On Scorpio women...

This has been bugging me for so many years now.


I have had this Scorpio girl friend i have known for years. Although I have always been attracted to her (I never dared tell her), we never had a time that we are both single. It was either she had a boyfriend or I had a girlfriend.

There was one time that she and her boyfriend broke up. Yes, a good friend I am, I was there for her when she needed me. Went out most of the time to watch movies or just simply eat out. I was even with her when she burned her 'memories' of him (mostly pictures and letters). She was like that for a week.


There was one time that she decided to sleep over in my place. I was like, okay cool. I'll go sleep on the couch. She said she wants to sleep beside me. I was thinking, nope that's not a good idea but then i just agreed.

When we lied down on bed, we just talked, at first. She talked, and I listened to her. But you know those sudden magnetism when you are with someone you are attracted to? LOL. I felt it and I guess she sensed it. She brushed herself against me and I was honest with her and told her to stop because that is not good I am getting aroused. She just laughed and asked why i was. I told her because she is pretty and sexy and all that. She then stopped and we both became silent.

I don't know what happened to me but I kissed her. And out of the blue, she asked:

Why did you kiss me?

I told her it felt right to kiss her.

So i think you know what happened next. It felt magnetic. Everything was great.

-- fast forward next week --

she became aloof. she didn't text, she didn't call, which she normally does. so i was the one trying to reach her. she rarely answers and when she does, she tells me she has something to do and she will just call or text me later (which didn't happen).

yes. i thought maybe i was bad? lol. she told me she wasn't ready for a relationship. I told her I am not forcing her into a relationship. I just didn't want her to disappear like that. She told me what we did was wrong. I said what's wrong with that, we're both single. She said she didn't like my answer when she asked me why i wanted to kiss her.

i was like, just that? i didn't want to be dishonest and tell her i love her when i don't. so i just let it go like that. we haven't seen each other ever since.


What are your thoughts on this?

if you don't love her, then why did you kiss her-not any time but during her post-break-up already confused state?

what kind of a friend are you ?

ok just apologize and be very very honest, tell her that you are not that kind of guy who takes advantage of such a delicate situation and you are ready to do anything to have her in your life again. You are a leo with cancer moon for gods sake, just exaggerate and be generous. Tell her that you care about her so so so much and that you are going to prove her that nothing like that will ever happen again.

because right now she's probably thinking to herself either,

1-omg, did he like me all these years ? or

2-omg, how could a befriend a jerk like this ?

and feeling betrayed by you.

i know because something very similar happened to me and im a scorpio 😛

I had this really close friend( I trusted him enough to sleep in the same bed with him etc) and one night, I was feeling kind of sad so he hugged me from behind. Which was alright. But then he touched my legs and my hips a little bit. Then he stopped because I didn't react at all. It was one of the most awkward moments of my life ! Anyways, we never talked about it but it was never the same. No more sleep overs. I talked to him less. He was a jerk but I thought he was my friend, you know. I wasn't angry but the friendship had lost its innocence.

so yeah, you may have ruined your friendship 😢

You didn't ruin anything. You both knew what you were doing. If it was a mistake, its equally her fault. If she is willing to throw away the friendship over a mistake you both made, that's her call and IMO she's really not worth having as a friend.

Posted by beggarsblanket
if you don't love her, then why did you kiss her-not any time but during her post-break-up already confused state?

at the moment, it just felt really right. i was not trying to take advantage of the situation, if that is what you're thinking.

what kind of a friend are you ?

a good friend i am.

ok just apologize and be very very honest, tell her that you are not that kind of guy who takes advantage of such a delicate situation and you are ready to do anything to have her in your life again. You are a leo with cancer moon for gods sake, just exaggerate and be generous. Tell her that you care about her so so so much and that you are going to prove her that nothing like that will ever happen again.

because right now she's probably thinking to herself either,

1-omg, did he like me all these years ? or

2-omg, how could a befriend a jerk like this ?

and feeling betrayed by you.

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- yes i definitely was not taking advantage of her and her situation. now i think it's kinda clear why she asked that. thank you for the insight 🙂

Posted by Impulsv
Or maybe she was hoping there'd be love behind that kiss. AfterAll she did put herself in ur bed n we are not that naive.
So liking her wounds.

You think she did? Really? I will not deny, i was attracted to her. But no love. Not yet. I didn't even think she would think that. Fall for her while she is crying over a man? Not my thing.

Posted by beggarsblanket
i know because something very similar happened to me and im a scorpio 😛

I had this really close friend( I trusted him enough to sleep in the same bed with him etc) and one night, I was feeling kind of sad so he hugged me from behind. Which was alright. But then he touched my legs and my hips a little bit. Then he stopped because I didn't react at all. It was one of the most awkward moments of my life ! Anyways, we never talked about it but it was never the same. No more sleep overs. I talked to him less. He was a jerk but I thought he was my friend, you know. I wasn't angry but the friendship had lost its innocence.

so yeah, you may have ruined your friendship 😢

hmm. making me think maybe it's you i slept with? lol just kidding.


in your case, you didn't "tempt" him (which what i think happened to me). you were just sad and all that. and you didn't react. But with us, we had sex. And i didn't want to ruin the friendship. I didn't even want her to disappear. She did.

@tauruslovescorpio - that is why i stopped reaching her. i mean, if she thought that what we did was wrong, we can just forget and get over it and still be friends right? she is one weird woman.

@impulsv - i don't remember how many times i told her to stop teasing me. and i am definitely not a saint. lol

@tiziani - oh, they do? though i find most of them breathtakingly sexy, just too much drama.

Posted by Whatu
She knew what she was doing.

You where bold and did what you have wanted to do for a long time and no doubt this intuitive little minx knew you have liked her all along.


If a woman thinks she can keep you in the friend zone and get all the emotional support from you that she wants then treat you like shit when you wan't something from her then she is not worth your time. You have been an emotional doormat for this girl for a long time and now that you manned up and took your peace of the pie her perception of you has changed (For the better)

I don't think its worth being friends with her anymore, You have broken that bond. Now its time for a new start with her.

Don't tell her you still want to be friends you would be telling a pretty big lie to her, tell her you want a relationship and nothing ells. Be confident and reassuring about it, If you are confidence that its best for both of you then so will she. Your a Leo sun with a Scorp rising it wont be that hard for you to man up and help her get over her shit. Scorpio woman will pull all kinds of nonsense to try and test you and see if they are stronger than you, you just have to rise above the crap they send your way. If you want her go get her.


Don't give up like beggersblankets man did and ruin the whole friendship.

yes i think she knew what she was doing, and that she knew i liked her all those years. and i also believe she wanted what happened as well.


dude, sorry but i am not ready for a relationship just yet. 🙂 i can be friends with her, i mean, maybe for the mean time. but no relationship yet. what? just because of that i will be tied to a thing i am not sure i want?

what beggarsblanket's friend has done is way different that what i did.

Posted by tiziani
Scorpio women always do the bed trick


"Oh im feeling unwell can you come in and find that bottle of water for me?"


"It's pitch black in here"

"You'll find it"

Lol

Posted by Whatu
What ever if you have a good chance with her go for it ready or not, you will regret it someday.

You can't leave it sitting on the fence with her now she will either want to take things further or cut you off all together. She will feel like you took advantage over her or that you are to much of a pussy to make things happen for you. what ever she feels she wont want to be friends with you that's what she is probably doing now, cutting you off.

i think you are right good sir. she has definitely cut me off. but i am not a pussy just because i am not pursuing her. i just went out of a bad relationship as well. but i do want to try things out with her, see if it will work out.

Ok I mean if she tempted you and you guys had sex there is nothing you should feel guilty about.

But it's too weird to go back to just being friends like before after having sex with someone, don't you think ?

Maybe she didn't fall in love with you either, but still, it's almost impossible to act like nothing ever happened.

I'm glad that you are not taking advantage of this situation by lying to her 🙂 Maybe if you guys manage to laugh about it one day, then it will go back to normal. However, I feel like she is not one to laugh about such things ? She is probably a bit confused about why she did such a thing, why you would do such a thing etc. I hope things become clear in her head soon and you guys can hang out again 🙂

Posted by beggarsblanket
Ok I mean if she tempted you and you guys had sex there is nothing you should feel guilty about.

But it's too weird to go back to just being friends like before after having sex with someone, don't you think ?

Maybe she didn't fall in love with you either, but still, it's almost impossible to act like nothing ever happened.

I'm glad that you are not taking advantage of this situation by lying to her 🙂 Maybe if you guys manage to laugh about it one day, then it will go back to normal. However, I feel like she is not one to laugh about such things ? She is probably a bit confused about why she did such a thing, why you would do such a thing etc. I hope things become clear in her head soon and you guys can hang out again 🙂

lying and taking advantage of her is the last thing i want to do to a friend. and yes, i think she is not the kind of girl who would just be cool about it. though i am not 'cool' about it, but i can be if it means i keep a good friend.

she is damn sexy btw, powerful aura. if i am ready, and if she is ready as well, i am very much willing to work things out though. 🙂

@tachimichi, i would really like to address all your concern one by one so i hope you bear with this.

..a good friend you were...
were you there truly for her
in her dark time, or for your
own convenience?
i ask this because a true good
friend would not have allowed
sexual intimacy to happen in
her time of vulnerability.
there is a word called no, and
if you meant no, nothing would have
happened. you knew she was in a low state,
but you played passive aggressive with
her. you said you knew it wasn't right,
but you gave in because deep down, you
wanted it to happen.


we have been friends for years. i guess i have no excuse, i was attracted to her. i guess i wanted it to happen. but that doesn't mean i was just there for her for my own convenience. i was there for her whether that happened or not. and i was willing to be with her still, if she has not pushed me away.

what passive-aggressive thing did i do?

if your liking for her was real,
you would have rejected her advances
and told her to take some time to really
see what she wanted instead of acting
hastily. had you done that, you'd still
have her as a friend, and maybe more.
funny how you say you can be friends
with her AFTER you had sex with her...
it is not so simple.

this. i am guilty. i like her as a friend. maybe that is why i was willing to work things out and be friends again. it's not like she is going to hold me responsible for something we both wanted, i think?

emotions are not a woman's best friend after experiencing a break up.
a real friend would have approached
this situation logically instead of
giving in and sleeping with her. just
because she physically rids herself of
memoirs of an ex does not means her mind
is free of him. sounds like she still hurts
for him, if she said what you did was wrong.
she was stupid for luring you in,
and you were stupid for taking the bait.
the friendship is now damaged.

reading this again now i think i am a total asshole. yes, i know she was hurt still then, i am not saying she wasn't. was i that self-absorbed then? but i thought she wanted it as well. i was thinking she was trying to pull out a love thing between us because that happened. and at the moment, i was not ready for it. seriously, i am going to message her again and say sorry all these years.

that would be really kind of you and I'm sure she would appreciate it !!