My Scorpio Is Showing...Advice Please

Okay, so this is long, but I really would appreciate opinions as I'm really torn

So I used to have this friend who out of nowhere just stopped talking to me for reasons unbeknown to me a few years ago. We have this mutual friend who I got in touch with through facebook not too long ago and he asked me did I still talk to her. I told him no and he was surprised saying he's sad to hear that because we were really close (we were best friends for over 10 years). He told me he had just seen her not too long ago and she was telling him we were still the best of friends which I found really strange. I told him I haven't spoken to her in a few years. For some reason she just cut me out of her life without any explanation. I would call her, text her, email her, etc. and she ignored me. I sporadically did this for about a year until I had to just face the fact that she wasn't tryna fuck with me anymore, so I gave up and had to accept the fact that I had lost my best friend. So when I talked to our mutual friend and told him what happened and how I didn't know why she stopped talking to me, he offered to call her and ask her what the problem was, and I told him not to because I would have been really hurt if she could tell him and not me, so I told him to drop it. Of course he didn't listen and he called her anyway and told her he talked to me and he calls me back saying how she said she lost my number and didn't know how to contact me (which I call bullshit), and that she really wanted to talk to me. I wrestled with what to do for a while and finally decided to make contact only to have her do the same shit to me again. I reached out and once again she gave me nothing but a big fuck you. So I told our mutual friend to leave it alone and that I was done, and I was really upset that he opened that up. But he kept insisting that we just need to talk because —you don't come across friendships like that often?? (his words). I made contact again, only to get another fuck you from her. She would not respond to me, and by this point I don't know if I was more hurt or angry. I sincerely asked him to drop it and he said he would as he was frustrated then too because she wouldn't talk to me after telling him numerous times she would and that she really wanted to. I was done. So here I was thinking it was dropped and here he comes bringing it up again. So now my Scorpio suspicions are kicking in...why does he give a damn if we talk again or not? What are his motives?

He keeps saying he don't like seeing friendships like ours wasted over bullshit, but our friendship has already ended and even if we were to talk again we would never have that friendship back. I felt completely abandoned, especially when I was going through so much and I didn't really have anyone else there for me and she knew that. According to her, there was no reason she didn't talk to me, she was never mad about anything, we didn't have an argument or anything (that would make sense), so there is no way I would allow myself to be close with her again. She finally did make contact after talking to our mutual friend but I didn't answer the call because for one, I felt completely ambushed because I had just told him earlier that day she still never contacted me, but that was not code for I want him to call her and have her call me; I wasn't ready to talk to her, and two, with him constantly pressing the issue, it didn't even feel sincere. So now he's frustrated with me because now I won't talk to her, and he's telling me to stop being so stubborn (yea, he said that to a Scorpio) and how I wanted her to call (um??_no I didn't! I??ve said that numerous times) and I wanted my friend back (I told him I was done — numerous times) and now she's reaching out (Wow! Once! Really? After years of me reaching out and getting nothing back) and I need to quit acting like a kid and call her back. But I really don't feel I'm being stubborn or unreasonable. He says I'm acting like this is a dude that broke my heart, but to me it's worse. We??re talking about 10+ years of friendship since childhood that was just thrown away out of nowhere, so I feel I have every right to be guarded. I??ll be damned if I open myself up to that again. So, can anyone offer any insight into:
Am I being too stubborn, or am I justified in feeling the way I do?
Should I at least try to find out what the deal was or should I leave it alone?
Why does he give a damn whether we??re friends again?

If I were to try again, I don't even know what to say at this point. When I contacted her before, I let her know I was confused and hurt and she just left me hanging again. Even after me trying a couple of times after that, I still got nothing from her. This time when she was the one to make contact and I didn't answer, she left a voicemail and offered to go out to eat or something and attempt to explain herself, even though she said it's understandable if I never want to talk to her again. And while I am curious as to what she has to say, I am too angry to talk to her right now. I don't know what I'm gonna do.

And our mutual friend went to school with us. We were never a group, but he was her ex and he knows how close we were.

aaaarrrrggghhhhh!!!! I really wish he would've left it alone. Well I'm not ready yet, and I'm not sure when I will be. Thanks for the advice.

I'm sorry if this isn't helpful.. but is your (x?) best friend a cancer? This sounds really really familiar..

Posted by Skykomish
I'm sorry if this isn't helpful.. but is your (x?) best friend a cancer? This sounds really really familiar..

no, VG