Pisces w/Taurus Moon

WOW I have not been on this site in a few years. I used to go by Scorpionlady.

I've been dating a really nice Pisces who has a Taurus Moon,Venus in Pisces and Mars in Aqua. I can't say anything bad about him, he listens takes care of all my wants. He pays for whatever we do. I'm not big on cooking but I decided to show him that although I don't like to cook I can cook. I went to get groceries for Sunday's Breakfast the bill was only $ 20.00, when I got to his house he ask me for the receipt and insist on paying me back. He said "you will never talk about me not doing my manly duties" lol Then he says since you paid for breakfast I will pay for dinner, but he paid for both? From day one of going to his house he made it a point that I'm only to use one specific bathroom out of 3. He believes that a women and a man should have there own space for things so that there is no reason for me to ask him where my stuff is. lol When we eat he sits at the head of the table and I sit at the other end like a King and Queen. We dance, play cards, and watch movies. Every weekend when I get to his house he makes it a point to take me out for a ride before we actually settle in his house. The second day of hanging out he insisted I drive his Truck (Toyota, Tahoe Sport)and I did. Why he wanted me to I will never know, because when I asked him whey he insist on me driving he says "just drive it"

I've been dating him for about two months know and I am still not comfortable moving around in his house. I still asked to used the phone,I ask him to get me a wash towels, pots and pans to cook with etc. He is starting to get upset with me because I won't just do these things on my own. Last time I asked him to get something he said "Damn women, you've been here 10 times and you know where stuff is" I told him I'm not comfortable doing that yet. The first couple of times I would go over there. He would leave me in the basement and go upstairs and I would come up after him he would be lurking in a corner somewhere and would jump out and scare the shit out of me and we would both laugh. He did this for about week. Finally, I started being cautious and looking around as I walk up the stairs he would always get me. He finally he stop. lol I wonder was he doing that to get me used to his house?

He says I can bring clothes and go to work from his house but I have not done that yet. Mainly because he works at the White House and I work at Georgetown University Medical Center. He has to be at work at 7:30 and I have to be at work 8:30. We live about 15 min from each other, so I don't see any real reason to do that yet. He says I can come over anytime I like, but I mainly come on the weekends.

I have been single for two years now and I'm so cautious about this because it just feels to good and I really don't want to sabatoge it just because of fear of the possiblity of falling in love.

I just wanted to put that out there.

Posted by Stinger Baby
go with the flow. a man senses when a woman cant let go, and then he gets curious as to why not. ease into him. as long as he knows you appreciate him and respect is mutual, then what's the problem? the man is practically asking you to live with him lol. lose the anxiety or whatever it is that is keeping you from fully accepting what you deserve.

It's not that I don't want to let go or go with the flow. I just think it's to early in the dating for me to start acting like I live there. I am going with the flow and I also make sure I am giving him and getting enough space for us to miss each other. We talk all day some days and some days we may talk as early as 6am to about 8am and then not talk again until 7pm. He has yet to go MIA. I just don't want to rush the process just because he says "Make yourself at home" I am still in the "Getting To Know You" stage, and although this feels very comfortable, the last thing I want to do move to fast. I think he is allowing me to go at my own pace. I am older than he is. He just turn 48 on March 7th and I will be 52 November 9th.

Posted by CluelessCancer
Woman you are GORGEOUS. Those Genes are working for you! & your HAIR I LOVE IT ...

+1

That is not me I posted the picture of the locs because they are beautiful!. This is me , my locs are only to my shoulder and the color is Blazing Burgundy.

Posted by CluelessCancer
Damn you're 52 and you look like that? Woman you are GORGEOUS. Those Genes are working for you! & your HAIR I LOVE IT ...

yes you're right take it very slow...

DC huh? Sorry, but I have to say this, make sure he gets tested and isn't one of those DL Brothers...

LMAO I have been living in DC all my life I know what to do. DC is not the only place where DL Brotha's are. FYI my Gaydar is always up. I can spot DL brotha anywhere.

As for my Pisces, trust and believe he is a Manly Man.

Posted by Stinger Baby
you do not look at all a day over 30. but then it's no secret black folks age well. i hope i look that fabulous when i reach that age.

+1

Posted by Stinger Baby
you do not look at all a day over 30. but then it's no secret black folks age well. i hope i look that fabulous when i reach that age.

Thank You! You are just as beautiful!

Last night my Pisces asked about my life struggles and I freaked out because I was not ready to talk about my past and he figured since he talks about his struggles so openly that I should do the same. I told him I was not ready for that conversation but he kept pressuring me why and I got up and started pacing the floor and then walked away to get my head together. He saw that I was stressing and asked me what was my problem. i just told him i cant do this right now so he apologized and left me alone. Once things were calm again I slowly opened up and told him a small part of my struggles. I really did not see the reason for this conversation because to me my past struggles are the pass and I don't care to go back there and talk about until I'm ready

It's so hard for me to open up because I've always let my actions speak for me. Hopefully if i can, i will try and explain to him to let he me open up when I feel comfortable about doing it and hope that he can respect that.

Posted by Stinger Baby
you do not look at all a day over 30. but then it's no secret black folks age well. i hope i look that fabulous when i reach that age.

the darker the skin, the slower the ageing process. one of the reasons i wish i'd been born black. the other reason being that i have a small butt and black women have the best asses.

perhaps in another lifetime 😢

as for the issue with the pisces, i'm a little the same way as you in that i don't like to become too comfortable in a guy's home cos then it feels like you've gone straight from dating to living together with no intervening 'getting to know you' period. it's good for you both to have your own places and they should be respected as such until a committment is firmly made on both sides.

welcome back lucious...i missed you!! 🙂

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Posted by Stinger Baby
you do not look at all a day over 30. but then it's no secret black folks age well. i hope i look that fabulous when i reach that age.

the darker the skin, the slower the ageing process. one of the reasons i wish i'd been born black. the other reason being that i have a small butt and black women have the best asses.

perhaps in another lifetime 😢

as for the issue with the pisces, i'm a little the same way as you in that i don't like to become too comfortable in a guy's home cos then it feels like you've gone straight from dating to living together with no intervening 'getting to know you' period. it's good for you both to have your own places and they should be respected as such until a committment is firmly made on both sides.

welcome back lucious...i missed you!! 🙂

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LOL @ the butt comment. Not all black women have nice butts, some are flat as a pancake. I did not have a butt for years and I used to get teased alot by my friends telling me I had a "White girl butt" Hell I had no shape either. lol

I might do litte things like wash the dishes after we eat and clean up our mess in the basement before I leave his house I high tailed it out of his house this morning because I needed some space. He is very touchy feely and I was a bit overwhelmed with it so when I woke up I said "I have to go home" and left. He asked me was I coming back later. lol

Thanks Love! I missed you two.

Posted by BeautifulLocs

It's not that I don't want to let go or go with the flow. I just think it's to early in the dating for me to start acting like I live there. I am going with the flow and I also make sure I am giving him and getting enough space for us to miss each other. We talk all day some days and some days we may talk as early as 6am to about 8am and then not talk again until 7pm. He has yet to go MIA. I just don't want to rush the process just because he says "Make yourself at home" I am still in the "Getting To Know You" stage, and although this feels very comfortable, the last thing I want to do move to fast. I think he is allowing me to go at my own pace. I am older than he is. He just turn 48 on March 7th and I will be 52 November 9th.

Asking him for pots and pans, hand towels is not going with the flow. C'mon now, loosen up. If you are giving him the space by not being there every day, yet enough to where you miss each other, RELAX..you know where the shit is.. that's not moving fast, ESPECIALLY since he's commented on what I just did. You'll make him wonder and I'm sure it makes him uncomfortable when you do ask for something so impersonal. Don't over think what you have, be as natural as possible.

Update

So the Pisces and I broke up 2 weeks ago. Actually he broke it off.

We were out one night at the drive-thru window and he placed his order for Natural Light Beer, so while we were waiting I casually was rubbing on his shoulder and he takes my hand and moves it off and says "get your hands off me I don't want these people to think we are married" I went off on him, I said "WTF where the hell did that come from? Why? So you worried about what other people may think?, Listen I don't want a damn thing from you, but for you to come out the mouth like that to me is very disrespectful and hurtful, I'm not the one that hurt you or did anything to you so you need to get over that shit real quick. As a matter of fact you need to tell me where I stand right know. I'm I only supposed to show you affection behind closed doors and not in public? I need to know. He started smiling like the shit was funny and started talking some shit that I don't remember because after I said all I had to say I 'Shut Down" on him. But he kept trying to talk to me so I calmly said "Leave me alone right know I am trying to calm my emotions down"

I still stayed at his house that night because I wanted an answer and for selfish reasons but in my heart I knew that this was over when I leave.

The next morning, I woke up and the shit was still on my mind so I asked him again to talk to me and tell me where I stand and he still wouldn't so I got my shit and I left. On Sunday I was at work and he text me saying he was tired and he was not going to his fathers house so I said "What you should be tired of his thinking you can talk to me any kind of way and think it's ok. I am still not over what you said and I need an answer" so he says "Women, if you don't like the way I treat you then you best go find someone that will, then said I been like this in the past and i'm damn sure ain't changing in the future" so I replied and said "fine I will find someone that knows how to talk to people, that's not mean and nasty also just know that you the one that broke this off, take care of yourself. He replied back about 2 hours later saying "Let me know when you get a new nut for you tire I still owe you for that" I never responded. Now I am getting texts from him saying "hey" and "Let me go look at this picture of you" I still have not responded.

Is he regretting that he broke this off?

"don't think this will be the last time if you let him be disrespectful the first time and let it slide"
I have no desire to go back to him every time I think about what he said my inside tighten up.

I thought if he was joking or not but at the time he said it he had a chance to say he was joking, sorry or whatever and because he didn't and would not justify why he said it made me more upset and angry and if you aren't man enough to stand up to me while I rant and rave about some shit that you started and you can't defend yourself and won't do anything to stop it then you have just lost the battle and I could not longer respect you.


I agree, what he said is still swimming in my brain every time he sends me a text.

What he don't realize is that I will never go back with him, he don't have a chance in hell, he fucked up the friendship so bad and know I can't forgive him or trust him for it.

Honestly, yes it did hurt, mainly because I did nothing to him to deserve it.

I thought it might have been his Taurus moon but it's still wrong and disrespectful

I can get over anything I put my mind to. As long as I don't reply to his texts eventually he will stop. lol

I'm still smiling and enjoying my life because It Was His Lost!!!

Thanks @ellessque

He can try to come back if he wants to but I could never do it. I will always think will do something to disrespect me again and my guard will be up. It/he is not worth it.

When I was dating my son's father(pisces) he physically abused we broke up and i took him back 6 years later and told him "if it didn't work out but I tookb

I would its over completely. 3 months later we got in an argument and I went for a knife called the police and put him out. I don't want to feel like that again. It took me 20 years to forgive him. Today we are the best of friends, he is there for me when i need him, he takes me out occasionally, and calls me when he has not heard from me in awhile just to say hello. My point is it will take a long time for me to forgive him.

Very!!

But he won't we getting back together, He don't have enough courage, nor do he knows how to communicate, not to mention he's seen my wrath.

So the Pisces text me the other day
Him: "Hello Women how are you doing? How have you been?"
Me: Fine
Him: "you left some jewelry here"
Me:Is it a bracelet with my name on it:
Him: Yea
Me: Oh shit I have been looking for that bracelet for over a month, my sister gave me that and I want it back"
Him: Come and get it?
Me: I will be over tomorrow
Him: I won't be home, come Friday
Me: Why?
Him: I will be at my parents house, I miss that good stuff you got
Me: Is that all you want from me
Him: Yea
Me: Thanks for finally letting me know where I stand, I don't want just sex, I want a relationship
Him: I can't give you that
Me: Ok, then I will move on thanks for your honesty, I hope you find a women that will give you just sex.
Him: Good Luck to you

Last night I get another text from him saying:

Him: hey grasshopper i'm home
Me: I will be over tomorrow (today) to get my bracelet
Him: I told you Friday
Me: Why text me that you are home? This is over remember? you told me you can't give me what I want I accepted that I just want my bracelet so that I can move on.
Him: Ok grasshopper

All my friends says that he is waiting for Friday so that he can get me in his house and have sex with me. I have no intentions on going in his house. He walk to my car and give me my bracelet while I am in my car. If he don't want to give me my bracelet then I will call the police to come to his house and he will give it to me that way.

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Hmm. He was fishing luv. Sure as I am sitting here he said that stuff to you to get a reaction to see where he stands. Not saying he wants a relationship but he knows where you stand now doesn't he?

Very slick. Fishmen are clever.

He may have been cleaver as in not telling me he had my bracelet for a week, but could tell me all the other stuff I left there that he refuse to give back to me. He knew if he told me I left my bracelet a week ago I would have been there to get it and the communication will be completely over. Him having me wait until Friday is another game that he is trying to play but it will never work and all he's doing is making it harder for me stay his friend. I just want my bracelet because it means a lot to me. If it was anything other bracelet I would have to him to keep it.

He knows where I stand and I know where he stand. But do he know that he could never as long as he knows me come back again??

Why does this update not surprise me at all...

You're taking a tantrum over a bracelet and you're so mad you're talking about police. lol... I'm sorry but this fish has got you baited and is just watching you shake on the line.

"He can never have me back!!!" Over what, really? A comment you didn't like? Disrespect my ass. You're making it about everything else when it's really about Relationship Statues.

what a shame. water connections can be awesome

Posted by shellshocker
Why does this update not surprise me at all...

You're taking a tantrum over a bracelet and you're so mad you're talking about police. lol... I'm sorry but this fish has got you baited and is just watching you shake on the line.

"He can never have me back!!!" Over what, really? A comment you didn't like? Disrespect my ass. You're making it about everything else when it's really about Relationship Statues.

what a shame. water connections can be awesome

I'm not going to entertain you with a comment. It's not worth it to me.

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Haha. Locs I would never want to get on your bad side. I love it!

Look I don't know this guy but this sounds like a situation where he goes in for a step up in the relationship.

*shrug*

LOL This is over, I can't see why he would try to step up the relationship. As far as I am concern this is over, and he really shouldn't. I look at him totally different now and I don't think I could look at him the same again. He fucked up and this type of shit you don't get a second chance with me.

I am not a mean person at all. People treat me with respect I do the same to them. I've tried to tell him numerous times how I am and he never took me serious. When people do shit to me and think they don't need to apologize or take what I say to heart, then I'm done with them. If they do apologize and I feel they are sincere then I will forgive them. If not then I will walk away and never look back.

I'm not that pressed to have a lot of friends so the ones that fuck up and they are not longer in my life then they weren't supposed to be in my life that long anyway.

In this case, I asked and asked him to apologize and he wouldn't he thought the shit was funny. So I will show him how funny it is. I will walk away and never look back. I have not known him that long (5 months) I did not invest that much of my feelings into him because I wasn't sure. He gave me a reason not to ever invest feelings in him.

@Poisson
I thought about it but bringing my girlfriend, but this one I can do on my own.

He text me last night asking me "When you go on your trip to Florida" I said "what time can I come and get my bracelet, is 6pm ok?" he said "sure i said Friday" I said "ok"

How was that cleaver? I kept asking to come get it before friday and he kept saying no so What was I to do just show up at his house and he not open the door, not be home or not give it to me, i dont just pop up over people house so if waiting tell Friday to get my bracelet thats fine I just want whats mine...

Posted by IrresistableScorp
He got you to go on Friday. These guys are geniuses. I'm telling you. Lol

truth! lol

btw Locs... he is apologizing. Just because he isn't doing it when and how you want him to do it, doesn't mean it isn't happening. If you'd let go of your pride you might see that.

lighten up and enjoy your weekend 🙂

Posted by IrresistableScorp


Scorps can be stubborn to their own detriment too often.

*sigh* +1

Posted by BeautifulLocs

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Haha. Locs I would never want to get on your bad side. I love it!

Look I don't know this guy but this sounds like a situation where he goes in for a step up in the relationship.

*shrug*

LOL This is over, I can't see why he would try to step up the relationship.

Well, I think because you wrote this:

Posted by BeautifulLocs


What he don't realize is that I will never go back with him, he don't have a chance in hell, he fucked up the friendship so bad and know I can't forgive him or trust him for it.

but then wrote this:

Posted by BeautifulLocs
Me: Thanks for finally letting me know where I stand, I don't want just sex, I want a relationship
Him: I can't give you that
Me: Ok, then I will move on thanks for your honesty, I hope you find a women that will give you just sex.

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This reads as though, if he had said "I was wrong and want a relationship" you would have worked things out. If it wasn't, you wouldn't have even asked him if "that was all you want". When he said "I miss that good stuff you got?? you would have just ignored it and said, "okay, you'll be there Friday, thanks for letting me know. See you then" *click* like you did when he asked about Florida. Why engage is all of that if you were not hoping this could turn around. Unless I misunderstood this statement. Perhaps he's reading this confusion as well.

I had typos 😛

Posted by ellessque
personally, I've been in a similar situation as the OP....and after those words and actions of what he did met up together....it WON'T be the same again.

I tried for another year after that to find my feelings again and it was to no avail. He continued to spin his wheels, trying to take it back, etc. It was a waste of precious time, tbh.

She knows exactly where she stands now and I have to give her props for having the courage to kick this man to the curb.

Keep your head up, maintain your grace and dignity, get what's yours and move on. You do not need him nor do you deserve to be treated like that.

There is no sense in moving backwards, you gain absolutely nothing that way.

Thanks for understanding ellessque

As for the OP I engaged in conversation with him for the sole purpose of getting what's mine. Like I said before had it been anything else he could have kept,like the thongs he brought me, my personal, towel and wash towel, deodorant, phone charger etc. I don't care about those things he can let the other women he date use that stuff, but the bracelet means a lot and if I have to continue to talk to him until I get then I will. It's not killing me. If he is so cleaver he should know that once I get what's mine I no longer have anything to say to him.

I liked him as a friend, at times I did have fun with him but the fun did not out weigh the bad he was a pain in my ass on many days,

Yes I can be stubborn and yes I am being stubborn and not changing how I feel. Why should I? So he can continue to be an ass and think he got away with what he did?

If this is his way of apologizing it's a piss poor way to me. He needs to man enough look me in my face and say that he was wrong, and he can't do that but if he did I would think about forgiving him but I will not go back to him.

Just like @ellessque said it will never be same and I know it won't. It's not about me giving up so soon it's about him learning how to respect people and stop thinking he can talk to people anyway he likes and believe it's ok. He's probably been doing this all his life and getting away with it and no one has called him on his shit.

This is over and it can't be repaired no matter how much he try.

Right!

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Was that the first time you ever said anything about having a relationship? Have you been showing your emotion to the fish guy? You don't provide for the fact that the fish guy may have been making a joke about the don't touch me at the drive through. That is a possibility.

I am honestly not trying to get into your life. It just seems like you liked this guy. Don't you think that at least deserves a conversation?

Like I said none of my business...

When I met him he said he wanted to "Date" I said ok, about a month later he insisted that I learn where stuff was in his house and just roam through his house like I lived there and I told him that I would not because "We are only dating and I have no right to just walk through his house without asking first this early in the dating" he said "I'm sure you know your boundaries" I was respecting him and his house. It was only recently, that I started doing stuff in his house without asking. like cooking, washing clothes etc.

No I have not being showing any emotions and he has not been either. That comment at the drive-thru was the first time I showed any type of emotion where I raised my voiced and shut down on him and cursed his ass out. So he knew he touch a sensitive spot with me.

I asked him "what made you say that? Where did that come from? That hurt my feelings and it was disrespectful" and "I don't want nothing from him" and that is when I asked him "Where did I stand" so he knew how I felt. If it was a joke he should have said it right then. He laughed as if it was funny and he knew I did not think it was funny. So if he meant it as a joke don't you think he would have apologized right then especially since I was going off on him? It's been 3 weeks his time has run out.

Your not in my business because my mind is made up. I can conversate with him but what can he really say that will make me change my mind. This is where I become stubborn. How can you explain to me 3 weeks after the fact that you apolgize? Seriously

Yes I LIKED him but that has warn off it's been 3 weeks it don't take long to stop liking someone if you haven't invested a lot of feelings. All my thoughts went to something else; reading, work, grand baby and family.

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Soooo. Did you get the bracelet back or what? Come on scorp spill.😄

LOL he text me what time I will be there. I told him 630 he said I will be gone by then I will leave it in the mailbox. I said thank you. Then he said I wish I could see you when you get there. I said nothing. When I got to his house he had my bracelet and pair of earrings that I have been looking for. I txt him and said thank you he replied thank me by giving me some sex....I never replied. I am glad that is over and he made it easy for me by not being there. I feel relieved.