My Scorpio man...makes me feel?

Quick stats; same age.
I'm a Gemini, Aquarius rising. Pisces 2nd house. Libra moon and Cancer venus and mars. Scorpio Pluto and Midheaven.

He's a Scorpio. Leo moon. Mercury Sag (mine is Gemini) and Capricorn Venus and Scorpio mars.

We haven't been together all that long but he makes me feel things I haven't before. We get along well; don't fight. However, I have noticed that I can get rather bossy and short with him randomly. He could say something that anyone else could do and it wouldn't upset me. I can be somewhat manipulative if someone doesn't put their foot down, I'm not always aware of this. I go back and fourth if I really like him or not (thanks libra moon). But he is on my mind (good or bad) 100% of the time mostly.

I was with my Leo ex for 4 years, I never wanted kids. In the short time I have been with this Scorp I can actually see it in the future 5-6 years or so from now. Ah! Scary. We both are criminal justice majors wanting to go police and then fed, we share many same ideals/goals. He's very sweet and romantic and has put up with my random short/emotional outbursts.

Why do I feel so strange? What do you guys make of this ~.~

Meh what? Also, sorry this posted twice? I have no idea how that happened. Dumb phone.

Lol nothing is wrong I'm just not used to this as you pointed out. I just wait for the, "when's it going to go downhill" part. I second guess many things.

Posted by IrresistableScorp
What's the problem? Go with the flow. Try not to intellectualize every little thing. It sounds good.

Are you not used to feeling or something? What's the problem here? 🙂

LOL!

Posted by tiziani
Maybe take it as a good sign of personal growth and try to keep it in perspective. After all, these changes within you are happening because you allow them to. Credit to yourself.

Pretty much. Not much more to it than that.

No I don't think you get it...I'm hyper sensitive. I'm cancer venus and mars. I pout when I'm upset and can snap randomly. I over think things. I wish I WAS carefree. I scare a lot of air and fire signs because I tend to move rather quickly when dating and I want commitment and exclusivity. Sex is all about feelings to me, I cannot do it emotionless. I need lots of cuddling, snuggling and sentimental displays of affection as well as passion. I've been called "clingy".

I don't think you understand what an odd Gem I am. My issue is as if I wasnt already hyper sensitive I have TOO much feelings now!

Hard to process

I'm that person who will worry senselessly that the person has lost interest in my because their texts are shorter than or they are upset because they put "...", after a word lol...

Oh yeah...I totallly don't have feelings -.- I wish.

Explain yourself...

I'm a poet, writer, and musician plus I study psychology and sociology for fun. I have a firm grasp on "deep" feelings and I'm aware some of my stuff may seem rather...dark/morbid to some, but it's away to express myself.

I am curious on all caps for "deep" though.

I have something called synesthesia, it means conjoined senses (yes it's real.) perhaps this could be why I'm extra sensitive to unspoken cues, jump to conclusions, feelings, and vibes etc.

Posted by Agentgem24
No I don't think you get it...I'm hyper sensitive. I'm cancer venus and mars. I pout when I'm upset and can snap randomly. I over think things. I wish I WAS carefree. I scare a lot of air and fire signs because I tend to move rather quickly when dating and I want commitment and exclusivity. Sex is all about feelings to me, I cannot do it emotionless. I need lots of cuddling, snuggling and sentimental displays of affection as well as passion. I've been called "clingy".

I don't think you understand what an odd Gem I am. My issue is as if I wasnt already hyper sensitive I have TOO much feelings now!

So do you want a hug? The OP sounds like you're starting to grow up and evolve somewhat(bravo) while this one sounds like you would like to stay put. What I find particularly interesting is that despite the fact that you say you are "clingy", needy, scare people off and move quickly, somehow this thread is about what a Scorp is doing to you (...'makes me feel'). So, I am truly not understanding what exactly is the point of this thread? Moral support?

And people wonder why Scorp males on this board hide for cover.....

The point of the thread was finding a way, suggestions, to cope with so much emotions. I'm already a highly emotional person but I find myself second guessing myself and abandonment issues etc. he seems true but I guess I'm just shocked how quickly this is moving already and how serious we are talking.

Just really looking for insight. Ways to chill the hell out and go with the flow?

Posted by Neurotoxin

If you try to analyze them, or try to figure me out, you will fail. Miserably. And in the process you're going to piss me the fuck off for even IMPLYING you know what I'm feeling.

If you can't just go with the flow and float on a patch of stormy seas every once in a while, you'll never get to see the deep, calm, cool, beautiful ocean the rest of the time.

In fine form today Neuro...! 🙂 but very true

Posted by Neurotoxin
This is just me and the way I see things...

My feelings are MY feelings. You will never understand them, as much as you think you do. You may be able to empathize, but you will never truly understand them unless I tell you the how and why.

The best that you will ever be able to hope for is to recognize those feelings, accept them, and prepare yourself for whatever comes next.

If you try to analyze them, or try to figure me out, you will fail. Miserably. And in the process you're going to piss me the fuck off for even IMPLYING you know what I'm feeling.

Logical? Rational? Probably not. Why? Because fuck you, that's why. It's who we are. If you can't just go with the flow and float on a patch of stormy seas every once in a while, you'll never get to see the deep, calm, cool, beautiful ocean the rest of the time.

So my advice, stop worrying about feelings. Both of your feelings. Just let it happen. Stop creating the self fulfilling prophecy. Stop analyzing everything. Stop putting this guy (and yourself) into these Internet astrology site stereotype boxes and just enjoy each other for you are.

And FFS stop coming to DXP of all places looking for validation of your relationship. Asking most of these fuckbags on here for relationship advice is like asking Charlie Sheen on advice on how NOT to have an addiction.

Now...go enjoy your scorp.

Someone is a lil mcmad right now....LOL

Posted by Agentgem24
The point of the thread was finding a way, suggestions, to cope with so much emotions. I'm already a highly emotional person but I find myself second guessing myself and abandonment issues etc. he seems true but I guess I'm just shocked how quickly this is moving already and how serious we are talking.

Just really looking for insight. Ways to chill the hell out and go with the flow?

So why not write that Agent Gem? What's with all the pretense in the OP? Your Scorp has nothing to do with the issues you're struggling with even though he seems to be the reason for it, so own it and we can give you the help you're seeking. Sorry for my previous post, but this is how we end up with thread after thread about yet another Scorp doing a woman wrong.

Anyway, may I suggest that you talk to your Scorp when these issues/emotions come up for you. The good stuff, as well as the insecurities and fears, so they don't become a barrier in your relationship. He'll understand and support you. Don't be afraid to be vulnerable with him. Does he know you struggle with fears of being abandoned? Rhetorical question.

Also, when you get too overwhelmed by your emotions there is nothing wrong with taking space to learn how to manage them on your own. I'd actually suggest that you learn to start managing them on your own. Scorps wants to be needed, but we also need to know you can stand on your own. It gives us confidence that you can handle our sh*t as well. Take space. We get the need for space--just communicate that is what you're doing/need.

Jeesus! Am I the only one that is having trouble posting anything on this d*mn forum?

^^^ Definitely not ^^^

Posted by Neurotoxin
What?

Did I sound crazy?

Like a raving lunatic .

Well written btw.

Neurotoxin gave me a good laugh...Trololo. So can I ask what your purpose of lurking on these forums is if you wish to persuade others away from posting on them then? Your manner reminds me far, far too much of my truly bitter yet lovable friend. He hates life, but we love him...I thought you possibly could have been him just messing with me until you said your age.

Also; irresistible Scorp, Phoenix, and Jenn...thank you! That's some good advice. I told him some of the dirty in my past and was really open with him, explained some of my personal issues.

He says he will do everything in his power to keep me happy and so long as I allow him to be in my life; he will never stop trying to make me happy or quit on me.

Jenn: may I ask what I your ex Scorp did to mess things up? Sounds like you may still be a tad bit into him just like I still have feelings for my Leo ex.

Also posting issues on the forum...fuck it.

You can solve this whole problem by posting a few explicit naked photos of yourself here.
Or if you're shy - just PM them to me.

No really - as long as he shoots the photos, it will fix everything.

While doing the photos, while you feel especially naked and vulnerable and unsure of
the outcome ... you can just tell him what you've told us ... or better yet, let him
read your posts ... so that he is not suspicious that you are "really" telling him
"I'm f**king your friend" ... and he'll know nothing is WRONG ... so he can then have
insight into how you are feeling .... "a little freaked" ... because things are SO GOOD
that you are worried they will go bad... you're not used to them being so good.

...it's almost like your TESTING him ... to see if you can get a reaction ... just to
get it over with.

Rrrrrrrrrrrrright?

Now ... the naked photos please ... and notice I didn't say "nude". NAKED, Baby.
( "Nude" is such a CLEAN word ... )

🙂

I should change my avatar -- I guess I have not been here since I stole Christmas...of 2011

Good advice guys, thank you.

Being nice wasnt so hard, was it neuro? Your wife may be neurotic but you love her, yes?

People we love can do things that drive us crazy. The difference is we ask ourselves if we are willing to accept that and tolerate them because we would rather have them in our life vs not at all.

That was actually the exact description I meant when I said "not nice".

The blunt and the whole marine description that followed.

I don't know why people are over reacting -.- I didn't mean anything bad by it and I explained myself.

My Scorpio has a tough skin, I don't have to tip toe around how I say things incase he may get offended.

I'm the sensitive one of the two, or at least the one that shows it.

I'm usually the one freaking out over something he said and him explaining he didn't mean it that way.

Sigh I guess that's what it is,

It's my Gemini nature that doesn't like arguing and libra moon that doesn't like conflict and everyone to be happy happy joy joy.

He's passionate and he has Leo moon so sometimes he will say things that sound bad because he just blurts and doesn't mean it that way and I will give him no shortage of how if offended me etc.

I have 2 Pisces female friends. One is the most blunt and in your face person you will ever know. The other is super sweet and sensitive.

The sensitive one is getting married to her Gemini of 8 years and the. Blunt Pisces is passionately in love with her Aquarius husband of 11 years

My reaction sometimes when I feel someone is telling at me, is to retreat under a rock and think they hate me.

But I guess I should just accept it as them being passionate about their opinion and not hate me?

My blunt Pisces and cancer friend will tear me new ones all the time but I don't take offense and know I won't lose them because we've been friends for so long, I guess that's the different.

I think that if there is conflict in a romantic relationship that it's falling apart I guess.

When something is wrong I just want to fix it and everyone to just get along!

You all bring up valid points. I am learning so much on this thread. Yay learning! Lol

My mercury is Gemini and his is in Saggetarius. I hear one of the best matches for Gemini mercury is fire

Actually, I am manipulative and controlling to get what I want...I see how much I can push. I don't always mean to but my friends can spot it and cut it off right there.

It's the opposite. I am more manipulative BECAUSE I get away with it. He's kind of a push over with me. He can rule a firm hand but if I'm silent or pout he will say, "are you mad at me? Please don't be mad at me" etc. I have no idea why I'm like that with him, I did it to my Leo ex too because he let me get away with it...in the beginning.

His moon is Leo. Mine is Libra.

I may have a lot of air in my chart but also my Pluto, Neptune, and Uranus are all Capricorn. Scorpio is in my Pluto and is my Midheaven and if I was born just an hour earlier, I would have been a Pisces rising vs Aquarius.

He wouldn't dare deny me sex.

He anyways thought he had a high drive...UNTIL he met me.

Also, I finally found out when he was born!

His rising rising sign is Aquarius. Just like me. Aries is in his 2nd house and Pisces is mine. Saggaterius is his Midheaven while mine is in Scorpio and both of us have Pluro scorpios and Capricorn in Uranus, Saturn and Neptune.

Lol wow...

How a lot BOTH of us leave egos at the door and just enjoy eachother? Nobody controls anyone.

I don't like egotistical people.

I can do my best to dial it back.

No comments on his rising sign being an Aquarius which is the same as mine?

Siiiiiigh lol

Wait...I can't sigh? Lol what should I do? I DO have to think ya know.

Well I'm at work and that's not going to help lol

This whole manipulation thing is not an EVOLVED Gemini trait or a Gemini trait at all. This might be some other part of Agent's chart because a lot of us Gem's don't have the time or patience to deal with manipulation.

Agent don't underestimate your Scorpion. I'm finding it irritating that you are doing this to him or view him like a "push over". There are plenty of other females that won't play these games and he knows it. You play too much with this guy and you will get stung and then you will find your ass alone at home on Saturday night. Don't come crying to the board when it does happen.

I think you're young and maybe that's why you are doing this? Maybe its a maturity thing. What are you looking for from this board? Because I certainly won't condone, validate or approve this type of behavior.

As much as I love my fellow Gemini's im going to call you out right now because I feel the way you are portraying us Gemini's is not in a good light. I don't mess with anyone's emotions especially a Scorpio. I might not know what im doing half the time but I sure as hell am not messing with them.

Oh and I see you are in Dallas. So am I. You don't want this Scorpion? I will surely take him off your hands if that is the case.

@IS - Absolutely. Im really annoyed with it right now. But I do give Agent props for being honest. It just makes me upset because it's portraying Gemini's in a non positive way. We already have enough issues without that.

Look, I'm not trying to manipulate on purpose. I don't like playing head games with people and I don't like them being done to me.

I'm just saying sometimes I CAN be guilty of this and not even realize it. I have no idea why. I'm not trying to take advantage of scorps affections; I think he is a great guy. One of the best I've found lately. He's sweet, deep, knows what I want almost intuitively, good sense of humor, loyal, and is really into me.

I don't mean push over as a bad thing. I'm a "push over" for people I care about, I want them to be happy so I will let them get away with more or want to cater to their needs. Hmm...maybe that is what he is doing?

I'm not a bad person. I care very deeply about my loved ones and want the best for them. This manipulation thing isn't something I do on purpose but some of my friends will catch on and nip it in the butt.

Like my cancer friend; she says, "you don't really mean to. People don't realize that if they don't say no to you that you will keep going and push for more. You just don't realize it as quickly,"

My emotions are complex. I don't even understand what I'm even thinking about at times.

Do not mistake my ranting (the reason for this post is BECAUSE I care and want it to work) for trying to intentionally control him or downgrading him. He's very sweet and I totally dig that.

Xin, totally not cool btw. That's another thing he does that I like. He knows I can be pretty jealous and he totally puts my mind at ease that I am the only girl in his mind, he's proud to show me off and he thinks I'm gorgeous.

I just don't understand why people are always saying scorpios are trying to control others. I don't get that at all. I hate mind games, he said he likes that I'm not into that. He will never have to wonder if I'm upset or what he did, I'm always extremely up front with him.

I do respect him and think he's a good person. I'm lucky to have him.

I'm also not sure how ONE person can give a whole sign a negative association. No two are alike and we are all individuals. I mean, I don't go around saying Ted bundy have attractive males a bad reputation.

Sorry for the huge post. I had to combine it since the last 10x I tried to respond on this site I couldn't...

Also the silent pouting I am sometimes guilty of, I don't do intentionally. I just do and realize it right after it happens etc. I don't plan it lol

That's good advice

Eye drops...

If you put eye drops in someone's food/drink, it acts like a laxative lol

Eww don't make fun of my IBS lol all I need is coffee

-gurgle--gurgle-

Someone call the Golgothan

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Posted by Neurotoxin

Posted by Agentgem24
That was actually the exact description I meant when I said "not nice".

Blunt?

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