and then he told me that there is zero chance for us to be together..
I just never imagine that the reason would be him wanting to get married. and on 16th, I finally get the result.. I was tested as STD negative. But when i told the doctor about the discharge and itchiness again, she told me its a kind of infection and told me its only passed on from the guys.
the doctors wont be able to check anything from the guy and they will only be able to know what kind of infections through the girl. I was prescribed medicine for it and the doctor told me that the guy has to take the same medication too.
On 17th night, i sent him a text telling him that I have taken the report and the doctor told me that I got the infection from him..
i was hoping for him to at least care and contact me to ask me more. but he didnt.. and i send another text to ask if he has some discharge too.. still no reply. I just dont know what to do anymore! He just doesnt care. I dont know how to tell him about the medication and hope again that we would be able to meet.
But.. i am not sure if he will think i was lying. If he went to check himself and the doctor found nothing (which my doctor already said it can only find out through the girl a guy slept with) then he would think i was lying to him and he might hate me. Plus the night before, i chatted with his friend and when he asked if i was ok, i asked his friend what actually did my bf tell him. But he doesnt want to tell and asked me to tel him first. I said no cos they are good friends, so who knows he will cover up for him. And his friend just doesnt want to tell me. it really make me suspect that there are something more about what my bf is telling me. and i wish to find out.
i have prepared valentine presents for him since before he even come back from his home country and on 21.02.13 i finally gave it to him cos i really dont think he would want to call me and meet like he said. i even type out letter too. the presents i bought are a couple necklace, a couple rings, a phone casing of his fave football team, and another ring that is different design. i got it in pair but for that i am keeping the lady's one cos the design is so nice.. i manage to give him at work
and put it in envelope. he was in my office when i was stapling the envelope and he asked what is it. but i didnt say anything and after i finished, i passed to him. he doesnt want to take it. but i told him that if he doesnt i will put it in our post room for him. he tried to push it back to me as well.. and i just dont want to take back.
actually one reason i dont want to take back is because i bought them for him... and the couple stuff i was hoping we would be together for long time. i explained in the letter about me buying them and told him that if he told me earlier about him getting engaged, i wouldnt have bought them..
at last, he ask me this "what if i take it and then throw it in the bin?" and i told him its up to you. and in the end he took it... i have no idea if he really throw them.. but at home i remembered i forgot to add something in the letter and i continue on fb message. i saw him read it.. but he just didnt reply.
i did say to him that i hope he will at least fulfil his last promise to me to meet and let me say what i want and let us be friends..
the next day, (yesterday) i message him again. and he still doesnt want to respond. I know he's a scorpio and he sometimes dont reply. but.... right now, its just like.. he hated me— i do wonder..
i have prepared valentine presents for him since before he even come back from his home country and on 21.02.13 i finally gave it to him cos i really dont think he would want to call me and meet like he said. i even type out letter too. the presents i bought are a couple necklace, a couple rings, a phone casing of his fave football team, and another ring that is different design. i got it in pair but for that i am keeping the lady's one cos the design is so nice.. i manage to give him at work
and put it in envelope. he was in my office when i was stapling the envelope and he asked what is it. but i didnt say anything and after i finished, i passed to him. he doesnt want to take it. but i told him that if he doesnt i will put it in our post room for him. he tried to push it back to me as well.. and i just dont want to take back.
actually one reason i dont want to take back is because i bought them for him... and the couple stuff i was hoping we would be together for long time. i explained in the letter about me buying them and told him that if he told me earlier about him getting engaged, i wouldnt have bought them..
at last, he ask me this "what if i take it and then throw it in the bin?" and i told him its up to you. and in the end he took it... i have no idea if he really throw them.. but at home i remembered i forgot to add something in the letter and i continue on fb message. i saw him read it.. but he just didnt reply.
i did say to him that i hope he will at least fulfil his last promise to me to meet and let me say what i want and let us be friends..
the next day, (yesterday) i message him again. and he still doesnt want to respond. I know he's a scorpio and he sometimes dont reply. but.... right now, its just like.. he hated me— i do wonder..
i do wonder.. if he said he love me, wont he wish to even at least meet me for the last time to talk? but.. he just didnt. its like he really made up his mind that he doesnt care about me at all now. i dont know what to do anymore. and so depressed. we have holiday from today and until monday. i know he will be free but.. he just dont want to even meet me.
i have tried to forget him but he's a really good lover and i really love him, i have wanted to let go before but i just couldnt. i just cant leave him. he's too special to me. i know that he feel hurt too.. but.. cant we at least talk and make things better? or let us stil treasure whatever time we have while he's still here until he left my country? i have so many things that i am so confused about and i told him in the letter. hoping he would let me know. but. he just dont care.
Its all because of his love for his family which is greater that he's willing to sacrifice his love... I am sorry that i sounded crazy and that this is long.. i am not good with shortening things.
i have tried to forget him but he's a really good lover and i really love him, i have wanted to let go before but i just couldnt. i just cant leave him. he's too special to me. i know that he feel hurt too.. but.. cant we at least talk and make things better? or let us stil treasure whatever time we have while he's still here until he left my country? i have so many things that i am so confused about and i told him in the letter. hoping he would let me know. but. he just dont care.
Its all because of his love for his family which is greater that he's willing to sacrifice his love... I am sorry that i sounded crazy and that this is long.. i am not good with shortening things.
I am a Leo
And yes you are right Quietstorm, i typed them from Word before copying and pasting it here...
I dont mind.. there's nothing more i can worry about other than him ignoring me.. 😢
No...
tauruscancerdelight : He doesnt sleep around.. He slept with them before he met me. First time was forced by the seniors.. And he only did it twice.. Told me he used protections.. Then moved to relationship with me. The result came out and I am having Infection spread by him.. (Curable thankfully)..
- And.. No there is no hope for us cos he has already engaged with the girl his parents arranged for him.. The problem is that since he got back, we never meet outside, except at work and right now after he told me about the marriage thing, he ignored me.
P/s: i am not having suicidal thoughts.. just wish to meet him for the last time and for him to tell me face to face. also for me to say whatever i want to then... maybe become friends or something—
But.. i do love him a lot.. he's really a nice guy.. 😢 and of course, i do wish there's a chance for us to be together.. and that would never happen anymore..
I even tried to tell him I wont ask him back but just want to finished what i want to say (hoping at least he would meet me for the last time) but he just ignores...
I even tried to tell him I wont ask him back but just want to finished what i want to say (hoping at least he would meet me for the last time) but he just ignores...
DazedScorp : He only knew it when he went back to his home country to visit the family. and told me on 14th Feb.....
Bookmark... Sorry, I just need to read and process.
Others wil probably work this out before me tho ={
Others wil probably work this out before me tho ={
I can't believe I actually read all of that Leoscorp, but your story is pretty touching.
As touching as it is, I'll be honest with you:
- The dude is obviously screwing around, he gave you an STD for Christ's sake
- He is definatly not interested, and if he finally decides to meet with you, it will be probably to tell you to leave him alone
- If you're still wondering, yes he fooled around with chicks in Thailand, woman please... wake up!
- Hate to break it to you but he probably opened your present first, then threw it in the trash, can't really wear that type of jewllery in the military, plus it's pretty girly stuff.
Here's my simple advice to you - Move on, whatever hurts and doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
Oh and don't go get all suicidal about this, plenty of fish in the sea.
As touching as it is, I'll be honest with you:
- The dude is obviously screwing around, he gave you an STD for Christ's sake
- He is definatly not interested, and if he finally decides to meet with you, it will be probably to tell you to leave him alone
- If you're still wondering, yes he fooled around with chicks in Thailand, woman please... wake up!
- Hate to break it to you but he probably opened your present first, then threw it in the trash, can't really wear that type of jewllery in the military, plus it's pretty girly stuff.
Here's my simple advice to you - Move on, whatever hurts and doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
Oh and don't go get all suicidal about this, plenty of fish in the sea.
Posted by QUlETstorm
Either she types fast as fuck or she typed all of this into Microsoft word then copy and pasted.
That's a brilliant idea actually, hmmm. *lightbulb*
I scrolled through, literally and I was like WTF. We always complain about people leaving details out. Kudos to you leoscrop. I admire the effort, so will most definitely come back to read this. Tomorrow.
*leoscorp
Geez. I'm drunk. New Orleans can be a real cunt sometimes. Anyways, all I saw ways "My Scorpio guy is ignoring me" and some other shit. Well, my response is, get fucking use to it mah. If you don't care about a bf, lying, cheating, manipulation, destroying, then the Scorpionz are the way to go. But if you actually respect yourself in some shape or form, then get the fuck rid of your Scorpio brat. Unless you want to be a delusional mess for the rest of your what is called life on this terrestrial orb. Don't be a weak sauce. Begging to see a Scorpio only makes you look desperate, which will make him retrat from you even more than he already is in the first place. He knows you're every little thought. Don't think for a minute by begging to see him will win him over.
it's surely much easier and way less exhausting to stop churning things over in your mind and simply examine his behaviour. he's not talking to you and therefore has nothing to say. that alone has to scream at you to move on. you're not pregnant. it sounds like you just had thrush or something. you have more serious financial issues to deal with. focus your energy - of which you seem to have alot - on YOU. try and forget him. if he really wants you, you'll be in no doubt of it and there's no point wondering why if he doesn't want you.
mind you, it's all to easy to say when you're not emotionally involved and that's really the answer to your dilemna too. you must detach emotionally from the situation with him. block it out. it's liberating 🙂
mind you, it's all to easy to say when you're not emotionally involved and that's really the answer to your dilemna too. you must detach emotionally from the situation with him. block it out. it's liberating 🙂
Posted by JynjaPosted by wagtail
Bookmark... Sorry, I just need to read and process.
Others will probably work this out before me tho ={
I've been editing and cutting out nearly 10 minutes now, I've got 3 paragraphs out of 3 posts already. 1/3 of if is a boast about how the Scorpio had sex and loves her.click to expand
Thanks Jynja.
And with that-
Oookay then.
I'm going to stay out of this one... But. My instinct is he is lying about the arranged marriage.
If for example (and I am not saying this is the case) a man was to fool around with a woman living in a society where perhaps the women are often vulnerable (and I mean no offence) but if he was... Could he not use an excuse she may be familiar with? There are not so many diverse cultures that two people in love both come from a seperate society where that is considered a valid reason (all that often)?
I am really not knowleadgeable enough about these things but this is my gut feeling.
Dearest Leo girl,
Take care, I hope things resolve themselves for you.
DazedScorp:
You got it wrong..
1. He didn't know anything about the marriage thing before he went to see them. He just know about it when he reached there to meet them. As for when he actually knew and when he agree to get engaged, I have no idea and really would like to find out.
2. I know he was spending time with his family, but.. please understand.. Even though we were together for not very long, we love each other and I do miss him a lot. I just wish him to at least contact me and let me know he has arrived safely, that he will be busy or things (Even if it's a short one since he was online!) that the conditions there are not that good.
3. Like I said in No. 1, I don't know anything about the arranged marriage until just Last week (on 13th Feb Midnight — Coming Valentine)
4. He went back to his own country on 14th December and my period was supposed to be around 15th Dec. I had those discharge about a few days or a week before he left for his home country but really Googled for it on the day he left as I still have the discharge when I thought it would go away. The answer that came out similar to what I experienced was called Trichomoniasis. It just got me worried knowing I might have that STD. I had two bf before him and the 2nd one was few years ago before I met my Scorpio. So I am sure it wasn't myself who has problem. I was worried who knows, there's something else he didn't tell me about. As for my period getting late, I never had my period that late. Mostly is about 2 to 3days, but Never nearly a week. What other reasons would you suspect if not for being pregnant when you had sex without protection with your boyfriend? Who would have thought its because of stress when my period have been regular for so long? Those are the reasons why I was desperately hoping he would contact me so I can tell him. I was so afraid to know all those and go through that alone!
5. Yes I do admit that there are times he made me feel insecure. It was cos of the girls he added in his FB before we were together and that so many girls like him cos he's cute. Even an old woman at work like him so much and tries to get him to sleep her! But after he was with me, I know he doesn't sleep with anyone else. (Just worried only)
6. Goes back to my answer on No. 4. And add to that, I finally get the answer of what I have just last Saturday. It really is Trichomoniasis. Also a kind of STD — curable by taking antibiotic.
I was and am not trying
You got it wrong..
1. He didn't know anything about the marriage thing before he went to see them. He just know about it when he reached there to meet them. As for when he actually knew and when he agree to get engaged, I have no idea and really would like to find out.
2. I know he was spending time with his family, but.. please understand.. Even though we were together for not very long, we love each other and I do miss him a lot. I just wish him to at least contact me and let me know he has arrived safely, that he will be busy or things (Even if it's a short one since he was online!) that the conditions there are not that good.
3. Like I said in No. 1, I don't know anything about the arranged marriage until just Last week (on 13th Feb Midnight — Coming Valentine)
4. He went back to his own country on 14th December and my period was supposed to be around 15th Dec. I had those discharge about a few days or a week before he left for his home country but really Googled for it on the day he left as I still have the discharge when I thought it would go away. The answer that came out similar to what I experienced was called Trichomoniasis. It just got me worried knowing I might have that STD. I had two bf before him and the 2nd one was few years ago before I met my Scorpio. So I am sure it wasn't myself who has problem. I was worried who knows, there's something else he didn't tell me about. As for my period getting late, I never had my period that late. Mostly is about 2 to 3days, but Never nearly a week. What other reasons would you suspect if not for being pregnant when you had sex without protection with your boyfriend? Who would have thought its because of stress when my period have been regular for so long? Those are the reasons why I was desperately hoping he would contact me so I can tell him. I was so afraid to know all those and go through that alone!
5. Yes I do admit that there are times he made me feel insecure. It was cos of the girls he added in his FB before we were together and that so many girls like him cos he's cute. Even an old woman at work like him so much and tries to get him to sleep her! But after he was with me, I know he doesn't sleep with anyone else. (Just worried only)
6. Goes back to my answer on No. 4. And add to that, I finally get the answer of what I have just last Saturday. It really is Trichomoniasis. Also a kind of STD — curable by taking antibiotic.
I was and am not trying
@LeoScorp- It's over. Everything has its season. Once the season has passed then we have to move on. I think it sucks that he lead you on. But, in the long run he is doing you a favor. A big favor.
Posted by tauruscancerdelight
Dear leoscorp,
whether he slept with those girls before or after you, matter of fact is that it is still considered sleeping around, as verified by him having an std AND passing it onto you, sadly. He is a promiscuous guy, that's for sure.
Why do you want to be friends with him? Most likely, his culture will never change. He will never go against his kin. Maybe you can be his lover on the side...but I don't know how you'd feel about that.
He is probably ignoring you because it's difficult to face you. Maybe because he feels bad how it all turned out or maybe because he is not a man enough to admit he played you.
I am glad you are not suicidal, it will get better with time...give it time.
Tauruscancerdelight:
He was forced to by the seniors to take the first girl.. That was his first time too and he and his friends who just got to my country were told that its their Barracks rule that they have to go to that place (away from my country) to sleep with a girl. Stupid Seniors and stupid barrack rules. I hate that!
He was not playing with me. I am sure of that, its just his culture and his family wanting him to get married now that made him ignore me. 😢
I know he feel bad but still, i have been telling him that i wish to meet and let us talk. I know he has been feeling bad too.. At least, let us talk and make things better.. I dont want any misunderstanding. I just wish to understand.. No to just break up on FB without meeting.
Posted by CluelessCancer
I just skimmed, but it's highly likely she has a yeast infection. Ladies note men can give it to you. If you notice it often get him checked. 2) he's lying, he's not engaged. 3) you need to figure out your insecurity issues that you think and love can be had by military men from other countries who are only there temporarily. You're not that smart are you? That's what they do, use women and leave. It's very rare they settle. Why so many fatherless children all over the world. You're lucky you didn't get pregnant.
He does love me. Its just he culture... He has even plan to come back again to visit me when he has long holiday after he leaves. He's the first one who told me that he would do that. Not even my previous ex who's the same race as him. Like what Scorpio forums said.. When Scorpio falls in love, they are Jealous, Possessive and they really love their partner. Those I believe are true. Cos I can really feel it from him. Even from the message when he told me that he was VERY SORRY many times and told me that I will be the last girl he love and he was happy that I was the girl he love.
I just dont know why he wants to ignore me like this.. I know he might not want to hurt himself too to get more attached to me. But... I just wish to see him one last time.
Posted by tauruscancerdelightPosted by leoscorp
tauruscancerdelight : He doesnt sleep around.. He slept with them before he met me. First time was forced by the seniors.. And he only did it twice.. Told me he used protections.. Then moved to relationship with me. The result came out and I am having Infection spread by him.. (Curable thankfully)..
- And.. No there is no hope for us cos he has already engaged with the girl his parents arranged for him.. The problem is that since he got back, we never meet outside, except at work and right now after he told me about the marriage thing, he ignored me.
To DIMWITT DAZE😱
Read the fucking second and third line, where she clearly says "the result came out and I am having infection spread by him (curable thankfully).
This is evidence that you are full of shit, Dazed Scorpio, and trying to hate me for being a FAST reader, you can kiss my ass hater. Stop trying to pick on me, you will never win, you only show how ignorant and dumb you are.click to expand
Please, what does treetrunking and butter mean?
Posted by Jynja
So, I think this is the crux of the story:
Lady Leo, he won't talk to you again, so perhaps just accept it and let him go. Wish him the best and look out into the future. I don't think it will be easy though - from my own little brushes with this kind of finality, I've come to see it could well break your heart, but you'll have to try. Cry if you need to, yell, scream, but say your good byes in your heart and move on.
I don't think he's having an easy time of it either. If he didn't lie to you about getting betrothed to get you off of his back, then he's also having a hard time coming to terms with his new reality and might have withdrawn to process it. If it's true his family arranged a marriage for him that he must honor, then be glad for the time you had together and pray for him because he might be going through pain if he agrees to the arrangement.
Don't try to Leo him into that one last fling. You'll just hurt him more to satisfy your ego. Let him go too... there's no hope for love or friendship.
Sorry.
I have to see him when he came to my office for work, and I still try to talk and joke with him.. He responds to that.. but other than that, its Nothing! He was the one who told me that he wants to be good friends.. but then he ignores me. I just dont know what to do anymore.
Its true about him getting married. his best friend told me about that too. And even his best friend doesnt even understand what HE thinks.
I know he's not feeling good about this.. but.. my stubborn nature just doesnt want to back down about meeting one last time and tell him what i want to say.
i really wonder what else can i do to let him meet me for the last time..
Posted by wagtail
Thanks Jynja.
And with that-
Oookay then.
I'm going to stay out of this one... But. My instinct is he is lying about the arranged marriage.
If for example (and I am not saying this is the case) a man was to fool around with a woman living in a society where perhaps the women are often vulnerable (and I mean no offence) but if he was... Could he not use an excuse she may be familiar with? There are not so many diverse cultures that two people in love both come from a seperate society where that is considered a valid reason (all that often)?
I am really not knowleadgeable enough about these things but this is my gut feeling.
Dearest Leo girl,
Take care, I hope things resolve themselves for you.
He's not lying.. His best friend confirmed that with me too. And for his culture, I do know some about it. They still practice Arrange Marriage. I just dont know his family would decide so soon instead of 5 - 6 years later..
I will try to be ok. But still I wish to contact him to meet. (that's all i am asking and i know i m so stubborn)
Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
it's surely much easier and way less exhausting to stop churning things over in your mind and simply examine his behaviour. he's not talking to you and therefore has nothing to say. that alone has to scream at you to move on. you're not pregnant. it sounds like you just had thrush or something. you have more serious financial issues to deal with. focus your energy - of which you seem to have alot - on YOU. try and forget him. if he really wants you, you'll be in no doubt of it and there's no point wondering why if he doesn't want you.
mind you, it's all to easy to say when you're not emotionally involved and that's really the answer to your dilemna too. you must detach emotionally from the situation with him. block it out. it's liberating 🙂
Its not easy for me to block it.. When i love, i love deeply and for this case, i do.. I love him a lot.. But thank you for understanding
Posted by OceanDeepPosted by leoscorpPosted by tauruscancerdelightPosted by leoscorp
tauruscancerdelight : He doesnt sleep around.. He slept with them before he met me. First time was forced by the seniors.. And he only did it twice.. Told me he used protections.. Then moved to relationship with me. The result came out and I am having Infection spread by him.. (Curable thankfully)..
- And.. No there is no hope for us cos he has already engaged with the girl his parents arranged for him.. The problem is that since he got back, we never meet outside, except at work and right now after he told me about the marriage thing, he ignored me.
To DIMWITT DAZE😱
Read the fucking second and third line, where she clearly says "the result came out and I am having infection spread by him (curable thankfully).
This is evidence that you are full of shit, Dazed Scorpio, and trying to hate me for being a FAST reader, you can kiss my ass hater. Stop trying to pick on me, you will never win, you only show how ignorant and dumb you are.
Please, what does treetrunking and butter mean?click to expand
They're the filter words: treetrunk if the "F" bomb, and butter is: S*it
I know one thing, you can guess until the cows come home.
Here's the deal, no matter what anyone tells you about him or your relationship, you're going to believe what you want. And that's okay. The only thing that isn't okay is to allow that to blur the real truth. So what that means is, don't make any excuses for his behavior.
He isn't going to talk to you, at least any time soon. Do you deserve the truth, sure, everyone does. It doesn't mean though that just because he loved you that he will. In the initial stages of breakups, or when a person understands that it is over, your thought process is normal. What you need to try to do now is to not look for answers but to accept things as they are now, and heal your heart. Move forward, even if it's baby steps. If you don't, you are slowly going to torture yourself more.
Love is blind. Some day all or none of this will make sense. The truth always has a way of coming out. And until that day comes, you should be your only focus at this point. A person's mind can be a wicked thing, and a wicked place to be. Don't let it consume you. Believe me, he knows it is, he knows you love him and how much this is hurting you, and at this point, he doesn't care enough to make things right with you, let alone face you. Ignore him. THAT will eventually move him. When he stops hearing from you.
Here's the deal, no matter what anyone tells you about him or your relationship, you're going to believe what you want. And that's okay. The only thing that isn't okay is to allow that to blur the real truth. So what that means is, don't make any excuses for his behavior.
He isn't going to talk to you, at least any time soon. Do you deserve the truth, sure, everyone does. It doesn't mean though that just because he loved you that he will. In the initial stages of breakups, or when a person understands that it is over, your thought process is normal. What you need to try to do now is to not look for answers but to accept things as they are now, and heal your heart. Move forward, even if it's baby steps. If you don't, you are slowly going to torture yourself more.
Love is blind. Some day all or none of this will make sense. The truth always has a way of coming out. And until that day comes, you should be your only focus at this point. A person's mind can be a wicked thing, and a wicked place to be. Don't let it consume you. Believe me, he knows it is, he knows you love him and how much this is hurting you, and at this point, he doesn't care enough to make things right with you, let alone face you. Ignore him. THAT will eventually move him. When he stops hearing from you.
Posted by DazedScorpPosted by QUlETstorm
Either she types fast as fuck or she typed all of this into Microsoft word then copy and pasted.
That's a brilliant idea actually, hmmm. *lightbulb*
I bet the farm that she has Merc in Virgo.click to expand
No way, they'd be concise. I'm betting Merc in Cancer.
Seems like much of this ranting is more for therapeutic purposes.
My ex scorpio got my pregnant. It didn't change anything. All he did was come to my porch crying ( which was fake I could tell anyway )
They aren't the kind of guys that will be there for you if they fuck up.
I think you should be happy he is gone. You'll find someone better.
They aren't the kind of guys that will be there for you if they fuck up.
I think you should be happy he is gone. You'll find someone better.
Posted by antonarnia
Geez. I'm drunk. New Orleans can be a real cunt sometimes. Anyways, all I saw ways "My Scorpio guy is ignoring me" and some other shit. Well, my response is, get fucking use to it mah. If you don't care about a bf, lying, cheating, manipulation, destroying, then the Scorpionz are the way to go. But if you actually respect yourself in some shape or form, then get the fuck rid of your Scorpio brat. Unless you want to be a delusional mess for the rest of your what is called life on this terrestrial orb. Don't be a weak sauce. Begging to see a Scorpio only makes you look desperate, which will make him retrat from you even more than he already is in the first place. He knows you're every little thought. Don't think for a minute by begging to see him will win him over.
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I attempted to read it, and made it as far as finishing the second full 2500 character long babble .... then started skipping/skimming until I got here .....
At first, I was thinking that perhaps you seriously had emotional issues, maybe from daddy ..... until this.
You told him you were pregnant as a form of punishment to him for hurting your feelings .... feelings that should have been put a complete and total halt the moment you were told he has a betrothed sitting in the arrangements of his cultures practices .... and instead of stepping immediately away, you chose to fuck with his head.
You're lucky I don't refer to you as a cunt ... I'm in a good mood today, so will only regard you as pathetic.
Posted by leoscorp
..... I sent a long and crazy message accusing him things like what is he trying to do, is he trying to make me give up on the relationship, etc.. That made him mad and when he read it, he replied with a msg saying that he has already told me the problems he was facing and asked can't i understand? what is it? That time, i got so hurt and I told myself I can't wait for him to call to tell him anymore so I replied to him telling him that my period is late and might be pregnant.
At first, I was thinking that perhaps you seriously had emotional issues, maybe from daddy ..... until this.
You told him you were pregnant as a form of punishment to him for hurting your feelings .... feelings that should have been put a complete and total halt the moment you were told he has a betrothed sitting in the arrangements of his cultures practices .... and instead of stepping immediately away, you chose to fuck with his head.
You're lucky I don't refer to you as a cunt ... I'm in a good mood today, so will only regard you as pathetic.
Of course, I didn't read further .... so perhaps you really are emotionally challenged and this is why you lack sound judgement ... in which case ....
I will retract what I said step away .... however, I'm doubting your inability to reason and will read the last 4 posts and stand with the Scorp-family concensus.
I will retract what I said step away .... however, I'm doubting your inability to reason and will read the last 4 posts and stand with the Scorp-family concensus.
Posted by Sag89Posted by antonarnia
Geez. I'm drunk. New Orleans can be a real cunt sometimes. Anyways, all I saw ways "My Scorpio guy is ignoring me" and some other shit. Well, my response is, get fucking use to it mah. If you don't care about a bf, lying, cheating, manipulation, destroying, then the Scorpionz are the way to go. But if you actually respect yourself in some shape or form, then get the fuck rid of your Scorpio brat. Unless you want to be a delusional mess for the rest of your what is called life on this terrestrial orb. Don't be a weak sauce. Begging to see a Scorpio only makes you look desperate, which will make him retrat from you even more than he already is in the first place. He knows you're every little thought. Don't think for a minute by begging to see him will win him over.
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Posted by Sag89Posted by antonarnia
Geez. I'm drunk. New Orleans can be a real cunt sometimes. Anyways, all I saw ways "My Scorpio guy is ignoring me" and some other shit. Well, my response is, get fucking use to it mah. If you don't care about a bf, lying, cheating, manipulation, destroying, then the Scorpionz are the way to go. But if you actually respect yourself in some shape or form, then get the fuck rid of your Scorpio brat. Unless you want to be a delusional mess for the rest of your what is called life on this terrestrial orb. Don't be a weak sauce. Begging to see a Scorpio only makes you look desperate, which will make him retrat from you even more than he already is in the first place. He knows you're every little thought. Don't think for a minute by begging to see him will win him over.
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Yeah, baby 🙂 .... who are you? Antonarinia you're a Virgo?
Yeah ... a cool Virgo on board .. welcome to the madness of everyone's form of crazy ... you'll pull up a chair, we all do and never leave.
On a dark desert highway, cool wind in my hairrrr
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