My scorpio boyfriend left me for his ex

I have been seeing a scorpio man for 5 months. The connection was amazing. We met a friends house but he did not ask me out until 3 months later. The chemistry was so intense from the very first day. After our first date we were together every weekend from Friday until Sunday night. We never argued, got along great, and the sex was more than amazing.... we were the most connected when we were making love. But, before i met him he had recently broke up with his girlfriend of 3.5 years. and they shared two kids togeter, 1 year apart. 1 year old and a 2 year old. Which i met a few times. I asked him a few times if he would ever get back with her considering that their babies were so young. He said no! That there was a history of cheating, lies, and drugs. That he worried about his kids because of her drug use. and often times this stressed him out, he didnt know what to do. So about a week ago i received a message via text, (not sure how she got my number) stating that they were working things out and i needed to back off. I asked him about it and he said that was not true. that the connection we have is on a spirtual level and he never had this type of connection with her. that i gave him more in 5 months then she did in 3.5 years. He asked if we can talk after work, i met him at his house and we talked, again reasurring me that he wants to be with me, but wants to take it slow. He made love to me like he was never going to see me agian, the next day holding me tight and looking into my eyes, i felt so connected to him but felt something was wrong. He went to work that afternoon and i text him asking if we can talk again when he gets off because i felt like something was wrong. He said yes that he is very confused. I met him after work and his body lanuage looked as he was uncomforable. He said he is confused because he is worried about his kids. I said what are you trying to say that you dont want to see me anymore? He just looked at me, he didnt have to say anything, i knew the answer. I grabbed my purse and left. He didnt call me or text me.... i tried to reach out twice but dont want to bug him. I know he is back with his ex from what a friend told me.... any scorpio men out there that can help?? Does he miss me? Does he think about me? Will i see him again?

I text him twice, telling his i respect his descion but i am very hurt, he told me i dont understand his hurt. I left it alone. I am a gemini with scorpio moon, and his girlfriend (mother of his kids) is a virgo.

I'm so sorry for your pain 😢 of course he thinks about you, but he went back to her & used the kids as an excuse! Do u really wanna waste anymore of your time? It seems to me you were just a sexual rebound, move on & thank god it happened now rather than later on when you have more feelings & time invested. He lied about everything just to keep having great sex with you..

I am sure there is more to the story, i just thought the connection was real. I will move on, he does need to do whats right for his kids, i agree.

@ scorpiochica.... thank you for being honest. I have been thinking the same thing since he broke it off. I was just a pass time until he figured out what he was going to do with their relationship.

They actually live seperate, and she was upset that he would not live with her. But he did not want to live with her considering all the problems they were having. They fight and argue all the time, and he feels its unhealthy for his kids to see that.

Do right by his kids?? Please wake up & see the bs! He used u, u even said u were most connected during sex, he told u what u wanted to hear to get the benefits. No one has to go back into a terrible relationship for the sake of the kids. How would that benefit the children?? Fighting & drama is what they will see, she told u to back off cause they're gonna work it out, stop thinking he's gonna come back to u for anything serious. It'll only be SEX!

@scorpiochica, yes i am not that big of a dummy, i know there was more there then he lead on.... and he pretty much played me. I should have been smarter, but like i said we had an amazing connection. We live and we learn right? I know i deserve better and can do better, its only been a week, so of course i miss him and still am confused... but i will get over it.

& fyi she got your # from his fone when he fell asleep after they had sex. I don't mean to be mean but open your eyes! He's a loser! He doesn't give a crap about u or your feelings, if he did he wouldn't just drop what u guys had for his ex the drug addict/cheater. I bet she'd tell u a whole different story about him smh, please do yourself a favor & move on!

Yes, he took me out almost every weekend. He was always so excited to take me some where new. Movies, dinner, the park. we just enjoyed each others company to the fullest. I met all his family, and even they said he was more happy since he met me....

Time will heal all, I wish u the best, stay strong & stay away from him..he's a real a**hole

@scorpiochica, You sound just like my sister, who is also my best friend.... she told me the same thing. Im just trippen becasue the chemistry... but i guess i was more in it than him.

If u wanna chat u can msg me 🙂 remember actions speak louder than words, believe me he did u a big favor, think of what u had as a cold weather fling.

@sewdope, thanks for your comment and your advice. i am very confused right now... i will not contact him, i will keep it moving. i just feel like he could have been more honest with me when i asked him about the entire situation. he seemed very confused.

Thank you scorpiochica for your honesty! I sometimes need to hear it, even though it hurts

I say leave him alone. He may reach out to you again if things do not go as he plans or hopes, but my question to you is would you really want to at that point? Will you be able to let "this" and the pain he is currently creating go? Based on the OP you seem to already know something was off. I find it interesting that you asked him about his intentions with his ex "a few times" despite this "connection" you have. Not to mention this:

Posted by tmijones
I asked him a few times if he would ever get back with her considering that their babies were so young. He said no! That there was a history of cheating, lies, and drugs. That he worried about his kids because of her drug use. and often times this stressed him out, he didnt know what to do. So about a week ago i received a message via text, (not sure how she got my number) stating that they were working things out and i needed to back off. I asked him about it and he said that was not true. that the connection we have is on a spirtual level and he never had this type of connection with her. that i gave him more in 5 months then she did in 3.5 years. He asked if we can talk after work, i met him at his house and we talked, again reasurring me that he wants to be with me, but wants to take it slow.

His words are do not match his actions, which does not necessarily mean that he was intentionally playing with you, but it does come off as though he does not know what he wants. Until he does, stay clear.

And just something to ponder, your number didn't just magically materialize into her possession. She more than likely got it from him. I am not suggesting that he gave it to her, but his phone was clearly unattended in her presence long enough for her to retrieve it from his phone. No need for that to happen imo. Not to mention, this decision to "be" with his ex didn't just happen.

^^^^con't

Nothing ever just happens with a Scorp. All angles, possible outcomes and avenues would have been considered--all the while dating you--yet he was so "connected" with you.... and he didn't share his thoughts, fears, concerns with the woman he would want to pursue a new and better life with? This just sounds like he's not someone to get too invested in until he gets his stuff together. Sorry.

Posted by ScorpioChica
No one has to go back into a terrible relationship for the sake of the kids. How would that benefit the children??

+1

Posted by tmijones
@scorpiochica, yes i am not that big of a dummy, i know there was more there then he lead on.... and he pretty much played me. I should have been smarter, but like i said we had an amazing connection. We live and we learn right? I know i deserve better and can do better, its only been a week, so of course i miss him and still am confused... but i will get over it.

Don't beat yourself up lady. Shoulda, coulda, woulda statements don't allow for personal growth. You're human; not perfect. You can see this is as he "played" you, or you can reflect on the times you felt something was off, but chose to ignore it. Answer those questions, cry over some supa dupa chocolate and ice cream and move on. Focusing on his actions alone will only make you jaded and probably doomed to make the same mistake.

Thanks for responding Phoenix rising, AT this point i am Not sure what i want from him, i think right now im confused and hurt and dont understand his decsion but respect IT. And if He did try and reach out to Me IT will be hard to say if i can let go and trust him. I did question him because i felt maybe IT wad to soon for him to be in a relationship.so soon After just splitting from his ex, and i was scared that i would invest time and love towards him and He would end up changing his mind.....which ended up happening. Me being a gemini always look AT a logical point of veiw and an emtional point of veiw. When He was with Me He was completley focused on Me, but during the week was sometimes difficult to communicate so i would Start to question the relationship.
I would ask him if He needed time to figure things out when He would vent about the kids Mom, but that would only piss him off and He actually ignored Me for 5 days. Like i said maybe i was in IT More than him. I was focused on him, and He wad focused on her. I think He truley wants to move on because He knows the relationship was unhealthy w her, but He must still love her. I think my question really is, did He even Care about Me? Cuz if this was all in my head..... scary.

Never, ever date someone that " just recently ended" something... Whatever time frame they give you is probably off a few months, it happens, you just have to be smart and look for signs and red flags...

Stay away from him, he doesn't know whatvhe wants and he will probably come back, don't do that to yourself, good luck & be strong

Thank you, i will be strong and will use my brain, Not my heart.... Lol

At least you know what your up aganist. Baby mama and 2 babies. What you gonna do? Bow out and stop ignoring your intuition or keep trying to make him believe that its meant to be? Totally up 2you.

As a fellow scorp moon, your going tobe obsessed with him until someone new moves n. This may mean beating this dead horse for a few weeks. But oncd you know that you r done, u will be done.

wow, i completely agree, my last relationship was 11 years lng, i couldnt let IT go, even though IT was soooo over, until i woke up one day and relized this will never go any where.. I wish i didnt have that trait.

Posted by tmijones
I did question him because i felt maybe IT wad to soon for him to be in a relationship.so soon After just splitting from his ex, and i was scared that i would invest time and love towards him and He would end up changing his mind.....

So if you had concerns about this, why didn't you take it slow? Slow meaning, date, get to know this man better? That question sounds more judgmental than intended--and it is rhetorical. Your reasons are for you to figure out.

Posted by tmijones
Me being a gemini always look AT a logical point of veiw and an emtional point of veiw. When He was with Me He was completley focused on Me, but during the week was sometimes difficult to communicate so i would Start to question the relationship.

Sounds like the emotional side won here....

Posted by tmijones

I would ask him if He needed time to figure things out when He would vent about the kids Mom, but that would only piss him off and He actually ignored Me for 5 days. Like i said maybe i was in IT More than him. I was focused on him, and He wad focused on her.

This was probably your first sign to slow things down.

Posted by tmijones
I think He truley wants to move on because He knows the relationship was unhealthy w her, but He must still love her. I think my question really is, did He even Care about Me? Cuz if this was all in my head..... scary.

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Sounds like you're trying to convince yourself to give him another chance. I'm in no position to say if you should or shouldn't (I personally like the Gem-Scorp combo. I think you guys are a bunch of kinky little monkeys ) Regardless, the above statement doesn't matter because of what you say below:

^^^^^ cont.

Posted by tmijones
i think right now im confused and hurt and dont understand his decsion...And if He did try and reach out to Me IT will be hard to say if i can let go and trust him.

So in regards to the OP this is your answer. Regardless of what he does now trust will become the issue for the two of you.

I think your right on, im debating w my self, if He was to come.back what choice would i make?? Continue to question where i stand, and wondering if AT any Moment He could go back to her, or stand my ground and say hell no, srry, refuse to go through the push and pull. Im hoping in a few weeks my mind will be clear, and i will Not make the Same mistake again. Yes but regarding the sex.....defiant fireworks!!

Posted by tmijones
I think your right on, im debating w my self, if He was to come.back what choice would i make?? Continue to question where i stand, and wondering if AT any Moment He could go back to her, or stand my ground and say hell no, srry, refuse to go through the push and pull. Im hoping in a few weeks my mind will be clear, and i will Not make the Same mistake again. Yes but regarding the sex.....defiant fireworks!!

That isn't "push and pull", that's cat and mouse. If you want to be toyed with then continue as you have. A person shouldn't have to question where they stand, they should know.

The time you take away needs to be about you, not obsessing over what he may or may not do. Take care of you. Since you're so obsessive (that's what you said I believe), then obsess over yourself (e.g. new hobby, try a new class, build that fabulous Gem mind, etc...).

Anyway, good luck TJones.

Thank u so much for your honesty and thoughts, no Not obessive.... I go to work, Gym, and kids have Sports. I always put my self First. But just hurt, confused. I will think about IT, and try to analalize until my mind says.... I got IT! Then on to the NeXT.....lol. He really is a great man, very different from anyone i have ever met, i think its the wrong time in life.