PLEASE...Need a Scorpio man's opinion/point of view, PLEASE - Part 2 of 2

(CONT'D from Part 1)
He confided in me all his troubles, his concerns, his dreams about his new business, custody over his son, etc. He had told me he liked me, he was romantic, he stared at me like no else before, he was caring, sweet, authentic, and most of all, he had no ego. He is very spiritual and is as humble and modest as can be. He was the first to admit any shortcomings he may have had. Early on, when I told him he felt “familiar” but that I couldn’t place it, his response was “Exactly!” We felt spiritually connected on so many levels and our physical connection cemented all that. The sex was great and elevated. There was nothing bad or toxic about our relationship and there simply was no element of negativity. It was truly a beautiful romance.
Then, the last time he was over to spend the night at my house, in the morning I asked if he wanted to use the wine tasting groupon I purchased for us the next weekend we both were free. He knew I bought them. He said of course and that it wasn’t like he had a full schedule of things to do. But it was the first I felt I might be pressuring him because up to that point, we didn’t plan but for just 3-5 days out at a time (the wine tasting would have been 10 days out). I was nicely surprised he agreed and didn’t say, “We’ll see.” Anyway, that weekend, I had my children so I didn’t see him. But I sensed him distancing himself. He always hated talking on the phone, but he always made it a point to call me when I asked to chat for a few minutes or would always pick up the phone whenever I called. He was always so very sweet to me.

That Monday, I asked if we could get on the phone. He said he didn’t really feel like talking, with a sad face. I should have just left it at that and gave him his space, but the insecure person in me texted back and said, “It’s okay. I understand. Are we okay?” That’s when he said that I’m awesome but that he’s leading me down a dead-end path. We spoke on the phone and agreed to be friends after some time apart. My heart broke.

He’s been on a dating site, but continues to log on every day, so I know he has not met anyone he’s serious about; otherwise, he wouldn’t be browsing. When we were together, he was not on this dating site. But I saw that he re-opened his account the same night after he called things off. I emailed him a long letter a few days after the breakup to say what was in my heart, to say my peace. Nothing was negative or mean…I just had to tell him how I felt, which was confused and hurt because he had done this before with us. There truly was no reason, in my mind, why he broke things off. Everything was going beautifully. The one thing is he is being deployed in the fall for seven months, and that may be a big reason why he doesn’t want/can’t become too close. Once he returns, he’s retiring and staying here for good.

Please, please tell me…will he come back to me?

Keep your head up and not right now to answer you. I could write paragraphs but I'll keep it simple.. Be strong and carry on by doing things yourself right now.

Thank you to those who have responded so far. I am definitely doing self work and focusing on other things. It just shocked me since everything was progressing so well. Hoping to hear still from someone who can give me some idea of how Scorpio males think. They don't just introduce women to their best friends only to have to explain to them they suddenly lost interest in that girl, do they?? I'd like to hear others' experiences as well if they have come back to them.

I'm Sagittarius, Nov 25, born around 7:30am. Thank you for asking.

I'm wishing everyone a happy Valentine's today...

To FirstDecan....please give me your thoughts when you can. I don't mind paragraphs. Thank you.

Im a saggi nov 25.


Run fast and do not look back

Hi, all. Anyone else out there with any insight to Scorpio males and if they come back even if there were no red flags in the relationship? As a spiritual person, I've tried cutting the cord with him because it has simply been preoccupying my mind/life so much, and I've been successful with other men when I do this (I've cut the invisible cord twice with this guy while meditating). But not with this guy, so I know he's still thinking of me. — I see him when he's online on dating sites, so I know he hasn't met anyone he's interested in because otherwise, he would pull himself off and not log on. He seems to be trying hard to get out there and meet someone, but because he's a sensitive and dark Scorpio, I know that he's probably miserable and just trying to find any superficial connection he can make to fill the void. He did this the first time when he called things off...then 10 days later, he came back realizing he missed me. 😢 We had an incredible connection, and like I said, with no negativity, no red flags, it was all so wonderful and we got along so great.

Eager to hear other thoughts and feedback, please. And thanks to those that have already commented. I do appreciate any and all input.

Part 1:

Posted by bythesea
I’ve read so many threads on this site and had to finally break down and create an account. People who respond seem helpful and honest enough about their thoughts and feedback. I’m mainly here today to get a Scorpio male’s opinions, but open to hearing from others who can give non-judgmental, frank, reasonable responses and have been with a Scorpio man before. I apologize this is long, but I am at a loss. 😢 Please bear with me and read both, separate posts.

I dated a wonderful Scorpio man for a short 1-1/2 months, but our ‘relationship’ lasted two months. When we first met in December, he pursued me strongly. He is a single dad and after we saw each other for 3 days straight, he went away for 10 days to visit his son (5 hrs away). 24 hours after coming back from that holiday trip, he told me he met someone else online whom he wanted to pursue. He apologized profusely. I was shocked and confused because we texted every day he was away, he sent me pictures of his son and him, he called me on the phone, he addressed me as babe, sweetie, etc. and everything was wonderful. My friend told me later he was most likely scared to get too close and therefore, ran to this new woman. He wanted to stay friends so I knew he wanted to keep his options open.

We had to exchange belongings at some point after the breakup, but I purposely waited for 2 weeks before meeting up again. I wanted to see if he would miss me, and also to get a sense if he was still with the same girl. For various reasons (due to inclement weather and he was already out and about), we agreed to him coming to my house to do the exchange, 35 min away. That immediately told me it wasn’t going well with the other girl because otherwise, he wouldn’t have gone to the trouble of showing up in person. I knew he was monogamous and didn’t juggle more than one woman at a time. Sure enough, when he came over, we spent 3.5 hours just talking about everything that connected us (spirituality, philosophy, the cosmos, our single parenthood, friends, everything). We had a strong connection from the start and we could talk for hours at a time. We had a great afternoon, but I did consider him just as a friend at this point. Well, after the 3.5 hours and right before he was about to leave, we hugged…but he kept hugging me. Then he told me he missed me. I asked about the other girl and he said it didn’t work out well and that he was disappointed in himself. I took that as saying he made a mistake in calling things off between us. It also made me think he was indeed scared of getting too close, took off to try and date someone new, but realized he wanted to be with me.

So for an entire month, everything was wonderful. The relationship progressed and I didn’t pressure him. He eventually introduced me to a few of his neighbors,

Hey, BrightLight! Thanks for re-posting part of my post, but not sure if you were meaning to share on another board or were thinking of commenting on certain areas of my long woes-me story?? 😉

VirgowScorpiMoon - Thanks for your comment. :-) Yes, seeing me as just a friend did come to mind and it is indeed a reasonable and realistic scenario. But the reason why I didn't believe this to be true is because he totally pursued me, would text constantly, pick up the phone when I called even though he hated talking on the phone, asked me anxiously when he could see me next, etc etc. When we were out and about, he held my hand, put his arms on my shoulder, everything that would signal to others that I belonged to him. It was anything but lukewarm. It's just all so confusing.

I understand Scorpio men are mysterious, confused themselves, conflicted, etc and don't know half the time how to handle their own thoughts and emotions when they think they might actually be falling for someone...hence running away due to fear of being rejected/hurt at some future point. But I guess I'm still trying to understand what happened. Also, he wasn't "having fun" with someone else before calling things off. We were monogamous, and he wasn't back on dating sites until the night we broke up. I still miss him so much, and just hoping that Scorpio males out there will give me their take on what this could have been all about. I do appreciate your feedback, thought...