Scorps and the L word

Had a look for previous threads but couldn't find any.

Just wondering.........how easy is it for a Scorp to tell you they love you? Not necessarily asking how long it takes just how comfortable they are with saying it in general.

Hmm.

My Scorp and I aren't "officially" back together but we've been talking and all has been well. I finally saw him last night and he made a joke about being in love with me. I was a bit taken aback. I haven't known any guys to even joke about the L word if they ain't feeling it - from my experience they normally avoid any mention of it like the plague.

I didn't really react, at least I didn't say anything or question him on it we just kept chatting.

I just found it strange. Maybe reading too much into it........wouldn't be the first time lol.

I believe it depends on the maturity of the scorpio. When I was younger I said it too quickly. I learned a lesson. Now I take my time.

LOL And KOL has a point. Say it, then run like hell.. okay maybe not quite that dramatic, but say it, then pull back quickly. Very common for Scorpios.

I've found that Scorpios say this word very easily ... however, they do appear to struggle internally with whether or not they meant it.

Sweet Pea ... go with how he acts, rather than what he says, because some people don't even know how to express how they feel, even when they think they know precisely .. it doesn't always come out the same.

Posted by QuietSt0rm
I have to feel safe to say it. Not necessarily saying that I need to hear it back, but I need to know my feelings won't be trampled after my confession.

Well, then ... there you have it.

A Scorpio may say it, but, it's moreso for themselves and thier own sense of security, rather than for the other person to feel loved.

Why is that, QS ... because it appears quite odd to me that you don't need for this to come back to you.

A couple female Scorpios said in here that it doesn't matter if it's reciprocated, just so long as they know for themselves how they are feeling .. that is very strange.

If you don't care about this coming back to you, then why even bother in being so focused on whether you love the other person?

That doesnt' appear to you Scorpios as a one-way road to disappointment, that has self-propelled?

I understand ... it's self protection.

The reason I said I don't need to hear it back is because I don't. If I'm saying it, I'm not saying it to look for a response, like some people do. The type of work I am in, (nursing) I grow to love complete strangers without expecting them to love me back. It's hard to explain... but it has taught me about love and how sometimes the best love can be when you love freely and without expectations. (expectations of them loving you back)

Me too QS. I love all my patients. Even if they're older than me, I still think of them as my kids. lol

I've found that Scorpios say this word very easily ... however, they do appear to struggle internally with whether or not they meant it.

This has been true for me.

Thanks everyone for the responses. P so far so good where his actions are concerned. Sounds weird but whether or not it's vocalised at this point.....I'm feeling it. 🙂

I know he has a hard time expressing how he feels but I wondered if this was a Scorp trait in general.

What's interesting to me is that the more I open up, the more open he then becomes. Me holding back seemed to just instil some sort of suspicion in him.

Scorps still baffle the shit out of me I won't lie (I think it's all the air in me) but I'm learning!

I could have seen him saying it easily at the start.........but given that I ended things when I was going through a hard time (twice actually) and the fact he didn't take it too well, I can see him being more reserved now and waiting until he's sure I'm not going to flake on him again.

Sky I felt quite inspired by what you wrote. Love should be unconditional. Fear has however usually held me back.

So on Saturday night when I was at his (and I still can't quite believe I did it) I told him I was in love with him. I wasn't drunk, although I think being high on painkillers may have had something to do with it, but I meant it.

We've been through so much shit already, lots of ups and downs (mainly due to misunderstandings on my part and him reacting defensively because he's felt attacked) but interference from other people aside we have something and that's why I have been so reluctant, hard as I may have tried, to let it go.

Anyhoo......he didn't say it back haha. He said he didn't know what to say. BUT what followed was lots of hugs and kisses and genuine tenderness from him. At first I felt a bit like OMG what the hell have I just done. Once I got over freaking out about it though, well the fact he never said it back (I felt so exposed) it actually felt quite good! I feel somewhat liberated! Never ever done that before (always waited till they said it first).

And ok so he never said it back but I'm not even fretting - which is a first.

I got a text yesterday from him though which made me smile:

"Just wanted to say thanks for last night. Was feeling really shitty and you definitely cheered me up and made me feel a lot better. Thank you. 🙂 xxxx"

So this is me thanking you because whatever happens I feel good about saying it regardless of the outcome.

🙂

Thanks QS. 🙂

It definitely felt good putting myself out there like that and I know he appreciated it. That's all that matters really.

Still surprised at myself though lol. That's what I dig about him though; he seems to bring out my fears but in a way that then lets me DEAL with them and work through them, something I've never been able to do before.

It's a good learning process that's for sure!