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Pretty self explanatory.. bye bye to my Scorp... for now. He's already playing the game... this time I'll just be bulletproof. I do miss him though.

Enjoy Miss Keys' beautiful music.

Gooooood night.

-viv.ala.pisces

To add to the data for scorps, an x-g/f scorp is in change mode as well. Dumping her bottom feeder b/f and starting a new job. This all after her submerging into dark and brooding mode last month. There may be some truth in all of this. :p. Hang in their scorps

Posted by River Deep Mountain High
Vivalapisces - sorry to hear that you are feeling this way.

Posted by seavixen
In my experience, this time of year is their "time", Scorps use it as a time for self reflection and sometimes dive deep within to delve deep.

...Interesting - I am currently going through a 'accept nothing, question everything' phase.

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River Deep:

I am going through the same thing...

Do I want to continue this? Or just walk away completly.

I am just about out the door one more step and I am gone.

Whole lot of reflection....

Posted by VirgoHero
To add to the data for scorps, an x-g/f scorp is in change mode as well. Dumping her bottom feeder b/f and starting a new job. This all after her submerging into dark and brooding mode last month. There may be some truth in all of this. :p. Hang in their scorps

Damn VH you hit that on the nose.

I have a job interview tommorrow. Not sure if I want to continue friendship with the GEM.

He keeps calling.... Every morning I get a call and another one in the evening.

Posted by tooseriouslol
i like scorps lots because many of them know they are no angels (they can be close tho when they love) and they can take the hard truth. sensitive and strong. but one does need to remind them sometimes that it's not all about them haha.

We know it's not all about us especially the ones that have EVOLVED.

I understand what you are saying....

Whatever changes we make be it personal/relationship/family or friends will effect the people that we have in our life also.

My reflection is on my personal life yes relationship etc. I will be making not only a change in my lively hood but in my personal life which in turn will change me and those around me in some way, because either they are going to deal with me or not but all these changes will be good for me as well as the people I surroud myself with.

I feel that I will be making a decision that will change me for the rest of my life.

Don't be heartened I am sure things will work out for the best either with him or without him we both will excel in life. That I believe. And I am a big fan of CHANGE.

I know that I can't cry over the decisions I have made past or present. I can only move on and leave the rest behind.

Thanks for the well wishes 🙂

Last year around this time we were broken up too. Except we had just started going out and he did it around September. He's so difficult... he falls so hard then withdraws and the tests come out. When we got back together in January he was on his knees talking bout spending the rest of our lives together... children... etc. I had to tell him to slow down. Then after a few months he'd disappear... more and more. That was pretty hard for me to swallow, but then again I have my own issues I have to get over from a past relationship. Issues or no issues, his attitude and moodiness just got worse and worse... and I'm not cool with that. If he needs that space, fine. He's got it... but I treated him with nothing but respect the entire relationship. I called him out on his BS whether it be face to face or a long detailed letter... poetry.. etc... but at the same time when with him I treated him like a king.

I have to say he is hilarious with this bs though... after not speaking for two weeks I still gave him his bday present (he totally didn't deserve it but this gift meant more than just our relationship - eden knows). It was made to lift his spirits... to bring him up everytime he looks at it... everytime he forgets how it felt to do something that made him so happy... he could look at this piece that I made him (I'm an artist) and remember. We spoke and he was extremely touched.. started telling me about what has happened in the two weeks that we didn't speak at home and the new job (that I helped him get). After he was done (20-30 mins later) he tells me he's still mad at me (but he doesn't know why) and he doesn't want to speak to me still. I told him he just spoke BS with me for the past 20-30 mins and he felt like a dumbass. Told me nervously "umm thats just what I do, I'm just like that... I'm a walking contradiction..."

That he doesn't deserve me, but I'm not good enough for him...

That he can't be the man that I need him to be right now.... when I asked him why not? he said I don't know...

Hands down - funniest guy I know... I swear.

By the way.. all of you guys are awesome. It still surprises me how much two people who don't know eachother can be so similar. Seavixen.. is he a November Scorp? This interesting character I speak of is Nov 16. =)

His push and pull crap makes me so mad. I worry for him, and after speaking to his mom and sister, who are extremely worried for him too... I see it's not just me. There is something internal going on with him... I've done all that I can to show him that I am still that close friend from college, and girl that meant it when she told him she loved him. Now I just hope he sees it and gets over whatever it is that is plaguing his mind.

Have a wunnaaafull weekend people. 😘

Posted by eden 3
venus in scorp fffuuuccckkk! so if ur venus is in scorp it's gonna be super strong right—

*looks for somewhere to hide*

LOL awww what does that do to you though? My ex has Sun and Venus is Scorp too. Fill me innnn LOL. =) please.

Posted by fourthwallbreaker
'-viv.ala.pisces'

Nice play on words too, fwiw 🙂

Why thank you =)

Posted by seavixen
yes, Viv...he is... November 15, 1972. Honey, he is far from being perfect. He tested me and tested ...he disappeared, came back, disappeared, I cried rivers of tears, wrote him long letters, stopped talking to him, broke up...but everytime he came back and wouldn't leave me alone until I would hear him out. Sometimes he didnt have anything to say and avoided the issue and tried to pick up like he didnt hurt me. I don't know how I made it, if I made it, or will ever make through. Sometimes I wonder what the hell is wrong with me..I must seriously like sadomasochistic bullshit. But when it's good with him-it's soooo good! I can say that when he pulled his disappearing act, after awhile I just got bored of it, tired of wondering what I did, and just told myself that if wants me than he'll have to make the moves to come back to me...I was done chasing him. I wasn't going to let his issues affect me so much and when he would disappear I stopped my calls and messages etc. and did my own thing. Sometimes it would be days, but he couldn't take my 360 and wonder why I wasn't messaging him to see if he was mad at me, what was wrong, if he was ok etc...and now I do that everytime. I've read and and read about Scorpio men...sheesh! A good book to read is "sexstrology" by starsky and cox. It gives alot of insight into the psychology of each sign and their scorpio write up is a mind opener and very positive and hopeful while Pisces is completely off if you ask me...hahaha..but like everything, use it as a guide-something to pass time, get you through, occupy your mind...not a blueprint cuz he is more than just a scorpio...just like we are more than pisceans. Good luck Viva, you can message me anytime pisces sister and I will surely listen

What is it with the third tier scorpios? LOL (no offense guys I'm obviously crazy bout this guy). The disappearing though... I've observed him with his friends. This guy in particular is quite a piece of work.. and the testing with his friends... Eden you're so right about the grading system. He would share it with me when it comes to his close friend that he was thinking bout becoming business partners with. E.g.- so and so did this and what part of the game is that? (minus points) then he said this when confronted with a problem and I gave him good advice! told him how itll work! and he didn't listen! (minus some more points)

whoa not third tier... correction third deacon*

and it cut my message off.. f'n dxp! (continued from the response to SV).

- conclusion: I'm not doing business with him!!! the hell with that! LOL

Concerning the disappearing, I started to give him more space as time went on. He admitted it too... but with him I honestly think he's afraid. He's scared ... I don't know but I don't think he likes it when I can read anything about him. On top of that, he says "I know you.. I know who you are, etc etc." but he doesn't. I know he doesn't understand me either, no matter how hard he tries to pick me apart sometimes. I mean he understands some things about me, but to say you got a person all figured out is ridiculous. I am not that transparent... and I doubt any pisces is so easily decipherable.

Eh, we'll see how it plays out.. I can feel his brainwaves. Thank you Seavixen, I am here for you as well.

(Fish fin high five!) 🙂

Posted by tooseriouslol
a real love should not drain you and cut you. protect your good spirit first and foremost. that's what would lead you to true happiness.

You're right, it was getting toxic. Next time I will not allow him to drain me like the last.

""I know you.. I know who you are, etc etc." but he doesn't. I know he doesn't understand me either, no matter how hard he tries to pick me apart sometimes." Mine does the same thing. No offense to water signs but they don't really have the brain power like an air sign does to get me. I'm a sagittarius and I really need a metal connection which we don't have but I had with my libra😢. I don't know...the sex is amazing and we have been going for 7 months but I'm totally unhappy. I stay because he wants me too. He tells me he loves me and it really hurts my feelings because I don't think it's true. I say it back because I don't want to make conflict. He also says I treat him really well and care about him like no other person he knows has ever. I believe that. But he doesn't care about me back. So as you can see the relationship is one sided. Telling me you love me, always being there, willing do anything for you is NOT LOVE TO ME. UNDERSTANDING ME IS. Which he doesn't. This relationship makes me so lonely. Oh well. I get what your all saying.

I guess I don't get why he hates me so much. It's like shit what did I ever do t you?

Yeah...it's all about projection at this age isn't?🙂😢

Sag89 my ex made me feel lonely at times too.. I didn't leave.. I had like the most patience ever with him. Still do even that we are apart, but like Seavixen said.. when it's good.. it's soooo good.

One of the oddest things I'd have to say is that this break up showed me that his family loves me... when I dropped off his gift his mom was trying to stall for me to stay til he got home (which wasn't til around 11pm anyway)... but it was cute to see her efforts. Trying to get me to have coffee, or food... telling me IN SLOW DETAIL what she has to fix in the apt... what she puts in her tea... lol.

I digress... anyways Sag89 how do you feel about him? If you don't want to be in the relationship anymore you are wasting his time. Maybe I read your post wrong, but you're saying that you rather be with an air sign, and that you're only staying with this Scorpio because he wants you to. I hope you realize that if you waste his time, he WILL realize it, and when he does I think you should hide. I'm just saying...

SV

I commend you on how you handle your scorpman. We are a piece of work especially when young. Some of the things you say your scorp does I can relate. But once we get older and evolve in the right way we are more open in how we feel.

For me I normally crawl in my hole to control my emotions so that I donkt do nothing to hurt anyone and the only people who I will express how I am feelings are the people in my life that Io truly trust and understand me. Hang in there he appreciates you.

Posted by seavixen
oooooooooooooo viva..his family approves of you? shoot girl, you'll need be rid of him...he'll keep coming back and back and back...LOL

His family looooves me. His sister, mother, cousin... they're awesome.

I forgot to mentiont he last thing that happened. The night after we spoke on the phone (after two weeks of not talking and I left the picture I made him at his house when he wasn't there)... I saw him on instant messenger and just asked "is my scarf at your house..."

He ignored me for 15 mins and signed off. Mind you since we broke up he was scarcely online... suddenly the night after we speak he's on for 2 hrs. So he signed off on me... and hasn't come online since. LOL Ego stealer...

i blocked him anyway.. maybe he's still upset that I deleted him from FB and disappeared completely after the break up.... and also acted apathetic on the phone when we finally spoke. I don't know... would that be reason enough to steal my ego?

😉 He deserved it... I just really wish i could get him off my mind.

In due time...

Posted by seavixen
...maybe you shouldn't write him off quite yet. In my experience, this time of year is their "time", Scorps use it as a time for self reflection and sometimes dive deep within to delve deep. Sometimes I don't hear from my man for a whole week, he doesn't answer his phone, doesnt respond to my texts-nothing... he's gone. But then he pops back up like nothing has happened. I used to think he was trying to hurt me, or make me chase him, and that he was ignoring me because he wanted to break up with me and this was his way of doing it. I used to analyze and analyze our last conversations to try and figure out if I might of said something to make him retreat and/or cut me off, but I could never find a reason...and knowing him, if I pissed him off-he wouldn't have held his tongue, so i was clueless. It's been 2 years and now when he retreats for reasons that I don't know, I just call and leave him a message or text him letting him know that I care about him and that I will be here if he needs someone to listen and I'll talk to him soon. And I just leave him alone and do my own things. When he is ready, he comes back and each time he "retreats", it seems to be getting shorter and shorter and he is able to talk to me about it better and better. They say you need patience to be with a scorpio male, and in my case, that has rang true. But he is so worth it, he's very special.

That's ... wow!

Posted by Hypnotic—
LoL-Up @ ego stealing..

*reminiscent of thread*
*tears of joy*

Leggo my ego!!!

*hands you a tissue* =D