DaLionessOfLove
@DaLionessOfLove
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okay Scorpio men.(and ladies)..i think he's gone
Are you a leo Dalioness?
If it were me, and I know a male scorpio may do things different, and someone did something like that...I would probably assess how I feel about the person and if I love, love, love, looooved them...then I would eventually come back but still be a bit funny on the trust thing. If I didn't really care too much and knew my feelings for the person could pass then I wouldn't be back.
But if it were me in your position I would have been suspicious also but only because of the hang-up he has on you possibly leaving him for your ex yet he still talks to the ex who gave him the reason to feel that way in the first place. I would have wanted to check out who she was as well.
Posted by TypicalScorpio
But if it were me in your position I would have been suspicious also but only because of the hang-up he has on you possibly leaving him for your ex yet he still talks to the ex who gave him the reason to feel that way in the first place. I would have wanted to check out who she was as well.
exactly and I'm thinking she is his ex they might not be close like they used to be but its one thing to say you love someone them pull away from then the next..
I've heard Scops play the game of Cat and Mouse..
Posted by DaLionessOfLovePosted by exoskeleton
i understand that you were suspicious, but that was a very bad move on your part. unless he tells you something himself, it's none of your business what goes on between them. that's disrespecting him and i wouldn't be surprised if he didn't trust you for a while.
yes i understand what u mean ..but we were talking about moving with each other and everything
he seem to start pulling away and I sort of paniced
we even talked about having kids
everyday we would talk ..but now things changed...😢click to expand
Another case of falling in love too fast with who we think you are, then being afraid of our own emotions. Classic.
Posted by SkykomishPosted by DaLionessOfLovePosted by exoskeleton
i understand that you were suspicious, but that was a very bad move on your part. unless he tells you something himself, it's none of your business what goes on between them. that's disrespecting him and i wouldn't be surprised if he didn't trust you for a while.
yes i understand what u mean ..but we were talking about moving with each other and everything
he seem to start pulling away and I sort of paniced
we even talked about having kids
everyday we would talk ..but now things changed...😢
Another case of falling in love too fast with who we think you are, then being afraid of our own emotions. Classic.click to expand
I've had to reassure him not to be afraid to tell me things.
..one day she shocked me by being so playful 🙂 and opened up about how he feels...not long after that tho he began to close back up and go under his rock .so to speak..
I don't mind reassuring him that I care and he don't dont have to worry about me leaving him I give him space but , I just hate for him to get all quiet for hours at a time..this is the longest he's ever been quiet..(going on day 5 now)
Posted by DaLionessOfLovePosted by TypicalScorpio
But if it were me in your position I would have been suspicious also but only because of the hang-up he has on you possibly leaving him for your ex yet he still talks to the ex who gave him the reason to feel that way in the first place. I would have wanted to check out who she was as well.
exactly and I'm thinking she is his ex they might not be close like they used to be but its one thing to say you love someone them pull away from then the next..
I've heard Scops play the game of Cat and Mouse..
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I personally have never done that. If I have it's been completely unintentional and no one has spoken about it to me.
Sorry to keep putting myself into your position...I know I'm not the one living it but...I can't help thinking how I would feel being in a relationship where we both are having trust issues. Have you guys had an honest heart to heart about your insecurities? I mean...you said you were fine with him talking to his ex but then you got suspicious when he was talking to the other lady...and he obviously is feeling a bit iffy about your ex... Have you guys spoken about how you feel for each other instead of the whole "You're going to go back to your ex." type of talk?
I don't know if any of that even made sense 😛 I've just woken up so forgive me if it doesn't.
Posted by TypicalScorpioPosted by DaLionessOfLovePosted by TypicalScorpio
But if it were me in your position I would have been suspicious also but only because of the hang-up he has on you possibly leaving him for your ex yet he still talks to the ex who gave him the reason to feel that way in the first place. I would have wanted to check out who she was as well.
exactly and I'm thinking she is his ex they might not be close like they used to be but its one thing to say you love someone them pull away from then the next..
I've heard Scops play the game of Cat and Mouse..
I personally have never done that. If I have it's been completely unintentional and no one has spoken about it to me.
Sorry to keep putting myself into your position...I know I'm not the one living it but...I can't help thinking how I would feel being in a relationship where we both are having trust issues. Have you guys had an honest heart to heart about your insecurities? I mean...you said you were fine with him talking to his ex but then you got suspicious when he was talking to the other lady...and he obviously is feeling a bit iffy about your ex... Have you guys spoken about how you feel for each other instead of the whole "You're going to go back to your ex." type of talk?
I don't know if any of that even made sense 😛 I've just woken up so forgive me if it doesn't.click to expand
Well..when I first told him i was leaving my ex he brought up his ex girlfriend and how I reminded him of her. He had end up meeting her but she went back to her guy. So that is how I know about her. Also like her I have two kids. She has two kids..He loves kids and wants one of his own.
I've told him I dont want my ex back and that he has my heart but of course that is fear of me going back because she did..
btw
he's a November boy lol...Scorp Sun/Virgo moon
he's a November boy lol...Scorp Sun/Virgo moon
Posted by DaLionessOfLovePosted by SkykomishPosted by DaLionessOfLovePosted by exoskeleton
i understand that you were suspicious, but that was a very bad move on your part. unless he tells you something himself, it's none of your business what goes on between them. that's disrespecting him and i wouldn't be surprised if he didn't trust you for a while.
yes i understand what u mean ..but we were talking about moving with each other and everything
he seem to start pulling away and I sort of paniced
we even talked about having kids
everyday we would talk ..but now things changed...😢
Another case of falling in love too fast with who we think you are, then being afraid of our own emotions. Classic.
I've had to reassure him not to be afraid to tell me things.
..one day she shocked me by being so playful 🙂 and opened up about how he feels...not long after that tho he began to close back up and go under his rock .so to speak..
I don't mind reassuring him that I care and he don't dont have to worry about me leaving him I give him space but , I just hate for him to get all quiet for hours at a time..this is the longest he's ever been quiet..(going on day 5 now)
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For me personally, someone telling me 'its okay' or reassuring me does NOTHING for me. I'm still afraid of my own emotions at times, and being told that doesn't change anything. I need my time and space to sort through it, alone. I believe this is true for the sign.
So if you fall in love to quickly with the person you think we are does that mean when you have had time to see who we really are you become unsure and back off, or you get frightened of your emotions and back off?
Im in a similar situation see my thread `Im having trouble with my Scorpio man`..?...we were fine although I knew he had other issues that kept rearing up....we have great weekends and then as the week progresses he would just get colder and colder until we met up again. He tells me now that he cant love me the same way i love him (although he does love me).
Im trying to get on with things but I find it sooo hard to leave him be 😢.
I said I would give him space but I did text a few times just to see how he was and if he was ready to talk...WRONG, I know.
Just need to know if we still have a relationship, would hate for him to be a coward and not tell me and then just slip away 😢.
Just gonna leave things now and see what happens.
Im in a similar situation see my thread `Im having trouble with my Scorpio man`..?...we were fine although I knew he had other issues that kept rearing up....we have great weekends and then as the week progresses he would just get colder and colder until we met up again. He tells me now that he cant love me the same way i love him (although he does love me).
Im trying to get on with things but I find it sooo hard to leave him be 😢.
I said I would give him space but I did text a few times just to see how he was and if he was ready to talk...WRONG, I know.
Just need to know if we still have a relationship, would hate for him to be a coward and not tell me and then just slip away 😢.
Just gonna leave things now and see what happens.
::: shakes head :::
Why do women lower themselves to a level where they desperately want a man who doesn't even care enough about them to be bothered with caring that she has feelings?
Seriously .. why?
Men know that women feel, they know this. And they know that when a woman falls for them, that this equates to intense emotional feelings. You ladies parade around this acting like they don't know it and if you could only get them to open up then hopefully you'd be able to get them to accept and want you.
Don't you realize how pathetic this makes you?
When you say you want him to open up ... you mean, you want him to tell you that he feels as much for you as you do for him.
And the fact that he ignores these feelings, means they aren't there .. he isn't ignoring telling you how he feels and that's what you think. You think that he's feeling it like you are and just scard and ignoring it and you so desperately want to free him and save him and get him to open up and let these feelings be free.
He's not a fucking girl, dude .... he doesn't need saving from his feelings. If you are a woman and you are in here desperately seeking ways to get him to accept you for your feelings and you are at wits end at how to get a man to accept you for how you feel about him ... then YOU are the one who needs saving from your feelings.
If the man isn't interested on his own accord of talking about feelings with you ... then it means he isn't feeling you. There is nothing to open up.
Get some fucking dignity and walk the fuck away.
Why do women lower themselves to a level where they desperately want a man who doesn't even care enough about them to be bothered with caring that she has feelings?
Seriously .. why?
Men know that women feel, they know this. And they know that when a woman falls for them, that this equates to intense emotional feelings. You ladies parade around this acting like they don't know it and if you could only get them to open up then hopefully you'd be able to get them to accept and want you.
Don't you realize how pathetic this makes you?
When you say you want him to open up ... you mean, you want him to tell you that he feels as much for you as you do for him.
And the fact that he ignores these feelings, means they aren't there .. he isn't ignoring telling you how he feels and that's what you think. You think that he's feeling it like you are and just scard and ignoring it and you so desperately want to free him and save him and get him to open up and let these feelings be free.
He's not a fucking girl, dude .... he doesn't need saving from his feelings. If you are a woman and you are in here desperately seeking ways to get him to accept you for your feelings and you are at wits end at how to get a man to accept you for how you feel about him ... then YOU are the one who needs saving from your feelings.
If the man isn't interested on his own accord of talking about feelings with you ... then it means he isn't feeling you. There is nothing to open up.
Get some fucking dignity and walk the fuck away.
Posted by P-Angel
::: shakes head :::
Why do women lower themselves to a level where they desperately want a man who doesn't even care enough about them to be bothered with caring that she has feelings?
Seriously .. why?
Men know that women feel, they know this. And they know that when a woman falls for them, that this equates to intense emotional feelings. You ladies parade around this acting like they don't know it and if you could only get them to open up then hopefully you'd be able to get them to accept and want you.
Don't you realize how pathetic this makes you?
When you say you want him to open up ... you mean, you want him to tell you that he feels as much for you as you do for him.
And the fact that he ignores these feelings, means they aren't there .. he isn't ignoring telling you how he feels and that's what you think. You think that he's feeling it like you are and just scard and ignoring it and you so desperately want to free him and save him and get him to open up and let these feelings be free.
He's not a fucking girl, dude .... he doesn't need saving from his feelings. If you are a woman and you are in here desperately seeking ways to get him to accept you for your feelings and you are at wits end at how to get a man to accept you for how you feel about him ... then YOU are the one who needs saving from your feelings.
If the man isn't interested on his own accord of talking about feelings with you ... then it means he isn't feeling you. There is nothing to open up.
Get some fucking dignity and walk the fuck away.
::smdh::
obviously you didnt read the part where I said that he did open up to me.
The issues of now is not that he isn't opening up but that he is distant..cold..and hasn't talked in days..I've heard of how Scorps do the silent treatment
As far as me walking away..not ready. Some people dont let go that easily. The more he keeps quiet tho the easier it is for me to move on. I just don't want him running back time I'm at least completely over him. It's better to know wassup now then to move on if he still have feelings. I'm trying not to hurt him further or make things even more complicated if he still loves me/comes back after getting his issues sorted out.
He's single. I'm single. He's been hurt. I just got out of a bad relationship. He was the one to bring me through that pain from my relati
Posted by CadillacPosted by exoskeleton
i understand that you were suspicious, but that was a very bad move on your part. unless he tells you something himself, it's none of your business what goes on between them. that's disrespecting him and i wouldn't be surprised if he didn't trust you for a while.
This is very true. Exo's advice is usually spot on. You definitely need to stop being so fucking nosey though. I recommend you write him a letter re-assuring him how you were clearly in the wrong frame of mind and that you wont be invading his privacy again. There's a plan and reason for everything he does and this is nothing new. It is a test! You have to go through a series of stringent tests before you gain his unyielding love and trust. Are you patient enough?
Believe me, it's worth it. He'll be the one who loves you unconditionally if you pass. Essentially, you kind of have to be a doormat for a little while. But not a passive fagot doormat, a strong and independent woman who chooses and wants to be with him and understand what it takes. It's a tough task.
Chances are he was more upset about you invading his privacy and digging into his personal life. As long as you still have contact with your ex, then he will doubt you. Time to choose and make the choice final.
Do you want to go on an adventure with this new online Scorpio guy?
Or do you prefer the safety and security of your ex?
Most women prefer the security. Older women want the adventure, how old are you?click to expand
I have a restraining order against my ex but because I have kids with him Mr. Scorpio think that when that restraining order is not in effect ( a whole year from now) ..that I will probably got back to him.
As far as me apologizing.. I sent him a message days ago.Right after all the drama, and apologized. I told him was being selfish and that I panicked and realized that what I did was selfish.
"Most women prefer the security. Older women want the adventure, how old are you?"
I am 24.
I am 24.
You'll just do it again.
So long as you have an excuse for your actions .. then you'll never recognize how/what you could have done for yourself. Instead, you'll only ever recognize what is wrong, and who's to blame.
Same shit different day ....
So long as you have an excuse for your actions .. then you'll never recognize how/what you could have done for yourself. Instead, you'll only ever recognize what is wrong, and who's to blame.
Same shit different day ....
Posted by P-Angel
You'll just do it again.
So long as you have an excuse for your actions .. then you'll never recognize how/what you could have done for yourself. Instead, you'll only ever recognize what is wrong, and who's to blame.
Same shit different day ....
hmmm I didn't blame anyone I have owned up to my actions so what do u mean "you'll only over recognize what is wrong, and who's to blame?"
lol...
Posted by DaLionessOfLovePosted by P-Angel
You'll just do it again.
So long as you have an excuse for your actions .. then you'll never recognize how/what you could have done for yourself. Instead, you'll only ever recognize what is wrong, and who's to blame.
Same shit different day ....
hmmm I didn't blame anyone I have owned up to my actions so what do u mean "you'll only over recognize what is wrong, and who's to blame?"
lol...
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You're so busy being defensive that you cannot even hear what I say. Never in any of my responses here was I talking about the intrustive communication you send to both of them. You are so busy defending yourself against that, that you aren't even aware that I never mentioned it. The issue isn't about the message you sent to them .. the issue is that he's not worth a single bit of worth, you act like he is, and don't know it.
That's always the issue in here ... women bleat on and on about getting the man and never stop to realize that she trashes herself by pining over a douchebag.
You, like everyone else, will never get this point of mine because you are too busy defending yourself ... just like you do with them. You defend yourself against him not caring about you, instead of actually getting the point that he doesn't care.
:::: shakes head ::::
You blame/fault another woman, to whom you suspect might even be the ex .... as being the reason why the man disrespects you.
The man disrespects you because you stand there loving a fool and thinking he's a king.
So long as you have an excuse for your actions .. then you'll never recognize how/what you could have done for yourself. Instead, you'll only ever recognize what is wrong, and who's to blame.
Same shit different day ....
If you want to help yourself, then take your fingers out of your fucking ears.
when I said you will do it again .. I was meaning you will again throw your love feelings into the wrong person, and think he's suppose to respect you based on you wanting him to.
And how I know you'll do it again is because you did it this time ... so, if you're blind now, you'll be blind again .. because if you weren't blind then you wouldn't have done it in the first place.
when I said you will do it again .. I was meaning you will again throw your love feelings into the wrong person, and think he's suppose to respect you based on you wanting him to.
And how I know you'll do it again is because you did it this time ... so, if you're blind now, you'll be blind again .. because if you weren't blind then you wouldn't have done it in the first place.
Because you cannot see the reality of the situation .... you have no other recourse except to be selfish ... and you've mastered selfish quite well ... so, it's easy to assume that you've been doing this repeatedly.
:::: shakes head :::::
People are inherently stupid .. they get feelings and then shit all over themselves trying to figure out how to live with them ... you are no exception.
same shit different day ......
:::: shakes head :::::
People are inherently stupid .. they get feelings and then shit all over themselves trying to figure out how to live with them ... you are no exception.
same shit different day ......
O_o@defensive lol....
but there is a 3 post response to my simple question. lol
But now that is more clear on what you meant I'm glad to see that you are passionate P-Angel And as a woman in you're age (please dont that that the wrong way ..*crosses fingers*) I'm pretty sure your experience with men should not be taken lightly..his ex is not to blame. I am you're right. And he is also for not being there in this time of need but instead of being the "selfish" person I am and not writing him messages every 10 minutes or so like i should be doing I am giving him his space. Response or No Response. 🙂
but there is a 3 post response to my simple question. lol
But now that is more clear on what you meant I'm glad to see that you are passionate P-Angel And as a woman in you're age (please dont that that the wrong way ..*crosses fingers*) I'm pretty sure your experience with men should not be taken lightly..his ex is not to blame. I am you're right. And he is also for not being there in this time of need but instead of being the "selfish" person I am and not writing him messages every 10 minutes or so like i should be doing I am giving him his space. Response or No Response. 🙂
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